@MrsMGE I'm so sorry to hear you're having a bad time 😔 what did DH say when you showed disappointment? Maybe he's planned something else as a surprise later?
I actually don't think they really get how hard TTC is for women sometimes and how it can get you so stressed and down. Don't get me wrong, of course they are sad too when it happens, but ultimately it is our bodies and our fear (which is grating). I really don't think your DH is doing this on purpose, I know you've had a really tough time but he might feel it's all better now and that you're going to the spa anyway, so hasn't even thought about how you're feeling about this little getaway.
I'll take myself as an example, DH has just gone to Japan for 10 days for the Rugby World Cup (booked months and months back), so I'm left alone with this fear of miscarriage impending 🙄 it's not his fault, I would never ask him to cancel because that won't make any difference in outcome for us, but there's a difference in mentality and level of worry between us. He's always super positive, he thinks it will stick 🙄 he obviously has no clue about these alarming hcg levels and I've tried to explain but it's like speaking to a wall 😅
Sorry I'm rambling on, I think what I'm trying to say is that yes it is inconsiderate, and something like him forgetting to buy you the perfume might have just been water under the bridge in normal circumstances because we're all busy, but given how tough you've had it and what you did for him for his bday makes it a big thing. I doubt he's ever thought that far though (mine wouldn't).
Men 🙄