Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

good luck for you scan today brummie, hope it goes well x

Good luck for the scans today brummies

barking, glad to hear you had a nice and distracting weekend. You barking women are obviously all incredibly strong and I'm glad your mum got a break. Also so pleased you got to speak to your dh, even if it was emotional for you both. Sending lots of positive vibes your way for this week. X

Good luck today Brummie!

Good luck for the scan today brummie - guess you will also get to see little one again as well as them looking at cervix?? x

Good luck for the scan today brummie. Is that both Brummies today? If so, good luck to both!

Good to hear from you barking, was worried you were struggling so good to hear you had a busy and distracting weekend.

barking so glad to hear from you, and so amazing that you took your brothers away for the weekend! Sounds like you have some more distractions lined up for this week, for which I am also glad! And blooming impressive catch up post too...! (PS. Funny that we both have dogs who aren't going to die...)

brummie hope it goes well today. I would have been very grateful for a Tesco loo when I was vomiting on the street last week! Hope the sickness stays away for you.

PS. I just read this article which chimed with me so I thought I'd share www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/01/26/i-had-a-miscarriage-talk-to-me/?postshare=4321438385179266

Good luck today brummie

Mega catch up post barking you are a total superstar. Glad you had a chat with your dh, and that your weekend kept you busy! Thanks for your comment too. I know you're completely right- just have to keep reminding myself of it x

brummie good luck with your scan today xxx

I'm still feeling really really weird about the lady I mentioned yesterday who has had another baby. I'm ridiculously jealous and I think it's because I had popped her into a 'safe' pigeon hole ie I wasn't expecting to be baby bombed by her but was expecting it from pretty much everyone else. Then I feel ashamed of myself for feeling so bitter and unpleasant about someone else's wonderful news.

I'm trapped indoors today as we have a decorator working on DS's room and the midwife is coming at 2. I am so tired that all I want to go is sleep.

Good luck brummie!

I will need an update to my stats. Had dating scan today, and found out I have had another mmc.

So that's three now. Am 13+3 but baby didn't grow much past my early scan at 7+1.

Wish I could just grow one dc :(

Feel panicked re age (will be 38 in Dec). I think I will try to get an appointment with Dr Shehata.

Back to square 1 :(

Oh patience, i am so so sorry to hear your news. This is so cruel. Please do not be worrying about your age. A lot of us are as old/older than you so you're not alone, there is still time. Have you got someone with you lovely? Hope you're being well looked after and that they will see you again soon to get things moving. Take care of yourself and come and chat/cry/scream on here as much as you like. Big hugs xxx

Thanks so much Marchgirl. Am with DP and we went straight to see my parents. Go to epau tomorrow. I think I will opt for d&c - don't fancy the medical management again.

I had strong doubts this would work out because our early scan measurements were really out of whack. I have been keeping up with everyone's news but didn't feel up to joining in.

Oh patience I'm so very very sorry. What an absolutely awful thing to go through again. Hope you have lots of support in rl but come and rant here as often as you need to. As march said its hard but try not to worry about age- you still have time. Huge huge hugs and handholding xx

So,my boss had to drive me home after I had a complete emotional breakdown.
The hospital rang with the CVS results - a completely normal baby boy. I don't know whether to be relieved that it was normal, or panic as now I want to know if its me.

I rang DH and was ok, then I just lost it. Thankfully work is understanding.

Am home now, DH can hopefully get home early, and I've just rung my mum and had good cry.

The midwife said the two mmc are unlikely to be related, but she will speak to consult to see if they recommend further tests.

What are my next steps? Should I get GP appt and request bloods (which ones) and a referral based on that?
Tempted to book straight with Coventry but I don't have the ££ right now.

I think we'll continue to TTC as it seems to just be a shit roll of the dice x2.

Sorry for a me post, I promise to catch up, I am really feeling quite lost right now.

