Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 29 - Support for Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

[barkingtreefrog]

Support, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so prepare to read fast!

Previous thread here

Link to the RMC investigations information

Stats update:

allthereis: 29. DC, 4MC
anniehoo: 42. TTC#1 for 2.5yrs, 4MC
barkingtreefrog: 36. TTC#1 since Dec 11, 2MC
bettybutterchops: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
bootles: 41. DS, 1TFMR, 4MC, pg
brummiegirl: 38. TTC#1 since Apr 14, 3MC, pg
bubblybubbles80: 34. TTC#1, 3MC
bumblebee0: 29. DS, 2MC, pg
bunnymad: 40. DD, 2MC
bythesea82: 33. TTC#1 since Dec 12, 3MC, pg
casiopeia: . TTC#1, 3MC
chrystley: 41. DD, 5MC, pg
cloudjumper: 43. DS, 4MC, pg
confu3ed: 39. DS, DD, 5MC, pg
desperatelyhopeful: DS, 10 MC.
emerald72: 43. DS, 3MC
enlightenedbunny: 34. TTC#1 since '10, 1TFMR, 3MC, pg
erica21: 32. DS, 2MC, pg
extrablessings: 33. DS, 6MC
fackinell: 44. TTC#1, 4MC
fififolle: 37. DC, 2MC, pg
flen: 36. TTC#1, 3MC, pg
floweroct: 34. TTC#1 since 11, 3MC
frecklefire: 40. DS, 3MC
genwah85: 29. DS, 3MC, pg
girliesaints: 37. DD, 4MC (1 twins)
girlinoz: 32. TTC#1, 3 MC
Ifinishedthebiscuits: 37. 2DS, 4MC
iloveyoubaby: . DD, 2MC
inamaymaybewrong. 37. DS, 2MC
jady77: 37. TTC#1 since Sep 14, 2MC, pg
kazz2112: 31. TTC#1 since Feb 14, 3MC
lauren83: 31. TTC #1 for 7yrs, 2MC (1 twins)
leah1984: . TTC#1, 2MC
loopyaboutmy2boys: 38. 2DS, 6MC
lovemylittlebear: 29. 1 ectopic, 2MC, pg
marchgirl: 37. DD, 5MC, pg
maverick79: 35. TTC#1, 2MC, pg
me2me2: 2DC, 2MC
mimidoddrioni: 35. TTC#1, 2MC
minnie74: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
monten: 37. TTC#1 since Apr 13, 1TFMR, 1MC
morganlefey: 29. DD, 3MC
mrsb0710: 29. TTC#1, 2MC
mrsconfusion: 36. DD, 3MC, pg
mrsdiddlydoo: 34. DS, 2MC, pg
notspartacus: 39. 2DD, 2 ectopic , 3MC
onedaymaybe1: 32. TTC#1, 3MC
onestep2015: 39. TTC#1 since May 13, 3MC, 1 ectopic /PUL
patienceisvirtuous: 37. TTC#1 since Mar 14, 2MC, pg
peqpit: 33. TTC#1 for 2yrs, 3MC
portmoon: 43. DS, DD, 5MC
sallywade: 36. DS, 1TFMR, 5MC, pg
sashakerr: 37. DS, 3MC
sebsmummy: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
sizethree: 35, TTC#1, 3MC, pg
snoopysimaginaryfriend: 29. TTC#1 since Sep 14, 3MC
spamminit: 25. 2DS, 2MC
strubidooo: 34. TTC#1 since Sep 12, 3MC, 1 ect
sunandrainbow: 38, TTC#1, 4MC, pg
teach3: 27. TTC#1, 3MC
texta: 32. TTC#1, 3MC
thepopandcry: 38, DS, 4MC
thornfield38: 34. TTC#1 for 2 yrs, 2MC, pg
tomcat81: 34. TTC#1 since Oct 14, 2MC
twilightstruggle: TTC#1 since Nov 12, 5MC
wadsy: 36. DS, 1 ectopic , 4 MC, pg

ourdaywillcome
daisybell

Thread babies
bakingtins: 40. 2DS, 4MC. Faith born May 14
tannyloo: 42, 2DS, 5MC. Bertie born Mar 15
tinytear: 41. DD, 5MC. Alice born Mar 15
justonemoretime: 39. 3MC. Scott born May 15
purplefrogshoes: 38. 2MC, 1CMP. John born May 15
longestlurkerever: 34. DD, 3MC. Beth born Jun 15
catlover2014: 35. TTC#1 since 09, 3MC. Louis born Jun 15
boozle80: 34. 3MC. Mhairi born Jun 15
belleende: 40. TTC#1, 2MC, 1 TFMR. Cissy born Jun 15

Oh, so happy to hear all the good scan news here! Keep 'em coming, ladies! There will be rainbow babies for us!

flen 9+1 already! Though sure it's seemed ages for you. Great news! So pleased.

