Periods after medical miscarriage

[Wils85]

Hi, I think I'm about to go insane! I underwent a medical miscarriage after discovering a MMC on 08th July, I was 9 weeks by my dates but the sac was around 7 weeks. I eventually miscarried on the 17th July and got a negative PG test on 09th August.

My period showed its head on the evening of 16th August but literally for 24hrs!! I have had nothing since until yesterday evening when I had some brown spotting and again today some pinky brown spotting on wiping!

I'm so confused as to what my body is doing and I feel so out of control. I understood the first period after a miscarriage would be normal flow or heavier, but this has been practically none existent. Has anyone else had a similar experience? This MC was my second PG, the first ended in TFMR back in November at 15 weeks 😥 I just want to know when we can TTC again as I am 35 at Christmas and getting panicky about getting older!!

Any words of wisdom ladies? It's really starting to get to me xx

@Wils85 exactly my husband is fairly relaxed the scans are all for me haha. I will likley pay for additional tests too.

I think getting past 12 will set my mind at rest, I was 8.5 last time which is why iv booked a 10 week scan too, but just wanted reassurance before Xmas.

One of my friends and I are pushing our diversity and inclusion pillar to do a session on all things babies, Infertility, TTC IVF and MC, im going to do a blog on MCs hopefully it helps some people and gets rid of some of the misconceptions around it.
Iv found so much support on mums net and alot of people wont think to turn to it.

Honestly I'd be lost without all you ladies haha only my husband knows about the pregnancy and you guys haha

@cornflake24 that's a wonderful idea. I know at my work we are brilliant at diversity. They have a group for menopause but not sure about TTC, fertility etc.

Please let us know what your blog is called so we can follow and if you need anything in support, just holla. I'd be lost without you ladies too 😘

Privileged to know about your precious secret lovely. We won't be telling anyone when the time comes, not until we know everything is ok. The first time we told everyone after the 12 week scan, never thinking we would get the news we did. The second our immediate family (parents and siblings), and my two best friends knew (for support with what happened last time). I can't out anyone through the joy and then the sadness again, it's hard enough going through it yourself, so we will keep it to ourselves (and no doubt you fine ladies, ha!) until we know we are safe. I know my two best friends will figure it out as we talk about my TTC journey all the time and I can't lie to them.

Enjoy your Sundays ladies, I hope it's nice and relaxed. Sending love xxx

@Wils85 any update?
Thinking of you x

@Cornflake24 aw thank you lovely. no news yet, but I think AF is looming, I can just feel it 🥺 how are you getting on? X

Fingers crossed its not!

I have started having horrible neasua today, I remembered it being horrible but god I forgot how bad it actually was haha

Hope you are managing the nausea ok @Cornflake24.

Brief update from me, I got a negative pg test yesterday. The one I took last week was still positive bc I didn't leave it long enough before I checked.

We've decided to start TTC again before waiting for my next period as I'm so paranoid about my age now and I have arthritis which is currently badly flaring (joys of pregnancy hormones leaving my body as with my first pregnancy it went into remission), so I don't want to delay things.

Are any of you taking supplements? Sorry if I've missed a post about this.

Hi @smarty4 I got my first negative this week as well and I think we're going to start trying before waiting for a period as well. It feels like so far away starting again next year and it seems like the only reason you can't is so the doctors can date it. I've been taking a pregnancy supplement for the last 2 and a half months that has folic acid etc in it. Since the miscarriage as well I've been trying to eat alot more veggies xx

@Cornflake24 @smarty4 @Nellie5115 morning ladies ❤️

We tried before I had my first "proper" period after the miscarriage too. I just figured the dates could be sorted by a scan, so what the hell. If you're conscious of your age (like I am) and you're comfortable, then go for it.

Aw mate, I feel your pain with the nausea. There is nothing like it. My last pregnancy was awful, which made the MMC even more hard to take as everyone was like "sign of a strong pregnancy" 🙄 it's like nothing else that nausea. I got to the stage where I was willing myself to just be sick as at least I would feel like my body was doing something to help itself. Hope it doesn't last too long for you my lovely 😘

Still nothing to report here. Still feel like AF is looming. I'm not getting my hopes up as I haven't had anything that's made me think I might be PG. The usual thirst, tiredness, and a smidge of nausea but I've had those symptoms the last couple of cycles but much much worse. If AF doesn't arrive today, I'll test in the morning. If I'm not PG, I'm just hoping I have a longer period and it's a sign that my.bidy has sorted itself out and I don't need to worry about the short periods anymore.

Sending love to you all and hope you have a good weekend xxx

@Nellie5115 @smarty4 I did wait until my first period and it felt like forever haha but your both right the main reason they advise is for dating, I only waited because I was still quite sore from the complications I faced after MC, I had the MVA 20th of July and it was 13th Sept when we started trying again and I still found it quite painful so would have had no chance before that haha!

@Wils85 fingers are still crossed, I had zero sign of anything until Monday this week and its been coming and going since.

Just need to keep telling yourself your body has been through a trauma for some people it takes time and for others it doesn't its all just personal to you.

