Periods after medical miscarriage

[Wils85]

Hi, I think I'm about to go insane! I underwent a medical miscarriage after discovering a MMC on 08th July, I was 9 weeks by my dates but the sac was around 7 weeks. I eventually miscarried on the 17th July and got a negative PG test on 09th August.

My period showed its head on the evening of 16th August but literally for 24hrs!! I have had nothing since until yesterday evening when I had some brown spotting and again today some pinky brown spotting on wiping!

I'm so confused as to what my body is doing and I feel so out of control. I understood the first period after a miscarriage would be normal flow or heavier, but this has been practically none existent. Has anyone else had a similar experience? This MC was my second PG, the first ended in TFMR back in November at 15 weeks 😥 I just want to know when we can TTC again as I am 35 at Christmas and getting panicky about getting older!!

Any words of wisdom ladies? It's really starting to get to me xx

@cornflake24 I'm keeping all my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼 yea, Christmas is a tricky time. Last year was horrid for us as it was a month exactly after our TFMR and my heart just wasn't it in. We would be almost 14 weeks at Christmas if we have/had caught on this cycle. Would have been lovely to keep it ourselves and surprise family on Christmas day. But hey ho!

I know what you mean, I felt like that last month when my period arrived as it was the sign of everything being back to normal so it made me feel positive. Like you say, a new cycle is a now chance, we have to look at it that way and be positive xx

@Wils85 it will happen for us when its meant too, sounds like we have both had more than our share of bad luck x

Hello lovely @Cornflake24 how are you doing? AF showed her face today boo hiss! But once again, I'm trying to think positive. I also feel slightly relieved. I never realise how much the TWW weighs on me until it's over. I am a bit upset but at least i know now and can move on to this next cycle, you know?

@Wils85 I felt the exact same i felt so relived! I think its because I'm a planner and not knowing is the hardest bit so when my period came I knew what was happening. We are about to hit our next ovulation cycle, think it will start tomorrow but I feel like I'm going into this one with a better headspace than last time, I think the first one after MC clearly is alot of pressure. Going to try and remain a little more calm and not put to much pressure on it all this time and just hope for best.

Who knows what will actually happen when it all starts again haha but thats my goal.

Sorry she visited though was hoping you would get lucky :(

@Cornflake24 I'm with you on being a planner. I hate the fact I have no control over this process. It drives me insane.

I'm also with you on the trying to remain calm and not put too much pressure on ourselves. It's unhelpful and it just gets is worked up and anxious. But it's so very hard not to.

I need to focus on the fact that it took us 4 months first time and 5 the second and even that is quicker than the average so, I need to be more relaxed. I'm going to try my hardest this cycle

Good luck with yours enjoy the process 😉😜 I've got all my appendages crossed for you xxx

@Wils85 thanks haha we were lucky and fell first time so think thats part of the reason I was so worked out lol

@Cornflake24 you were really lucky! I hoped after the MMC that the whole "your more fertile after a miscarriage" thing would kick in, but no such luck. I'm beginning to think that all the different stuff you read is true for about 3% of women and there is no way of knowing how it will work for you. Just got to ride the wave and whatever happens, happens. Just bloody hard when you're a control freak and want something so badly.

Have a great weekend lovely lady. Speak soon xxx

@Cornflake24 hey there, had a positive OPK this morning so thought I'd check in and see how you were getting on xxx

Hi @Wils85 my period is due on Monday assuming it doesn't move again! Haha. I'm trying to not take a test until my period is late, I was 26 days last month so hoping for same this month but who knows these days haha. Will let you know how I do on Monday! Fingers are toes crossed for both of us!

@Cornflake24 all appendages are crossed for you! It's so hard not testing! Keep me posted xx

@Wils85 thanks my ovulation was all over the place this month I normally have 4 high days and 2 peak but this month I had 2 high days and 2 peak so I lost 2 high days! Lol

@Cornflake24 it's a blinking minefield. I've not used the clear blue monitor this month. Just the cheapies and doing SMEP. The cheapies correlated with the monitor anyway so figured I'd save some pennies! Though I had faint lines (still -ive) and then no lines and then my positive. The female body is a crazy rollercoaster of a ride 🤦🏻‍♀️ xxx

@wils85 I got impatient and did a pregnancy test, came back negative, I could be a bit early but doubt it. I really hoped it would be this time because I'd have been 12 weeks just before Xmas but sadly not :(

@Cornflake24 oh my love, I'm sorry to hear that. When I saw the email I was so hoping it was good news for you! You're not out until the witch arrives, though I know how hard it is when you've had a negative and are just waiting. Our time will come. Christmas would have been perfect but anytime to announce will be perfect when it happens ❤️ try and keep smiling. It's hard, I know xxx

@Wils85 I know its just so bloody hard! My best friend had her baby last week and my other friend is getting induced on the 2nd. So glad I feel happy for them i was worried id just be jealous or upset but thankfully overjoyed for them.

@Cornflake24 I feel you. My best friend had her little one two weeks ago, it was the day I came on and the last day after a week of being entirely alone. I was overjoyed for her but it bloody hurt too. Just the timing with everything else I guess. As every one keeps saying to me (and me slightly not believing them) or time will come xxx

@Wils85 I'm the same know its the case just so long between each month haha

Hey @Cornflake24 thought I'd check in see how you were doing. I'm nearing the end of the 2WW, due on Wednesday/Thursday negative FRER this morning but feeling all sorts of symptoms. So who the hell knows 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Wils85 fingers crossed! My period ended yesterday so will be restarting again shortly. I'm debating taking a month off but haven't decided yet haha

@Cornflake24 I'm tempted to suggest the same thing to DH, but on the other hand my body clock is ticking so loudly in my head. I'm far from old; 35 at new year, but I feel like if we take a break I'm wasting month. I know I'm crazy, as women are having kids into their 40s and later these days, it's just the way my brain is working 🤦🏻‍♀️ keep me posted how you get on if you decide to keep trying ❤️

@Wils85 im exactly the same 32 in Dec so know i have time but I want it so much im not sure a month off will help haha will let you know if I do it haha

@Wils85 how did you get on?

@Cornflake24 AF arrived on Thursday 🙄😪 we are going to have a month off, give me some time to get my head on an even keel. How are you getting on?

@Wils85 we did take a month off and I swear we have had the best sex we have had in ages! The pressure was very clearly on! I have continued to track my ovulation though as its still moving around this month and I'm currently on day 6 of high, where an earth is my peak days! Worried my body has taken a month off too and im not going to ovulate. You ever had that?

@Cornflake24 it really does put pressure on. It becomes more about what your trying to achieve rather than enjoying the process.

My ovulation, or at least my peak days have been around day 12/14 the last couple of months so I'm not even going to track this month. Obvs we will still do the deed. If we catch on, we catch on. I need to do something for my head or else I'm going to go insane (or more insane 😂)

I'm ALWAYS worried about not ovulating, even if I do get peak days, as I read somewhere (how true I don't know) that even if you get a peak it doesn't mean you will ovulate 🙄 of course my negative nancy brain has remembered that so it's constantly on my mind (along with everything else that can go wrong) To say we were designed to procreate our bodies don't make it easy!!

I really wanted to be pregnant by Christmas but with taking a month if it's unlikely. 2020 has been the worst bloody year. I didn't think it could get worse than the back end of 2019 but it's getting there!!