Pregnancy after D&C

[Lea89]

Hi everyone,

I am just wondering when any of you lovely ladies got caught pregnant after your D and C? I had mine back in May and I’ve had 1 period so far, I’m due on this Wednesday (10th July) I’m really hoping I don’t but I’m getting all the signs that I will.

I can’t bare to see another negative test and would love to hear some positive ones!

Lots of love to you all xxx

Ladies, have a lovely Xmas! I'm in the countryside with my OH and the in-laws and my mum and sister have joined us as well. It's lovely and relaxing! Hope all of you ladies are well and sorry I've been so quiet. I've just taken a break from all social media and the phone in general, I needed a break from google! 😊 look forward to continuing on our journeys together in 2020! Xxx

@Elles1980 @VenusStarr @SunStruck and all the other wonderful women on this thread! You all deserve a happiness filled Christmas and a great start to the New Year! Thanks for all the support this year!

@VenusStarr and all the lovely ladies! Thank you for the support. I really hope to hear good news from all of us in the coming year. Love to you all 💗

Hi ladies, I have been reading this thread and was hoping I could join. It's a bit of a story so please bear with me - I dont know what else to do.

I had a MMC in October. I thought I was 10+6 but they told me I was measuring 7+4 and that there was no heartbeat. We were devastated but understood that MC is common and was grateful that we didn't go to our 12 week scan the week after thinking it was all ok.

I opted for medical management as the surgical option wasnt available until the following week. I was given the tablets and sent on my way. Tested negative 3 weeks later and thought all was ok but another scan showed a thick lining so had an ERPC on the 27th nov. Still bleeding 3 weeks after so back for another scan to be told there were still products remaining so a second ERPC would be needed. Just as it was about to be booked, a consultant in saying I had to see him which was last week. He scanned me but couldn't confirm what was there - remaining products or something else. He also said there was a cyst in my ovary but that could have been ovulation as my negative test was so long ago. He also said I had a retroverted womb which I have never been told before. He has told me I need a hysteroscopy as they cant determine what is there.

Apologies for the essay. I'm just so alone in all this. No one knew I was pregnant and I'm just really struggling. My OH and my mum have been great but I am someone who needs to know what is going on. I feel I have grieved the miscarriage but i am so terrified about the hysteroscopy and what might happen in the future. We tried so long to conceive and now we are essentially banned until the hysteroscopy but as I'm not an urgent case, who knows how long we might wait for this to happen.

I am so sorry that everyone on this thread has been through this. I really hope 2020 is good to you all xx

@Isittimeforbubblesyet welcome, I feel terribly sorry for you, it's heartbreaking going through this and I too felt so alone until I found this thread and have had fantastic support from the ladies on here. I had been booked in for a hysteroscopy but had a positive test a few days before. I think it very much depends on your area. I'm in Cornwall and it was only 3 weeks for my appointment. From what iv read it's not so bad, it's basically the same kind of procedure as a d&c and so I'd try to reassure from that side. Ill Keep my fingers and toes crossed for you and your TTC journey, it can be a long loanley road but we'll be here to hold your hand 😊!

As for me.... I had another chemical pregnancy over Xmas I got a positive (was so happy as first baby lost this year was due Xmas day) and then sadly started bleeding Xmas Eve, ohs best friend commited suicide also so it's been a hard one to swallow, neither of us drink but we've had 4 bottles of champagne 😂, and the wine and all of the gin too!! Please dear lord be kinder to us all in 2020! Sending much love to you all and hope your enjoying your Christmas as much as drunken wee me 😂😘! Xxx

I'm so sorry to hear your news @Elles1980. It truly sounds like an awful few weeks for you. TTC and pregnancy kinda loses its innocence after you suffer a miscarriage doesn't it? And I cant imagine what you both must be going through with your friend's death. That champagne is more than needed.

I've been knocking back the bubbles myself and was doing ok until today when I received a letter saying that nothing abnormal was found in the tissue they tested from the ERPC and all should be normal! Confused is an understatement

@Isittimeforbubblesyet but that's good news lovely, honestly I have googled my fat arse off since my first miscarriage in may and there are sometimes no reasons behind it 😩, obviously thats not helpful at all but it's better than being told you have a problem that could potentially stop you from having a lovely little Bambino 🥰! Yes I agree it totally looses innocence after a miscarriage indeed! It's so weird because it's exciting still but now also scary and worrying.... IV had to start dying my hair and everything lol!! Oh the bubbles have helped to no end bit back to the gym tomorrow and then more bubbles Nye, then back to the healthy elfy trying to loose weight and eat all the right things to concieve 😂!! I hope you feel a little better soon lovely, IV had lots of bloods done, scans etc and the first baby was tested and have been told there's no reason for it so we're just going to continue to try and support each other through whatever may come out way! Xxx

Welcome @Isittimeforbubblesyet I know we chatted on your other thread about the hysteroscopy, I hope you aren't waiting too long. We were effectively put ttc on hold for nearly 4 months while I was waiting. I won't lie, I found the anxiety and waiting horrendous, it felt like time had stood still. But even dh noticed that once it was done my hope seemed to return almost straight away. I think for me when we're ttc I feel more in control.

