Pregnancy after D&C

[Lea89]

Hi everyone,

I am just wondering when any of you lovely ladies got caught pregnant after your D and C? I had mine back in May and I’ve had 1 period so far, I’m due on this Wednesday (10th July) I’m really hoping I don’t but I’m getting all the signs that I will.

I can’t bare to see another negative test and would love to hear some positive ones!

Lots of love to you all xxx

@VenusStarr sorry forgot to say, when I saw the doc last she said that they want to do the hysteroscopy but as IV not bled (other than period) for 3/4 weeks if she was me shed just keep trying for a baby and not have it, but that was her opinion. My problem is my anxiety, it's so severe honestly I'm like a 3 year old in a tot shop whose been told they can't have anything when I'm in docs and especially hospital, I was so bad in may they drugged me right up (to shut me the f up I think 😂🤦🏻‍♀️). It's actually embarrassing but I have no control it's awful so I think I'll ttc again this month and if I bleed or don't get lucky I'll.book it in November 😱😩!! Xxx

I feel excited @Elles1980, like something is happening! So happy to not have to wait until January. Its strange as I'd called first thing and there was nothing and something told me to try again and so I did. I know there'll be lots more waiting for results, but it's the best time as we aren't ttc.
That sounds like a good plan. Hopefully you won't need to book it in 🤞 I'm actually looking forward to the general anesthetic sleep 😴

Hope you enjoy your oh's birthday. No plans for the weekend as yet. Quite liking the thought of having nothing to do :) xx

@VenusStarr oooh great news!!! 😃😃😃😃 amazing, finally it's moving along. So it's next weds?

@Elles1980 hang in there, soon time to try again! 😄 haha I know what you mean about please wake me up when the baby is out 🤣

All good with me girls, got the scan on Thursday so let's see if there's a bean growing in there 🤞

@VenusStarr
@SunStruck
All this positivity is hitting me right in the feels 😂! IV just been to circuts with all the babies.... Got a high again this morning on my monitor so I'm hopeful we will all have babies born next year.....of not I know where we can nick some 😂😂😂!! Have a lovely day you pair of beauts 🥰😘

Thinking of you today @SunStruck xx

How are you @Elles1980?

I'm feeling quite low and anxious these last few days. I don't know if it related to baby loss awareness week but have felt like it since Monday, I don't know if it's just seeing so many people having been through the same thing, it was quite overwhelming. I just feel so tired.

Anyway, hope you're both OK xx

Thanks so much for thinking of me girls! Unfortunately not good news. Sac has grown and yolk sac seem, but it's wayyyy behind as we should see a heartbeat by now (fetal pole not even seen). Dr says extremely likely miscarrying, I need to go back next week.

I'm actually okay, I feel stronger this time around than last, MMC was horrible but this time I've gone into this with a less naive attitude and open eyes! I'm seeing the positive in that I've conceived so quickly both times (2nd cycle), so fingers crossed is down to luck for the next time!

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling low 😔 focus on the positives, you have an appointment soon and will soon enough be able to TTC again with much better outcome xxx

@Elles1980 The only light in the tunnel after all of this is that I can drink a bottle of wine soon probably - I have actually kept a few lovely rosè wines in the fridge for when this bean decides to not stick 🤣

Oh @SunStruck ❤️ I'm sorry. That does sound like both my miscarriages - very slow to develop. It's horrible being in limbo, I hope you get some closure soon. I'm glad you're OK and feeling optimistic.

I've had a cry on dh 😢 I just feel tired and not myself. Everything feels overwhelming. Thanks for being so supportive xx

