What happens when a pregnancy has ended but miscarriage is yet to happen?

[MrsBobDylan]

Hi, am 8 weeks but a scan has shown that heartbeat is just a flicker and measurements are way out for the number of weeks. I have a scan on Monday and expect to find the pregnancy is finished.

However, all the pregnancy symptoms are still there so think I will need some kind of medical help to end it.

Would anyone mind sharing what my options would be and how it might work please?

I thought all would be ok at my last scan but now I know it's not I just want to prepare for the next stage. Thanks in advance.

Hi all, had a scan today at ,9 weeks, baby measuring 6 weeks with a slow heartbeat. My symptoms have been lessening. My dates are deff right only dtd on 2 days, canby only be 5 days in it... I don't think this little one will survive, so I'm on here looking for advice about what next... I've been reading about d&c and was wondering ifv local anesthetic was an epidural or painful...? Since finding out I've been feeling so nauseous and sick. So sad and anxious. Hope you're all doing as best you can. Big hugs x

I'm so sorry this is happening to you :( Can't imagine how you're feeling waiting for the worst case scenario. At least when I had my scan the heartbeat had already stopped. Sending you lots of gentle hugs :(

I had the pessaries today if you hadn't read my previous post...I was in quite a bit of pain then vomited a large amount and passed lots of clots; and now the pain isn't too bad. I'm hoping I may be over the worst of it xx

I have 2 little ones home now for the Christmas holidays, I'm worried about having the pessary and being home alone with them 😐 considering d&c but worried it may be harder to conceive after ... So much to think about, so wish this wasn't happening.

What's an mva and erpc?

Thanks little 😀
stuck just wondering which option you've gone for as I'm similar inb weeks to you... I'm 9 but baby measured 6... Has the doctor recommended a particularly way based on weeks gone...? X

I should have been 11 weeks today but our little one stopped growing at around 6 weeks. Can't believe I never knew anything about it after all this time...no bleeding or anything.

The intense pain for me only lasted about an hour. I was given the option to stay in hospital but I came home and I'm so glad I did, I wouldn't have been able to cope very well on my own in hospital without my oh. He has been absolutely amazing xx

Hi Hulu- I am sorry for your loss- so hard this waiting. I was lucky to have private cover of mc. I saw my consultant at 10 with two scabs I had had a week apart with no hb or fetal pole so made my decision clear for me-had the erpc today --2.30pm and feel good. Home at 6.
Even made dinner etc for the family this eve. And bathes and put the baby to bed as DH was knackered- think the worry of me panicking, lack of sleep due to work worries, me etc and then my ga concerned him - hit him harder than I realised.

V quick op less than 10 mins normally. Gave me a Drug to open uterus , then somehow manually removed contents. Dignity was kept as much as possible . General anaesthetic, a slight cramp after, due to contracting uterus, that pain relief helped, v light bleed for three days expected but no real pain etc. Felt right for me as physically my body is broken after thyroid diagnosis, flu and appendix burst in 6 months. With a 14 no. How we even made time to Dtd god knows!
There are only personal decisions - this felt right for me this time, another scenario I could have chosen differently.

God am tired typos! Scabs are scans!

Ugh 14month old!

littlemiss sorry for your loss- I had no symptoms at all - a true silent mc.

I'm sorry that you experienced the same as me :( It really does come as a huge shock doesn't it?! I still don't feel like my mind has properly processed it yet xx

Sorry to hear your news Hullabaloo

I am similar to you. Should be approaching 8-9 weeks.... Scan last Tuesday showed empty sac ..... Cannot be that far out as only one occasion conception could have occurred so 5 days in it (actually have short cycles so even further behind on ifficial dates.

I am waiting for a repeat scan in Tuesday and hoping for a surgical procedure due to Xmas soon. I also live on my own as partner and I are a new relationship and he lives at some distance (kids from previous relationship also means he is with them this weekend and I am alone and feeling sorry for self but simultaneously unable to tolerate company)...... The idea of misscarrying at home with my mum for company is not appealing (she would want to be there for me, I can't stand the idea of putting her through that)....

I think I just want it all over with quickly so I can start to recover. I am also scared of the pain as my last few periods have been terribly painful and I imagine this might be worse (discovered at scan I have fibroids, which explains the pain)

I think limiting factor will be if I can get in the list for surgery before next weekend ....

