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Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Justonemoretime · 29/11/2014 17:38

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

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TinyTear · 17/12/2014 10:42

And BTW Just had the repeat scan. Face and lips all fine and heart too... Child still stubborn and although they could see the heart chambers it wasn't the best angle for a photo... Just had a coffee and cake and will hope she moves...

girliesaints · 17/12/2014 10:57

Brilliant news -Cloud & Just

Glad you got some answers Flen, or at least there was no reasons (if that makes sense)

My rubbish week continues in the unexpected invite to see my friend's new baby as part of a girlie meal planned on Saturday. My friend's baby was due around the time of the second MC and unfortunately represents the baby I don't have. Hadn't expected we would see the baby so hadn't got myself mentally prepared and would prefer to see them together on a 1:1 rather than in a larger group. I know I am being silly and the old me would have told me to get on with it but the me today is telling me not to go so I can avoid the pain. I was really looking forward to evening as well until today. Pants!

girliesaints · 17/12/2014 10:58

Sorry Tiny, missed you had another scan. Naughty mini-Tiny not behaving. Hope the cake & coffee worked x

Me2Me2 · 17/12/2014 11:11

likewise hope coffee & cake works tiny

Can I ask another question? For those taking vitamin D, what's your dosage?
Thanks

TinyTear · 17/12/2014 11:29

It worked, thanks. All seen at 23+4

I got given a weekly vitamin d by the consultant. Before I used to take boots own folic acid + vit d

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 12:18

Mine is 2000 IU daily.

bakingtins · 17/12/2014 12:34

Good news tiny glad tinier eventually cooperated.

girlie that's a tough one. Do that group know about your losses? I think I'd be tempted to cry off until you've had chance to meet your friend and baby one to one, all the cooing over a baby will be hard to avoid, then make sure the next group meet up is something you couldn't possibly bring a baby to. IME once you've got to know a friend's LO as a real individual it becomes easier to cope with, it's so clear they are not, in fact, your baby. Flowers

Flen · 17/12/2014 13:05

girlie I would TOTALLY cry off! Like baking says, easier to manage once you've met 1:1. I know I would not want to put myself through the extra pressure.

cloudjumper · 17/12/2014 13:35

girlie Don't go if you don't feel up for it. Send your friend a private message, telling her why and how you are feeling, if you think she will understand! If not, just say that you have a horrendous cold/flu and don't want to give it to the baby. You are totally entitled to miss that meet up! I have done this in the past for a baby shower of a friends, she was very understanding (had a mc herself).

tiny That's fab, you are more than half way now!

Purplefrogshoes · 17/12/2014 14:00

me2me2 I take 2400 vit d3

girlie I wouldn't go if you don't feel up to it

I'm stressing about my next scan already and it's not until 08/01 Blush haven't felt movement yet either to reassure me

Purplefrogshoes · 17/12/2014 14:01

Yay tiny

bythesea82 · 17/12/2014 14:24

Yey tiny and good work tiny-tiny on moving Wink

tannyLoo · 17/12/2014 15:08

I'm going to disappear for a bit. I found out today that my estranged father died a couple of days ago. It's complex and I'm in pieces, but just need to shut down for a few days. Keep all those bumps healthy... x

Marchgirl · 17/12/2014 15:11

Sorry to hear your sad news tanny. We'll see you back here when you're ready. Be kind to yourself x

longestlurkerever · 17/12/2014 15:16

Sorry to hear that Tanny. Big hugs.

Glad you had a good scan tiny.

Just waiting for my appointment now.

longestlurkerever · 17/12/2014 15:54

All good at 16 week appointment! She found hb straight away, said it was lovely and fast and I should be very optimistic from now on. Hurrah! Feels vaguely unreal but Grin

TinyTear · 17/12/2014 16:08

So sorry tanny
take care of yourself

Great news lurker

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Justonemoretime · 17/12/2014 16:23

Tanny, so sorry to hear this. Look after yourself and bump. xx
Tiny, glad mini-tiny cooperated in the end.
Longest, yay! And relax Smile

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Flen · 17/12/2014 16:49

Tanny many hugs to you. And a few more.

Purplefrogshoes · 17/12/2014 17:08

So sorry tanny hugs

Yay longest I have my 16 week appointment tomorrow(I was late to book so I'm 19 weeks) I hope she listens for hb

Marchgirl · 17/12/2014 17:53

That's great news longest! I remember you were almost 8 wks when I joined. So glad that you've got such positive words from the mw.
Good news on your other measurements too tiny.

This is going to be a good news year, I feel it.

bootles · 17/12/2014 17:55

Tanny so sorry to hear your news, that sounds like a complex emotional situation, Lots of hugs to you. Hope to see you back when you are ready. Take care xxx

Marchgirl · 17/12/2014 17:58

Hope scanxiety for tomorrow isn't too bad cat.
I've got my scan tomorrow too (unfortunately just of uterus not baby) so I'll be thinking of you. What time are you up?

Monten · 17/12/2014 18:00

I'm so sorry to hear that tanny. I hope you're okay and come back soon.

Congrats longest amazing news.

Can I share something that only you ladies (and the others on the ttc after a mc thread) will understand?

Context set: I'm 14 dpo and BFN yesterday so just waiting for af.

You know how you develop a radar for bumps as big as yours would have been or babies as old as yours would have been? Well my first baby would have been born in July, so five months by now. And I would have been spending my first Christmas with him. Well, I'm visiting my mum at the moment (spending Christmas with DP's family) and travelled down by train yesterday. As I was getting on there was the usual chaos and a woman on her own with a baby in a pram and loads of luggage. My radar noticed instantly that her baby was about 5 months. Obviously going home for Christmas with her new baby. She was struggling with all her stuff and no one was helping her so I offered (in my rubbish French, my mum lives in France). And she asked if I would hold the baby while she folded the pram and sorted the luggage. So there I was, on the train to see my mum, holding this gorgeous squishy baby in his snowsuit and it just hit me like a tonne of bricks. You know how sometimes it does? It was a real sliding doors moment. I cried in my seat. Sorry for coming on to post miserable things. I just knew no one else would understand (DP would think I was a loon) and it helps to write it down, you know how it does.

Masses of luck to anyone with scans coming up.

bootles · 17/12/2014 18:02

tiny that's great! So everything present and correct. Wonderful!

longest fantastic! Glad the MW listened for the HB to reassure you.

girlie I agree with everything everyone has said..don't put yourself through it if you don't feel up to it.

purple I bet that feels like a long time to wait. How many weeks now?

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