Aww @VenusStarr I saw a few posts on Facebook and decided to not log on for a few days, although ironically there was a baba loss awareness photo frame thing, so I did that then stepped back (just think I wanted my friends to know that I get it) I don't disclose any of my personal life (I bet you two don't believe it lol), on Facebook or even really to anyone. I think I get afraid of having feelings so I'm very quick to dismiss myself to save myself if that makes sense? I send you massive virtual hugs and I hope you feel better really soon, sometimes I guess we have to let the sadness out Hun. I do hate to hear of anyone sad and not be able to help it's an awful thing to know someone's suffering! @SunStruck that's just shite ☹️, was so hopeful for you my love. It's such an awful thing, I know that when I had my MC I was in a right old state and no one could get through to me so I commented you for being so amazing and remaining so positive! I honestly had never given TTC a second thought. I had 4 kids no problem and even although I'd had 2 eptopics in between the older two and younger two I didn't associate that with loss as such (I hope that doesn't sound mean or heard hearted) but since TTC at this age with the most wonderful man and having problems, obviously trolling the internet for stories like ours and seeing so many couples suffering it's just heart breaking. I feel like both you ladies kind of "get me" in the old TTC journey. My pals just keep saying relax and it'll happen (next one's getting the slingshot to the windpipe haha), and you've been pregnant twice this year, what you worried about? It's a hard old road!! IV totally lost my train of thought coz I ate way to much at oh birthday meal but have refrained from cake coz I'm trying to be good.... I think I just wanna send you massive hugs and say I hope your both ok, I'm sad your sad but I hope soon enough all 3 of us will have babies.... Or one of us could have triplets..... Who wants triplets anyways, that's wayyyy to much work lol!! Xxx

@VenusStarr thank you - I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling down 😔 do you mind telling me what happened with your miscarriages when it developed slowly? Did you just start spotting, and how bad was the actual bleeding? So sorry for asking and please do not answer if triggering! I'm just wondering what I can expect as I've only had a d&c before, but this time will be natural (has to be, don't want another surgery). Do something nice this weekend for yourself and look after yourself ❤️ what are they doing on the appointment next Wednesday?

@Elles1980 thanks for your understanding ❤️ oh my god, "just relax and it will happen" - I'd swiftly punch them in the face! 🤣🤣 (don't worry I'm not aggressive lol). What a patronizing thing to say!! Well thanks Susan for your valuable advice, I should of thought if it sooner!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄 oh happy birthday - it's mine too, today actually of all days! Please do eat that cake, life is too short!

Yes baby dust to us all soon xxx

Happy birthday @SunStruck (I had a similar scan on my birthday :()
The first mc I'd had brown spotting on and off. This got heavier with some brown clots. I started bleeding 2 days later.
The second mc I had no bleeding at all, woke up and went to the toilet and passed a red clot, was bleeding all day then mc the next morning.
I found both times I wanted to be near the toilet. The pain came in waves, like contractions I guess. I used paracetamol and ibuprofen (and naproxen this time round) plus a heat wrap. This time I found the cramping after lasted longer, around 3 days after I'd mc, so continued with painkillers and heat wrap. The bleeding after was heavier this time too.
Both times I knew when I'd passed the pregnancy, I just felt it go, hard to describe but once that had gone, the contractions calmed down. Both times, the contractions happened over a few hours.
If you're bleeding heavily and filling a pad an hour then you need to go to hospital, but both times I was ok at home.
I hope that helps and doesn't scare you. Both times I felt relatively calm and my body seemed to take over and it just happened.

I hope you have a nice birthday, I don't remember what I did to be honest, it's all a bit of a fog. Xx

Thank you, I'll try. I feel quite spaced out and it's scaring me a bit. I said to dh yesterday, I don't actually feel very well. I might see the GP it if carries on.
I'll let you know about the appointment next week, I'm not sure what happens, I think maybe blood tests but not sure if they do them there and then or just order them.

@Elles1980 you did well resisting cake! 😊 'just relax' 🙄 ffs. It definitely helps to chat to you guys, who get it. My tolerance of stupid comments and questions is severely limited now!

Thank you both xx

Thanks @VenusStarr for the detailed explanation, it helps a lot! No not scary just wondering how bad the bleeding gets in terms of can I be out and about if you know what I mean 😄 so today I've started spotting red blood when I wiped, no pain at all still. Hopefully this will be quick and easy! I've put a pad in and will get on with my day.

I hope you feel better soon. We're all in the same unfortunate boat but I'm happy I have you ladies who understand everything! I can't wait until we all have our sticky BFP:s - it a WILL happen, I know it 😄

Hey @SunStruck...

I wanted to provide some reassurance as well with regards to natural miscarriage. Like you I also had an ERPC earlier this year, wanted to avoid this again after I was diagnosed with another MC last week, so at 11 weeks wanted to try medical management this Wednesday and then things started naturally the day before my appointment.

