Great news bythesea, congratulations! Hope the panic settles a bit soon...
monten I guess that is as good an outcome as you could hope for from your GP... No well-meaning, but useless comments, but instead a referral to see a specialist.
baking That sounds so tough! Steroid side-effects are nasty and relentless, hope you'll get a good outcome from the EEG tomorrow and can start to reduce them! Good luck xxx
The appointment with the consultant last night was quite good. Although I was a bit 
when we started talking and he admitted that he had no information about me whatsoever - I had somehow assumed that he would have my file there and done some reading/preparation... But on the other hand, it was good to go through all my history with him there and then, me and DH telling him all about the miscarriages (and the healthy birth of DS) and him asking very specific questions. He was very matter-of-fact, but friendly and kind, going through everything.
His bottom line was that, in spite of my age and my history, I still have about a 70% chance of a successful pregnancy, but agreed that time is not on my side here. He never referred to 'bad luck' when discussing the chromosomal abnormalities of the last 2 mcs, but it was almost as if he was taking them out of the equation when looking at my prospects and options (rightly saying that there is really nothing we can do to prevent this from happening).
Unexpectedly, he really focussed on my first 2 miscarriages, the ones that were not investigated and for which we don't know the reasons. He didn't agree that they most likely also were caused by chromosomal abnormalities. And he really honed in on the fact that I have a massive uterine fibroid - this was discovered when I was pg with DS, but did not cause any issues at the time, and I have been told repeatedly that it would not have any effect on a pregnancy, due to its position. However, they can cause mcs, and he suggested that I get an MRI done to look at this in more detail. He will write to my GP, so that a referral can be arranged.
So all in all, it was quite a positive experience - he did not give me the impression that I am barking up the wrong tree, trying to get pg at my age, but was very straightforward and proactive.
I feel glad that I met with him - and I take back my rant about DH, he was very much 'there', asking questions and contributing! And as an extra bonus, it won't cost as much as I originally thought, as they had sent me a quote that included a scan apparently.
So the plan of action will be to get the MRI of my fibroid - who knows... I am not completely convinced that it will provide many insights or answers, but it's something that has not been looked at before and definitely worth exploring (even if it's just to tick another box!). I didn't expect any eye-opening revelations, but it was worth getting another opinion and feedback from an expert.
Sorry for the essay!