Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Marchgirl]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

No, The epu were pretty useless in that respect. They said my gp would give me a list of counselling services, which they did, but the one they suggested was a church run one, which just isn't me. And it was all just kind of help yourself rather than getting anything booked for me or a referral. I'm going to phone the eap back on Thursday when I'm off work and get some booked. I think I can get 6 sessions. Was really hoping not to need more counselling but hope is just gradually escaping me and is replaced by anxiety and stress, so going to have to do something as I can't go on feeling like this.

March, ugh! I think me in a church run mc counselling service would go nuclear (problem of evil, anyone?!)! Hope you find one that suits you better.

Ooo. Good luck cat, great that your little kitten is on the way.

onestep, sorry it's all so confusing but glad you had a good epu experience and that they are monitoring you.

fwiw, I found cognitive hypnotherapy really helped me last summer. x

Onestep still a headfuck then? I had a suspected ectopic which turned out to be a blighted ovum. If my dick of a consultant had got his way I'd be a tube short now. My advice is to try and avoid any second guessing from medics. Good luck with getting some clarity, and sorry there isn't a pregnancy there.

Cat, exciting times! Tbh kitten will come when he's ready. Easier said than done, I know! I did everything I could think of to shift things along a bit. If I was giving advice to me I'd say rest up for the hard work ahead.

March I was told by my counsellor that if you're right in the middle of a crisis it's not a good time to have counselling and it's best to start it after the crisis period. Maybe this is why they want you to call back. In the meantime, I would call them again if you need someone to talk to EAP schemes vary in their effectiveness but most will offer some support in a crisis. Thinking of you lots and sending long armed hugs (think of a blonde Mr Tickle)

Thanks tanny. That makes sense. I just wish she'd said that! I'm thinking of mr tickle . I know this is the prog come down but it takes me by surprise each month even though I'm prepared for it.

I am not superstitious at all, but I saw two magpies together this morning. Last month I saw lots and lots of singular magpies to the extent where I started shouting at them "where are all your friends?!". I don't even know why I'm saying this, it is utterly ridiculous.

How exciting Cat
Brisk walking, scrubbing the floor, also get DH to rub that fleshy bit round your achilis heel (might be best to google) as its meant to stimulate the uterus and encourage contractions. Also agree with Just about moving your pelvis. Good luck x

Tomcat, my first mc at 6.5wks was immediately after an my 3rd early transvaginal scan at Stoke Mandeville EPU. The first two early scan had not caused me any pain, no pregnancy was visible. The third scan was very painful for me and I miscarried almost immediately after leaving the EPU building. I too have been left thinking ever since what did they do to me, did they cause it? The sonographer today as previous sonographers have also explained to me that with the transvaginal, they don't go near the cervix, so well away from any pregnancy, that it's most probably likely that a miscarriage is going to happen and that the scan disturbed some kind of clot that had formed before the miscarriage. Anyway the word transvaginal just fills me with absolute dread, but it was fine this morning.

Sorry it was inconclusive One Step, that's really cruel. Good that they are monitoring you though. Rest up and be kind to yourself. Amazing that you were in and out so quickly. I once sat there for two
I already knew I was going to mc that one I think - I never thought they'd caused it, but I just didn't understand how they hadn't spotted that I was mc'ing. It was an external scan, not trans-vaginal (they found a hb without having to do that) but I could't help but wonder if they'd done the trans-vaginal then would they have noticed my cervix was opening and then not give me false hope for those few hours. As I was spotting and cramping at that point, I'd thought they would check me out on the inside too. I also had a urine infection round that time that had gone untreated for a few days (don't get me started on that), but part of me prefers to think that was the cause, especially as we had a 'healthy' scan.
Good news on the EAP counselling march. I'm still waiting for a call back from mine. It was very hard to keep my voice from shaking when I spoke to them yesterday morning and I am not mid-crisis, so not surprised by your meltdown. I don't really know what to expect from them but I'm hopeful that it is at least something which is better than nothing. Definitely call them back.
Thanks for replies about cycle change after mc. Still feel stupid for not testing earlier but we'll dtd tonight and hope for the best. Always hoping for something...

Cat oh my word how exciting - kitty cat is on the way !!!!! Can't wait to hear your announcement

Cheesy that's most definitely a line! Whit woo !! Got everything crossed for you.

Minnie gutted about the bfn, but remember mine was a late one

Onestep so sorry things aren't clear for you. It must be agonising.

March and. Tom my employee assistance really helped me, but my colleague sadly lost her fiancé in a axe crash crash recently and she got in touch with them and they told her to give them a call back. Apparently the middle of the crisis is worst - it's the aftermath they want to help you with.

Doesn't mean much I know.

Feeling rough today so nausea has come back. I'm grateful to feel shit - this waiting is agony and I'm scared to death

Thanks lovely ladies. I'm doing a bit of rest and a bit of work. Been for a walk and just cooked a giant chilli con carnie for the freezer.

I hope DH is going to be well enough to come with to hospital when it is business end but he's very limpy from his op and can't drive so might have to call in my mum

Sending you all hugs and am sorry for the me posts. X

Don't be silly Cat this is your time! You've been through the mill to get here and we are holding your hand!

It's all very exciting!

Come on little kitty we can't wait to hear all about you

Good luck Cat. X

Ooh good luck cat!

cheesy congrats that's definitely a line

minnie sorry about bfn but it is still quite early so fingers crossed af doesn't appear!

onestep glad they looked after you well sorry you're still in limbo though

I'm somewhere between 9dpo and 11dpo today but plan to test on Thursday. If I'm out then it's time to start my ivf injections eek!

Cheesy whispering congratulations to you, what news!

Cat, can't wait to hear, and I hope it's not too long for you xxx

Quick stop to say good luck to cat. I agree with tanny, rest up. Ds was born at 42 weeks and I did everything to hurry things up - nothing worked. Walking and cooking sound good though. Really hope your DH makes it....

Congratulations cheesy

Sorry you're left in limbo onestep

March not suprised you had a meltdown, hope they're more useful when you call back.

Unless everyone has stopped using emoticons, they're not showing up on my app?!

cat very exciting, it's finally your time!

Ooh cat - go girl! Hope you aren't kept waiting for too much longer!!! x

Goodluck cat** - hope you have a good birth and kitty comes soon!

I found you again! I completely lost you until Flower sent me the link! How's everyone doing?

Ha ha! Hello boozle lovely!

Good luck cat!!

boozle I changed to cheesy as there's another flower so it was getting confusing.