I second what @VenusStarr wrote - the body takes over and knows what it is doing. I had strong cramps which were intense for while, they were getting more intense over the space of a couple of hours in the evening after work, so I knew something was happening, and yes it is probably like contractions but the worst was over within a few hours. I felt really weird and faint, I didn't even manage to take any painkillers because I was sick and then shortly after just sat on the toilet with a hot water bottle and most of it passed then. Had an early night and slept and now the bleeding is just like a period.

Next day I went to my appointment for the medical management and the lady who scanned said most was gone already, which did surprise me, probably because I'd expected it to be so much worse than what it had been.

I had read too many stories online and I was terrified and had bought 60 big maternity style pads, throw away pack of knickers, a mattress protector, etc. - what I'm saying is, I felt it was manageable and as long as someone is with you, you will be fine as they can always seek help if needed.

Everyone's experiences do vary and you just need to keep an eye if the bleeding gets too heavy.

I'm really sorry for your losses and I'm here if you needed and more advice and support!!

Also my apologies if the above might be triggering to anyone, but hope it's helpful for you in terms of what to prepare for.

X

Thanks so much @LASandOtto ! So helpful to hear other people's stories. I've started properly bleeding today, but it's not painful though which is surprising. Maybe speaking too soon! Did you see anything when it passed or was it mostly
Just blood? Again sorry for triggering questions!

Morning @SunStruck, glad you're not in discomfort. This time round I did see the sac, everything came out whole. Someone had told me the first time round what to expect so I knew from that. It was a greyish disc-like shape with a clot attached, about the size of a 50p. I stared at it for ages after not knowing what to do. I did get emotional after and do keep thinking about it (this isn't triggering, don't worry).
The first time round I knew, but I only saw blood and clots.
Sending love ❤️

Hey @SunStruck! I'm sorry the bleeding is worsening. It's not triggering at all for me, in fact talking about it is helpful. I am sorry you're going through this as well!

I had had bleeding (albeit lightly) for a week or so already, then Monday evening I had that episode of really strong cramps and I probably did pass most of it then, tbh I didn't really look or focus on what was coming out as (apologies TMI) I also had diarrhoea and felt really sick (was sick once).
Could feel some clots coming out.

After that it just died down to period bleeding which has been on and off now.

The lady who scanned me Tuesday had said it looked most tissue and bleeding was over and I should just go with natural management rather than take the medical route which was originally planned.

Monitor the pain level and take some painkillers if you start feeling discomfort so they have time to work a bit. I was also sofa bound and had Netflix on to distract myself!

Keep us posted and let us know if you need anything! X

Thanks @LASandOtto so this might take a week too! I'm not bleeding that much yet (not filled a pad today yet).

Are you trying again? Xx

@VenusStarr thanks for letting me know! I am 7 weeks but measuring 5 weeks 2 days so hopefully this will pass quickly :)

I really hope so for you @SunStruck, I think I was just terrified having googled experiences of medical management online. I think I was surprised that it wasn't any worse given I was at 11 weeks and had measured around 9 weeks.

This was my second after a MC in February for which I had the ERPC which went well, but I have read a lot about possibly damage to the uterine lining (and Asherman's) so declined that option.

My first MC coincided with my father passing away from cancer out of the blue, and with this MC now I've taken some time off (this whole week, GP has signed me off no issues) to digest the news.

For me personally I'd like to do some investigations and will pay for some tests privately to check for possible reasons as to why we've had 2 MCs. Might lay off TTC until then, I quite fancy a break. I've been wearing sanitary towels for 5 weeks and I think I need a break from TTC during which time I hope to get some answers, or even if there's no answers, having done some tests will make me feel better.

My DH is 41 and I am 34 next year so a check up is probably in order anyway!

Emotionally I feel really ok, I am quite resilient but I'm also quite private, it takes me a while to inform friends of what's happened, once I feel ok about the situation is when I then talk about it more openly. I'm staying busy, going out for walks to the park, I quite like cooking so making nice dishes at home, watching series, etc. I am generally a positive person and believing there is hope and a happy ending is what keeps me going too!

Everyone is different and everyone's emotions and feelings are valid! Doesn't matter what someone else's experiences are, the important thing is to take the time you need and looking after yourself in the way that suits you, to get through this. Here if you need anything at all!

Oh in terms of practical things - I can really highly recommend the Natracare maternity pads, got them off Amazon. They're so comfortable and made me feel secure when I was out and about in case things would naturally start.