Glad you got sorted so quickly Stressville.... Hopefully the good old NHS will step up for me ....

Oh yeah. Foolishly went into town for a coffee with close friends yesterday. All the jingle bell bollocks didn't help...... Friends lovely though.....

Littlemiss.... Sorry about the pain but sounds like worst is over?

Yeahh it just feels like period pain now so it's not too bad, and the bleeding seems to have slowed down slowly. Not sure when the end of this will be...xx

Hugs littlemiss hope there's an end point soon... Yeah beam very similar. I have a scan booked at epau on Monday, MIL traveling down to mind DDs. As heartbeat was slow yesterday, it sounds awful but I just want it to start and be over... Still not sure which method to go for... I'm guessing that being 9 weeks I can't have the tablet form...? So hope my kids won't be affected, we have no one to help us.Mil is only port of call an hour away. Small house... Can't imagine having to cocoon myself to bleed with everyonev about 😕

This thread is incredibly helpful so thank you everyone for sharing. First pregnancy for me, had a scan yesterday when I should be 9 weeks and it's measuring at 6 with no visible heartbeat - although she did say on the unlikely chance my dates are wrong (can't see how they would be!) that wouldn't be unusual.
Got to go back on Friday for a scan to confirm no growth and am in limbo til then, mulling over my options. Tricky as its right before Christmas so I'm at a loss really especially since we are away with family and friends from the 24th :-/

Hey hula sorry to see you here too - it sucks doesn't it? Hopefully we'll be luckier next year X

I hope so rum seems so far away still... Everything's in slow motion atv the mo. Head is fuzzy 😕

oh hula I know exactly what you mean. I've sort of made my peace with it being bad news on Friday - what with there being no visible heartbeat and being three weeks out, just seems to much time difference for dates to be wrong. I keep swinging between being quite OK and pragmatic about it and feeling completely lost.

I think we will definitely try again next year but that just seems far away right now and it's also given me the fear that we will have a repeat problem which I know is a silly way to think but I can't help it.

so sad to see so many others who have been through the same.

I think I'm leaning towards waiting naturally over Christmas as I'm not at home and cant squeeze in the pills before we leave - definitely don't want to be travelling when it kicks in - and then go back when we are home if nothing has happened.

Oh rum I am so sorry to see you here. I was on July thread with you.
I have had two weeks of being through the ringer with it all. Took the tablets on the 2nd Dec, they didn't work, went back on the 7th to take them again. Seemed to work, but didn't seem final (weird, I don't know how I knew I just did), anyway eventually everything passed naturally last Saturday. So now just waiting to feel a bit more normal by Christmas. We are gonna take a break from ttc for a few months, we had two Mmc in 2016 and it just feels like a lot.
Anyway please mind yourself. I am so sorry that you will have to go through this. Take painkillers as and when you need them. Be prepared (there is a really helpful thread on what to expect from the different ways, tablets, natural, surgical etc.) and try and extract some small moments of Christmas where you can. It's not easy but hopefully 2017 will be a brighter year for us all.

thanks miami yes I remember you, there have been a few of us unlucky ones on the July group :( I'm so sorry for you sounds horrible. I hope you get to enjoy Christmas and try and put it in the back of your mind although it always seems to be there.

Hopefully we will have better luck next year. This was a bit of a surprise so I think makes it slightly easier than people who have been trying for ages (sorry if that sounds insensitive to anyone) so think we are going to take ourselves off on holiday in the new year before thinking about it again.

I meant to add thanks for your advice - that's really helpful X

Rum - where are you thinking for hols? OH I think is organising something for us for March for my Christmas present.
I am a little anxious. The two times we got pregnant in 2016 were both on holidays and now I look back on them in kind of bittersweet way iykwim. So I am kind of hoping that if he has booked that the dates mean we don't get pregnant. Is that crazy?! I overthink everything.

Not at all Miami..... Second guessing and overthinking is normal.... Could you take temporary precautions while you are taking a break? I know that is a stupid question as contraception seems like such an anathema..... I am Hong through the thought process currently... My own circumstances meant this preg was unexpected (in the extreme).... I am at such high risk of another MC if I get preg again , not sure I could cope..... Also pregnancy has awakened the urge for a child I had long since had to forget...... I don't have forever to decide/ recover...... But contraception...... Ugh....