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Missed miscarriage - advice needed please

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strawberry · 27/05/2004 18:24

I have just found out from a scan that I have a missed miscarriage (ie. no bleeding but fetus not growing and no heart beat). The doctor recommends I have surgery (ERCP) rather than wait for nature to take its course. Does anyone have any advice/experience of this? Please help -I am gutted and don't know what to do. Thanks

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lynneclynne · 25/10/2006 18:46

Mmmm edie,thers still a chance that you are pg. I did get that before (the line was v faint) when i tested 3-4 days later it was +, i would try again in a few days time. (is a tricky one) I know how you must be feeling.
I just got back from the doc, explained about the stomach pains,sore head,sore back and feeling sick the last few weeks, she thinks its an infection after mc, so shes given me antibiotics to see if thats helps any.I also had problems with my hip (god what am i like) so i have to get that x rayed tomorrow (whilst i have af)
Your head must be done in with all the waiting, just waiting a day or two feels like an eternity.
(still got everything crossed for you. xxx
Lynne

edie123 · 25/10/2006 21:11

Lynne

Thanks for being so great as usual. Yes it is doing my head in-just want to know. Keep thinking I can feel symptoms coming but then perhaps I am imagining it. Feel very out of breath. Got day off tomorrow so just going to realx. Retail Maxim wanted me to do a job today but they never e mailed me the details so might chase that up tomorrow.

Poor you with the infection-still, at least the meds will sort it out. What are they? Amoxicillan? Sounds like you were right to get it sorted before it made you feel worse.

Is Josie still away? What are you doing tomorrow? Will chat if you are around xx

edie123 · 25/10/2006 21:22

need to practice doing this have a look atthis

edie123 · 25/10/2006 21:22

YES!!!!!

I DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO PROUD!!!!!!!!!!!

lynneclynne · 25/10/2006 23:59

Thats good edis LOL
I know ive still to try doing that, need to practice.
Yeh, it was amoxcillian she gave me, so i'll see how i get on once ive complete the course.
Tomorrow, just going to get my hip x-rayed so should be about in the afternoon, dont have any work on now till saturday. Remember to take it easy, dh seems to think i've been over doing it recently hence the reason for all the problems (sore eye and everything else) so im gonnie take his advice and take it easy myself.I think saturday will be a one off working as its more hassle than its worth,might just stick to my two days (LOL) I know its only two days but still have to be full time mother and housewife and financial advisor and secretary and gardener and all the rest !!
You make sure you rest and take things easy! I'll catch up with you tomorrow when im back from hosp.
Yeh, think jossie is still away, hope shes having a good time. Lucky her!! LOL
Right edie im away for now, speak tomorrow.
Lynne xxx

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 00:00

oh my god, just realised the time, got to get to bed

edie123 · 26/10/2006 10:12

Good luck with the X ray. Im waiting for GP to ring me. Hopefully it will be soon. Not knowing is awful! Prof Lesley Regan says that the earlier the mc, the smaller the amount of HcG which is what I suspected. Mine happened at 5 weeks!!

d4phne · 26/10/2006 10:48

Hi everybody. It's my first week of blogging and I am joining you from the TTC thread. I had a blighted ovum discovered at 11 1/2 weeks and got an ERPC 22/09. It was a huge shock and I am not copying well. I joined the TTC thread, since I like Edie have a positive pg-test and was looking for advice and support, but the faint line has not been changing over the last 3 days, so I think in my case it leftover hormomes.

Good luck, edie!!!

edie123 · 26/10/2006 12:34

Just had call from GP who is soooo nice bless him. He wants me to go to surgery Monday morning-is not officially on duty but is teaching his students. He wants me to have a pg test with them seeing me, (he is teaching them about pg at the mo and thinks it will be interesting for them) then he will see me and if the test is not conclusive he will run some series blood tests.

In his opinion, it is a new pregnancy so fingers crossed girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 15:52

Oh edie, thats brilliant news!!! God im getting so excited
Cant wait till monday
I didnt make the hosp, just got out of bed there,new i had to get up and see how things were with yourself, glad i did.
Ive been in bed ill all day, got what dh had all week will need to try and get to hosp tomorrow though.Just going back to bed now, so you take it easy and put your feet up!
Lynnexxx

edie123 · 26/10/2006 16:29

Oh no Lynne you poor thing!! Sending hugs...

Yes I really hope the test on Mon proves positive. Even though we say ''not going to get my hopes up'' we can't help but do it can we? Scared all the symptoms are just in my head, not that I feel much though anyway. (Swear I feel more breathless than usual? Does that mean anything?!)

Hope you feel better soon

loucatwoman · 26/10/2006 17:36

Hi can anyone give me any advice or have been through the same situation as Im trying to cope with.....This is my 1st pregnancy at 33yrs old. I had my 10wk scan last mon and was told the baby had not developed past 6wks. Me and my partner were heartbroken. I had another scan this mon and the baby has only developed slightly. After 2 bloods tests my hormones are extremely high and that of a 12wk pregnancy which I nearly am now but the hormones have reduced slightly. Doctors do not want to do and ERPC as they say I will miscarry as the pregnancy is not viable and the hormones are reducing preparing me to miscarry. They say it can take 5 weeks to miscarry which is prolonging the pain. This is so painful as Im feeling less pregnant but know I have a non developing baby inside of me and I want to be able to get this nightmare over with and be able to grieve and try for another healthy baby. I dont know what to do I so scared and upset....Can anyone help me? Im thinking of going privately to have the ERPC if nothing has happened in a weeks time????

wayzee · 26/10/2006 18:11

i have just suffered a missed miscarriage it is frightening awful thing i had a scan on 11 october and the baby had died at seven weeks and six days i am absolutally devastated as i have pcos and underactive thyroid and had to take clomid to fall pregnant. its awful what you are going through but for me i couldnt stand the thought of a dead baby in side of me cos it was just this thing and not my baby anymore i took the first part of the treatment at the hospital which supresses the hormone level and actually miscarried the next day at home. the nurse said that it was only my hormone level being so high that had kept the baby inside of me. i couldnt prolong it just wanted it over with i prayed for a miracle but it wasnt granted. its two weeks since now and still really hard but trying to be positive and look to the future and believe i can get pregnant agin good luck..

