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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 27 - Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

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BumbleBee0 · 03/07/2015 07:26

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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Frecklefire · 17/07/2015 22:05

*I'm - typos...blah blah blah...

Belleende · 17/07/2015 22:11

Hello all (warning sentimental post). I just wanted to commemorate an important date for me. Today three years ago my first miscarriage started. I was visiting my parents in the arse end of donegal, an hour away from the nearest hospital and unable to fly home for the guts of a week. It was horrific. It was my dp's 37th birthday. It was also I think when I came across these and similar pages on mumsnet.

Today we celebrated dp's 40th. It has been a tough three years. 2 mcs, one termination for med reasons, one chemical pregnancy, biological clock ticking ever louder.

The information, support and humour I have found on these pages has been such a source of comfort and strength. I want to thank you all for the care and concern you have shown to me and that you continue to show to others. It makes me really proud to be a woman.

Today we celebrated DP's 40th. It was such a happy birthday for both dp and myself. This time last year we were both sincerely doubting we would ever be parents and we were trying to figure out what our lives might be should we not have children.

And now, on our last roll of the dice, we got little Cissy. And it is amazing.

I trully hope you all get your happy ever after, whatever that might be and I hope this thread lives on so that all women in our position can benefit from it.

Ladies, I salute you.

OneStep2015 · 18/07/2015 07:00

Belle really lovely post. So happy for you. Xxxx

Freckle I cannot stand it when people play silly buggers. It takes effort and time to put a letter together and he's an arse for not jumping on your request and prolonging your worry/time.
You have a way with words Freckle lol! Hope it now gets sorted. Xxx

barkingtreefrog · 18/07/2015 07:31

bellende you just got me all emotional! Lovely post Smile.

freckle what an arse of a head. Play him at his own game. A nice email to greet him at the start of his holidays: Further to your statement that you had passed this issue to my HoD, I have discussed this with him/her and we have agreed that I will be part time as from September. Obviously you will need to take the necessary steps to find suitable cover for the days I will not be in. Many thanks for finally resolving this situation.

It's shocking that he's left you hanging since February Angry Angry Angry.

cloudjumper · 18/07/2015 07:40

Belle- your post really gives me hope that it might all be ok after all, that it can happen. You have come such a long way, and you and your DP have been through so much, you certainly have a lot to celebrate! Enjoy it! (Excuse me while a go and wipe away that dust that suddenly got in my eye Wink).

Freckle- how infuriating! That is really not acceptable. Can your department head help at all? Very Angry on your behalf!

I have my scan this afternoon, and I am nervous, to say it mildly. Scanxiety, anyone! Desperate tamely hoping it'll be ok, I have become too invested in this pregnancy now, making plans and everything...Confused

girliesaints · 18/07/2015 07:41

Lovely post Bellende and certainly you got your happy ending.

Freckle, feeling very ???? at your head. Isn't there a time period he need to get back to you and give a decision? Hope your hod is sympathetic and grants your request.

I have to write a request this weekend to my line manager to increase my hours back up to full time from September as dd will start school. It's just a formality as its already been agreed but still another reminder that I had assumed that I wouldn't be doing this yet as a sibling would be here. ???? lucky it's only an additional 3.5 hours which I'm going to do at home on a Friday so I can take and pick up one day a week.

Loopyaboutmy2boys · 18/07/2015 07:42

Freckle I like barkings suggestion.

As for me, test yesterday was lighter line than previous days, and today it's even lighter and feeling cramps so it looks like this one is soon going to be over. Only 4+1 today, but had a shadow of a BFP last Sunday and proper bfps every day since Monday, so am feeling deflated. Had been on progesterone since Tuesday and clexane since Wednesday, but it's not worked. Feel broken. This is the 6th time and losing hope that we will ever succeed.

OneStep2015 · 18/07/2015 07:43

Good luck for your scan cloud xxx

OneStep2015 · 18/07/2015 07:44

barking spot on! Grin

girliesaints · 18/07/2015 07:45

Xposts. Good luck Cloud for the scan x

Loopy, big hugs. Not much I can say but hang in there x

bootles · 18/07/2015 07:47

cloud hand holding, how many weeks are you now?

loopy oh no..god this is just relentless for you. I really hope it's not as you fear. Big hugs and hand holding x

Marchgirl · 18/07/2015 07:53

So lovely to hear your happy ending belle, and happy happy 40th to your dp.

freckle, what an arsehole. I'm so Angry on your behalf that he's treated you that way. Completely unacceptable to leave you hanging. Such shitty timing as well coming on top of your bfn. Sorry you're in such a low place. I'm liking barking's email response. I hope he gets his come uppance

Marchgirl · 18/07/2015 07:57

Cross posts loopy, I'm so so sorry this is happening to you again. It's absolutely shit. I really thought this was your time. This is so unfair Sad

Marchgirl · 18/07/2015 07:58

Good luck for the scan today cloud. I'm willing you on, as we all are. I will wear my lucky socks for you today

sebsmummy1 · 18/07/2015 08:30

Oh Loopy you poor love. I can't believe it's happening again. Have they done anything investigative at all?

