Period after miscarriage

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Hello, I had surgical management mid July and I'm losing the will to live waiting for my period.

I know that it can often take around 6 weeks to return but I have had very strong period cramps for the past 2 weeks and no sign of AF.

Have also had a few follow up scans which showed no issues.

My OPK results have also been wild- had a peak on 11/08 and then another almost peak on 20/08. Today they are fairly dark again. We haven't tried this month so not sure why I've done the ovulation tests, just for fun I suppose.

Does anybody have any experience similar to this??

@Sdoubleyou that sounds nice! Have fun and relax (easier said than done, I know!!)😂
I'm struggling with the length of my cycle after the surgery, it was 6.5 weeks first time and this time 41 days. That means I've missed a whole month TTC with the xtra time my body has taken to get its cycle into gear- if that makes sense! Buttttt it means my body still isnt quite ready yet and it needs to be ready to grow a tiny human so I'm trying not to stress and attempting to be patient.. badly! 👀👀

@amyh2012, I totally get it. I've got all the theory but applying it to myself is the tricky part! It's so difficult to be patient!

@Sdoubleyou, really sorry you got a BFN - tequila and maccie d's sounds like a great way to cheer yourself up!

@amyh2012 - sorry AF arrived and hope this cycle is a bit shorter / feels more normal for you.

I'm expecting to be right where you both are in a week or so. Time really drags on, but at the same time it feels like yesterday that I was wandering around thinking I was pregnant and everything was going well...

@Shortmamashortcycles, we'll be here for you whether it's good or bad news!

Hey guys, just catching up on the messages. I’ve been away for the weekend with no signal - just what the Dr ordered tbh (no googling)

I’m sorry @amyh2012 😔
I completely agree with you. The pressure we put on ourselves to conceive again doesn’t help the recovery or grieving process. - when our periods arrive it’s like grieving all over again, for what was, what could have been and what was lost.
@Sdoubleyou I’m 34 this month and I’m putting pressure on myself as I’m ‘getting on’… the window of opportunity and conception… enough to drive you crazy isn’t it 🙈

Still no referral for me, the bleeding stopped Saturday night but I’m still cramping on and off. My bloods were normal, I’m just annoyed it’s taking so long, when I go in maybe they’ll be nothing for the scan to show- which would be good, but then il never know what the ‘mass’ was. I keep looking at the picture - trying to make sense of it but I guess if a Dr doesn’t know how am I supposed to make sense of it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Tonight the first night in a while I’ve not needed pain meds so I’m celebrating with a glass of wine!

@Newgirl21 I feel for you girl! 😔 I hope you get sorted because it must be so frustrating!

Enjoy that glass of wine, you fully deserve it! When's your app?

Thank you, still waiting for my appointment for the scan to come through. The Dr said I could be waiting for up to two weeks

@Newgirl21, so pleased you had a great weekend away! But I'm so sorry that it's taking such a long time for your scan - this might be a dumb question but is there another hospital trust you could ask the GP to refer you to, maybe one a bit further away if your nearest is under so much pressure?

On the age thing - if it helps, I'm 35 and I know just what you mean. Miscarriage just seems to take so long when you were so recently pregnant, and you're having a more frustrating journey than some!

But fertility is incredibly individual, and it doesn't fall off a cliff at 35. So your fertility over the next year will be pretty similar to last year, and an mc doesn't generally mean a fertility problem, it's usually just bad luck.

Well, that's what I keep telling myself as I go slightly nuts in my TWW... Time appears to be passing at a glacial pace especially when I don't think I'm in with much of a chance this cycle. Blerrrgh.

@Sdoubleyou, did AF arrive, and if so, hope you're doing ok?

@amyh2012, hope you're through and into the quiet time before your fertile window!

@Shortmamashortcycles thanks girl 🥰 final day today I think then it's back to the morning rituals of peeing on a stick 😂 I just hope that this month ovulation comes at a normal time rather than cycle day 26 or something crazy.

I'm a little less obsessed over it right now, I'm going to try and take it as it comes and go with the flow. I won't let it consume me and I'm going to try and not fall down the rabbit hole 👀

Thank you @Shortmamashortcycles, your words of wisdom really help ☺️
Apparently the delays are due to the backlog from Covid, I think I just need to wait it out.

