First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage (Part 4)

[Kiki061190]

Hi ladies!

Our previous thread is now full so I’ve made a new one 😘

@MrsMGE I know how you feel and I’m coming off this thread for a while too. I’ll keep an eye on it but everyone is pregnant and being past my due date and watching most of the others catch pretty quickly makes me feel like something is broken. I have booked a private appointment because my GP Won’t help me so I’ll see what happens with that. Take care of yourself x

@zoomies1 Thank you. I'm sorry we're in the same boat, I very much feel for you. I'm glad you're going private, and keeping my fingers crossed you'll have some answers and treatment that will help you and you'll see the results very soon. The wait and constant negative results are very emotionally draining, no matter how tough you think you are. I hope you won't have to wait for much longer ❤️

I'm so used to chatting daily, I've been here since June, and found it so helpful and just nice. I could easily have a ladies night with you all now! I do wonder whether there are any relevant TTC threads for the time being, maybe they'd be more appropriate for now, until we all have some positive news. I don't know, but I feel I need to talk regularly because not many people in real life understand this. Xxx

@MrsMGE Thinking if you and hoping you are doing better today ♥️

@SunStruck When is your next blood test to be done?

@MrsMGE hey sista, how are you? Xxx

@Kiki061190 it is tomorrow, so 🤞 I don't have high hopes at the moment (don't want to get hopes up either!). I'll just wait and see.

Is your and @Catconfusion'a scan end of this week? Xxx

Hey @SunStruck just take it as it comes and don't assume anything. That's all you can do. Fingers crossed for you!

My scan is on Friday so only 4 more sleeps. I just can't wait now. xx

@Catconfusion oh how exciting!!! Hope you feel better today x

Hi ladies, how are you doing?

Blood test today! I'm nervous so I just had to POAS this morning (I didn't yesterday or day before) as I want a heads up if it's really a chemical. My line came out super strong and same color as the Control line, so I'm just hoping for good news now 🤞

Only a few more sleeps for you ladies @Kiki061190 and @Catconfusion Until the big scan! 🥰

That's brilliant news @SunStruck and surely a good sign. Good luck for today! Xx

@MrsMGE just to let you know I'm thinking of you and I feel bad you feel you maybe can't chat on this thread. How about if we keep it to non pregnancy chat? It after all isn't a pregnancy thread. It shuts sounds like you were finding it super useful and I'm keep to keep that going for you and other ladies ttc. Xx

@SunStruck I’m sending you all the love today for the blood test! When will you find out the results? I know it’s 2 days until my scan and I’m so anxious. I’ve convinced myself something is wrong! I know that’s the wrong thoughts to have but it’s hard when you’ve had a loss. The anxiety is heightened when you get pregnant again!

Yes @Catconfusion I agree! @MrsMGE I miss your chat daily! I hope you’re ok and sending you lots of love ♥️

Thanks @Catconfusion and @Kiki061190 ! Results should be today 😃

@MrsMGE yes miss you lots. Please don't feel that you can't be in here, and also happy to keep it to non pregnancy chat as there's another thread for that! We've all followed each others journeys so far and would love to continue if you feel like it x

@SunStruck fingers crossed for you!

The other thread is 'pregnancy after miscarriage' for when you feel ready. Xx

Hi Girls. Thank you for your lovely messages. I'm sorry I'm being shit, it's all got a bit too much for me. This AF is absolutely dreadful, I'm on CD4 and every day I've had huge gushes of blood and lots of clots. It hasn't been painful, but it is extreme, even for my standards. So this has deeply upset me as a) it's a similar look to my MC, and b) I'm concerned deep inside that maybe there was a fertilised egg there that didn't implant itself and that's why it is so, so bad 😔

I have a major event tonight, delivering a speech to 150 people and I'm really trying to get my thoughts together. It's such a hard week 😔 I'm extremely busy for the next 2 weeks work-wise as well, and our renovation has gone over budget at the final stage, so I just have so much going on.

I don't want you to stop talking about the most important thing in your lives, I know how it feels, pg takes over your entire life. It's not fair for everyone to compromise because my life atm is a shit fest xxx

@MrsMGE I'm so sorry AF is so bad. Try not to worry about what that means. It may be your body needed to do this so it's ready for the next cycle.

