Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 21 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[Justonemoretime]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

A very quick question, did anyone get painful boobs when starting taking progesterone?

Argh phone ate post!

flen I don't know about progesterone symptoms but it might make sense, given how sore boobs often appear with riding hormones in early pregnancy? When I was pregnant whole breastfeeding, it hurt like billy-oh which I presumed was due to hormones.

I've just read your latest blog post and wanted to say how spot on it is - beautiful and moving words with amazing pictures. Thank you. Your stones idea really resonates with me (I tend to pick them up on walks, beaches, hills...), or maybe wooden stars tied to the tree where MIL is buried (natural burial site). It's really important to me to mark these losses and not let them fade into the jumble of a busy life (not that the pain is fading yet but I'm sure someday it will).

Just popping in quickly - flen - didn't get sore boobs with the progesterone, just when pg.... what cycle day are you on?

Will read back properly later. x

Wasdy not at all. We've realised fairly early on in our journey that we probably will never make it to 2. We are actually hopeful we'd get twins

Of course that is wishful thinking!! But making babies is one the hardest most draining things I've ever had to do and soon we will be on attempt number 4!!!!!

All the people that say "oh but think of all the fun you'll have trying" I just want to say "jog the fuck on and mind your own business"

Making babies has been agonising and traumatic as hell.

Sasha I completely get what you are saying. I've been so naive with all 3 of my pregnancies.

First one. Mc's happen to other people and I though it wouldn't happen to me.

2nd one. Well I've had "my mc" surely attempt number 2 will be ok. Nope.

Really unhelpful GP who refused to test after 2 as the policy of Birmingham Women's Hospital is no testing before 3, doesn't matter how old you are. I was told that recurrent miscarriage is really rare so I had an excellent chance with attempt number 3.

Yeah look how that one worked out...

I'm now under Worcester as moved whilst pregnant with number. 3 and was told because of my age, Worcester would've tested me after 2....

Hhm - not sure I made much sense in that last post. I have only taken progesterone in the pregnancy in which I had a very early mc. I took it for a week and didn't get sore boobs. Did get sore boobs in the pgs that progressed to 7 ish weeks though...

MrsC thank you, it was a tough one to write. I certainly know that I wasnt ready to do that for a long while, until a week ago in fact! It felt like the right thing to do for me. And not that the pain goes away, it doesn't. But I am glad I did something with that pain.

sun I am 9 DPO, but boobs have become slightly sensitive/tender since taking the progesterone. But that's exactly why I'm asking!

just hope you're bearing up ok.

allthereis sorry you find yourself here .

minnie good luck for tomorrow, I found it helpful to take a list of questions with me, and a pen to write everything down as you will forget by the time you walk out!

flen yes, I was quite tender on the progesterone.

I'm still confused about when I can have the nk cells biopsy given my short LP means I'll be bleeding on the date they would book me in. Need to call tomorrow and see what they say.

Oh and minnie I recorded my appointment with the RMC consultant on my phone! Helped me to remember what he'd said and check it afterwards if I needed to. I also took a list of questions in with me.

Thanks barking, trying to keep expectations in check...

And barking sounds like a conversation with them is going to be the most useful thing. They might have a straightforward response...

xpost with loads of people!

brummie I always used to see myself with loads of kids. Now I desperately, desperately want just one.

I wish I could just keep trying and play the odds, but over three years of trying has never resulted in a natural pregnancy, and more trying will now cost us thousands of pounds in IVF. It's so hard to decide whether it's worth the gamble. It's such a lot of money to throw at something that has such low odds of working anyway.

Sasha, don't apologise, we are all on our own journeys. Even though I have felt like Brummie has about age gap talk, its still terribly hard to feel the future you planned seem to slip away, and we empathise, even if sympathy is a little more difficult.
I hope this won't offend, but the comment about Job made me think of this post I wrote ages ago. Mega over-think on my part, but may resonate with some: justonemoretimeagain.wordpress.com/2014/07/02/218/

justonemoretimeagain.wordpress.com/2014/07/02/218/

Thanks everyone for the help. I've made a list of questions and written dates and things. Getting nervous now and worried I might cry and look a bit pathetic though. mrsc you must be dhs dream woman- he loves a good spreadsheet!

Flen, progesterone always gave me mega sore boobs

Good luck for tomorrow, minnie. Let us know how it goes.

Am off to Liverpool tomorrow to get all the initial results from there so will update as soon as.

Enjoying a little bonus as not at work tomorrow! X

Yes a special hug to those ttc number 1. This is a shitty journey for all of us but I know I wouldn't be coping at all well if I didn't have dd and that it's a different thing entirely to wonder if you'll ever be a mum .

Looking forward to catching up with all the blogs but think it's bedtime for me now.

Just how are you doing?

brummie how was your night?

Brummie agonising and traumatic sounds about right. And as for having fun trying - pass me the sick bucket. My libido is so low at the moment from sex becoming so un-spontaneous and tinged with loss, that if I was the man in our relationship I definitely wouldn't be able to get a boner!

flen, just and sasha from what I've seen your blogs are amazing and very well written. I will take time to read them properly soon. I laughed when I saw what you wrote about Kate Middelton sasha. I literally can't stand to see pics of her. I thought she was ok before she started getting pregnant every 5 minutes! I bet she had to have all the fertility investigations before she got married seeing as she only had the one job!

MrsConfusion I'm sorry to hear you've had ectopic surgery. I was 'lucky' in that mine was treated with methotrexate. Still one of the hardest times of my life though.

barking you've had such a rough time, I've got everything crossed for you that your luck will change soon.

pop and minnie good luck with your appointments and pop enjoy the

Thanks Sasha x

Sasha your blog is lovely, it sums up exactly how I'm feeling but in a much more eloquent way than I can achieve. I've just sent the link on to DH.

Thanks wadsy. Totally agree on the 'have fun trying'. I made the mistake of telling DH we needed to have sex yesterday as I finally had a +opk (cd20 today). He went off on a little rant... He doesn't want to 'try' any more, he just wants to have sex because we want to. ttc sex sucks.

Yep I feel your pain ladies. DP doesn't rant or complain but he struggles to climax -

He didn't "finish" the job this morning and I didn't say anything because I didn't want to make it worse. But in a couple of weeks we'll be TTC and if he doesn't finish, we don't make babies.

But I can't say anything as that would make it 100 times worse.

My night was lovely thanks longest we went to a lovely little gastro pub near us. Drank wine and chatted about lots of stuff - was lovely.

I do worry though I'll never become a Mum. It haunts me I have to admit.

But I'm keeping going. I have to believe I will be as it's all I have

Wow. I go away from mn for one evening and there are tonnes of posts.

Welcome wadsy, sorry you have to be here but these ladies are great.

Good luck today minnie. I would second the above about writing everything down. Questions Before and answers at the appt. Also i would say make sure you're clear on what happens next and what you're level of care/contact will be after. Mine said they would support me in any future pregnancy but it turns out what she actually meant was that she wouldn't do a bloody thing, even when i phoned three times and emailed in that first frantic week of the next pg when i needed advice. So get specifics about how that 'support' works. Mine are not allowed to reply to emails so i waited a month for her to get back to me, by which time i was another mc down

Hey minnie**! Hope it's a good meeting today! Ask him if they'll ptescribe heparin injections for placenta growth. I didn't because at the time i thought it was for blood clotting.

I might not be on the thread much this week - it's moderation time.