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 18:21

Loucatwoman, i was told the same as yourself although i choose to let take its course as the thought of any doc removing my baby (even although no longer alive) was a no no for me, it was mind over matter i found, i kept telling myself and doctors its my baby and it will come out when its ready to, however i do understand how you are feeling and i do understand how girls prefer to opt for d&c,if this is the decision the doc has made there must be (i think) a good reason for it. My thoughts are with you at this very sad time. We are all here if you need someone to talk with.
Lynne

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 18:25

Loucatwoman, i would put your feelings across to your doc (if you havent already done so) and explain you are considering going private to see what his/hers reply is, the chances of anything changing in a week is very slim (i think anyway)

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 18:30

Edie, thats so true, we cant help but get hopes up, although it is sounding v good
Im back down for dinner Now its back to bed,still feeling poorly
Catch up with you tomorrow (hopefully i'll make the hosp)

lynneclynne · 26/10/2006 18:31

wayzee, good luck with ttc in the future.

wayzee · 26/10/2006 19:44

thank you been reading your threads you sound so positive. im trying my best ive got a little boy two and a half and most of the time im ok but then start to get myself chewed up thinking something is going to happen to him but think this is just cos ive clung to him so much and tried to be strong and not cry for him but its easy to tell myself this but hard to think it has anyone else ever felt like this... thank you

lynneclynne · 27/10/2006 09:36

Wayzee, i am a v poitive person, this is down to being through so much in life especially loosing my dh at the age of 24, however ive since moved on and re-married, i know what you mean with your son, i too am like that especially since his dad died, but ive had to let go a bit as hes now 12, but still v.v protective towards him, i dont think it can be a bad thing (as long as you get the balance right and let go when you need to) in case now that hes at high school, dont get me wrong its done him no wrong either, as i couldnt ask for a better son, hes no mug either says what hes gotta say ( wonder who he takes that off) LOL Even though im a v positive person i still have my bad days (we all do) especially with what we have all gone through, but as time goes by you'll have more good than bad days.
Take care
Lynne xxx

lynneclynne · 27/10/2006 09:38

Edie, hope your feeling well today...im not sure if your working (no think your off) are you working sat and sund??
Anyway just leaving to go to hosp for my x ray, catch up with you later.
Lynne xxx

edie123 · 27/10/2006 09:47

Im on a late today which means I leave here at about half twelve. Working early tomorrorow and off Sunday. Good luck at the hosp, glad you feel well enough to go. Having AF cramps today and not feeling v pg so a bit down xx

Lucybee · 27/10/2006 10:58

Edie, mostly sounds like good news, I had terrible cramps early on with both successful pregnancies. Really, really good luck, will be thinking of you on Monday. Lx

edie123 · 27/10/2006 11:23

Thankyou LucyBee, thats reassuring to know. It just feels like im about to 'come on' anytime soon and it's not very nice! Can't wait for Monday, it will have been 6 weeks since op by then. However im not very hopeful today that's it a new pg as I just feel so un-pg!! I know a lot of people don't get lots of symptoms but I just expect to feel different which I don't. I did have some bad heartburn but that has gone now!

Lucybee · 27/10/2006 11:55

Loucatwoman, really sorry to read your thread. It must be awful for you to hang about waiting. My first pregnancy ended at 6.5 wks, but I didn't know until my scan at 12 weeks. I opted to take a tablet which brought the miscarriage on. But ended up admitted to hospital and the whole thing dragged on, the 2nd time I had a D&C which I found easier physically and to an extent emotionally. However, I do agree with Lynne, I don't know why your doctors are not keen to offer this yet. It seems unusual, as soon as mine were non viable I was immediately given all the info I needed and was left to make a decision.Both times I returned the next week. I think you need to ask them why they think you should wait, is there a heartbeat? One last thing, with the first proceedure I opted for I was fasted for three days as they felt they may still have to take me to theatre if things didn't clear properly as a result I could have gone through all that and ended up with a D&C. Another friend always miscarried naurally and she ended up in theatre after 2 weeks last time because things didn't clear naturally. Its entirely your decision and you need to do whats best for you,. Hope this helps, Lx

lynneclynne · 27/10/2006 12:26

Edie, everythings still crossed for you.xxx hope its a quick day at work for you, theres nothing worse when your feeling crap and the day drags in!! (That'll be me tomorrow) im still feeling terrible, tomorrow suppose to be working 9-5 doing promotional work and if the money wasnt so good i wouldnt be going,probably just do a few hours and try sneak away Got xray, so go to gp in 10-14 days for results.
Loucatwoman, i agree with lucybee, you will know yourelf what decision is best for you, we all have different thoughts and feelings so go with the one which you feel is best for you, it is a horrible decision to make but unfortunetly we have to do it.
Lucybee, are you keeping ok??
well girls im off to bed, try and get rid of this awful cold
Take care
Lynne xxx