@Elles1980 I'm so sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy and your oh's friend 💔 ❤️ hope you're doing as well as can be expected.

Sending love @bee1710 @SunStruck @LASandOtto ❤️

I feel quite excited this cycle, I think it's just that we've finally been able to ttc and have dtd a few times so we're in with a chance 🤞 I had a very vivid dream last night (think I'm 5dpo ish) that I was pregnant and had an ultrasound with a perfectly healthy baby, was about 9 weeks (the time when I lost both my babies). Dh bought me a beautiful bracelet which is a reminder of my babies ❤️

Hoping 2020 is kind to us all, we all deserve it xxx

Hey Ladies!

@Elles1980 I'm SO sorry to hear about your OH's best friend. How terrible, how sad, I don't know how he/you must be feeling? Sorry also to hear about your CP.

I really always thought to never wish time away but this year, I think many of us are done with the year and look forward to that magic 01/01/2020! Funny how nothing really changes yet a lot changes. I really hope 2020 is a better year for us all.

@VenusStarr so happy to hear you're feeling well and I'm probably also around 7-8 days DPO so ahead of you. Fertile period was just before Xmas and I was away with OH and family so it was a bit challenging to DTD as his parents were right next door! Awwwwkwaaaaard 🤭😬😅

Was chatting with a friend and she's recommended I make an appointment with a private gynaecologist just for a general check up and see if I can get some investigations done through my private health insurance and get the gyaeno to sign it off under health rather than fertility related matters, which my insurance doesn't pay for.

Let's see, for the time being, I'm trying to be relaxed about things. It's hard! At least we are keeping our minds occupied as we are full speed shopping for when we move into our new flat later on in January!

OH's best friend today announced they're expecting number two.... I feel like there's a lot of our friends currently announcing!

Anyway, sending all my love to all the lovely ladies on this thread xx

Hey ladies long time no speak, how are you all?! It took me some time to find this thread!! I had a little break from MN, still not pregnant but just about to ovulate I think....well I'm getting highs on my cbfm, anyways hope your all well 😊😘 xxx

Hey ladies, I hope your all well xx

Everything is going well, but still not pregnant, and slowly loosing hope, that its just too late now 😟 but otherwise doing ok, trying to (again) getting used to the idea that it will not happen (not easy giving up hope, for the second time). But I will be ok :)

I hope you are all doing well :)

I'm here again. Had my 12 week scan yesterday and there was no heartbeat. She said it looked to be 11+ week so very recently stopped, she said there was lots of fluid around the head which she would think would mean chromosomal abnormality. I went in at one and by 4 was having gas and air while they took it out, it's the single most worst experience of my life, I'm just lost and empty 😩💔. I honestly don't think I'll try anymore. This past year has been an awfully traumatic sad year for myself and my oh! Sorry for the random weird post I just have to vent it out somewhere and no one knew I was pregnant 😔 xxx

I am so sorry to hear that, it must bee so hard to go through again 😢 i hope you have lots of support at home, so you dont have to go through it alone... even though i still remember how lonely i felt in it all when it happened, even when i had people around me... i think they dont quite understand it in the same way as we who go through it.
Really sorry for your loss 😔

Oh @Elles1980 💔💔💔 I am so so sorry. Use this space to cry, shout, scream and vent, I can't believe this has happened. Sending you lots of love. Will they test the baby to confirm?

❤️❤️❤️ Xx

@VenusStarr yes they said they will send it off. It all happened so fast and I was in such a state I'm not sure what happens next, what if anything I have to do? I'm not sure how to find out the results or anything, I just was so anxious and sobbing I refused to even look at the screen or take a scan picture, IV royally fucked up 💔😩! I don't even know if I can call the epu to ask for advice regarding it all or anything I'm so confused but just doing nothing seems so bloody wrong! Where do we go from here, is it safe to even try anymore? She said there was lots of fluid around the neck so there was something wrong, is it me causing all of this pain and grief? I don't know but I thank you both so much for responding to me ladies! Venus I often wonder how your getting on our journeys were so similar! I hope your all ok xxx

Give yourself time @Elles1980, it is really traumatic and it doesn't sound like you've had any time to process what's happened.

