First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage (Part 4)

[Kiki061190]

Hi ladies!

Our previous thread is now full so I’ve made a new one 😘

@SunStruck How are the injections going?

@Kiki061190 Did you have a nice, relaxing day today?

@Catconfusion Fingers crossed it eases off soon, and for now stick to eating what you fancy. It's better to eat something than not to! Feel for you xxx

I'm exhausted girls, busy in work and I am a bit sleep deprived, my own fault, plus getting up early to do all the O tests (seriously too much time and planning!). I'm also uber bloated! Off to the gym, hopefully this is going to make me feel better! Xxx

@MrsMGE It was thanks! Finally started packing for holiday so just a few bits to add in tomorrow and that will be finished. Oooh enjoy the gym! I have done zero exercise recently, the smallest task requires a nap after 😂

@Kiki061190 That's good! Nearly there!

I've just tested for the second time today using the Femometer sticks and it finally showed LH high at 40. The line isn't very dark though. Still, darker than before when it was recognising LH at 7 or 9-10, shocking. Maybe I will ovulate soon after all, and the bloating is another symptom!

@Catconfusion I understand, I'd also be cautious if I were you too in the first trimester. I second @MrsMGE just eat whatever you feel for at this point, you can always eat super healthy later on! Just need to get something in you ❤️

@MrsMGE same here - so extremely busy at work, I'm in at 7.30 and leaving 7.30-8pm. In between all of this having to go for scans (trying to go for 'meetings' without people at work noticing) just to hear that my follicles aren't growing 🙄 sorry I sound negative, my DH said that to me yesterday. Said we have nothing to worry about, only tried for 2 months when caught last time and will happen again. I don't think men really get the fear of feeling something's broken inside and that this might not happen again!

Anyway, injection yesterday didn't go too well, neither of us are gifted nurses for sure ha-ha, did the whole injection thing but managed to spill half the liquid out (need to mix powder and sterilized water to make a potion to inject). Managed to inject half, so not sure if this is going to work as we lost half! I was very upset yesterday due to this, but nothing we can do hey. Going to the scan today after work and then it's thankfully the weekend so I can rest. Been so tired due to working a lot and gymming every morning before work, but I'm on a health streak 💪

Oooh amazing news about the opk!!! Flashing smiley still or solid today hopefully?! Back in the game for sure 😎

@Kiki061190 how exciting you're going soon!!! So jealous :) alllll the food! You deserve a break! When are you going?

Ok off to the PT for me... 5.25 am here 😴

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind me joking the thread?
I found out at 10 weeks on the 1st August that I'd had a mc. Had suspected something wasn't quite right when I suddenly stopped being sick, sickness was severe - I've had two babies and both I suffered hyperemisis. Early scan confirmed baby had no heartbeat 😪
I passed the pregnancy naturally on the 10th August. After about 10days of heavy bleeding I have spotted constantly until a few days ago.
I'm just wondering if anyone has fallen pregnant before any following cycle after mc? I'm due AF tmrw, that's obviously I'd cycle is normal, my oh and I haven't been careful at all, so wondering if it is possible to fall straight away and how soon after mc does ovulation happen?

@ncmc2014 Welcome & sorry for your loss 🌺 In answer to your question, yes, it is possible to fall pregnant straight after the MC even before the AF. It's not an issue, but it is likely to make your life more difficult in terms of working out how far along you are and when to arrange scans, appointments etc.

Ovulation works differently for every woman, you may have ovulated or not, and it may have happened at your usual time of the month or not because of the fact your hormones may not have been settled after the MC. It's impossible to tell unless you've been tracking. You should wait for AF and take pregnancy tests if it doesn't arrive. Keep in mind it might be late after the MC.

@SunStruck I think we're both overthinking this tbh. I'm not saying that if there is an issue it shouldn't be addressed or improved, but the reality is we both fell pg after 2 months of trying, naturally. I know this does not mean that it will happen again, but it is way more likely than not that overall we're fine. We may have some blips due to the recent MCs, and like you said earlier, you have mild PCO (I seem to be having high estrogen, no idea why), but this isn't the end of the world. I'm trying now to stay on track and focus on the facts not on the what ifs. I think if we keep trying, dtd regularly and look after ourselves, it will happen.

I also concluded that I don't want to track after this month if it doesn't happen. All it's done is given me stress and anxiety unnecessarily. There's so much faffing with this every morning, then stressing out about stupid lines and flashing symbols, then having sex on particular days whether you feel like it or not, then worrying that the tests are not consistent and what it means, you name it, I worried about that. I'm sick and tired of this and I do genuinely think now that sometimes ignorance is bliss as it puts your mind at rest. I now know too much and I'm overthinking stuff, I'm prone to that. I want to feel like a normal woman, not turn into some kind of an obsessed zombie, as if my life and worth depended on two lines or an LH surge 🙄 It's just not me.

