Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Marchgirl]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

Sorry. How very self absorbed. Meant to say sorry af is so heavy freckle and hope yours arrives soon spartacus and minnie (or that you get a nice bfp surprise)
Hope you're doing ok this morning onestep. Are they doing repeat bloods?

Hope you've had no more spotting sebs

I think the ceremony sounds lovely inamay. I do feel a bit sad that 3 of mine (soon to be 4) have gone down the toilet and the other went for testing

Not self absorbed at all March.
I've had the same with DH asking me what's wrong at various points (whether mc or another failed fertility treatment) when to me it's a bloody stupid question and how is he managing to not have it at the forefront of his mind all the time?!?!

freckle AF sounds hideous. I have very little bleeding usually, but that's always worried me from a ttc perspective as there can't be much womb lining if that's all that's coming out each cycle...

Big hugs march. Not self absorbed at all. Men! I think partly they are a bit useless but partly shit scared about how to deal with it. I hope you will feel a little better now the bleeding has started. I know the prog come down is only part of how you're feeling at the moment, but I hope you'll be through the worst of that bit soon. Thinking of you Xxx

Hugs march, you are going through the mill at the moment, don't be hard on yourself. I've also had the same with dp asking what's wrong at times when it's very obvious. Maddening. I agree that they are often scared, and worried about what to say. Hope your day at work goes OK, sending you virtual hugs and strength x

cat how was the night? Any progress?

Oh March, massive hugs and men are generally rubbish at times like these (mine is in the dog house again today) hope when it happens it passes quickly and you can then start to think about what's next. Feel free to moan away on here as much as you like x

freckle I meant resting, not testing - nonsensical.
Your Prof sounds lovely. I am interested in your BHcg vs progesterone discussion, as I ended up choosing not to take both - would you mind relating what he said? Sorry, to ask and no pressure. Hope AF has calmed down. I haven't read it starts with the egg, in part because I think it would make me even more paranoid about what to avoid. Sounds interesting but hard to follow a plan that involves avoiding plastic etc..

Huge hugs march. Hope is over quickly for you and not too much cramping.

Not self absorbed at all - I think because it's not the man's body that it's happening to, that they find it easier to switch off from it and not to think about it every waking minute, hence the dubious questions sometimes!

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Massive hugs March, so sorry

Brummie I decided ages ago that everything I touch turns to shit soon after, do it's nice to hear the February thread has gone rogue without any involvement from me whatsoever . Personally I think the early months of any of the antenatal threads are pretty grim. I can remember the first Sept thread I was part of two years ago, the attitude of the women who were having no problems to the girls who were miscarrying was horrific. Then of course I lost my pregnancy too and was never so pleased to hide a thread.

Well my spotting does seem to have subsided but I'm ready for it to come back at any point. Like I said I'm holding my breath for the scan and hoping it might provide some light in a sea of darkness. My main concern is my gestation wouldn't necessarily make a heart beat be seen but my numbers should be high enough to make no heartbeat a real worry. If it was up to me I would wait to be scanned but I'm just going along with everything they say at the moment.

minnie do you usually cramp quite far in advance of your period? Mine (the cramping) sometimes starts as early as 6 or 7 dpo, which makes me wonder what the hell is going on in there. Especially as I do not really get any pain during my period. Have you ever asked your doc about it? (There is no point in asking mine - he has made it very clear he does not like to speculate, which I understand, but sometimes speculation is fun!)

How was the night cat? I knew my baby was on her way when I found myself on hands and knees scrubbing the loo spotless between contractions (I do not usually clean) and then going to the corner shop to get a thick crust frozen pizza, cooking and scoffing the lot (I do not eat carbs, except cake and loathe thick crust). Baby wanted me to carb load, you see!

onestep let us know how you get on with the blood tests. I hope you are as ok as you can be.

Hugs to you, March.

Brummie I think I would definitely miss that bus, although clearly describing it as "scary" (per the lady on the antenatal thread) is rather OTT. Could you maybe have miscounted and need to join the March one instead ?

Sebs I don't think I had any symptoms at all with DD2 and she was a perfect, easy pregnancy. Roll on Friday and that scan. I've got everything crossed for you.

Sebs and Spartacus I am truly shocked at the attitude of some women who have never experienced miscarriage towards those who have.

I don't give a shit if it's fear, wait until you see blood when you wipe and then come back to me and talk to me about fear. I truly am shocked and actually disgusted with some attitudes.

Rant over

March you are really going through it at the moment, you rant all you need to.

Cat thinking of you!!!!

Morning ladies! Baby Louis was born at 3.35am weighing 6lbs 12oz. We're all doing well.

Thanks so much to all of you for being so kind and supportive. One day I know you'll all hold your rainbow babies too!

XxX

Woo hoo, Cat! Congratulations!

Cat, great news, congratulations on baby Louis!

Woohoo cat totally totally thrilled for you!!! Congratulations- enjoy the snuggles!

Awwww congratulations Cat

Gorgeous name, was on my list along with Louie. Look forward to seeing a photo on the photo thread xx

march big hugs sweetheart. Most men just don't know what to say in any kind of emotional situation. I know mine is scared of saying the wrong thing so never says anything. Rant away on here and use him for hugs! Xxx

Congratulations cat!!! Welcome to the world little Louis-kit. I didn't think I'd be updating the baby list for the next thread. What lovely news. Hope your dh made it in for the birth. Enjoy your snuggles and we'll done for making it through to the other side. Xxx

Woohoo! Congratulations Cat awesome news! Huge hugs to your new and shiny family :)
I told DH yesterday to man up and to try speaking to me as a human being - I pointed out that if one I the kids spoke to him in that way he'd be furious. When I got up this morning he'd got up at three and cleaned the whole house in way of apology! I do think that men are from Mars, women are from Venus is really true, funny onions that they are!

Great news cat, huge congratulations. Lovely name, too.

Wow, congratulations Cat and MrCat, you've done it!! Welcome to the world little Louis! xxx

Congratulations Cat! Enjoy these most precious early days.

Thanks everyone for your lovely comments on my plant burial thingy. I feel privileged we were able to do it this time. Last time I mc too early and I think baby didn't really develop so there was nothing recognisable. I did make the Dr at the IVF clinic check thoroughly.

Me and DH are still off work today. DS is at nursery as usual. We're trying to keep occupied by doing house jobs but we both burst into tears a few times yesterday so I'm glad we're not at work and have understanding employers.

I'm just wondering who do you tell about your miscarriages? Have you been open about it from the start, or only after having more than one. I told a few people last time and want to be more open now, so that people can (hopefully) respond appropriately, and because I want to help break down the taboo.

Fantastic new cat !!!!!! After such a long and difficult battle you finally hhave your baby, and I am absolutely thrilled for you. For some reason I thought it may have been a little longer before we had news so that was a brilliant post to read. Hope DH made if, and hope the birth went OK. Enjoy every minute xxxx. look at that I finally discovered the emoticons.

Also, lovely name. Welcome to the world Louis x