Keep me posted x

Thanks @LASandOtto so sorry to hear about what youve gone through! I'm not sure what I'm doing tbh, I've emailed the dr to ask if she thinks I need tests or if we should try again. I've been pregnant for 4 months this year in total with nothing to show for it, it sucks! But I am positive too and I absolutely believe it will happen for us. At least we have gotten pregnant!

I'm also 36 (birthday yesterday actually 🙄 at least I could have some wine!), DH 30 so hopefully it won't be too difficult. Problem must be on my side because of age 😔

My doctor was totally dismissed my puppy-eyed attempt to get any testing done on the NHS after two, so just going to go private!

It's best not to stress about an unknown future, what will be will be, we've got to live and appreciate the moment and all the good in our lives! Maybe tests will give us some answers, maybe not. Let's see what happens and we can keep supporting one another!

Thanks for your lovely words! Yeah this year has had its share of sad times but they've made me appreciate my life even more than before and I will enjoy and live every moment! There's a lot to be thankful for too!

Happy belated birthday to you! I know how you must've felt, my birthday we had my first MC, and with our second one now it was bang on my other half's birthday. Hope you managed to enjoy it a little nonetheless?

If you're on Netflix and watching series, there's a couple of good ones, watched one called The I-Land which got me through some of the stay-at-home days!

Hey ladies and welcome @LASandOtto, I'm afraid I have nothing helpful to add as my MC was called a freak occurrence and so I'd hate to scare monger you when your going through enough already. I'd just like to add, please be kind to yourselves. ❤️ Sending the biggest hugs and hope your all curled up and cozy 😘 xxx

@VenusStarr thinking of you today - how was your meeting/tests? Xxxx

Thank you @SunStruck ☺️ I was so anxious today but the appointment went well. The doctor was lovely and asked me what I'd read about rmc and what I thought the issue might be. Felt nice to be listened to and not fobbed off. Had my bloods taken to test my thyroid, sticky blood / lupus / clotting issues etc. We're back in 3 months follow up blood tests. He was pleased that I'm having a hysteroscopy and feels that might give more insight. He dismissed what we'd been told by the epu that my fibroid damaged the embryo this timd and reasureed us that my fibroids are not the cause. Keeping my fingers crossed that we do find a reason. I strongly feel its sticky blood and he seemed to be leaning that way, but I'm probably way off the mark and biases because it's what I think!
He said we can start ttc again after the hysteroscopy - scary but feeling OK about things.

How are you? Has your bleeding progresses? I hope you're OK 💜

How are you @Elles1980?

Have you booked any private testing @LASandOtto?

Xx

Hey ladies, so I'm a bit torn 😒! I'd had no bleeding in between my last 2 periods and I thought I was over that! Had my peak on Saturday and started bleeding Sunday and it's still going now, so it looks like I have to have the hysteroscopy after all ☹️😒! I'm the most anxious patient ever and the though of being out to sleep makes me cry (and that's at home before I have even made the appointment) I say bollocks to it lol!! Have started slight pushing oh away this week, I run holiday camps so I genuinely have been super busy but I don't really want to see anyone including him if I can help it. I'm just fed up of it all. IV eaten my own body weight in rubbish this week (the kids always bring us treats so it'd be rude not to 😂) and I feel even worse, but in all honesty with what you ladies are facing right now I feel a right fanny for moaning.... Hence why IV not been on. I think a whole month of no blood kind of settled me as it's been constant since Mays MC, then for it to start again, it's both terrifying (everytime I go loo I have anxiety) and soul destroying (why won't it fuck off 🤷🏻‍♀️😂?)! So I think I'm getting to the stage where I'm thinking, I can't be assed anymore, I don't want to conceive, I don't care what's wrong with me, I just cant be bothered with the stress of it all xxx

Oh @Elles1980 I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling great. It sounds like you need a bit of a break. It is stressful having something going on but you don't know why. It's OK to feel the way you do.
I'm petrified of the surgery, so understand how you feel! I'm trying to tell myself that I'll have a lovely sleep so looking forward to that and putting the actual operation out of my head.
Can you plan anything nice to look forward to?

@SunStruck hope you're getting on OK, been thinking of you xx

@VenusStarr thank you hunni, IV made the appointment 15th November 😒! I think I'm going to ask if I can be awake and hopefully grin and bear it, I wish I were more like you and think of it as a nice sleep lol! Your very brave. @SunStruck have been thinking of you also I hope your ok xxx