What happens when a pregnancy has ended but miscarriage is yet to happen?

[MrsBobDylan]

Hi, am 8 weeks but a scan has shown that heartbeat is just a flicker and measurements are way out for the number of weeks. I have a scan on Monday and expect to find the pregnancy is finished.

However, all the pregnancy symptoms are still there so think I will need some kind of medical help to end it.

Would anyone mind sharing what my options would be and how it might work please?

I thought all would be ok at my last scan but now I know it's not I just want to prepare for the next stage. Thanks in advance.

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At night I am getting bad sleep because I am worried about bleeding everywhere. I had these when in labour with my DD and they are good.

I am using my DC1 disposable change mats but these look bigger, thanks mistle.

So xry to hear from your loss bt dnt wrry yu wl get another healthy baby

Err maybe, but equally may be not. Sorry, But you have no idea if anyone's individual circumstances in this thread. The pregnancy I am loosing was bloody unlikely in the first place and highly likely to be my only chance due to age and other circumstances.

Thank you for your attempt at sympathy, but the other thoughts are not very helpful.

You beat me to it beam. I'm sure you were trying to be nice hudeina, but after 4 years and three rounds of IVF and two miscarriages, I really don't think it is guaranteed that it will happen for me. it's probably best to stick to 'I'm sorry for your loss' and leave it there.

Sorry if it's a personal question tigerdog, but did they tell you why you've had recurring mc? I'm 22 and worrying as I've had 2 mc and going through my second now, they said I've got a heart shaped uterus which could be linked to mine and wanting to speak to other who also have this x

Nope charlotte, they don't know. I've had loads of investigations into my fertility and it all looks normal. No investigation into my MCs individually though - you need to have had three before the NHS will investigate. I have a typically shaped uterus so can't help with that one I'm afraid.

Sorry to see you here as well Beam & Stress.

I go back tomorrow for my follow up scan, have felt very calm all week, still hoping for a Christmas miracle even though it's a long shot. Think my brain just can't compute the reality of an erpc or mva in a few days time. I'm like you, Stress, cannot cope with the idea of being sent away to miscarry when I'm meant to be staying with relatives from 24-27th and am mainlining chocolate. I feel vile.

The minute they tell me it's all over I am getting stuck into the gin.

I hope everything goes okay for you, it's not what you want at Christmas or anytime really. I'm absolutely dreading Christmas as that was the day we were planning on telling everyone we were having a baby :(

Oh I hear you on the gin front. I see your gin and raise you a whisky (except whisky makes me maudlin and I suspect what I really need is a chilled glass of white wine or three)

The absurdity of struggling through this cold/ evil virus with only paracetamol and honey and hot lemon while hoping for a miracle and sticking with minimal caffiene while emotionally and physically exhausted is not lost on me....

My mum is with me and she keeps referring to us having a "lovely cosy Family Christmas".... Today this is the only thing that has be close to tears. I could not give a flying fuck about Xmas and it is only going to make this worse. Hard to have a great day while you are bleeding on the loo.

Online shopping for lovely Xmas presents for my 2.5 year old niece is keeping me sane though..... My mood/ opinions are all over the place.....who says I have to be consistent ....

beam i caved and have booked a early scan privately tomorrow as i need to shut DH up one way or the other about this miracle he is expecting. I am sure can guess what they will find but at least then i can move on.

Then i booked a private consultant for friday to discuss surgical management as when i spoke to the SPU today they said unlikely to have help until jan and given my 5 panic attacks over not spoiling everyones Xmas as you say... sitting bleeding on a loo at someone elses house.... well. screw that.

You know this crossed my mind too. I may call epau tommortow and ask how long the wait is...

I'm worried the EPU are going to tell me that the only slot they have for surgery is Monday...dp's birthday.

oh greedy fx not! how are you feeling today?

Terrified! I still feel very pregnant and just can't believe that in a few hours time I will almost certainly be told that the heartbeat has gone and the last 6 weeks of stress will have been for nothing. Feels a bit surreal really.

I'm planning to wallow like mad over Christmas & NY, then get my shit together in January, get back to full fitness & lose a couple of stone. Would like to do a triathlon next summer so figure that will be a good goal to focus on.

greedy me too - outside scan centre now. Been sick this morning with sadness and fear. Also allowed to lose shit for a week and aim to pull back together and focus on wellbeing emotional and physical for a while In the new year.

Handholding.

Oh Stress, I'm sorry I didn't realise you were having a scan today as well. Are you ok?

((((you))))

to you all. It's just miserable

it is fricking grim. As awful as it is to have this be happening at Xmas, at least the new year will be a clean sheet

Good luck to you both

Yep, all confirmed. Same sonographer as last week and she was so kind. I was crying my eyes out on the tube on the way, but once she confirmed that it had shrunk since last week and see no hb I just felt much calmer. They can't do the MVA until next Wednesday though, so yet another week of feeling pregnant/worrying about miscarrying.

Yep, all confirmed. Same sonographer as last week and she was so kind. I was crying my eyes out on the tube on the way, but once she confirmed that it had shrunk since last week and see no hb I just felt much calmer. They can't do the MVA until next Wednesday though, so yet another week of feeling pregnant/worrying about miscarrying.

Had a private scan and the sac grown since last time but empty... no fetal pole. Parkside consultant tomrrrow to discuss next steps hoping for erpc at the earliest it can happen as can't face the wait given I need to be places for Xmas and can't face explaining myself. It came as a relief to not cling on to hope unnecessarily to be honest. Am so numb still I have yet to cry.

greedy so sorry x

I'm absolutely heartbroken reading the amount of losses on this post :( Sending love to you all

I should have been 11 weeks tomorrow but yesterday whilst I was in the shower I passed something that looked like a large amount of brown mucous (about an inch long) but nothing since. I went to the epu this morning and they confirmed I'd had a mmc maybe about 3 weeks ago :( I've not had any bleeding at all. Has anyone had a similar experience?! Is it likely to come away naturally?! Xx