Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 16 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Thanks tanny
P.s I didn't realise how far along you are (I saw the other day on a post), not long to go now til you have a gorgeous newborn in your arms. Looking forward to hearing of the new arrival and name, weight etc in the very near future.

Thanks for the new thread!

Me: 43
DH: 45
1 DS, 3.5 years, totally uncomplicated pregnancy - Ttc no.2 since summer 2012
MC 1 Jan 2013, discovered at 10 weeks, ERPC
MC 2 April 2013, discovered at 8 weeks, natural management
MC 3 August 2013, discovered at 8 weeks, semi-medical management (got the first round of drugs, which kicked everything off, didn't have to do the rest), trisomy 2
MC 4 April 2014, discovered at 17 weeks, medical management, trisomy 18

Got a consultant appointment on the 28th to discuss our situation. I'm wondering how much more ttc I have in me... both in terms of emotions as well as in terms of age

Hi there. Two quick questions. I have a meeting with my manager Tues, the aims of which are twofold.

1. to discuss the fact that I've breached my Bradford index. I've calculated it myself and in order to have breached they must've taken in to consideration two periods of two days I took for MC number 4 and my subseptate op. I suspect they're going to be supportive but just so I go in with the right info where do I stand with this? I've alerted occupational health to rmc already.

2. I suspect they're also going to ask about any flexible working hours I need (I.e reduced hours, working from home). I know we discussed the stress issue briefly yesterday. What do people think - my job is quite stressful (HCP in NHS). Do you think this is worth thinking about or is it a bit neurotic? Anyone else reduced their hours or anything?

Twilight the rmcs should count as pregnancy related sickness and not count towards your sickness record, though I don't know about the op.

Tricky one about hours. I worked full time with dd and was fine but my job is office based and I did one day from home. What is your commute like? Mine isn't too bad but it was still nice to have one day a week avoiding it. This time I am part time anyway. I think a standing job would be very different. Maybe see what the teachers on the thread say.

flower I had stopped bleeding 3-4 weeks after my last mc but hcg still high. I drank raspberry leaf tea and the bleeding started again. Worth a try, it can't do any harm.

twilight I quit teaching last summer and took an office job purely to reduce stress and make appointments less of a hassle. I'm not working long hours at home during evenings and weekends anymore and I'm definitely more relaxed. For me, I had to know I'd tried absolutely everything when we gave it our last shot. I have fertility issues on top of the mc's though, so it was the prospect of balancing more fertility treatments with being in the classroom that swayed my decision.

twilight Agree with longest, any mc-related absences should count as pregnancy-related illness and therefore not count towards your 'normal' sickness leave. Your work should really know this. I guess that honesty is your best option there, laying all cards on the table about your mcs - I guess that if they want to see proof, that shouldn't be a problem. I also think that the op will be counted as 'normal' illness, though, as this is not directly pg-related. Good luck, and don't let them fob you off.
I also think that if you think that reducing your hours would be beneficial for you and you can afford it, do it - regardless of stress affecting ttc, maybe think more about how stress affects you. I have often thought that I would like to go part-time, not so much because I think I can't otherwise cope, but because I sometimes think that it would help my general state of mind and overall well-being (if that makes any sense). You could always ask for a trial-period, then meet with work after maybe 6 months or so to discuss how you both feel about it... Just an idea!

BTW, here are my lucky socks... All ready for my growth scan tomorrow...

Brilliant tiny! Good luck tomorrow

Thanks barking I think I'll get some tomorrow and give it a try. (sorry to sound so soppy but) I've read some of your recent posts and will be thinking of you and hoping everything goes to plan for you this year.

Good luck tomorrow tiny, I've added the lucky fox socks to my shopping list too!

Marking my place.

Me 37, DH 36
One Dd born 4 years ago today, conceived first month and straight forward pregnancy (oh I was naive)

Ttc since Jan 14,
One suspected. chemical Feb 14, at 5 wks
Apr 14 EPRC at 9 wks, measured 6
Sept 15 Natural MC at 11 wks, after HB seen at 6 wks

Currently awaiting consultant appointment on 26th March to get clotting etc results, although trying to get appointment brought forward after initial referral delay.

I'm off for a glass of wine as wiped out after birthday party for 30 x 4 year olds today.

Good luck tiny for tomorrow x

Tiny, good luck for tomorrow. x

awesome socks tiny.

Hope growth scan goes well tomorrow.
x

Loving the socks Tiny

Good luck tomorrow!! x

Awesome fox socks tiny! Hope it goes well tomorrow.

tiny good luck tomorrow! Loving the socks...

baking I'm thinking of you and your family. Very much hoping they soon find a cause of Faith's seizures, and very very much hoping the cause is one of the less serious ones. Biggest hand holds and hugs xxx

My stats:

Age 41, DP 47 - old is a bad start

1 gorgeous 3 year old (heading for 4) DS whom I am extremely grateful for.

