Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 21 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Thank you all for the kind blog words.

I am having a completely horrible day - the kitten disappeared at 10 this morning and is not back yet. She has only been outside twice and with supervision, this time she escaped out the bedroom window at the front of the house (road side). I am beside myself with worry. Sorry - not what this thread is for I know!

brummie, sorry your colleagues are being insensitive. Again.

Barking. Depends what you are going to the acupuncture for (just cycles, or also for anxiety etc), how much it is (i go to a community clinic which is half the price, is there something like that locally you could consider? ) whether you generally enjoy it and whether you think it will stop you from switching off from the stressful process (might be better to get away from all that?) Is a hard one.
And it is absolutely possible for you to get pg naturally! Every man and his fucking dog seems to be at great pains to tell me how their friend tried for ages to get pg/had failed fertility treatment and it never happened until they gave up and relaxed and maybe i should just relax too then it would happen. Sick of bloody hearing about all these magical people ffs, so there must be some that exist.

Enlightened, sorry you've been having a shit time of it and hand holding for the scan tomorrow x

minnie, am very on your behalf about the appointment disaster. Hope they get their act together soon.

maverick, congrats on the bfp. You don't hang about! Totally understand the dread of a new pg. Wish I'd found this thread after mc2, as I was a total wreck in my next pg and the support would have helped. We're all here for you.

Jady, are you normally able to tell when you ov? if so, then take the progesterone from 7dpo. It's the first part of your cycle that will vary in length so this will cut out the confusion about what day to start. If you aren't able to pinpoint ov then I'd just take the average cycle length and adjust up or down from cd21

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Waves to all you lovely ladies

Sorry flen, cross posts. Hope you find the naughty little kitten soon x

maverick what a great start to the new thread. I'm whispering congratulations at you.

My tablet's doing strange things.

Anyway thanks for the new thread just.

34, dh 33, ttc no 2 since Oct '13. Ds 2 uncomplicated naive pregnancy.
Mc 1 natural April 14 @ 10 wks almost
Mc 2 erpc after failed natural Nov 14 @ days off 12 wks
Don't qualify for a nhs referral to e rmc clinic yet. GPS basic tests fine. Went to Coventry 5 weeks ago. Waiting for the results.

I just went for my first run since before D s. feeling proud. OkOk... it was running and walking but you have to start somewhere.

flen hope kitten turns up soon from its little adventure.

Woohoo Mavrick**!!!!
Have been lurking for a few days ad ds has had vom bug, which i subsequently caught (pop and minnie - good job i don't have your number because at 4pm today, vomming into a bucket in the kitchen and feeding ds his tea...i seriously would have called you! (Family and friends up in north east). Dh had to come home from work in the end.

Anybody else find that since having mc they just have no immunity what-so-ever? I had the summer vommiting virus 3 times last year and i get every cold going. Barking** you mentioned something about your cold being symptomatic, what did you mean?

Brummie**...you appologised for swearing, maybe i should watch my language on here? It's just such an effective pressure valve for my rage! Xxx

Flen**!!! I am panicking, keep me posted. She will have hidden and gone to sleep. Go out with an open tin of tuna is my advice. Prayer to st francis of assisi coming your way!

Christ no, don't do that freckle I love a good fucking swear something about this whole shitty situation brings it right out in me too.

Sorry about your vomming bug, that sounds appalling. It's the one time I'm pleased I have no dcs, I can't imagine having to look after someone else when I'm ill. I really hope you feel better soon

Congrats maverick - I missed that!

I'm sorry kitty is giving you worry flen I really hope he turns up soon

Brummie, Monten. They are fuckwits. That is all. Not a chuffing clue. I hope to god they never have to live in our world - I'm 27 weeks nearly and still daren't even think about it, never mind consider names or dare dream of Brixton hicks. Arseholes.

flen hope your kitten is home safe. Worrying on your behalf.

maverick congratulations! Great news!

freckle

enlightened all the best for tomorrow.

minnie so sorry you're still chasing things.

maverick huge congratulations (is this the first good newses of the thread?!) but totally understand your worries.

flen I want to know when the kitten returns. My cat is a nightmare - always disappearing, has a massive territory and no fear whatsoever. But I love her to bits.

freckle would be there in a flash if you need a helping hand. Our family live at the other end of the country so I know how difficult it can be. x

I have had another really low day. Went for what was supposed to be a relaxing walk in the Yorkshire dales with dh and I ended up breaking down in the middle of a field (this was after we got lost and wandered aimlessly round some boggy farmland for an hour! I don't handle being off the beaten track well at all - too much of a townie!)

Apart from all the obvious stuff about losing dd, we have have to collect dd's ashes from the bereavement office tomorrow so am just really, really fucking sad about everything again.

Pop big hugs xx

Flen I'm sure kitty will be ok , keep us posted.

March sums it up well. Yes, again. Knobheads - also partly why I applied for other job.

Maverick ding dong, that is fab news!!!!!!!

