Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 4. ALL welcome!

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So sorry to hear this @PiggyBean :( it sucks. BUT if it helps at all most women go on to have a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage. I have three friends who miscarried their first and then had a healthy baby second time :) there's even some research that suggests you'll even have an increased chance within 6 months of a mc.

@GinnyBee thanks, hoping we can start trying again soon for our rainbow baby x

@Bdbel did you get your test results yet? Still waiting here at 7 weeks and I know you’re a bit ahead of me. CD3 so not expecting to be able to try again this cycle but fingers crossed for November…

@PiggyBean how are you doing tonight? I’m glad you’ve got a team, it does help x

@Sunbird24 hey, how are you doing? I've been given a telephone consultation for December but that feels so far away! Also chased my test results and was told that they didn't have them. So I called genetics secretary and they said the results were sent back to my consultant in August! Somewhere they were lost!! So now I've had them resent to my consultant but they still haven't told me the results.... it's really bad! I'm hoping I don't have to wait until December... xx

@Bdbel that’s dreadful! No way should you have to wait another 3 months to be told the results, especially when you’ve already waited so long. Guess I’ll chase mine up next week in that case…
I’m doing ok mostly, still a bit anaemia and occasionally have a good cry at something emotional on the tv, but getting there. X

@Sunbird24 I'm feeling better thanks, although I did feel ready last night lightning a candle at 7pm for all the angel babies.

Bleeding has pretty much gone now, so looking forward to when we can try again x

@Sunbird24 felt teary, not ready! 😅

@Sunbird24 i would recommend calling after what's happened with mine. It's so frustrating knowing that there information about me waiting and no one is telling me what it is! I really hope we all get some good news xx

Hi everyone, just wondering who/if you felt ready to start trying again after MC how soon you did I was devastated when MC but feel like I don’t want to “waste” a month not trying I feel about trying just wondering if anyone else was the same x

@Theworkingmama probably slightly different for me as I’m doing IVF solo, but after the first two I went again the next cycle. This time I’m waiting for the results of genetic testing so it’ll probably be two cycles.

I’m on day two of medical management, 3rd mc this a blighted ovum, the worst although I knew it had gone before the scan happened. Worst bit is sitting in EPU. Going back to work Monday. Doc said get blood tests done but hospital say need to wait til negative pregnancy test first?

I am 44 so my time is definitely nearly up - or we call it a day but nature may do that for us.

@Theworkingmama I have been feeling upset this week, but I want to try again soon as I don't know how long it will take to conceive and don't want to waste any time.

@PiggyBean yea I’ve been like this too , I feel ready to try I don’t want to regret not trying when could’ve , fingers crossed for you x

@Sunbird24 have everything crossed for you my friend has just had successful ivf after 2 x

@Theworkingmama thank you, fingers crossed for you too! x

@Redheadednortherner how are you feeling? have you been referred for recurrent miscarriage? After three they should refer you for testing. They took my blood along with pregnancy for testing and the referral apparently does testing also. The downside is the wait time for an appointment

@Theworkingmama Im trying soon but like @Sunbird24 Im also waiting for genetics results. I'm 43 so I don't feel I can wait long so also not 'not' trying

I’m 43 too, I think if it doesn’t happen in the next year I’m done.

@Bdbel feeling a bit down today, bleeding is still happening but hormones all over the bloody place! I have a phone appointment in January at RMC. I have a doctors appointment in a few weeks but wondered whether it is worth pushing that back until the pg test comes back negative then get the blood test done

Can I join this not so great club? We’ve had a MMC after IVF (with donor eggs, so very much last attempt), confirmed by ultrasound and as the only silver lining after stopping meds it happened naturally so avoided surgical management.
I’m signed off work at the moment and keep changing between being ok and being in absolute floods of tears at the drop of a hat - no idea how much of it is hormones at the moment.
We have one frozen embryo left and then we’re done, so it all feels so almost final as well, and my partner is not even sure they want to transfer that one having been through this. It’s all so hard.

@Redheadednortherner i would go ahead as I think the clinic will test again and the waiting will drive you mad. Apparently the RMC do lots of blood tests but I don't know as I've not been yet xx

@Faerun Im so sorry 😞 it's such an awful time and so hard to go through. The added stress of feeling final will be making it so much worse. I have had very similar conversations with my partner, we've said as long as I can bear it we will try. Although I'm 43 and maybe we never will. Maybe he will feel different in a few weeks? You're in good company here, be kind to yourself xx

@Faerun come on in, sorry that you’re here. It is so hard, but you don’t have to decide anything now.