Pregnancy after D&C

[Lea89]

Hi everyone,

I am just wondering when any of you lovely ladies got caught pregnant after your D and C? I had mine back in May and I’ve had 1 period so far, I’m due on this Wednesday (10th July) I’m really hoping I don’t but I’m getting all the signs that I will.

I can’t bare to see another negative test and would love to hear some positive ones!

Lots of love to you all xxx

This is all the things running through my mind at the moment. I go from "I can never go through this again". To "I can't not ever try again". We decided to wait and see what all these bloods and test results say. And the tests they do on the baby. If it shows there are no genetic problem and it was just "bad luck" again we will probably try but keep having any tests and help offered. We can't have IVF free as I already have 4 children and I'm over 40 also, so we have to start looking into costs etc of we do decide it's what we want but IV ready success rates are about 9% for my age 😩!! Just not sure what to do at all for the best. Xxx

I hope you aren't waiting too long for your test results @Elles1980. I feel like my brain is on speed, I have so many thoughts constantly on a loop, it's very loud and I have lost the ability to trust my decisions. It's scary. I hope you're feeling OK today xxx

I hope not Hun, I'm starting to think if they say that there's nothing wrong with bloods and sperm I may just go for it again if I can convince oh. I called epu again as my midwife said the baby wasn't being checked but epu said it was to me. They explained it will be sent to histology but again I never asked what if anything this will show up so I may be none the wiser again? They said that if I'm unfortunate enough to find myself in this position again I need to ask before the baby is removed to have it genetically tested, I wish I had known this information before this one, or had at least been offered as it may show something that could otherwise be missed. IV already had scans of my uterus and tubes from the first investigations that showed all clear and fine so after bloods I'm not sure what else they will do. I just feel very deflated and desperate not to waste anymore time 😔! 100% I'm with you on the feelings and thoughts taking control and being so very loud! I also don't trust myself anymore. If I wait I could miss the opportunity but if I try again I could end up back here or worse, loose one even later or have stillbirth because IV no idea what the hell I'm doing 😩! My best friend is 4 weeks further than me and I can't even speak to her and I feel awful about it but I can't to be honest I'm not talking to anyone I just can't all I hear is, it'll be ok, you need to stop now, let yourself heal and blah blah blah. Most probably the same advice I'd give but I don't have time for that and I don't think I'm ready to give up just yet! So sorry for the long post it's easy to speak to people who really genuinely understand 💔😔 xxxx

Hey @Elles1980, sorry for the late reply, I have been feeling really bad, I genuinely feel I've hit rock bottom. Had an awful weekend where I couldn't stop crying and was having really dark thoughts :(
How are you? Xx

I am really sorry to hear how you both feel, 😢 - I am at the excact same point, even turning 42 in two weeks, and i think i have lost hope that it ever will work... i hoped this was the month - but i dont think so... should get my period tomorrow after the calender😔 and i dont feel like i have anyone here to talk about it

I'm sorry that you're also in a difficult place @bbh1978 I really struggle with the lack of control and not knowing what my future will be. It just feels like my life is on hold and there isn't a way out.
I'm sorry that you're due on tomorrow. Sometimes the build up to my period is worse than when it actually arrives, but it's hard when our hopes and future are tied up in it. Sending you love today ❤️ xx

Hi ladies, please please always know I'm here for a chat, I won't talk to anyone about my journey, friends or family included! This is my only vent and why I reach out here so much. I'd like to support you all back! Venus I know exactly how you feel having all the dark thoughts, I'm fleeting from I'll have a baby to, I don't even want to be in a relationship I because it would be easier being miserable on my own than being with someone I can't have a baby with. I'm so grateful for my two little girls who are utterly oblivious to my TTC journey this past 12 months and just continue to boss me about as normal lol! It's kind of takes my mind off it alot. And bbh, same goes please don't feel alone at all, you can private message me, you can add me on Facebook I'll happily pm my details to you both.
As for me right now I can't deal that I won't ever have another baby so IV been doing more research and looking for the best ubiquinol at present. IV yet to hear about blood test results but I'm so afraid because of covid that I won't hear much that I think I may just keep going for it once I get a nagative test! I don't know what's right or wrong, I'm scared, I'm confused but the only thing I'm sure of is I want a baby 😩! Sending much love to both of you and I'm always here....quite literally, my phone's basically glued to my hand coz there's bugger all else to do 🤦🏻‍♀️ xxxx