Hope your doing ok @amyh2012
i know what you mean about not letting it consume you. I’ve decided to start working out again and put all of my energy into something more positive

Hi @Shortmamashortcycles, indeed wise words. I've actually found a few great articles about how it's exactly that, you don't fall off of a cliff. And a lot of the info we have today is still based on a study that used data from around the French Revolution. That's pretty insane considering technological advancements and general progress in health since then. So yes, deep breaths, at 36 I'm still alright! I did get my period, as scheduled, on Saturday. It's been a little lighter, but seems pretty normal. So I guess phew. Nonetheless, I've booked an appointment with a fertility clinic so we can get checked out. Just to make sure that everything is ok and get a head start in case it isn't.

@Newgirl21, great idea to get away. I was thinking about you this weekend and hope you're hanging in there.

@amyh2012, my peeing ritual is about to restart as well! Im due to POAS on Friday. It's oddly comforting :)

Lastly, since you're all in the UK, thought I'd share. I've been going nuts watching 8/10 cats, its so hilarious! What a mood booster! Hope you're all well!

I just bought some Pre-seed today. My transformation to crazy TTC lady is almost complete 😂. But in all seriousness, hopefully it helps 🤞. Hope you're all doing well!

I had no idea what pre-seed was 🤷🏻‍♀️ I literally just googled. That stuff sounds brilliant! Like a little energy drink for the swimmers! 😮 my mind is actually blown 🤯 I really hope it works for you. 🤞🏻
Nothing to report from me, still waiting for the referral to come through, physically I feel better though, so that’s something.

@Sdoubleyou, I've heard great things about pre-seed - hoping it works for you!

@Newgirl21, SO pleased to hear you're feeling a bit physically better. Sending more healing vibes your way.

I'm very hormonal and due on - I don't feel the slightest bit pregnant so just waiting for AF now. Had some excellent red wine and a good cry with DH this evening, weirdly rather soothing - it's nice to feel like he's in here with me. Looking forward to feeling much chirpier in a couple of weeks when the oestrogen kicks in.

I’m sorry @Shortmamashortcycles 😔 my fingers are still tightly crossed for you.
I’m pleased you have such a supportive DH and that you can grieve and talk and work through such a devastating time together. The lovely red sounds like it was just what the doctor ordered, I think it’s healthy every now and again to have a good cry- it’s hard to try and be so strong all the time. I always feel much better after letting it out. 💐 sending positive happy vibes

Today I had the dreaded question from a family friend who didn’t know about our loss ‘it’s about time you had another one init?’ I know she didn’t mean anything by it, sometimes it’s a conversation starter… however my heart sunk, my eyes stung and I couldn’t react other than a optimistic ‘maybe one day’

@Newgirl21, oh that's the worst! I always feel like answering back snipey, but it's such a difficult situation to navigate. I'm really glad you're doing better. Hope the referral comes in soon.

@Shortmamashortcycles, great that you have a supportive DH. It's such a test of a relationship isn't it? Wonderful that you can connect strongly, despite it being this situation. We've been enjoying the wine as well. I figure that I may as well enjoy myself while it's taking long! At least im relaxed ☺️

Thanks both! Yeah I'm very lucky - he's a good'un.

@Newgirl21, you are much kinder than me - in my current mood I'd've ripped them a new one!

Hope you're doing ok today without them being insensitive nosey parkers.

@Sdoubleyou, if you're also UK based then I applaud the timestamp of your post! I hope whatever you were up to was epic fun!

@Shortmamashortcycles, I'd like to preserve my allure of coolness, but I'm in Canada and it was 9:45 pm and I was going to bed 😂

@Sdoubleyou, ah well you're not superwoman then - but no judgement here as that's our usual bedtime at the moment!

At least you get the glamour of the unfamiliar - I'm now imagining you living in some fabulous cabin in some fabulous woodland. Apologies for any stereotyping! 🤣

@Shortmamashortcycles I picture the same thing when I think of Canada 🥰with beautiful mountains in the background and lots of lovely polite people.
I’m sure many people picture us brits drinking too much tea and eating cucumber sandwiches. 🤣☺️

@Shortmamashortcycles, oh that gave me a good laugh! We're in the city, but my parents in law actually do live similarly to what you're describing! And my DP plays hockey and I ski. And we all love maple syrup. 🤣

@Sdoubleyou, @Newgirl21... I have had 5 cups of tea today oh no... 😳😳😳🤣🤣🤣

I actually dated a northern Irishman living in London for a while so I've gone back and forth quite a few times. His sister lived in Liverpool and we drove from London to Derry via Liverpool. Crossing the Sea by ferry in winter > morning sickness 🤢. But yes, I still think you all drink tea and live in pubs ☺️

@Shortmamashortcycles living up to the stereotype 🙄🤭🤣