Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Oh, I take folic acid with vitamin d - superdrug/boots.

So sorry tanny you know we are here for you however off-topic your worry is. Take care of you and bump in the midst of dealing with it.

Glad the appointment went well longest hurrah for healthy heartbeats!

Good luck tomorrow cat and march you still deserve good wishes when it's just you being scanned - hope you get the news that your uterus is in tip top fettle.

(((Hugs))) for monten it's horrible when you are suddenly ambushed by grief like that. Hope you are ok.

Meant to say earlier flen, that's good news that you have your results and that there are no genetic issues. Although completely agree with your mixed feelings about the lack of diagnosis. Hopefully your next tests will give you something.
I was told if I had a positive for clotting bloods then they would want to test again in a few months. But I was thinking that if you 'accidentally' fell pregnant before the confirmation test then you've got to hope they would treat you with heparin and aspirin anyway as a precaution. The heparin isn't started until confirmed in utero anyway, so as long as they would still treat that, there's really just the scan to get out the way before you can TTC (unless you are doing Coventry) so I say go for it January!

Flen now you have said that you are bound to have a baby in December. It's called Sod's law haha!!!

Waving hi to all you lovely ladies.

It's my almost 12 week scan at the fertility clinic tomorrow and I am feeling pretty nervous. Also see my midwife tomorrow to book my nhs scan and blood tests, I'd put it off for as long as I could really! XxX

Good luck tomorrow Cat. Everything crossed for a good scan tomorrow. What time is your appointment?
Good luck with whatever you decide, Flen. If you think you'll get your prescription regardless, I'd start trying whenever the mood takes you.

Tabby- big hugs. See you when you're ready.

Longest- another milestone & fab news.

Molten- big hugs & from my earlier posts you'll see I'm having a similar crappy week.

In terms of my dilemma, most of my friends know except my friend with the baby as the later two MC happened in her pregnancy and i didn't want her to feel she couldn't get excited around me. Think I'm going to come up with an excuse why I can meet them early to see the baby and go straight to the restaurant. Feeling very annoyed as I always vowed I wouldn't let this define what I would/ wouldn't do, however I didn't anticipate my feelings x

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Sorry missed some posts! Great news longest and good luck march xxx

girlie I totally know what you mean about not letting it define who you are. But I also am a firm believer in being kind to yourself. There's is no 'should' in these situations, just what is right for you at the time. I hope you have a lovely night out.

That sounds like a good compromise girlie. At least you still get to meet up with all your friends but without having the upset beforehand. You can meet the little one at a later date when you are ready. I'm sure your friend will completely understand once she knows your situation. Big hugs. It's such a hard thing to deal with x

Wow this thread is fast. Apologies if I miss anyond out or get details wrong.
tiny and longest f

Arsing tablet just lost mega post. It is too early for this.
tiny and longest fab scan news. I hope you both have wonderfully relaxing christmases.
cat and purple I hope the runof good scan news gives you heart. Good luck for today will be thinking about you.
girlie I completely understand your drive not to let your mcs mean you can't feel joy for others, but we all have our breaking points. Mine was downstairs neighbour. She had the baby I was supposed to have in october, on my 40th birthday. It really felt like life rubbing it in. I only felt strong enough to meet him after I got pregnant again. Meet this baby on your own terms and in your own time.
morten that sucks, but you are wonderful for helping that lady despite your own pain. This time of year is particularly poignant and difficult, but 2015 is a new year with new possibilities.
I told my mum last night. She cried like a baby. I had first mc at home in ireland nearly three years ago, so it was all quite emotional. Roll on the holidays.

Hoping all scans go well today.
I'm full of cold and cannot wait for the end of term! I've had the all clear from prof Brosens to stop my meds so slightly nervous about that. I had my last heparin jab yesterday and it feels weird not to do it this morning. I'm reducing the cyclogest as I just don't have the nerve to just cut it off. The Prof says that's ok, but equally he said stopping it straight away would have been fine. Feels a bit like taking the stabilisers off...