MC's:

1. 2012, mmc, died at 7.5 weeks
2. 2013 tfmr at 13 weeks after bad 12 WK scan - chromosomes normal
3. 2014 mmc, anembryonic, T 22 - lost at 10 wks
4. 2014 mc at about 9 wks, after slow HB seen, slowly watched it die, chromosomes normal
5. 2014 mc at 9.5 wks after 2 good scans, looked fine, death at 9 wks

The last one was over Christmas, and am waiting for karyotyping results. Plan to TTC again in next cycle. Don't seem to be able to stop. St. Mary's tests all came back normal after mc 3. Then had no.4, after which I went to Coventry and was found to have high NK cells, was on prednisolone, progesterone, heparin, and after 2 good scans was a little hopeful. I'm now struggling to get my head round it all, and just struggling all round really.

When will you get the test results back bootles?

flowers thanks . I would say to drink it three times a day. I kept forgetting to drink it for a day and the bleeding slowed down, then I drank some and it started up again. It definitely made a difference.

Good luck tomorrow tiny.

Interestingly my bleeding had stopped ( yay! ) and finally DTD with DP (instigated by him, double yay!!) but since drinking the RLT yesterday my bleeding has ever so slightly come back on wiping ( not yay!)

Agonising on being on a forced break. I just want to be pregnant again. That said our appt is 5 weeks tomorrow and I haven't even had my first post mc AF yet.

Took test this morning, still positive but literally only just. It's a squint to see a very faint line but it's still there. So reckon I'll go to hospital on Wednesday for bloods. With only 5 wks until appt I need to get those bloods done this week

Thinking of baking and hope Faith is ok. We're all here for you sweetie xxxxx

Won't share all my stats right now but I am currently 16 weeks pregnant after ttc for 6 six years and two mcs.

Thanks for the new thread just. And love the foxy socks tiny!!

Marking place.

Stats: almost 34. Dh 32. Ds 23 months.
TTC 2 since Oct 13. Mc 1 April 14 @ almost 10 weeks. Mc 2 Nov 14 @ almost 12 weeks... Erpc. Bloods done by gp all fine. Back to TTC. This months efforts have failed. AF on her way... Trying to stay positive. So flipping hard.

Not been on here much since Spring and Summer last year, but try to read threads to see how everyone is... moves so fast though! 1 ds aged 5and a half after blissfully naive preg. I'm 40 in a month... no, in 2 weeks. 3 mcs.

1. At 7 wks, suddenly, at home
2. Anembryonic found at 12weeks, boxing day 2 years ago. Weeks waiting so asked for Mifo, sent home. Never doing that again.
3. Last March, hb at 7 weeks but slow, eprc after found to have stopped the following week.

referred to rm clinic with bloods etc, but they (and me) didn't feel was any underlying cause in my case as they were all so different. In last go ttc, took natural fertility clinic advice... shocked by bfp following month in November as had pretty much lost hope of it ever happening and currently approx 12 or 13 weeks along. Terrified. Harmony tests and 2 scans back with good results and saying its a girl. Taking nothing for granted at all. Much hope and support taken from other stories and comments on these threads. Thank you. This is last attempt, so... fingers crossed- for everyone this year. I too am absolutely saddened by the ever lovely baking's news. x

I think I must have missed your news previously betty, but congratulations. Glad all is going so well with this one. Wishing you a very boringly normal rest of pregnancy

Betty, great news and fingers crossed. I also did the Harmony and it gave me some hope too...

Morning ladies, found you all.

Here are my stats: Me 37, DP 40. TTC no. 1 since Apr '13. TFMR after Edwards Syndrome diagnosis at 12 wks Jan '14. MMC at 8 wks (baby measured 4/5wks) June '14. Testing found Trisomy 22. TTC since then with no luck.

I feel like a right fraud compared to some of your stories. to all of you.

baking I'm so so sorry to hear about Faith being poorly. This must be such a scary time for you and DH. I'm really hoping you are being well looked after by the hospital and you have some answers and an explanation soon. I'll be thinking of you.

Diddly sorry you reckon AF is on her way. It's so devastating, every time.

Love your blog flen. All of it, but particularly the 'at least you know you can make friends' one. So so true.

I'll add another - the fact that no one mentions the friend ever again. Like they never existed. I went round to brother's yesterday for family 'christmas' (we spent actual xmas apart). My mum was there too. As were their three kids, including the baby born a month before mine would have been. I felt his loss so keenly - we were sitting around exchanging presents and I just wanted to scream 'There's a baby missing!! I should have had my baby too'. And of course no one mentioned it. If someone had died and you were spending your first Christmas without them, people would talk about it. But no. My baby never existed to them so he doesn't warrant a mention. As it was I came home and threw things instead. Broke my hairbrush

Tiny good luck today for your growth scan. Love your socks. I might some, foxes you say?

Congratulations betty, that's great news. Do you mind me asking what natural fertility clinic you went to and what their advice was?