Oh mrsb, I know that feeling - my last one was the same. It's baffling and heartbreaking. I think it's a great idea to talk to your GP to see if they can get the ball rolling with any tests. Hugs to you.

patience I'm so sorry to hear that, it's just devastating.

So sorry to read your sad news patience Please keep posting on here if it helps you, and take it easy and be kind to yourself. xxx

Sorry you are struggling today mrsB after the results of your baby. xxx

patience sorry for your loss
Devastating I can completely imagine, hugs to you...so so sorry x

Mrs.b sorry about the bad news, very emotional I'm sure, hugs your way too x

11dpo here...another bfn, going to get a FRER...not too sure these ic's are all they make themselves out to be? Got a positive with last mc from 10dpo with FRER! had spotting yesterday and cramping from 8dpo strongest cramping yesterday at 10dpo (accompanied by the spotting)
I'm in a wtf cycle, what are my odds of getting a bfp now? Due on Wednesday.
Gums bleeding, nipples puffy, temperature throughout day is 37.2 (morning temp 36.9)
????????................

barking I should have known when I wrote that comment that you would most certainly not be sitting quietly! Good for you, that sounds like a really nice thing to have done for your family. I hope you're not too shattered today! Thinking of you this week and obviously sending huge positive thoughts for Saturday.

patience I am very sorry to hear your news. I hope you have lots of people to support you. Sending you huge hugs and best wishes

mrsb difficult news to hear. I think it was someone on here who explained that even when they do testing, it's not the most in depth testing, they check for all common issues. There are things which might still have been going on which meant your little one wouldn't have survived. I completely understand that it's hard to hear and you feel it the fault of your body. Remind me whether you have already had any testing done, sorry, I can't remember. If not, I would push your GP or EPU to take bloods for RMC testing. I think this normally includes clotting tests and a few others. Sorry, I can't remember exactly what mine were. This would be a good starting point and might give you some more information.

brummie (s) good luck with scans today....

Thanks ladies.
I think I'll wait to see what the consultant says, and hopefully the EPU can arrange the tests. I've not had any tests done on me as yet, just the CVS. They took histology on erpc, but I'm assuming that will come back normal too.

Not sure I want karyotype done, perhaps just the clotting etc.

Am absolutely shattered, emotionally and mentally, but you've all helped me to decide what to do next.

patience I'm so, so sorry, that's heartbreaking . All previous advice and discussion on here agrees with your decision to avoid medical management, I hope the experience isn't any more traumatic than it needs to be and you have plenty of RL support .

Mrsb I'm so glad you have an understanding boss. Emotions just hit you like a truck, usually at their worst when you think you're doing quite well, considering. I prescribe mindless TV, prosecco and chocolate .

Any news from brummie?

Adding my place. I'm Sammi, 25. Mum to one amazing son who is 3 1/2. Had 6 miscarriages since we started trying in October 2013, latest one being 29/7/2015. Under consultant at James Cook university but still struggling to find the reasons for my miscarriages. In desperate to keep trying but OH isn't so sure due to the heartache

Patience, so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs coming your way x

Welcome Adamsmummy. Sorry to hear your story and hope we can provide some support.

MrsB, hope MrB got home quick pronto and you've been looked after. I had similar news with last mc. Everyone reacts differently, so take your time.

Barking. Received the book (& added extra ????) have a meeting in Glasgow later this week. Might take it with me to read on the plane!

Welcome adamsmummy, sorry to hear your story

girlie I figured everyone likes a little bit of haribo .

patience and adamsmummy I'm sorry you've found yourself here, but these ladies are amazing. As witnessed by my complete emotional vent, they willl be here to hold.your hand.

DH only just got home, there was no way he could have been here earlier. Of course he's wracked with guilt, but I'm all out of emotion. I think the silent me is worrying him more than the hyperventilating, tears and snot version. Just numb.
Tomorrow is another day, and that's all I can look to right now.