Period after miscarriage

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Hello, I had surgical management mid July and I'm losing the will to live waiting for my period.

I know that it can often take around 6 weeks to return but I have had very strong period cramps for the past 2 weeks and no sign of AF.

Have also had a few follow up scans which showed no issues.

My OPK results have also been wild- had a peak on 11/08 and then another almost peak on 20/08. Today they are fairly dark again. We haven't tried this month so not sure why I've done the ovulation tests, just for fun I suppose.

Does anybody have any experience similar to this??

@Newgirl21, also, and most importantly, don't lose hope if you want to have another child. It's infuriating right now, but it's because we're in the crap part. It'll be different on the other side.

@Sdoubleyou @Newgirl21 I heard lots of really great things for acupuncture for fertility and periods. Maybe try it?

Oh gosh yes it's been such a long while for you. Everyone of us are different which doesn't help at all. It's so frustrating isn't it. You're right the process is so long and exhausting, mentally and physically.

Yeah I'm 3dpo and I'm just starting to think how can a week change me so dramatically.

So I tried a menstrual cup this time round after sex- anyone tried that? Pretty gross but if it does the job I'll be shouting from the rooftops for everyone. Ive read up and it's meant to be great too.

@Newgirl21, it is so draining. I can only imagine how crap this summer must have been for you. Sending you huge virtual hugs.

I would definitely give the GP a call, and I never thought I'd be saying this... but have you considered trying acupuncture? If this is caused by hormonal weirdness, it might help - and if not, then it's actually very relaxing! (Or just sod it and get a regular massage - anything to help you relax and forget about TTC for a bit.)

@amyh2012, it took me a second to understand what you were doing with a menstrual cup after sex 😂. The image became clearer. I haven't tried that, but I always lie with my hips elevated for at least ten minutes after. My grandmother told me to do that, ha! I got pregnant on my second month of TTC before the miscarriage and I hadn't done that the first month. Was it helpful? 🤷‍♀️ But I did it again this time, just in case.

@Sdoubleyou I hope it's helpful! 😂 I'm sure the image wasn't a great one, however it's meant to do the job! 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ worth a shot isn't it

Thank you @Sdoubleyou @Shortmamashortcycles @amyh2012 I hadn’t even thought about acupuncture but it’s definitely worth a try 👍🏻☺️ Thanks for all your kind words x

A menstrual cup -oh the things we do 🤪 I elevated by pelvis after sex for my first conception which worked well

@amyh2012, there truly is no such thing as gross on this thread! I use a menstrual cup for periods but I think there's something called Fertilily or something that works on the same concept for the swimmers. Truly we live in a special age!

The MC was conceived the month I was too tired to climb out of bed for a post-sex wee. Previously I'd been religious about heading to the loo after to avoid cystitis. Who knows if it helped! 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤣

@Shortmamashortcycles, haha too tired to pee but will still BD! Good on you!

My grandmother was very adamant about the post-sex lie-down. It was probably one of our funnier conversations. But there's got to be something there, the gravity element just makes sense!

@Sdoubleyou @Shortmamashortcycles haha you're right, nothing too gross!

Yes I heard of the fertilily thing, but it's the exact same as a menstrual cup without the cost!!! I also lie with my hips in the air for a long while after.

I can't actually remember how I got pregnant last time, we were trying however I was thinking I had either missed my ovulation orrrrr I'd yet to ovulate, only when it starting peaking at like day 40 did I think to do a pregnancy test to find a tiny faint line and then it came up straight away on a digital. I kinda miss that part of myself, I know too much now and it drives me insane!

@Newgirl21, how are you doing? Hoping the bleeding has stopped now! Did you get through to the GP?

Hey @Shortmamashortcycles, I’m doing ok thanks for asking ☺️ still bleeding and the cramps have been awful 👎🏻 I have a phonecall with the GP booked for tomorrow but I don’t expect to get any answers 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hope your well x

@Newgirl21, that sucks... can you call your EPU and ask for a scan? (Sorry if you've already been down that road already.)

Honestly I'd be fuming - clearly something isn't right!

Thanks @Shortmamashortcycles, I feel so silly making a fuss- all they come back with is ‘everyone’s different and some people cycles take longer to regulate…’ apparently the epu would need a drs referral as I’m not pregnant.
I’m beginning to wonder if there were complications following the D&C - I know it’s very rare.
I think I’m just a worrier… after having my little I almost didn’t make. I lost a lot of blood- 1.6litres and whilst trying to stop the bleeding the Dr told me my womb was ‘knackered’ - when I panicked she went on to say she meant it was tired. But that’s always stuck with me and when I miscarriage I convinced myself it’s because my womb was damaged. Whilst having the scan after the loss I asked them if my womb looked ok and was told it was fine, but I do wonder… drive myself crazy even 🤪
Fingers crossed I get answers or the Dr at least humours me tomorrow x

@Newgirl21, oh hun, you've been through it! If it makes you feel any better, I haemorrhaged during my ERPC surgery and lost almost 3 litres, had to have a transfusion etc. Thank goodness I was unconscious the whole time.