Fifi 12 weeks that's a great milestone reached! Brilliant.

sebs all sounding great for you too - fantastic! Well done for looking at the pics.

Good luck tomorrow march, Minnie and monten, thinking of you all and offering hand holds.

Argh I am a bit weird about fb, I find it really freaky and a bit sinister, so although I have an account from years ago I never use it. Have tried recently to get used to it again, and still find it a completely odd interface. So if I join the group there is currently nothing on my page/account about me, no pics, or anything. I'll feel like I am spying if I'm not giving the same info as everyone else. I'm probably over thinking this but will have to have a think!

MrsB well it's news to me tonight as I'd not heard of it before, good if you can have it done another box ticked like you say

Sebs good luck for the harmony and screening tests, when do you get results back?

Excuse my ignorance here but what is a rainbow baby?!

Excellent, hat trick of scans!
Good luck to the three m's tomorrow, looking forward to the next hat trick!

So, after feeling really sick with anxiety all day, and then visiting my Dad in hospital and getting upset at his situation again, I decided to up the misery by poas. Bfn. Obviously. I'm only 11dpo and it's the evening. I think there's some part of me that wanted to soften the blow of a bfn tomorrow morning by looking at one tonight. Bat shit crazy .
But then I have a bag of 14 cheapie hpts that go out of date next month how depressing is that so I figured I might as well piss on it as throw it in the bin...

Emerald a rainbow baby is the beautiful brightness at the end of the storm; our miracle babies born after loss.

Amazing scans flen fifi and sebs! It's all looking very positive for you.

Good luck tomorrow for the next group! X

Barking, you're definitely not barking (mad). Can totally understand wanting to reduce your anxiety, it's the not knowing that's torture.

Sorry it's a BFN for now but fingers crossed for later.

7 pages in a day?! I can't keep up.

barking not crazy and sorry on the bfn, for now. Evening and early dpo still mean it could change. Fingers crossed for you. Sorry you have the weight of the worry about your dad too. You're doing so well at a really stressful time. Hugs xx

sasha and biscuits on being the person who ruins the run of good scans, I am overwhelmingly feeling this will be me. I'm going to struggle to not cry before I get in the room tomorrow! I am a pessimist worrier though - opposite of dh who can't understand my doom filled views and never worries about anything, annoyingly!

Good luck monten, Minnie & March x

Barking, hope you're holding up ok x

Yes to fb if you'd let me in...

Brummie I had emergency section with dd1 and did elective with dd2... Best decision I made...

I'm also one who worries about 'letting everyone down' with bad scan news.

Good luck today minnie and monten.

Nor crazy at all to use early tests to get yourself used to the idea if it's not positive barking. I used to do that too. Fingers crossed its positive though xx

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Good luck for the scans to day ladies! Will be thinking of you and have my fingers crossed they're all good!

Willing you to get your BFP this morning barking. I really really really want this for you. xxx

I'm also admin on the fb group so pls feel free to PM me if you'd like to join. Just need fb name and description of pic, or email. There's quite a few of us on there now and it's so lovely to put faces to names.

Oh barking I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry barking!!
Is it possible it could be too early still? Sending you a big hug and squeeze. xxx

I don't want to give you false hope barking, but i didn't get a bfp on the ic until about 13dpo after bfp at 10dpo on frer. I'm still hoping for tomorrow for you xx

barking I'm so sorry. Shit shit shit. Could it be just too early?

Good luck march and monten

Same as march but I didn't get a bfp until 14 dpo this time barking xx

Good luck to minnie and march today. And... Who is my fried brain missing?

Barking.
Minnie, Monten and March, good luck for today. xx

I did two ic, a superdrug, and a frer....

I'll know for sure in Saturday wen they do the blood test, but both previous pregnancies showed on the test by now.

It's so fucking unfair barking. I wish I could say something comforting to you but we are all so long in the tooth at this now we know words are merely gestures and you are still living with the sadness while everyone else gets on with their lives.

Massive hugs from me and if I had to power to make everything better for you I would do it in a heartbeat xxx

Oh barking I'm so hoping the blood tests give you a different result. We're all here for you as much as possible no matter what happens.

I'm so sorry barking. It really could just still be too early. Every pregnancy is different. I really really hope that it's the case for you. I know today is going to be really hard though. We're here for you.

Oh barking, dammit dammit...like sebs says, nothing we can say can make it any better, and its so horribly unfair. Wish I could wave a magic wand for you. What are your plans for today? Do you have someone around? Massive hugs xxxxx