Periods after medical miscarriage

[Wils85]

Hi, I think I'm about to go insane! I underwent a medical miscarriage after discovering a MMC on 08th July, I was 9 weeks by my dates but the sac was around 7 weeks. I eventually miscarried on the 17th July and got a negative PG test on 09th August.

My period showed its head on the evening of 16th August but literally for 24hrs!! I have had nothing since until yesterday evening when I had some brown spotting and again today some pinky brown spotting on wiping!

I'm so confused as to what my body is doing and I feel so out of control. I understood the first period after a miscarriage would be normal flow or heavier, but this has been practically none existent. Has anyone else had a similar experience? This MC was my second PG, the first ended in TFMR back in November at 15 weeks 😥 I just want to know when we can TTC again as I am 35 at Christmas and getting panicky about getting older!!

Any words of wisdom ladies? It's really starting to get to me xx

@Wils85 sounds like we are on a similar timeline. I had an MVA on the 20th July and 1st neg test on the 13th Aug. My first period started yesterday, I had a day or two of spotting brownish blood since but this is definitely a period now no mistaking it. My cycle is normally every 23 days and yesterday was day 22 or something since test. Everyone is different but perhaps you havent had your first period yet?

Hi @Cornflake24 thank you for your reply. It certainly does sound like we are on similar timeline. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It's so tough and incredibly lonely, I just want to feel like me again!

I haven't had anything since my last post, so goodness knows what it was. I had a peak OPK on day 14 but I know that doesn't necessarily mean I ovulated.

I'm on day 23 today, and I was around a 28 day cycle before the pregnancy so I'm expecting AF this weekend at some point. Just a watch this space situation.

I hate that I'm back in this position again, trying, waiting and hoping and then the disappointment when AF arrives 😔

Sending love to you ❤️

@Wils85 its so horrible isn't it, im the same feel lonely even though I have so much support and so scared about what happens next, im hoping I ovulate this week so my fingers are toes are crossed but who knows my body isn't back to normal yet I dont think

Keep me posted on how you get on x

@Cornflake24 what comes next scares the life out of me. The one thing I want most in the world petrifies me beyond belief because of our journey so far.

Always here for you to chat to whenever you need. Sometimes no matter how much support you have from nearest and dearest you need someone in a similar situation to listen ❤️

I'll keep you posted, you keep me posted too xx

@Cornflake24 what comes next scares the life out of me. The one thing I want most in the world petrifies me beyond belief because of our journey so far.

Always here for you to chat to whenever you need. Sometimes no matter how much support you have from nearest and dearest you need someone in a similar situation to listen ❤️

I'll keep you posted, you keep me posted too xx

@Wils85 thanks, just keep telling myself everything happens for a reason and it will all work out. Just need to try stay positive

@Cornflake24 it's so hard when it's all so raw. We will get through it, we are women, it's what we do 💪🏻 xxx

@cornflake24 how are you getting on? AF arrived today bang on day 28 🙄 I can't say I'm not upset but I'm trying to take the positive out of it in that it seems my body is back to a 28 day cycle already. Fingers crossed next month is our month 🤞🏼 x

@Wils85 glad your back to normal, I was due to ovulate on Wednesday and still nothing! Hoping my cycle has just changed so annoyed its late though haha

Hey @cornflake24 just thought I'd check in. how you getting on? ❤️

@Wils85 iv ovulated so relieved. How are you doing? Period came yet?

@cornflake24 great news! Im not surprised you're relieved, I felt the same, It's a sign of normality returning, which is no bad thing.

Are you guys back TTC or are you taking a break?❤️

Yea, she arrived last weekend. More normal then last time. Though had three days of nothing and then yesterday had a flow of brown after a run but then nothing since 🤷🏻‍♀️

We are going to give the sperm meets egg(-ish) plan a whirl again. We did it the cycle we got PG last time. Though instead of BD every other day we just pushed through and cracked on every day from day 8 (which is today!!) 🙈 Knackering but it did the job 😂 fingers crossed that works this time.

Hope you have a great weekend xx

@Wils85 exactly the same haha we aimed for every day and a few extra on peak, I think iv broke my husband haha.

100% TTC but trying to take it one day at a time and just focus on the fact my body is doing what its meant to rather than planning to far ahead.

I have my fingers are toes crossed we were very lucky last time so praying for the same. Iv got 3 friends due in next few months and I feel knowing I'm pregnant before meeting the babies is going to make it all alot more enjoyable!

Glad it sounds like your back on track too, im period was similar got caught out on a walk after a few days of nothing haha no idea where my cycle is now as I ovulated late so god knows when I will test lol!