Please know that this is nothing you did or didn't do. I totally understand all of those worries and fears, I really do ❤️ I see no harm in calling the epu and asking them to clarify what the process is.

Sorry I've not been in touch much, I've been very up and down these last few months since my early loss in February. I'm sending you lots of love Elle xxx

It's all just utter bollocks, IV done everything right, diet, exercise, vitamins, it's insane that this can happen over and over for no apparent reason that I'm aware of 😩! I just feel like I need to do something you know! Thanks for all of your support for this whole entire year I have to say. I may have lost my mind without this!! I think I'll call epu and just ask about what may happen and how long things may take ect. I'm so afraid that I do not have time on my side. But I also don't want to just keep trying if this will be the outcome because there is something wrong with me 😔 xxxx

I totally get that @Elles1980 ❤️ I just want an answer and so far we have none and that's the hardest thing of all, no rhyme or reason. I think although you do have a possible reason for this loss, it doesn't make it any easier as there are no certainties that it can't happen again.
Will the hospital do you the recurrent blood tests (I don't think you've had them?) although mine are normal and we have no answers, I'm trying to see that as a positive.
❤️ Xxxx

What a shitty day. Had the midwife call me this morning all chirpy to book in my next appointment, but on the bright side she called epu for me and there sending me scan photos as I feel so bad for not looking at them. I emailed my doc yesterday and received an email back this morning about bloods, I'm having them tomorrow but not sure what information they will show. I'll attach the email and if you girls have any info I'd be super grateful. It's all just a whirlwind 😩! My two little girls are home from there dad's tomorrow and I can't wait to have them both back and some laughter around me as I'm feeling so low and awful it's not good for me 😔! I realise I may not get any answers from these tests but like you Venus if they show nothing sinister then that has to be good news surely?! Xxx

@Elles1980 I'm pleased your midwife is getting your scan photos. Please don't feel bad - I didn't ask to see my second baby in the bad scan but I'm trying not to be hard on myself, I felt too numb.

Those tests are recurrent miscarriage ones - lupus, anti-coag. So that might give some insight. Mine are fine, so like you say good news.

I had the amh test recently and mine is 9.5 which is on the low side of normal, which my fertility consultant helpfully described as low fertility potential. But I've spoken to ivf clinics and they said its fine for treatment - if we need that. I can't find anything about amh links to miscarriage. It's basically how many eggs you gave left, nothing to do with quality though.

My first nk cells biopsy was normal too - waiting for them to reopen to get the second one. We ttc this cycle but af is on her way 😢 got my hopes up this month xx

Honestly your so brave, TTC is a mindfuck (excuse my language) I have my fingers crossed for you my love! The midwife said to have thyroid rests and some others but I can't recall what she said 🤦🏻‍♀️! I'm so exhausted and I just can't think straight! Hoping results don't take long though but obviously with coronavirus everything will be delayed 😩! I just hope it's not a genetic problem. Will defo keep you posted of developments and am here if you need an ear! Good luck though for this month ❤️🥰 xxxx

@Elles1980 not brave, just desperate! Forgot to say that I'm on levothyroxine now. You need it to be under 2.5 for fertility, mine was 3.06 so not massively over but they agreed to put me on it. Let me know when you get your results.
I hope you get some rest, you've been through so much xxx ❤️❤️

You are brave Hun! Wether it's through desperation or not! This past 12 months has really opened my eyes to women who struggle to conceive. I'd just taken it for granted before having 4 with not a problem. And my heart goes out to every single woman whose had any problems. I think it's fantastic there's at least something your able to try to help you along. I think just being left with no answers, no medications and being sent in your way. Do you have to be seen again, will they keep investigating? Hopefully you'll fall soon and you won't need anymore appointments. You've been through quite enough! I'm going to have to do ALOT of research to find out all of these things asap as I'm 40 now. Oh has said he can't watch me be tortured anymore but I think he'll come around. He was there during the MVA and was there when had to be resuscitated bless him, I think it's more torture for him 😔 xxx

I think it is hard for our other halves @Elles1980 I've had a few melt downs recently and my dh got upset, he said I seem to feel like I'm the only one who's heartbroken 💔 I just feel like it consumes me.
We had just got on the ivf list, so I'd had an appointment and was waiting to sign the consent forms... It all lobed really quickly which was scary. We only get one free go. I want to get my nk cells biopsy done before we do ivf though. So waiting for the clinic to reopen, no news yet. Think we'll ttc again this next cycle (waiting for af... 🙄) initially dh was adament we should not try but he's changed his mind. I feel better knowing we can try and there's a chance rather than endlessly waiting and not trying, it was soul destroying xxx