What happens when a pregnancy has ended but miscarriage is yet to happen?

[MrsBobDylan]

Hi, am 8 weeks but a scan has shown that heartbeat is just a flicker and measurements are way out for the number of weeks. I have a scan on Monday and expect to find the pregnancy is finished.

However, all the pregnancy symptoms are still there so think I will need some kind of medical help to end it.

Would anyone mind sharing what my options would be and how it might work please?

I thought all would be ok at my last scan but now I know it's not I just want to prepare for the next stage. Thanks in advance.

Thanks all, I think I'll think about trying again once the hormones have settled...at the moment just feels bleak. rum if it were me, I'd still go to the scan, only because I'd want a definitive answer and not be in limbo. 😐 up to you though, see how you feel. Hope you're feeling better beam and little. Xxx

I would Still go for scan rum. Even if you want to do natural
Management. I was bleeding slowly/ spotting and cramping for 3-4 days without it progressing anywhere.

Scan in Tuesday showed a lot of haemorrhage that just wasn't making it out. I felt pretty awful physically yesterday ;tired, malaise just yuck. Very little bleeding externally....

They told me to come in whatever was happening and they would respond/ make plans as needed xx

thank you so much for replies so quickly :) I will go to the scan even if I start bleeding in the night. Good point hula limbo is horrible

As I said previously why, I had no bleeding at all when I was told I'd miscarried 4 weeks previously. The nurse told me that once many people are told they've miscarried they then soon start bleeding as the mind then tells what the body what to do once it's processed the information (if that makes sense). Then when I went back to have the pessaries the next day, the nurse told me that there was a bit of blood on her gloves so that I'd just began to bleed. The body is soooo amazing. I don't believe that it would have started that day if I'd not been told the day before; after going all those weeks with no bleeding whatsoever.
I hope you have a speedy recovery xxx

It is quite amazing when you think about it isn't it? I'm kind of hoping that's what's going to happen after I've been told today.

Will update you all later although I think I already know what I will be telling you.

Thanks little are you feeling any better today? x

So sorry for your loss, one mc I had started bleeding v slightly before my 13 week scan, next day was the scan found out baby had actually died two weeks earlier

Had the choice between surgery d and e
And medical misscarriage in hospital where your induced or wait at home for natural mc
Choose the latter
Had two day of contractions such heavy bleeding actuallyreallyscred me how bad. It was but people on here really helped me through
Advised meto use a sieve on the toilet that way the little tiny palm of your hand baby didn't end up down the toilet
And we buried the little baby in our garden

Really took it out of me for months physically was surprised thought it would be like a bad period
Maybe it is earlier on but wasn't like that for me

Lard so sorry to hear you went through this, I hope you are feeling a little better now, not sure it ever leaves you completely.

Thank you for sharing your story and experience - I never really "got" the whole forum support thing before but now I really do, it's been a godsend!

It is hard going isn't lardlizard, I came home after I was given the medical management and went through it all at home. I naively thought it'd be a quick process and I just presumed it'd all be over within 24 hours, but a week on I'm still having very slight bleeding and minimal cramping now, I don't feel like I can move forward until it's all completely finished :/
I agree why, I've found this thread sooo incredibly helpful, I've found my mmc just slightly easier to deal with having lots of understanding and genuine people to talk to xx

Got here to find they have no record of our appointment today. Livid. Receptionist acted like I was being totally unreasonable when I asked how long it will take to be seen she just keeps saying "you will be seen at some point"

Oh no how awful! I hope you don't have to much too much longer. You'd think they'd at least show you some compassion, especially this time of year xxx

well that wasn't a great experience but finally got in and saw the same sonographer as before she was lovely.
Sadly it was the news we expected but I feel so much better already for being out of limbo. Opted for medical management as I am a massive wuss about any kind of internal exam - but because of Christmas can't get in til 28th at the earliest so could potentially kick off before then.
How's everyone doing today?

Are you having it today Rum?! Well remember you can ask me anything you like coz it was only last Friday I had the same. Hope you're feeling better soon xxx

Thank you! No couldn't have it today as they do it in two doses and are closed Sunday :( so got to wait til 28th for first dose.

Ahh right they must do it differently at different places. I only had the one treatment and they inserted 4 pessaries into me all at once and that was it xx

ah that sounds more
convenient in terms of hospital trips. Never mind! At least I have a date so I feel like I have a plan.
I also came straight home and dyed my hair and had a baileys while watching a Christmas film. Feel a little better for the moment.

Glad you have a plan of sorts.... Hoping you manage to have a calm
Xmas...

I have been Xmas shopping. Kept getting waves of grief and some rage...at the unfairness of it all.. But felt a bit more able to engage with the world....

Glad you managed to get seen why, and that you're not in limbo anymore. I also dyed my hair today 😀 felt so good! I'm looking forward to brie, stilton, runny eggs and the works without any worry. My appt is 29th, they only gave ones option for me, erpc under GA... but luckily happy with that. Time for bed, hope you're feeling better little xx

Thanks everyone :)
Hula it feels awesome doesn't it? It's really given me a lift.
Glad you have a plan too and hope it goes as well as it can for you.
Night all. x

In case I don't get a chance tomorrow, Thinking of you all tonight, wishing we were all in better places but can only rest on that things happen for a reason and I thank you for all your support and kindness. Have a wonderful Christmas with your loved ones and I'll have a little private toast to us all so that 2017 brings positive adventures our way and that our little angels watch over us. Merry Christmas!! 🎄

ah that's lovely hula right back at you and I shall join you in the toast!

Hope everyone is having a lovely Christmas Day.
Typically I started bleeding and cramping yesterday :( not super heavy but a few clots and something that felt quite large but didn't catch it in time
so no idea what it was - suspect it's way to early on to be the sac though. Now I have mild cramps and light bleeding - assuming this can't be it??? I'm too scared to go anywhere incase I start seriously bleeding suddenly! Sorry all a bit grim just needed to vent.

oh more I'm so so so sorry. That must be so heartbreaking and difficult.
I am coping OK thank you but I was earlier along, I'm mainly struggling with how umpredictable it is - now it's started - I was booked in for 28th but am wondering whether that will be too late now

How are you coping? Thinking of you and your family, 18 weeks must be so hard :(

I think that's absolutely normal - I've felt the same as I was nine weeks along but only measured six so I never saw baby looking like a baby if that makes sense. I think you have to let yourself grieve any way you can and do whatever you need to do to get through it.
I hope you have got lots of support around you?
I'm glad you managed to find another option how was your procedure did it go as well as it could. Are they going to be investigating why it happened - not trying to pry I just imagine it's easier to try and accept if you have a reason why it happened - it's so hard when it's just "one of those things"