@cornflake24 ha ha our poor husbands! I do worry sometimes he will think I only want him for the baby making. But I guess he's getting what most men want so probably my doesn't care really 😂 this week is prime week for us so we will be knakered by the weekend! All appendages crossed it's worth it 🤞🏼

We are the same as you, TTC but just seeing how it goes. We have a friend due in three weeks and another of our group announced their pregnancy the week we had our MC which was heartbreaking. I saw them going into Morrisons a few days later and I couldn't bring myself to go in as I wasnt ready to be all gushy and congratulatory.

It's so tough isn't it? You want to be happy for them (which I am) but it's tinged slightly with that sadness of what you lost/should have. By rights we should have an almost 4 month old now 😢

I'm hoping we will be lucky. We were 4 cycles the first time and 5 after the TMFR. I'm back to peeing on sticks again. I live for it 😂 what has my life become?!

Periods suck. It's such a weird feeling after a MC as you desperately want to see a -ive test so you know it's over, but the thing you want most is a +ive one. Then your emotional as your period comes but equally relieved if it arrives more or less as it should as it's a sign your body is getting back to normal. It's all so topsy-turvy, a true emotional rollercoaster!

Keep me posted how you get on this cycle and I'll do the same 💪🏻❤️ xx

@Wils85 definetly its so nice to have someone who is going through it all too.

My cousin was a week ahead of me and shes having bloody triplets! I don't envy that though haha makes it much easier to be happy for her haha

@cornflake24 it really does ❤️ oh gosh, yea triplets would be a bit much! I was panicking about twins 🙈 speak soon xx

@Wils85 how are you getting on? Any "positives" to report?

my second period since MC has now arrived so no positive tests this month for me :(

Hey @cornflake24. Ah that sucks your period arrived chick. There is no feeling of disappointment like it 😔 it will happen for us both, just a matter of when. Sending you love ❤️

I'm in the 2WW, due on next Wednesday, by my dates. I got a peak on day12 this month. Trying so hard not to symptom spot but getting some weird ones so keeping my fingers crossed.

Battled insomnia last night and the night before, I'm a walking emotional zombie!

Hubby is away with work all next week so if my period is late I can't test til he's come. It going to take all my willpower. I can't do it without him, I'm going to be an anxious mess if it is positive because of what we've been dealt with the last two pregnancies.

xxx

@Wils85 yeah my next one would be my 3rd too, fingers crossed you get a positive, I ended up caving and using the first response early indication ones which apparently work up to 6 days before your due date. I got a false positive on the clearblue early ones so won't be using them again haha.

@cornflake24 You get sold this story growing up about how easy it is to get pregnant and how everything goes perfectly and it's all rubbish. By the sounds of it we've both been ridiculously unlucky, but it's just made it clear to me how hard it is to get pregnant in the first place and to have a healthy happy pregnancy. Stories like ours should be talked about more, it's still almost taboo and it's sad.

I'm going to get a FRER tomorrow to test on sunday morning before hubby goes away. I've heard lots of bad things about Clearblue as well. I used the little cheapy strip test last time we got pregnant and it showed up 2 days before my period was due. In the evening too rather than first morning pee. Confirmed it with a FR then just to be sure!

I'll keep you posted lovely. I'm glad I've got someone on this journey with me. So blooming lonely sometimes and our chaos just don't get how much pressure it is as it's our body. Xxx

@Wils85 me too feel like we are in this together ❤

Hey @cornflake24. How you doing? BFN this morning on FRER 😔 not due until weds/Thurs so relatively early to test but I think I'm probably out this month. Damn body and all its symptoms really got my hopes up!! So cruel 😢

@Wils85 oh no! Thats such a shame I had my fingers crossed for you. As you say could be to early or maybe your body just needs some more time, thats what I'm telling myself haha. Its weird we go so long hoping for a positive then pray for a negative after MC now back to positive. I think I put alot of pressure on getting pregnant first time, think maybe another month to process is a good thing for me. Fingers crossed it says different later on in the week but if it doesn't there is always next month ❤

@cornflake24 I know, you're absolutely right. Our bodies have been through something really traumatic and they need time to get back to where they were. I'm heartbroken, but trying to look on the positive side, not being PG this time gives us more time to save, we can go the holiday we have booked to France at the end of May (Covid depending obv 🙄) I would just rather not have any symptoms at all and then you can't get your hopes you, you know? I'm with you, I put so much pressure on and it's early days really. I have my fingers and toes crossed for you my love. Oh what if we both catch on in the same cycle. How lovely would that be? Xx

@Wils85 it really would be lovely i imagine we will both need someone going through the same thing however I worked out that if I got preg this cycle I'd be 12 weeks a few days before Xmas so depending on how things go that could be good or bad haha.

I was weirdly relieved when my period came this month, felt the pressure just come off and iv weirdly felt more upbeat since, think just knowing my new cycle has in itself gave me a little more comfort, praying for next cycle but iv realised the pressure I put on myself wasn't good so going to try and not do that again