Anyway, the surgeon said there was no reason to worry, and that the main sign of scarring (also known as Ashermans) was not having periods again... which is not your problem! So while I'd definitely push for some investigations, don't think that your womb is screwed up. I'm definitely a worrier so did loads of reading myself and it is quite rare.

If it helps with the GP, my EPU said that if I had more bleeding outside my usual cycle then to call them. (I bled for 3+ weeks after the ERPC and scan showed a small blood clot in my uterus hence the follow-up.)

In my case, some antibiotics seemed to mostly clear things up, but the point is that it's not normal and you should be looked after even if it's not EPU but general gynae.

Wow @Shortmamashortcycles that sounds awful 😔 it’s hard enough to go through let alone with all your blood loss.
Thanks so much for your reassurance and helping me feel like I’m not going crazy!
I’m definitely going to push for a scan 🤞🏻

@Newgirl21, agreed that you should definitely push. It sounds like your body is trying to get back on track but the hormones are a bit out of whack. I'm no specialist, but I've read about shots (progesterone) they can give to get cycles back on track. After three months I think you're justified in questioning and pushing them to investigate further. It may just be that your body needs some time, but it's good to rule out anything else. Also, the uterus and the human body are quite amazing and resilient. No reason why yours would be different. They're superheroes! 🦸‍♀️

Thanks @Sdoubleyou 👍🏻 I will keep pushing 🙂

@Newgirl21, hope the GP call went ok today. Just an update - I'm CD9 and have randomly started spotting this evening. 🤷‍♀️

So frustrating/worrying!

I’m sorry to hear that @Shortmamashortcycles 😔 it’s so frustrating and confusing, I hope your spotting doesn’t last long.
The Dr was really helpful and empathetic, she’s referring me to a gyno for a scan, given me some stronger pain relief for the cramps (which has been horrific today) she also offered me some medication I can take to stop the bleeding but I’m really unsure about it- don’t want to mess with my cycle, it’s already complicated enough. But I actually feel that I’ve been listened to

@Newgirl21 sounds like you've been heard, I'm so sorry you're going through such a rubbish time. It's just exhausting waiting for things to get back to normal. You must be really feeling it.
I really hope you get sorted abd feel better soon with the cramps!

I agree about the tablets, I would wait for the scan because you could take them and it stops before the scan and that shows nothing and then it could come back??? If that makes sense. Fingers crossed you get some answers 🤞🏼

@Sdoubleyou giving strong advice 🙂 it's so nice to have one an other

@Shortmamashortcycles, I had some random spotting during my first cycle after the MC. Actually, I also had a random squirt of blood around ovulation. My doctor told me it sounded like my body was trying to regulate itself. It was a little hard to believe at the time, but it got better. How are you emotionally? I found my first cycle really difficult. My hormones were all out of whack and I was very up and down.

@Newgirl21, it must be such a relief to know you're going for the scan. I really hope they're going to find out what's going on and sort it out quickly🤞

I'm on 6DPO and happy to report that I have yet to lose my mind! Little victories!

@Newgirl21, that's great news! So pleased you got properly listened to. Agree with the others - listen to your instincts re medication just for now. Although maybe iron tablets aren't a bad shout if you're losing blood all the time.

@Sdoubleyou, thanks love, that's useful to know. Hoping it's just things settling, although I'm frustrated this cycle will probably be a write off. I am exactly the same - emotions all over the shop. Can't tell what's hormones and what's grief! 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Thanks @amyh2012 @Sdoubleyou @Shortmamashortcycles. ☺️
I started taking iron tablets Tuesday when the bleeding started again, hopefully I’ll start feeling some relief from it soon. 🤞🏻
@Shortmamashortcycles I know what you mean girl, between crazy hormones and grief sometimes you just feel overcome with emotion. 😔💕 Be good to yourself x

@Shortmamashortcycles, my first period after the MC was horrible. Not the bleeding, it was extremely light. But the hormones! I felt like the world was crashing around me. I'm not a particularly emotional person so it was very hard to deal with. Makes me look forward to menopause, ha! I found it helped knowing that my hormones were the cause though. They were amplifying everything and knowing that helped give me a little perspective. The situation sucks but it's better when the hormone haze lifts. I second the being kind to yourself. ❤️

@Newgirl21, how are you doing?