I'm working on myself to focus on the good stuff, doing something nice every day. I really cannot wait to dump those sticks in the bin after this cycle!

(as you have probably guessed from my post, it's another flashing smiley day and another test to take this eve using Femometer, as it doesn't pick up much from the morning urine sample. Then I'll dtd again. Then the same over and over again for another week or longer, fml. What is life? ).

@ncmc2014 I’m so sorry for your loss! I had a mmc in May and it takes a bit longer for you AF to come back. I have a standard 28 day cycle and it came 38 days after my mmc started. I would advise to wait until you’ve had one AF before trying again. You can fall after a mc straight away but it does make dating slightly harder

@SunStruck Damn girl that is determination and dedication to a healthy routine you have there! I fly out tomorrow and I can’t wait! Have faith those follicles are growing nicely ♥️

@MrsMGE I know I keep saying it but tracking was too much for me! It became exhausting and I felt like I was on a rota for dtd 😂 which isn’t very sexy! When I forgot all about it then it worked. Any nice plans for the weekend?

@Kiki061190 Yes, actually, I'm going to have a haircut and thinking about changing my hair colour. Then DH and I are off for a date and a bowling session (I LOVE bowling 😂). Very jealous of your trip!!! Hope you have an amazing time xxx

I also admire @SunStruck's determination, there's no way I'd be up an running at 5.25 to go to the gym and then work till 8pm! I used to have a similar routine, but it caught up with me in my 30s, I need more sleep and more me time now, plus I often attend work related events in the evenings and it's just not viable. I just go to the gym/jog when I can, and rest when I can. It's amazing you've got the stamina to keep going every day! Xxx

@MrsMGE ooooh bowling!!!! Sounds fabulous! I’ve been steadily ticking off a list of things I need to get done today. A few things left to do tomorrow before we leave!

Haha thanks girls, I don't admire myself getting up that early for gym, I'm a morning person (much to DH's annoyance!! 🤪). I couldn't ever physically think of going (or mentally) after work, I just want to get home and have my dinner haha!

Been for a scan, unfortunately looks like an anovulatory cycle this time 😥 Dr said very common for women with polycystic ovaries. I haven't knowingly had it since I began to TTC beginning of this year though (as I've tracked) so I'm a bit shocked!

She wants me back for a scan on Tuesday just to make sure, but I feel like I'm out this cycle unfortunately!

I'm going back now to have a nice steak at home with DH and to try forget this TTC business for at least a weekend!

Rooting for you this cycle @MrsMGE 🥰

@SunStruck Don't give up this cycle though, I'd still dtd cause you never know. Just because it doesn't look like things are happening now doesn't mean nothing is going to happen later on, with PCO I assume you might have a slightly longer cycle and/or ovulate later on, that's absolutely possible. You're taking the best approach, just relax and enjoy time with your hubby now.

I don't know if I'm going to ovulate, LH doesn't seem to be at the levels indicating ovulation and estrogen surge on its own is not sufficient. I think this is what is stressing me out mostly, when I didn't have all this knowledge, I just had sex for pleasure thinking I might conceive, and it worked. I just assumed everything was OK with me. Now, the more I know, the more nervous I become. It may well be an anovulatory cycle for me as well, or I won't catch. Definitely not tracking next month, I hate what my life has become, I'd rather just go for it and see what happens.

You've just given me the best idea, I am definitely having a steak this weekend! I can't wait! Xxx

@MrsMGE I'm going to listen to you and stay positive! Who knows what's going on really 🤣 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm going to be healthy and gym all weekend, and food prep for next week! Yes we went to the butchers yesterday to get some nice looking steak 🥩Definitely have it this weekend! Need the iron when we're working so much ☺️

@Kiki061190 not long til your holiday. So exciting!

@SunStruck Exactly! Keep going, girl! There's more to this crazy process than any test results will ever show you! I am that kid that wasn't meant to be conceived because my mum had a stillbirth followed by 3 MCs and the doctors told her she needed a break. She was tested very frequently and specifically told she wasn't ovulating in the later part of the cycle and it wasn't going to happen quickly after what she's been through. And here I am, conceived less than a week before AF! So I honestly, 100% believe that! Xxx

Aww gals @MrsMGE @SunStruck steak sounds soooooo good right about now!!!!! Honestly ladies I’ve never had a positive ovulation test and I’ve wound up pregnant twice in 5 months 😂 don’t worry about those tests! They are the devil like google!

