Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 16 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Justonemoretime]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Cat that sounds excellent, it's such a minefield. Technically it's 2 years before the 1 round of ivf here, but given they throw clomid at you first, and make you wait and wait between each appointment, it will be over 3 years by the time I get it anyway if I don't get a bfp with the iui (which I know I'm very lucky to have access to even if most women don't want to try it)!!
Good on you for talking to your mp and raising the issue. Sounds like campaigning as well as support is needed in your area. Good luck .

I'm fighting the urge to test early tomorrow.... otd is sat, I really don't want to face the iui failure and then cope at work, so sat is best. But I'm going mental anyway, so would it be best to put myself out of my misery?

Brummie we also said baby first then wedding, due not wanting to wait given our age. After 2 years of ttc and nothing we got married anyway.... As soon as we set a date I got pg, and would have been 7 months on the day if I hadn't mc. Very cheap wedding, but loads and loads of fun and still invited everyone we wanted there. You just have to decide what's important to you and ditch other people's expectations .

cat - good on you! What a great initiative to be involved with. It didn't even occur to me that there might be something like this in my area.

Urgh - thrush. You have my sympathies as a fellow sufferer longest

brummie my hubby is from wolves too hehe! There is a support group in b ' ham but not sure if there's anything in Worcester.

We had a nice wedding but it didn't cost that much. I had a high street wedding dress and we got married in a nice hall and park that's council owned.

barking I would wait if you can stand it. I really hope you get good news and it's good to know ivf funding is there if you need it. Where I live iui and clomid isn't provided. Very annoying! Xx

Meeting went well by the way. I have lots to do now, will keep you all informed!

Glad it went well cat, I'm originally from wolves live in wales now though!

Small world flower we live on south staffs boarder, very close to Wolverhampton. Id much rather live in Wales though. Do plan to escape to the country one day!!!

The Bham meetings are at Heartlands & QE and no there is nothing in Worcester.

I do actually work in Bham so they'd be easy to go to - not found the courage yet if I'm honest.

We tried to buy in Codsall (which of course is South Staffs!) but had 3 houses fall through which was gutting. So we sacked off Wolves and moved to Worcestershire. As a southern gal I had no affiliation to anywhere but DP is a bit sad that we couldn't find anywhere in his beloved Wolves.

We might have to do a Midlands meet up as we couldn't do the London one!!!

A Midlands meet up would be great! We live near wombourne sure your dh will know there as you looked at Codsall. X

woo hoo twilight fab news. I haven't been brave enough to buy any books, feels a bit too late now! Hope you bought the shop.
cat that sounds like a really positive and proactive step. Lucky brummie ladies.
Got mortgage offer today, so looks like project new life is still on track. I suppose I need to start facing reality!

Fab news on the mortgage belle! Does that mean your sale is back on track?

Great news belle things are coming together!!! Hope your sale can go through now

Had a dreadful night btw ladies, loads of horrible dreams. I'm already feeling my 20 week Scanxiety and it's not until the 16th. Does it ever get easier? I'm beginning to think not haha!

Got a plasterer and a sparky coming in on Friday to work on the 3rd bedroom. It feels like I'm tempting fate but I know we need to press on as there is so much to do.

Sorry to be pity me but what we wouldn't all give to just have a normal journey and not know all this stress!!! X

Cat, I also had a crazy dream night last night, typical anxiety, being late for things, rushing but not achieving things etc. I think its normal :/

Good news on the mortgage, Belle!

Got my armpit scan later, and its snowing again. Could do without that combo!!

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Great news on the mortgage and house move belle
Good luck with the armpit scan just. Hope you make it there alright.
I've been having weird bad dreams as well. Just not sleeping well at all and waking up scared. It's horrible.
Glad you are starting to get the 3rd bedroom sorted cat (not ready to say the 'n' word yet I take it). Time really drags waiting for scans. Good to have something to keep you busy

I third the bad sleep. Disrupted nights, hours of awake. It's hard to soothe the anxiety in the wee small hours. I have been using a sleep thing - Andrew johnson's "deep sleep". It helps.

Good news in the mortgage belle, hope this means it can all go ahead.

Good luck today with the armpit just, really hope it all turns out ok.

barking having just been through the turmoil of testing, I'd wait if you can. Early testing can create more anxiety rather than less if it's negative, I think. But we've all been there and unable to resist...!

cat I tend to get anxious in the build up to a milestone. Has been better since the 20 week scan though. Hope you find it a breakthrough in terms of stress levels too.

Good luck today just.

My couple of hours off did me good. Might schedule a couple more. Work owe me as tgey keep making me come in on my day off.

More nightmares combined with very little overall sleep here!!! I resisted this morning. Not sure I'll be able to resist tomorrow, but got lots on at work, two big meetings. If I find out the iui has failed, work will be hideous.

Great news on the mortgage, belle! Something to distract you

I am now well and truly on the way to crazy land... My temp is still sky-high, in fact notched up again today. At the same time, I feel heavy and bloated, like I do when af is imminent... Right now, I feel physically sick with anxiety. And yet I really don't want to test until the weekend, argh! Can I have a fish-slap, please?!

I can't oblige with the fish slap as it would be hypocritical because I need one too! I broke and tested this morning and bfn. Completely as expected as I'm only 11dpo and it was an ic. At least it helps me start to prepare myself that it might not happen this month.

High temp is Good and cramps are a possible symptom cloud.

Fingers crossed for both of you cloud and Barking

Yay twilight

Good news belle

Good luck just

cat It's really difficult, I'm so envious of women who actually look forward to scans

Crossing everything for you barking and cloud

I have been made to rest until my results come back so off work and driving myself crazy, hopefully results will be back after 2

Waves to everyone else

Fingers crossed for you too march

Just wanted to pop in annd say im thinking about you all - i havent been lurking and i darent read through as my panic is at fever pitch at the moment so im just keeping my head firmly and deeply in the sand. Hopefully my sanity will return at some point and ill pop back again.

Good luck testing and hope you retain more sanity than me. I did 3 Internet cheapies yesterday and one this morning, as if the first bfn was going to change

Sounds like it was a bad night for lots of us. Mine was dreadful. Tossing and turning until 2.30 and awake ever since. I actually think I am back to a really heightened anxiety state and will talk to my midwife today about antenatal depression. I'm having all sorts of negative and black thoughts, have been crying uncontrollably, not regulating my breathing and my pulse is racing. All in all, not a happy bunny.

Apparently I have a lot of predisposition indicators, past MCs being a biggie.

Anyway...