First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage (Part 4)

[Kiki061190]

Hi ladies!

Our previous thread is now full so I’ve made a new one 😘

@Kiki061190 my womb was always tilted backwards Though at the last scan it had moved forwards because of the pregnancy. Apparently this happens if retroflexed. I know what you mean about having been that tiny percentage to have had a mmc. It makes you question everything. I can imagine your chances are far better this time. Also with it being a single pregnancy. So sad you had to go through a loss so late last time with two though. It really is cruel. I’m definitely more attached now but it’s not the same as the first pregnancy. Even after seeing how babylike it looks. We’ll still be devastated if something goes wrong. I just find it hard to imagine what baby looks like now. I had the apps last time and we looked it up each week. This time my mind is stuck at the last time we saw baby alive which was nearly two weeks ago. Hopefully the scan we’re due to have in the next few days will show growth and be healthy. It’s so hard after loss! Xx

@MrsMGE Thank you so much for being so supportive! I appreciate it! The sun will do a world of good 😊 I’m jealous! It’s great you’re feeling calm and chilled out, the best way to be.

@Catconfusion Isn’t it amazing how quickly they grow? I feel more confident having a singleton pregnancy this time, I had a bad feeling last time. I know we will also be devastated if this doesn’t work out as we feel like we’re further along than last time and so close to the 12 week scan! Have you had your booking app? I had mines today and they gave me some things away to read and wow it’s a lot to take in! I said to the midwife today it’s so cruel our first pregnancy experience was negative as it makes you unable to sit back and enjoy this time of that makes sense? Your scan is the day after mines so fingers crossed we will be sharing our good news stories ♥️♥️

It’s mind blowing @Kiki061190 the difference between 6 weeks and 9 weeks. It does seem twin pregnancies can be complicated. My friend had to abort one of her identical twins because they were transfusing blood from each other and both would have died. It was horrific but the remaining little girl was fine.

Yes we did the booking in a few weeks ago. It was fine and like you say lots of information. I just can’t wait until the 12 week scan now. Although we’re we’re having one in the next week so I’ll be about 11 weeks. My GP is convinced this one will be fine therefore the 12 week one should be too. Fingers crossed for us both! Xx

@Catconfusion The GP I saw on Sunday was so confident as well. Apparently a heartbeat at 7/8 weeks drops MC rate dramatically which is fabulous. I was told as soon as we discovered we were expecting identical twins that it would be a high risk pregnancy and I would need monitored. Definitely a complicated pregnancy! Can’t wait to see your next scan picture! We saw the cord today which was crazy. I came home and sat in one of the guests rooms today and actually thought about how I would change it into a nursery. Have you thought about baby’s room?

@Kiki061190 it’s lovely to sense you getting a little excited. There has to be some hope all will be ok. Especially since the odds are so good. The cord is fascinating. I loved seeing the arms and legs twitch. My DH is off work this week and he’s laying wooden floor boards throughout upstairs so the spare room has a nice floor now. We’ve talked a bit about it but won’t do too much until much later. I definitely want a sleep alongside cot for the early days. It’s nice to start thinking about it. We can’t bring ourselves to think about names yet though. Xx

@Catconfusion We has a boys name picked out before and we actually do have a girls name now. We want to name baby girl after OH nan who died suddenly the day we lost our twins. OH is convinced we are having a girl as is my mum 🤷‍♀️ Do you or OH have any inkling? The sleep along cots are fabulous, a few family members have one and say great things about them.

Arh that’s lovely @Kiki061190 We’re not really sure. The sickness is supposed to worse with girls so maybe a girl. My Dad says he thinks he knows but wouldn’t say. Neither of us mind as such. It would be nice for DH to have a son as his Dad died young so I think he’d enjoy having that father son relationship. Either way will be lovely. Xx

@Catconfusion We’re the same, we’ll be happy either way. I think once we get to the 12 week scan I’m going to start looking forward to getting a proper bump!

@Catconfusion thanks so much for your comforting words dear. It's never easy to lose something u so much wanted. Guess it was not his /her time. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy love.xxx👏🏼❤

No problem @KBTari and thank you. Just give yourself time. I found it so hard to do this as I just wanted to be pregnant again but my body needed to heal. With time you will feel more positive and it will get easier. I hope you are pregnant again when you are ready! Xx

@KBTari So sorry to hear that you are going through this. As @Catconfusion says, just concentrate on your recovery and take every day one day at a time.

@SunStruck - I know what you mean. I will want to be excited and put everything behind me but I won't be able to do that until the baby is out and well. I won't be able to tell anyone and I won't be able to complain about how awful pregnancy is - and you may have noticed that complaining is a hobby of mine! I'll just feel like I'm supposed to be be grateful and that's it. Which is very unreasonable of me to myself. Please note - I am happy for other people to complain. In fact, I appreciate the honesty!

@Kiki061190 God that sounds stressful. Glad everything is OK.