Girls, new research (see today's Sky News):

Children whose mothers experienced stress during pregnancy are three times more likely to have a disorder by the age of 30.

Not that we didnt know we shouldn't stress out, but I think it's a very important finding and another reason to take a strong chill pill if you're pg again.

Me on the other hand, I'm raging today 😂 Won't even mention the usual CB and Femometer results, status quo remains the same every day. But, DH had a flop last night (sorry TMI). It's never happened to him before! And this morning he thought he'd try again, only he didn't think I actually have to go to work earlier than him, and he didn't even shut off our dog who excitedly ran in and stopped the fun 🙄 I sometimes question which part of the brain he uses, certainly the "thinking ahead" part appears severely underused at times 😠 So he left me halfway there twice in 12 hrs AND obviously no progression in the TTC game. I am so angry that God help anyone who approaches me today!!! 😂🙏 Happy Friday, eh...!

@Kiki061190 Are you flying today lovely? Xxx

@MrsMGE Oh no! I think all DH have a flop every now and again. The TTC can take a toll on them too. I haven’t been feeling very sexy recently so I feel I’ve been neglecting poor OH! Gave him some dtd last night tho so he’s happy 😃 YES we fly in the afternoon. Currently finishing up some last minute bits and bobs and my mum is coming round to see me before we leave.

@Kiki061190 Hahaha, I am so impressed with you! Pregnant and dtd the day before holiday, my DH never gets anything as I always wait till we're there, too busy and tired with packing, organising etc.! Your post has really tickled me 😂 Hope you have a safe journey and the most amazing time in Italy ❤️❤️❤️🇮🇹 xxx

@MrsMGE Hahaha! A gals gotta do what she’s gotta do! We leave in an hour and I’m just delighted. Hopefully forget about all things pregnancy related. I’m back to no symptoms so that anxiety is creeping back in..... this should help me forget about it!

@Kiki061190 Definitely, switch off thinking about the symptoms, pregnancy etc (I know you won't do it completely, but focus on your time away instead). Stress doesn't help as it's been shown, and in any event, I'm sure everything is OK. Make some great Italian memories girl, you'll be telling us when you're back 😘 🇮🇹xxx

@MrsMGE 🤣🤣🤣🤣 about DH! I know what it's like, must be annoying but it's stressful for them too lol. My DH is loving it the first few days and then go 'so we have to BD today again?!?!' 🤣🤣 Oh the fun of TTC... 🙄

@Kiki061190 have fun on your holiday and try to not think about it! Just have fun when you are away 🤗

Had a really chilled day here, gym and cooking healthy food. Lots of Netflix in PJs 🥰 I've decided to not think about stupid follicles or solid smileys anymore, just trying to enjoy myself and relax!

What are you guys up to this weekend? Apart from going to Italy @Kiki061190 🤢 (this is me, green of envy 🤣)

@SunStruck This is too funny 🤣 I think my DH has had enough, he likes dtd but to be fair, being on a schedule is hardly exciting for anyone... I remember times when we started going out and we used to have sex every night, sometimes more than once a day, those days are gone 😂😂😂 I'm a changed woman, I don't fancy it that much anymore, that's part of the reason why it's not easy now!

Your day sounds blissful. Most importantly, did you have the steaks? 😁

@MrsMGE haha same here!!! Those days are wellllll over, not sure if it's because I'm older now and more tired, i value my sleep 🤣 weekdays never see any action (apart from if the smiley is flashing or solid.... 🤣). I much prefer a cuddle nowadays 😬

The steaks were amazing thank you! Such good quality! What are you doing tonight/this weekend?

Well done @Kiki061190 for the dtd. My poor DH has seen no action since O day. Not even on his birthday. I've been too scared and its silly really but we got our bad news last time due to a bleed after sex and although the sex didn't cause the mmc I've got associations with it and bleeding. I'm not sure I could handle bleeding at the moment. I've told him if he can get to 12 weeks we can give it a go.

@MrsMGE and @SunStruck I hear you on the dtd becoming scheduled front. It just sucks the fun out of it. I think you've both got the best attitudes though as anything you can do to make it more chilled is good. I'd given up on opks when I fell so they are not essential.

So today we went for our scan and I'm pleased to say all is looking good. I'm 8 plus 5 with a nice strong heartbeat. The EPAU is happy to see me every fortnight until I'm 16 weeks so it's good to know I don't need to worry about private scans. We're over the moon but I'm sure a bit of anxiety will creep in before the next scan. All signs are good for now though so I think we can celebrate a bit! xx