Good lord, another thread. I've been rubbish at keeping up to date recently, I think the pressure to TTC first cycle after Coventry and just generally trying again is causing anxiety and AIBU threads provide some escapism!
Me: 37, DH: 48
2 x DS, 4 x M/C
Diagnosed with gene for some clotting disorder but blood thinners still didn't stop M/C4.
Went to Coventry a couple of weeks ago, awaiting results. (Panicking that payment will come up on bank statement and mortgage company will refuse me... At the moment I can honestly say I have no reason to think my salary might go down though.)
Hope everyone is ok, or holding up.

Morning

Here are my stats

Me & DH 37, DD 4- straightforward pregnant

Ttc Since Jan 14, MCs feb 14, Apr 15, Sept 14. 6 month break due to referral delays. Tests all clear, so back ttc from this month. Also now signed up to Response trial.

March- missed you had also signed up.do you know there's a thread on here for ladies on the trial?

Flen- hope the kitten has turned up x

Waves at everyone else x

biscuits nothing shouting refuse this person a mortgage will show up on your bank statement! I agree about the ttc pressure post Coventry.

Well I'm having an interesting morning. I've taken the progesterone for 7 days now so today is test day to know whether to stop or not. I've managed to take an out of date cb plus test (exp march) and there is either an evaporation line or a faint positive. Dh thinks its nothing but can see the faint line. I've used a cheapie. Nothing. I dunno whether to go buy another test after nursery drop off, just take the progesterone another couple of days and test again at the weekend or what. Why is this never straightforward. I've kept my fmu so I could test later. I don't feel pregnant. Have slightly tender boobs and just feel like AF is on her way. Gaarrd. I've already been googling cyclogest and Chem pregnancies. Oh and dsis had a baby girl last night. Happy for them but my baby should be here soon too.

Sorry for the morning wibblings

Enlightened hand holding for today.
Maverick, tentative congratulations. Hand holding to you, too.
Flen, everything crossed the kitten returns. Gritty, real life bad baby news I can handle, but pets? I'm in kit form. I had to turn off the radio yesterday because of a story about dog that had somehow set its owner's kitchen on fire and died. I don't think its hormones, I always was a soft touch for animals.
Girlie hope you get some clarity later.
Brummie hope your colleagues are less hyper-twatish today.
Waves to all.

Sorry, not Girlie, although I do wish you well, but I meant Mrsdiddlydoo for good luck on the re-test.

Hi everyone, thank you for the support. We found her late last night. A fox emerged from a spot between two houses and then we heard a miaowing. The neighbours said that's where the fox sleeps so we think she maybe got stuck there hiding from it. I am SO RELIEVED. Yesterday was just awful. We are now all in bed together: OH, dog and cat!

Flen, I'm so relieved!

Oh no Flen, has kitty turned up yet? I remember the first day I got my kittens they literally had access to just the hall and bathroom and both disappeared. I searched that whole flat inside out, turned out they'd squeezed through an inch high hole under the bathroom sink pedestal then hidden under the lino. I remember the panic and dread though. I hope she turns up.

March I've bought another CBDH kit and will start that tomorrow. Didn't work last month, but only started day 12. Tomorrow is day 7 so fingers crossed I catch ovulation. Had no success in pinpointing it so far though.

Pop handholding for today. Do you have plans for the ashes?

Maverick a whispered congrats to you. Will be thinking and rooting for you.

Diddly fx on retest. Can imagine how crazy that must be. I mean surely it would stay blank if it detects nothing even if out of date. Keep us posted.

Ah so glad for you Flen. Sounds like clever kitty hiding from fox. There's been a lot of talk of fox and cats in my area recently with reports of one cat winning a fight and the fox having been seen limping away. But they can pick on little kitty's.

Maverick congrats, everything crossed for you

Mrsd well done on the run, and fingers crossed for the retest.

Flen so relieved to hear of the kitten's return!!

Pop thinking of you today.

freckle Apparently if you get flu like symptoms, sore throat etc after embryo transfer during ivf it can be a sign of immune problems. I've always suspected I had immune issues (previous non ttc medical history would back this up) which is why I'm kicking myself I didn't do coventry before iui or ivf. Anyway. Not much point beating myself up about it now.

Got really painful AF cramps and very heavy flow. Not helping with the hormones and general depression. You know when you feel really emotional, but it's kind of suppressed, and you feel like what you need is a good cry to release the tension but that's not happening naturally and you feel silly forcing it? Or is that just me...?

Barking, hugs. Can you watch a weepy film? I do that sometimes to let off steam. Actually I find comedy can be as effective. Try a stand up DVD? Hope you feel better soon.

maverick yeay! Everything crossed for you.

flen I have been reading thread with my heart in my mouth. So glad she is home safe.

mrs what a headfuck. I wouldn't be able to resist another test.

barking hope you find a release. Music does it for me but I might have to dig something out from my teenage days when everything was raw and angsty.

sebs your post yesterday was brave and sad. I hope you can forgive your body. I can empathise though. I have got increasingly cross at mine whereas after dd I felt strong and grateful, extra flab, stretch marks and all.
Hugs today pop. Hope you find something appropriate to do with the ashes.

Get well soon freckle. Agree sickness is the worst.

On way to diabetes midwife again. Some dodgy readings while I was away but they seem to have stabilised.