Thanks alot for that, it really helps to went things openly in here, my period should arrive today, but hasn´t, and since I have had sore boobs for a few days, I was hoping I could be pregnant - but the test was negative today, so i think its only me hoping and maybe thats why the period is to late, I hate the waiting :(

And I really understand both the dark thoughts and how strong the wish is to have a baby, I would give alot for a chance of a baby too :/

The feeling of just wanting to be alone and hide away somewhere is often the first on my mind (at least while I am waiting for my period), but i can´t and won´t, I need to take care of my self and stay happy, and enjoy the time with my DH and son :)

I hope it will go well for you both and you will get pregnant soon, crossing my fingers and wishing you the best. (while I am hoping, I am not too late either, even if I am soon 42).

Can i ask you if there are any special vitamins you take to boost fertility? I only take the pre-pregnant folic vitamin (mixture of mulitple vitamins) and extra D-vitamin. Is there any other vitamins they recommend? :)

Morning BB, I have tried fertility smart for a few months. My trouble isn't getting pregnant it's staying pregnant so at the moment I'm more focused on trying to make my eggs better, so IV just ordered ubiquinol and going to try those. I'm about to call the doctor to find out my lupus and amh results, although after some googling last night I'm not sure I should have had them so close to my miscarriage, it's all so confusing to me?! www.naturesbest.co.uk/co-q10/co-q10/ubiquinol-100mg/
These are the ones I have ordered though. There supposed to help egg quality from what iv read. IV never had a problem before so this is all new to me and I'm kind of winging it! I'm also not sure how much extra vitamin d I should be taking. How much do you take? Venus I hope your ok, thinking about you all ladies xxx

Thanks @Elles1980 😊 i think i will try the coq10, thanks - I actually started taking vitamin D last year, i take 35 "ul" (can find the real "u" sign) 😊 but i started taking it since my doctor said i didnt have enough - i was also always sick before taking it, and after starting on the D vitamin, i actually got pregnant for the first time in 16 years (without trying, since i didnt think it was possible), we had been trying for years and actually i had totally given up, and we where not trying at all, so I think the vitamin D played a BIG role in getting pregnant, but unfortunatly i miscarriaged, but after the MC, I never stopped with the folic (pre-pregnant) vitamins, since my hope suddenly went up again :) but of course I am 42 soon, so I am aftraid that I dont have that many chances left, but I hope it will work...

I watched a programme on W (Virgin media) last night called Alex jones my fertility, it was really good and it was showing that women were having more babies aged 40+ than in there 20s for the first time. One lady had a baby at 50 with IVF 😱! There's always hope ❤️! I do have vitamin d but not sure of the right disease for fertility in particular! I actually feel sorry for us all, I wish there was a handbook!!! Xxx

Oh yes a handbook would be fantastic 👏🏻 if you find ome send it this way 😉 and i hope it will work for all of us, and 50 ?? Wow then there is hope

Hi ladies, called for results. My amh is 11 but she said that wouldn’t be accurate as amh decreases significantly during pregnancy and it was only a couple of days after mmc. I asked about the baby and she said she didn’t understand the letter (it was the gp receptionist), she said it read that S H was absent therefore not testing on heart lungs spine or Stomach. She has no idea what that ment and nor do I? Iv Googled and have no idea. Iv popped a post on mc&pregnacy lost threads. Still got a faint pregnancy test this morning, sad but happy it’s almost over :/. I hope you’re all well xxx

How are all of you, any luck with ttc? I was pregnant again in june, but only 5 weeks and I lost it, so it seems I will have to get settle with the idea that I am not going to have more, unfortunatly, still taking the pre-pregnant vitamins just in case, but will have to check if I even can just keep taking them :) hope you are all ok :)

Hey @bbh1978 I'm good thanks. Not even tried after the MMC in may. That totally destroyed me. I'm currently having counselling at a pregnancy crisis care place in Plymouth. I think I'm actually afraid of pregnancy now! So sad to hear you had another loss 😞! I hope your all well too ladies 😊 xxx

I am sorry to hear that @elles1980 but I can understand very well, it just feels like it gets harder and harder :( I hope the counselling will help.