Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

fifi no worries. Replied to your message, thanks xxx

Barking** am saying a prayer that you are ok my love xxx

Reading back and posting so not got to last page yet..

oneday whispered congrats. Absolutely understand the jinxing fear, but posting really really won't make one bit of difference. I know you know this but am repeating it. We are all here to listen.

home hard to know what to do, and I would just add to what march said that inherited chromosome problems are really quite rare. And I think we all entirely understand the need to be pg as soon as you can.

minnie those first weeks, especially when you have had a loss at just before 12 weeks, are going to be tough. I know I keep saying it, but one day at a time is the only way. TYAP, and this really CAN be the sticky one.

home I see now march already said that finding something inherited is very rare - am rushing again.

flen, march, sebs, monten, bumble - hang in there through this first trimester. So..horribly..hard, but hang in there.

march do you think the pred is helping with your sickness?

flen, lovely, you poor thing. Dear god, heaving constantly... I currently retch a couple of times a day and am nauseous an awful lot, and that's hard enough. I don't mean to bang on about it but are you considering gp for meds?

mrsb hope that faint line goes soon

barking, I am thinking of you and sending you and embie positive vibes x

Barking, hope you're lurking and wing looked after my your local friends. sending big hugs x

Barking thinking of you and sending you tons of good vibes. x

This is an extract from Randine Lewis' The Infertility Cure, which is really helping me at the moment, so I thought I would share it:

"I don't know why we have been chosen to undertake such a painful journey, why we must go through such struggles to bring our children into the world. But I do know that when we look into our babies' faces, they will never have to wonder if they were really wanted. Ours are the children who, no matter how they came to us, will look at their parents and know, from the deepest place in their heart, how much we cherish them, and how we laboured to give them life. And in that there is no greater security and no greater gift."

Posting this for everyone, pg or not pg, happy or sad - we're all in this together and we will get there in the end. x

Gosh oneday I have a lump in my throat. That's beautiful thank you for posting

oneday such lovely words, couldn't be more true. brought tears to my eyes x

A beautiful sentiment oneday x

Hello everyone. Just dropping in to wish barking love and hugs, to cheer from the rooftops about the good scans and to give all of you waiting for tests and ttc a big squeeze. I am not posting much atm as I am not sure how useful I can be but I think of you all the time and lurk a lot looking for updates and praying they are happy ones.

Afm, I am at MIL's on the way back from the Isle of Mull in Scotland. It was beautiful and soul enriching and we saw puffins! Also got massively drenched though and it is bittersweet visiting with my own family without being able to tell my lovely df, who died ten years ago, all about it as it's somewhere we loved when I was a child. Plus still have four more hours in the car till we get home for dd1's fourth birthday tomorrow. A friend and I are taking four kids and two babies bowling!

I was shocked to read about obem. I posted on that poor woman's thread and was totally gutted when mn said she was a troll. Am now gutted all over again that she wasn't, and that there was no miracle for baby ollie after she went through so much (the thread went on for weeks and got more and more hopeful as the weeks went by).

Oneday that's such a beautiful quote, thanks for sharing it. A positive start to the day.

Longest the Isle of Mull sounds lovely, I think I'd like to pay a visit there! Shame about your friend. Good luck with the bowling!

Oneday that's a beautiful quote. Thanks for sharing.

Beautiful words Oneday x

Lovely words Oneday.

I watched The Adjustment Bureau last night. And found it quite thought-provoking. Probably unintentionally. And there's more than one way of interpreting it.

But it's about two people needing to be kept apart because once they've found each other they'll be so happy, they won't need anything else and will lose that burning ambition with which they'll change the world for the better.

I wonder if part of the legacy of RMC for me is that I won't take things for granted again. If I don't have another child then I will push forward with other dreams instead etc.

I have a very close friend who's always wanted kids, but may not be able to due to previous illness. But instead she's started to do all of the things she dreamed of but was too afraid of, like moving away and starting a new career. I'm not trying to say that's made up for not having kids. But I do look at her and see someone who's really living their life, if that makes sense?

Don't quite know what I'm trying to say. Miscarriage is shit. But I don't think any of us will ever be those people who just take everything for granted while life passes by for the next 50 years.

So, have been away for the night catching up with friends i havn't seen in 15 years. Didn't go to bed til 4am
Dh at different party 4 hours away and i'm pretty sure i ovulated yesterday (2 days earlier than normal) . Is there any point having sex today? Bet i'm out this month already. Think i need to join another thread for the not pregnant and not getting pregnant any time soon!

