Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

Great scan news!

Mine is on the 29th, the scanxiety is starting to set in...

Argh I've just pissed my sister off for trying to help her out with money for food as Mum told me yesterday that things were so tight she was struggling to buy things like fruit for her kids.

Of course she has just raged at my Mum (understandably) and I feel as though I've fucked up. It's so difficult to do nothing when you're told how bad a situation is. Plus we have apple and pear trees in the garden that give us a glut each year and growing strawberries is a piece of piss, so I thought I might give her some fruit at least but now think that will be seen as charity.

Can't do right for doing wrong and kicking myself for offering help when it wasn't asked for.

Oh sebs you were only trying to help. I have a really stressful relationship with my sister, despite being on cloud nine today, I know we need to have what will probably be a confrontational chat later. She openly dislikes my parenting with DS, but is happy to tell me she doesn't like things I do, even though a lot of my cues have come from her and her two older kids. I have never said anything to her about her parenting techniques so as you can imagine I feel inferior and constantly paranoid whenever the cousins get together. Have tried to put distance between us but she's bought that up today too. Would just like to be happy today.
I hope your sis realises you're trying to help x

cloud I am thinking of you, hugs for the wait until the 29th x

Big congratulations on tge posirive scans, scan ladies!!!

Whoop whoop on all the scans today Erica, Bear and Bootles! So pleased for you all.

flower hope your scan goes ok tomorrow and you can start your ivf. Good luck x

floweroct I had a scan on cd1, started injections on cd2 and had egg collection on cd14.

Great news for all the scans!

I've been off radar a bit on holiday but saw Dr S privately, had few more (v expensive!) blood tests his NHS clinic don't do & waiting for follow up now but he said he'd be willing to treat me as "seronegative" (blood tests normal) but presumed autoimmune miscarrier with steroids even if all normal... But doesn't go for heparin even for cryoprotective effect if thrombophilia stuff is normal.

I'm similar to you, Sasha - about 11DPO & have already done about 5 preg tests of different types... Ovulation tracking was weird - CB digi peak suddenly from lows on the Mon, spotting/mucus on the Wed & massive IC LH surge positive on Sat (which is when I guessed by usual cycle length) - so no idea what's going on...

Previously we've conceived first try three times & it was 2nd try for our DD - but now, Sod's Law, I have (nearly, no heparin, natch) All The Drugs I bet it will be ages...
(I realize lots of people have had fertility issues in their journeys too - so don't want to sound too smug/demanding - but I feel like I need a BFP that might stick break now!)

Glad scans gone well.

Fab news on the lovely scans bootles little and erica

sasha sorry you think you're out- bfn is crap crap crap. Could it just be a bit early? Did you say you never got a bfp till at least 13 dpo? Fingers crossed it's just a bit early. I'm cd4 today so be back on the ttc bus again soon-although since the scratch my ov has moved around so no idea when it'll be.

flower sorry you got af but all crossed for the IVF. Hope this is the one!

I'm pretty negative about getting pg again any time soon. We only have ever conceived if we've dtd early in the day (before 4!) on the first day of a peak on the monitor. Looking at dates I can't see how that will work with ds. We need it to drop on a nursery-when-we're-on-holiday day! Before he wakes up is out as he has ears like a bloody bat, and a three year old audience would def not be appreciated!

Hooray Erica. 3/3 now that's what I call a mighty fine day.

Feeling so down tonight.

Huraah for a hat Rick of good scans. Hope you ladies can relax for today anyway x

Onestep, big hugs. It's rotten when you're going through it xx

Thanks girlie can't stop crying, seems like an impossible journey that I'm on.

Onestep sorry to hear that you're having such a down day.msrnding big hugs. You will get there. It's not an impossible journey, your beautiful baby is waiting for you. Take care xx

Thanks so much fififolle guess my hormones are taking a dive to some deep depths today xx

Superb scan news bootles, little & erica, so happy for you all.

onestep hugs hugs hugs. It's so hard, and the only way out is through. You will get through this, and we're all here for you to cry, shout, scream, just whatever you need to get through the days until it starts to feel a little better. I'm sure you're in delayed shock from all the confusion and worries, on top of dealing with your loss.

Yes MrsC I think you're right - it's hit me like a steam roller today.
I'm torn I don't want to take any meds, I want to believe my body can do this on it's own, but then I feel I have no choice I've got to take the meds and horrible steroids. I can't be that genetically different from my sister with her twins and new baby girl!!??? The stress of the last 4 yrs, divorce, moving out of London after 10yrs, but then marrying man of my dreams and finally wanting to start a family and then all this I've just had it, I really have.

Glad to hear of good scan news
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Big hugs onestep, it's awful when it hits you. Please keep posting on here so you can offload all your feelings and we can support you. We're all walking with you to help you on your long journey out of this shitty dark place, so please don't ever feel alone. xxx

Thank you BumbleBee xx honestly you're all such a great help xxx

Onestep More hugs - do keep posting. You're not alone. It's a horrible unfair situation that all of us are in & the hormonal fluctuations really amplify things.
I've had scary dark thoughts at times & I'm not sure anyone around me 'in real life' really gets it.

Sorry for rushed posts earlier, where I left loads out. Been at work and now on a train home.

onestep sorry you are feeling so down. After each loss, it has taken me weeks (at least) before I felt anywhere resembling normal again. Your last loss is very very recent - you are still right in the thick of it. It does feel like an impossible journey sometimes, I know, but I really feel you have a very good chance of getting there. Big hugs xx

flower wow everything everything crossed for your ivf - sending you all the good sticky bean vibes.

sasha sorry about the bfn, it's always just so gutting. Hoping there's still a chance and it's just too early.

minnie early hours of the morning/just past midnight may fit? Exhausting though...

morgan sounds like you have everything covered, that's really good.

Sorry for sister issues sebs and erica..sebs in time I'm sure she will see you were only trying to help.

Still reading back properly..

excellent scan news!

Gosh you're all so lovely. Wish I could give you all a great big group hug!! Thanks so much, helps to talk on here. Xxx