@Cornflake24 thank you lovely. The first pregnancy, all I had was sore boobs until after we found out, then mild nausea. We will see. Like you say everyone is different. This has been the 5th cycle since the MMC (counting from the MC as they say to count the first day of bleeding as your first cycle day). Like I've said before it took us 4months first time and 5months the second so Im concentrating on that, in that it's still early days really. So grateful for you and your support and kind words lovely. My friends and family have been fab, but having someone who has been through it at a similar time to you has been so incredibley supportive. You've kept me sane (ish) ha! Xx

@Wils85 same not sure what I would have done if I hadn't heard of mumsnet or met you haha gets you through!

I keep worrying I dont have sore boobs yet as they were my first symptom last time but keep telling myself it's all different and in reality I still had symptoms for 6 weeks after little pips heart stopped so telling myself I'm reality they mean nothing.

I'm just a nervous wreck right now though haha

Morning all! For some reason I stopped getting notifications 🤷‍♀️

@Wils85 fingers crossed for your test tomorrow. Hopefully it'll be a bfp and you won't have to worry about your period still being lighter. I would say ask your gp about it but they'd probably fob you off. I don't think my periods were normal until October which was 4 cycles after my ERPC.

@Cornflake24 I hope you can manage to keep something down and rest. Salty food seemed to help me although I only had very mild sickness with dc1 and nothing other than tiredness and sore boobs with my mc.

@Nellie5115 @smarty4 I also started ttc before waiting for first period. The mmc was so upsetting that all I wanted (and still want) is to be pg again. I also think they only tell you to wait for first period so that they can date the pg but at the same time I was told you're more fertile after a mc so I wanted to try straight away. I've been taking supplements for months now- pregnancare max when I was pregnant then pregnacare conception after the mmc as well as coq10. I think the pregnacare conception made my cycle longer so I've switched to proceive plus with the coq10 and my cycles are more normal. I do forget to take it sometimes but hoping all this is giving me good quality eggs!

Anyway, hope you all have an easy Friday and a good weekend x

How do you stop bursting into tears in shops when you see a newborn. I really need to control myself better. I'm due back at work next week (I've been Off the three weeks) and can't face it. No point to this post sorry just wanted to say it to ppl who understand.

@smarty4 I don't think there is any answer that is going to help this lovely. Grief is a rollercoaster of emotions but you just need to know that what ever your feeling in any moment is okay. You don't need to Bottle it up or try to push it away.

I went back to work this week and it was tough but I am just thankful that we are all still working from home so I didn't have to physically face anyone. I found that it really helped as I could do things in my own time. Is there any option for you to do this or a phased return?

Sending you lots of hugs xx

Oh my dear @smarty4 💔 I feel for you, sending so much love. It's so fricking hard and all I can say is that it comes with time and whilst it might not get easier, you reach a stage where you can keep yourself together, in public at least.

Even now, depending on my head space I struggle. I was out walking with my friend who had her boy 2 months ago in our village and people were coming to coo over him. It broke my heart, because I should have that now. I managed to keep my self together (just had a massive breakdown with DH when I got home) and I'm 12 and five months on from our losses.

Remember, there doesn't have to be any point to your posts on here. We are here, whether it's to make a point or whether you feel it's pointless. We will listen. We are in this shitty process together. Stay strong my love 😘

@smarty4 aww im sorry your finding it so hard.

I found it quite helpful to try and think about other people worse off the me, eg someone was rude in a shop I tell myself I dont know whats going on with thier like and do the same with newborns, you never know the struggles other people have/have had.

A friend of mine currently has brain cancer @mybigfatyoyojourney on insta and she told a story this week about how she needed a pen in the post office and thr woman behind the desk told her they didn't have pens so a nice lady in the queue offered her a pen and she thanked her and explained she was posting a wig to another cancer patient as it was to tight for her after her brain surgery.

Can you imagine how bad that woman behind the desk felt! The point is you never know what else is happening, after MC its so easy to fall into your own bubble but take a step back and consider what others might be going through and be kind and I promise it will help you feel better.

It made me feel like im not alone and we never know whats happening from the outside, if im honest its massively changed how I approach most situations

@smarty4 sending hugs, mc is so painful and you're not the only one crying randomly x

Thank you all for the kind words. It helps knowing I'm Not alone. I think most friends / family assume your 'ok' again after a couple of weeks and don't want to talk about it.

@Cornflake24 I hope you wanted a buddy on your pregnancy journey because you got one!!! ❤️

@cornflake24 Please excuse my Thumper pyjama bottoms 🙈 xxx

Huge congratulations @Wils85 😊. Happy dance over here.

@smarty4 thank you lovely ❤️ Genuinely not sure whether I'm ecstatic or absolutely bloody terrified! I certainly wasn't expecting it!!

I also know how hard it is to see BFP news on these forums when you're going through what we have been through, so I send you lots of love and hugs 😘 Hopefully this thread is a good luck charm for us all🤞🏻 xxx

@Wils85 congratulations!!! Lovely news to wake up to!x

Thank you @StEmilion 😘 just hoping it's a sticky one and it's healthy 🤞🏻 xxx

@Wils85 omg! I now have a deaf husband as I shouted yey! Massive congrats!
I am so happy for you!!!

We have a FB page for due aug alot of us have had MCs etc do massive comfort if your interested?