Happy Friday ladies! I wondered if I could ask you a question about the first cycle after your MMC (i.e. before your first period). Did anyone successfully manage to pinpoint ovulation during that month, and if so was it at roughly the usual time? I’m using OPKs and also temping but both are a bit all over the place. Had a big temperature spike this morning but OPKs are still showing low. I would normally ovulate around CD20 before MMC but that day has been and gone if I could the first day of bleeding as CD1. Not sure if I’m just throwing money down the drain this month with the OPKs and if it’s better to give up and wait until the first cycle after a period. I’m driving myself up the wall trying to work out what my body is doing! Hope everyone is doing OK and looking forward to the weekend.

Oh and I’m also still getting a very faint positive on pregnancy tests. Does anyone know if it’s even possible to ovulate before an HPT shows negative?!

@bettymoo212 It is possible that your first cycle is all over the place, you may ovulate at a different time than usual, it may be longer, it may be anovulatory. I personally didn't track the first one as I felt it would not show the real picture and I also didn't want to be stressed out. The recommendation is that it would be best to wait one full cycle before TTC for ease of calculating how far along you are. It won't do any harm to get oh earlier, but you might struggle to work out the dates.

I'd be more interested in your positive pregnancy test! If you had a negative after the MC and now you have a BFP then I'm pretty sure you're pg again... Is this what's happened? Or have you not had a BFN post miscarriage? If the latter then you shouldn't be trying yet until you get a BFN. Hope that helps.

*get oh was meant to say get pg (pregnant)

Thank you very much @MrsMGE, I think you were wise not to track the first cycle as it is most definitely creating extra stress! Sorry, my post wasn’t very clear - no, I haven’t had a negative pregnancy test since the miscarriage. It is just getting fainter very, very, very slowly. I was told by the midwife that it was OK to try again straight away, regardless of whether I was still getting a positive pregnancy test or not. I’m starting to doubt the advice I was given...

@bettymoo212 You're meant to get a BFN within 3 max 4 weeks from the MC, if it hasn't happened then you should think about getting in touch with the EPAU because you may have retained products (I. E. an incomplete miscarriage). This is why I certainly would not start TTC before a BFN, you just don't know if the MC was complete.

Thanks @MrsMGE, I’ll give it another week and if I don’t get a BFN will speak to the EPAU.

Sounds sensible @bettymoo212. Also if you haven't had a BFN yet, OPKs are likely to give you false results as they can pick up on HCG as well as LH. My first cycle after the MC was longer, 37 days, second was more normal (35) and currently waiting for my third to finish. I hope everything settles for you quickly so you can start thinking about TTC again.

Thanks @MrsMGE. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for good news for you this cycle!

Thanks @bettymoo212 😊 It's over 3 months since the MMC now and I can hand on heart say it's the first time I feel like me again. Still have my moments, but I've come a long way physically and mentally. You might think you're feeling fine, but don't put pressure on yourself, you've been a lot. Be kind to your body and mind and take small steps whenever you feel ready ❤️

@bettymoo212 Hiya! You’re probably wasting opks at this point. I would wait until you get a BFN first. I ovulated 10 days later than normal my first cycle after mmc. A few of the ladies on here had bad experiences with chemical pregnancies straight after mmc so I would give it the one cycle to get back to normal.

@MrsMGE Hiiiii! How are you? Any plans for the weekend?

Thanks @Kiki061190, I will do. The waiting is just so difficult, isn’t it?! All I want to do is try again, and as I’m over 35 I can’t help worrying that time isn’t on my side. But I know that’s completely irrational and 1 or 2 months won’t make any difference... Have a lovely weekend!

@bettymoo212 One or two months might make a difference, a positive one in terms of the outcome. Getting pg when your body hasn't fully recovered and the hormones are still not settled will not improve your outcomes and it might end up in a CP.

@Kiki061190 I'm good, thanks, really good actually. We're going back home tomorrow and I've had the best time. Now onto a relaxing weekend, I'll just do little bits and bobs around the house, go to the gym/jog and catch up on Poldark, as I've missed most of the latest series. How are you doing? Anything nice planned? You should make it the most chilled weekend after all you've been through ❤️

@bettymoo212 I completely understand! We’ve all been there, as soon as miscarriage happens we want to be pregnant ASAP. Our bodies maybe need some time to just heal slightly. I fell 2 months after MMC which honestly was super quick in my eyes. Currently 10 weeks! It’ll happen for you ♥️

@MrsMGE Gal you are so motivated! I can barely function any more when I come in from work 🙄 I have a birthday meal with OH tomorrow as his bday is next week and we’re both working that night, we thought we’d make a night of it tomorrow. Also having our driveway priced up because it needs ripped up and redone! Why is everything always money, money, money? 😂 I still need to finish Stranger Things season 3.... there’s too much to telly to watch! Glad you’ve had a good time. How many DPO are you now? I know this week was stressful! I had a little moment of insecurity today because I feel like I have a tiny obvious bump from side on and I’m not used to having a tummy! I’ve barely ate the past 3 weeks so I’m like surely I can’t be showing but OH has noticed it too. Fingers crossed it’s a good sign!