Good luck Cloud. Absolutely everything crossed for you and I totally understand the fear associated with planning. We have even stupidly talked about the study being turned into the nursery and the computer desk going into the second bedroom. We can't help but have hope, it's natural.

Flen · 18/07/2015 08:40

freckle I'm also loving barking's response!

loopy I'm so sorry to hear that, just gutting and such and headfuck. Hugs.

cloud thinking of you today.

Did someone on here mention ginger a little while ago? I always suffer from horrific morning sickness which has just started to kick in, waking me up at 4.30am last two days to be sick. Think someone said doing something specific with ginger had really helped, but can remember who or what...

sebsmummy1 · 18/07/2015 08:58

Flen ginger capsules helped when I was pregnant with my son. Otherwise you can buy crystallised ginger that is supposed to help with sea sickness (very similar to morning sickness)

I have had a bad stomach since yesterday evening. I don't know if it's the Prog pessaries or the pregnancy or both but everything is very volatile down there at the moment. I'm meant to be going out up lichen with a friend this lunchtime but I have the fear I'm going to be in and out the bog the whole time. Nightmare!!

sebsmummy1 · 18/07/2015 08:59

*going out to lunch

Kazz2112 · 18/07/2015 09:06

Hi flen. I suffer from travel sickness a lot. never really gotten as far as morning sickness sadly - yet. Bit i generally find anything ginger helps. Crystallised ginger, ginger nuts or ginger ale

girliesaints · 18/07/2015 09:22

Flen, I personally didn't find ginger helped me any more than eating something every few hours such as fruit etc. I did a bit of reading last pregnancy and according to medical opinion its your stomach being empty That causes morning sickness, particularly the gap over night whilst you're asleep. Hope you find something that helps x

Belleende · 18/07/2015 10:05

cloud have everything crossed for you. It can happen for you and everyday brings you closer.
loopy that sounds worrying, i am so sorrY. Six losses is a lot to contend with. I hope you are being well looked after.
flen ginger beer was my friend for a while, until it triggered indigestion, then gaviscon became my friend.

mrsb0710 · 18/07/2015 10:14

Had a really bad night last night, so it was lovely to read your post belle

loopy I am devastated for you. We're here for you, although I know that may not feel like much right now.

I'll catch up later ladies, had about 3 hours sleep and I need some caffeine.

Minnie74 · 18/07/2015 10:23

loopy I'm so so sorry you're having more worry. Really hope it's not what you fear.

cloud good luck with the scan. Handholding as always.

freckle your head is a tit! He should definitely have got back to you, it's just not on. Loving barking's letter idea! Sorry you're feeling so down too. You're so lovely and you really deserve to feel happy. Have everything crossed for you for next month.

belle your post was lovely. Gives a little hope too.

sebs hoping your lunch goes ok. I'm alternating the prog in the hope of avoiding a dodgy stomach!

flen the only thing that worked for me was travel sickness bands and even then I was still nauseous all the time, just not sick. They might stop you being woken up though.

Sorry for everyone struggling with the bfps. I was exactly the same last month and if this goes tits up, which I expect it to while we're on holiday next week, then I'll be back there too. It's so hard not to feel jealous, I struggle with it all the time. Natural reaction though I think. Really hope next month sees another flurry of bfps for you all.

No spotting here yet which I presume is the prog doing its job but i do have a constant pain in my right side so obviously worrying it's ectopic. My two early mcs have started with spotting at 5 weeks so next Saturday starts my danger zone, just as we go away. Trying to pretend I'm not pg until my scan and then if it happens I can try and think it was a late period. Hate MC for taking away any joy in being pg!

sebsmummy1 · 18/07/2015 10:30

Minnie I have everything crossed for you that this pregnancy will progress without any spotting or worrying twinges.

I too am convinced I will be holidaying in two weeks time knowing the pregnancy has ceased but with no time to book in the ERPC. If i do find out it's all over on Friday then im hoping I can continue to take the Progesterone over the holiday and everything will stay put till we get back and I can have the OP. If they try and force me into medical management while I'm away I don't know what the hell I'm going to do aside from cancel the holiday I suppose.

Marchgirl · 18/07/2015 11:03

Sorry to hear all of you worrying. The first 12 weeks are hellish. I've had lots of cramping too Minnie, and it's scary. I'm trying to assure myself it is totally normal, but it's hard to do that after everything we've been through.

flen, i know the sickness well and really feel for you. It seems like a right kick in the teeth to get it after all you've gone through to get here. My worst triggers were tiredness and an empty stomach. So make sure you get as much sleep as you can (hard when it's waking you up) and eat very regularly. I had to eat every hour to keep the sickness in check (spent many hours crying at the thought of having to put something else in my mouth). Some people find ginger helps. I think the thing someone mentioned was root ginger grated in hot water. If you are waking up in the night then keep some biscuits or crackers by your bed and eat as soon as you wake in the night or first thing in the morning. A friend of mine used to set an alarm to eat something in the night (i never did this as sleep was my only solace)
If it gets really bad, don't be scared to go to your doctor and ask for medication. Many medicines are very well used for sickness and considered safe. Big hugs x