Monten and Girlie, sorry you're going through emotional tough times. The scars that RMC leaves behind are difficult to come to terms with. ((hugs))

Good luck Purple & Cat for your scans today.

Bellende- bet you made your mum's year x

Right I've got my positive hat on today, day off today so off to town to start Xmas shopping as upto now haven't faced it

monten sorry I missed your post before - gosh I can imagine that was hard, and can utterly relate to you crying in your seat. How kind of you to help her. Hugs x

Good luck cat, keep us updated

Did someone else have a scan today?

just and other Coventry people, how much are you in contact with Prof Brosens? I updated him when I got bfp but haven't since. I thought I would wait until after my scan tomorrow (scared scared). Think I have been expecting it to go wrong from day 1 so have been reluctant to relay more positive news. Symptoms now clearly present despite the prednisolone, though they do feel milder than usual. Includes crying on buses (annoying) and I totally lost my rag (very unlike me) with an online supermarket person on the phone as they cancelled my Christmas food shop due to arrive on 23rd Dec, due to IT issues. Not important in the grand scheme of things I know.

monten I had a very similar baby ambush experience last night, a baby who was born around the time of m/c 3 which was also around the due date for m/c 2 - it's almost like being punched it feels so physical. Well done for still helping her out!

Good luck for scans today cat and purple

March yes, it's exactly the second lot of bloods if positive for antiphospholipid that I was worried about. Will discuss it today with them, but like you said, I was hoping that they would give treatment anyway if I get one positive blood test.

Thank you for good wishes just, think we will once OH gets over his nasty cold! Hope yours goes soon too.

monten just read your post. well done you for helping. one day it will be you, i am sure...

bootles not much, i told on BFP and emailed after the 8w scan (i think) and actually might email now that I am nearly 24w, just to keep them posted and thank them...

Bootles, I sent an email update after most scans and usually got a line back, also when I had some spotting he gave some advice. I wouldn't say its been regular detailed correspondence, but semi regular one line emails.
Re the emotional side, its important to remember that many RMC women are in a state of post traumatic shock so its not surprising we have triggers that set us off. Be kind to yourselves. ((hugs))

Just emailed them to let them know of yesterday's scan and both replied within half an hour to say congratulations

I sent a one line email to Coventry at 8,12 and 20 weeks after positive scans, and a birth announcement, and always got a pleasant reply. You've inspired me to send them a Christmas card and a photo!
Good luck for your scan bootles

Great news Tiny, sorry I missed your post yesterday.

My scan this morning went well. Baby measured 12+1 so is a week ahead!! I see midwife in half an hour to book nhs scan. It's taken 6 years to get to this moment and I'm basking in it!

XXX

woohoo Cat
So happy for you! Enjoy the moment - and buy some fox socks

Ah they are out of stock

www.marksandspencer.com/freshfeet-stripe-and-fox-print-ankle-high-socks-with-silver-technology-2-pair-pack/p/p22325687

My lucky ones are the ones with all the little foxes

Cat Fantastic!!

tanny So sorry to hear about your dad - take all the time you need and be kind to yourself.
(I swear my heart stopped for a second when I saw your opening line about dropping off the thread for a while! This is usually how mc news are announced...).

monten Sorry about the baby ambush - it's awful when that happens, and most people will not understand. I still struggle holding my friends' babies when we have a group meet, it's too hard.

I had the last of my free counselling sessions on Tuesday, and I have decided that I will ask for more, should I feel the need. They have been such a life-line, and I'm happy to pay for it in the future. Reckon I might need more once I've had the appointment with the consultant...

Tanny I'm having problems with my phone and can't see your post but just seen Cloud's. Sorry you're having a bad time. Hugs xxxx

Tiny fantastic socks . Socks that good are worth waiting for hehe!

Cloud counselling has really helped me and sometimes you need more time to get the full benefit. Don't be afraid to ask for more if you want them!

XxX