Get on it Freckle! Its not too late. DH was away overnight when I thought I'd ovulated this cycle. We went full pelt when he got home and it seems to have worked. (Although AF due today and struggle to think past that even though I kniw I'm. pregnant because I don't feel pregnant! )

OMG I must tell you this girls as it will give those TTC some hope. When I lived elsewhere in the country two years ago I was friendly with another Mother who had had her second child at 40 (first child in early twenties) after having PCOS her whole life and being deemed infertile by the doctor due to the severity of her condition. Would you believe I've just found out she has had another child a few months ago!!! Completely spontaneously again without particularly trying.

The news did upset me a bit if I'm honest just because I know she wasn't planning anymore and somehow I feel a bit cheated that I've had to endure recurrent miscarriage whilst other older Mothers don't. HOWEVER I know I'm being absolutely unreasonable and she has just been totally blessed which is wonderful.

So even if the odds are massively stacked against you through age it other conditions, it seems that anything is possible!!!

Hi all, I've tried sooo hard to keep up with this thread, ... But WOW can you guys natter!

10dpo for me (this is a wtf cycle) last couple of days have had blood when brushing my teeth, migraine on 8dpo, headaches, boobs feeling achy today-little stabs and tingly, blood on tissue when blowing nose last few mornings, stuffy runny nose, tiny dizzy spells that come in little flurries, cramping and pulls in uterus and cervix...
BFN with both 10miu onestep & 15miu sure-sign....
I just don't want to kid myself, I was certain I was pregnant in my wtf cycle last time too and wasn't! We do fall pregnant very quickly though, both proper cycles I've had we've conceived (both mc)
Obviously I'm a crazy lady who is going to test everyday until either 'one of two possibilities' materialise!

Possibility to have this many symptoms in wtf cycle and 'NOT' be pregnant???

Thoughts please ladies, and thank you in advance for any replies xxx

Hello Allmychildren, this thread certainly does move quickly.
I'd say that the BFN's are certainly very positive signs as it means that your HCG level has dropped so low that you can now conceive again. If you're anything like me, you'll be very impatient and desperate for this cycle to end so that you can get on with TTC again. It sounds like your body is readjusting after your MC and you're maybe a bit run down too.
You will be pregnant again very soon. Try to take it easy and enjoy the relaxation time beforehand.

fifi my lovely, I think you're a bit confused??? I am already ttc...i ovulated on cd 16 for sure, confirmed by temp rise...

I have always had my first BFN literally the day after my mc's!

I'm wondering (hoping) I 'am' pregnant, and if these symptoms I've been getting could be another pregnancy?

Oh no, I seem to be making a mess of replying to posts here .
I read it as you were in your wtf cycle and desperately wanting to be pg again. I wasn't sure weather I actually ovulated in my wtf cycle.

Biscuits that sounds like a good thought provoking film, and yes totally get what you mean. I keep thinking I mustn't let this dominate our lives and must make sure we still enjoy life. And if we don't have another then we will throw ourselves into doing so.

Freckle yes get on it! You never know!

Sebs that's a great story gives us hope! So how old is she now then?? How do you know she hasn't suffered MC?

Paws ooh sounds like you might be?! Maybe give it abit longer then test again? Heard that sometimes bfn shows but people are actually pg!

Just saw 3 butterflies flutter past me, call me a mad woman and I probably am now, but couldn't help thinking they were my 3 Angels ......

No worries fifi x
emerald that's a lovely idea, I often put meaning to things like that x

Just went to the loo and wiped....small smear of red blood? Not due on till Wednesday, and ovulated for sure on cd 16, which puts me on cd 26 today....I thought luteal phase was not meant to change? Nothing more when I wiped again, so possible implantation bleeding? I thought the blood was supposed to be pink or brown...can it be red?

Last month (when pg) I started bleeding on a Sunday (spotting/very very light) and passed sac on the Wednesday,....so assuming you count the 'day' of the mc as cd1 (that's what the nurse in epu said) I assumed I would be due on this Wednesday?
I 'started' to 'see' blood on the Sunday during last pregnancy as I said, which was actually when I was due on! So seeing blood today at 28 days later is confusing me.....

All depends on 'what day' during a mc you count as cd 1
I've always gone by the day you actually pass the pregnancy?

Confused/tired/pissed off/ fed up with living my life counting down days, and tissue checking :'(

Emerald. You are right, I don't know if she has suffered any MC between her last two children. I guess I'm assuming not as they are close together and I know she didn't have any before that as we talked about it. I suppose she must be 41/42 now and the baby is a few months old.

I've just had a lovely afternoon drinking Pimms in the garden with friends and family. All very impromptu whilst my son was five bombing the paddling pool. Feel a little more chilled now.

Allmychildren I had two incidences of bright red implantation bleeding before my BFP so it's a definite possibility xx