waiting to see if i miscarry - doctor told me anxiety will expel my baby from my womb!

[Lcy]

Hi

I just need to vent. I am 10 weeks pregnant and had brown bleeding at 5-6 weeks so EPU scanned me and saw a heart beat - bleeding stopped and i felt all was ok.

Yesterday i had a big brown bleed again and incredibly sore lower back pain so went to EPU again this morning. They had a new doctor who asked me to tell him the symptoms. After talking for 10 minutes he asked me whether i could be pregnant!!! I WAS IN THE EARLY PREGNANCY UNIT !!!

He then told me that lower back pain is not a sign of miscarriage and that i should ignore it. He did an internal and i could see that the blood had changed to bright red and i started to get tearful. He told me not to get anxious because anxiety would expel the baby from my womb!

Anyway - he told me i am having another threatened miscarriage but i will just have to wait and see if i miscarry and that i cant have a scan and that i will have to wait 3 weeks for my dating scan because they are busy.

Just feeling really anxious - i am waiting for my midwife to phone me back. I know that they cant stop a miscarriage but i would like to know whether the baby is alive or not.

Vent over - Lucy

Thanks for letting us know. I am so sorry it wasnt more positive news xxxx

mum2ozzie - I'm really sorry to hear what is happening to you.

I feeel happy this morning as my period arrived 4 1/2 weeks after my m/c. It's a great releif as sometimes it can take many weeks after a mid trimester miscarriage to get back to normal.

mum2ozzie - so sorry, so sorry. its tough but you seem to have a really good attitude. maybe the inches are just water and will even out soon. i have lost a bit this week not from much effort of my own . . .

goingfor3 - that is cool, because they say it can take up to 7 weeks for some people to get their cycle back.

i went out to a party last night and although i could drink again, i just couldn't get into it - it all seemed so silly, which is really really unlike me. i think after years of partying and caning, i was getting bored anyway and when i got pregnant (non-intentionally) it seem really opportune. not that i want to stop going out forever once i have kids, but i was actually getting tired of myself, if you know what i mean.
and i don't mean that i am bored and therefore i want a kid, its more that it just suddenly seems like exactly the right time . . .

how are you, lcy?

I feel the same TJuice - it just feels like it is the right time to have a baby

Hope you are ok mum2ossie - i expect you are experiencing a rollercoaster or emotions.

Hi Goingfor3 - glad you got your period - i bet having everything working normally is a relief!

Hi Lcy, how are you doing? Looking forward to your night away?

I've got the cook yourself thin book too! It's great. Now I just need to find time to cook! Hope you are having a lovely weekend and getting some restorative sunshine.

Seeing another property tomorrow, but it's first floor. If it's really nice I won't mind so much.

Take care anyway xxxx

Hi Bumper - i'm ok - just waiting for DH's mum to get here then we are going out for a posh dinner! How are you? I wish i lived nearer because would love to help out with house hunting - you know its my obsession. I hope its not stressing you out too much. Kiss LO for me x

Hi Lcy, sorry I missed your call earlier. Hope you had a nice meal. It's a shame you are not closer, we could go house stalking together!

DH thinks I am neglecting him so I'd better go and spend some time with him.

Take care darl xxxxx

Hi there.I need some advice as I am really confused.Went for 12 wk scan Thursday to be told although baby measured a bit small for dates it had no heartbeat.I had no cramping or bleeding before and still nothing now.I've already had 1 mc but carried dd full term (plus2!!)Could they be wrong? (blush)

have they offered to scan you again redz???what options have you been given?

Going back Wednesday for another scan and then to discuss the options.As I said,already had one mc which I passed naturally so all seems really weird.surely, and dont want to sound blunt,but they should just take baby out?

if there is still no heartbeat when they re scan you on wedensday they will give you a number of options, and its up to you what you want to do.If the worst comes to the worse they will offer you a d&c, a tablet to bring on things naturally or to wait it out and let nature take its course.I have been through this 3 times before and always opted for the d&c as i couldn't cope with waiting for things to happen.I do hope that things will be okay for you x

Thank you.I passed my 1st baby naturally and it wasnt a nice experience.Made all the worse due to the lack of care.I was given a cardboard sick tray to pass baby into and after d&c, consultant asked me what contraception I was going to use in the future so this didnt happen again!!!Needless to say, when I had my DD at the same hospital, with the same consultant, boy did she meet a woman in labour!!! She left the room after the crap I gave her and never came back! revenge is sweet

how horrible...you would think they would be compassionate considering whata horrible experience it is to go through.im sorry you are having to go through this redz x

Hi Redz - sorry this is happening to you, it must be a very confusing and distressing time.

It sounds like the hospital are concerned that the baby has died. I expect they want to scan you again to check that the baby definitely has no heartbeat.

You may of had a missed miscarriage - that is when the baby dies but the placenta keeps producing hormones so you continue to feel pregnant and you don't cramp or bleed. Therefore it can be a terrible shock when you have a scan and they tell you something is wrong.

Its going to be a difficult weeks wait. Post on here if you need support xx

Hi Lcy, how are you feeling? Looking forward to your break?

I'm off to my mum's tonight as we have our postnatal meet up tomorrow.

Speak to you soon xxxxxx

Hi Lucy - so glad you liked the poem, it really moved me. I did have a good time in Wales, lovely to just watch dd paddling, playing on the beach etc. This experience has made me treasure her all the more. Only lost it on the last day when my Auntie said "oh, this time next week I'll be at work" and I thought, hmm, this time next week I'll be having a D&C....
How was your posh dinner with MIL?
GF3 - glad you got your AF, does make you start to feel better.
RW - the 'husband instructions' are really good. dh has been pretty good tbh but men do sometimes need things spelling out don't they.
M2O - Sorry it wasn't better news. I have got the waist inches too, bummer isn't it?
Redz - sorry you are going through this, the waiting is horrid. Will be thinking of you tomorrow, let us know how it goes.
TJuice, I know what you mean about 'the right time' this one was due around dd's 2nd birthday and I always wanted them 2 years apart. You always want something more when it's gone
Pip - how are you going this week? Hope you get some light relief at the AS party (not in that way - just realised how that sounds)

Hi jackstini - and everyone else - thanks so much for all your support. Just to let you know i have moved over to the TTC after miscarriage in the conception topic - hope to see you over there xx