Honestly it's not a compromise to not talk about pregnancy. We have another thread we can chat on. I'm just more concerned you're not getting the support you need.

Good luck for tonight. I'm sure you'll be amazing. Remember this time will pass and you'll be ok. Just take each day as it comes! Xx

Hi @MrsMGE, I’m so sorry you are having such a tough time. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I know I’m very new to this thread, and a few months behind you, but I’m feeling very much the same way. However, even just reading this thread has been a lifeline for me over the past few weeks and I hope it can continue to be a source of comfort and support for us and other ladies ttc. Hugs to you xx

Quick update from me: I’m now in my 5th week post MMC and finally getting negative on HPT. Hooray! I carried on temping and using cheap OPKs and have had no indication that ovulation is on its way yet. I know lots of women have an anovulatory cycle post-MMC so am prepared for it to be that. I just hope AF doesn’t take too long to arrive. This limbo waiting to TTC again is the worst!

Unfortunately not great news here, my hcg haven't risen enough (gone from 67 to 115), and I need to go back on Sunday for another blood test 😔 hopefully it's not ectopic, and if I'm going to miscarry I hope it will be quick and natural, I can't cope with another D&C!

Dr hasn't said anything, just that it's a slow rise, but I've read up about it enough to know it's not good. I think it's only 15% of pregnancies with slow rises that work out fine in the end.

@MrsMGE it wouldn't have been fertilized as you never got a positive I think, so wouldn't have been a chemical. I think a heavy period is good because it shows that the lining is good? After my d&c my first period was so light I could use a pantyliner, that's worrying! No way that lining could have carried a baby.

Good luck tonight, you'll do great 😄 this is what us women do, all shit going on in the background but still smiling and pretending all okay outwards... I've done this today after my hcg results 🤦🏻‍♀️ can't wait for the weekend, pjs and cuddling the pets on the sofa 🤗

@SunStruck I'm so sorry! Were the tests done 48 hours apart? How many days pregnant were you when you had the last blood test? I've definitely heard of slow rising hcg and some positive stories.

If it is bad news I do hope it's over quickly. It's a horrible situation to be in so I hope you know either way soon! Thinking of you! Xx

@Catconfusion thank you ☺️ I was 2 days pregnant first time around, but I had the test on Thursday, so it should definitely have been closer to 300-400 if it doubles each day. I'm a bit gutted but then again I had tried to not get carried away this time so I'm more at peace with it. I've had no spotting or pain (or any feeling still apart from nausea and fatigue... as you do in pregnancy), so let's see if something starts this weekend.

Thanks for your support as always!

@Catconfusion if you don't mind me asking, when did you start to bleed after positive test when you had your chemical?

Oh, God @SunStruck. I'm so sorry. This has put things into perspective. I know you don't want to keep your hopes up not to be hurt again, but is there a chance things could work out OK? Xxx

Also re: heavy period, I agree with you, however I have pretty much haemorrhaged twice this week, sorry about TMI, but it went all down my legs etc. Luckily I was at home, I don't know what I would have done in work. Think I should get some iron tablets. Xxx

And thank you for your kind words @Catconfusion and @bettymoo212 ❤️😘

@MrsMGE oh god that's terrible! Didn't know it was that bad 😔 yes get some iron tablets x

I don't know, maybe a small chance. I just need to go back for another blood test and then see, a small percentage of women have a really slow rise and it works out for them. I'm going to try to not think too much about it this weekend - take each day as it comes 😊 we just need to try again if the worst happens, we know we want a baby! 😅

@SunStruck I really feel for you. I keep everything crossed that things work out fine for you. The limbo land is bloody awful, I've been there with the missed miscarriage (although I knew the outcome in my heart straight away), but the two weeks between the initial diagnosis and when we knew the outcome for certain were the worst two weeks of my life. There's no sugar coating this, the fear is real, the stress is real, and in the ideal world this shouldn't be happening to anyone. You are taking the best approach, but inevitably it will be at the back of your mind until you know what's going on, so talk to us xxx