Pregnant and bleeding

[Worried22]

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and waiting in a walk in centre to see a GP. I have a thread in Pregnancy, but thought I might get more responses here.

I started bleeding a week ago, but today it's much heavier and red. I've got a splitting headache and my temps a bit high. The nurse said they can't do much, they don't scan here. I'm worried the GP is going to say the same and u just need to go home bleeding, not knowing what's going on.

Has anyone experience of this? Can I ask to have an internal, or a scan elsewhere, or go to the early pregnancy unti to be checked out? I don't know what to do, bit scared.

So sorry. Thinking of you xx

Because I've a scan already booked at the EPU on tues, they were happy with that. Bth I don't think they had any intention of scanning, my friend went to the same hospital and was never scanned, she ended up with retained tissue.

You poor thing - miscarriages are horrendous (I've had four).

It does sound as though the pregnancy has ended :( With luck, you won't need any medical intervention - I hope the scan is conclusive.

Very sad news, Worried.

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I can't imagine going through that four times, you poor thing. I keep picturing what I saw, it didn't look like a baby, the doctor said it was probably just cells

I haven't cried this afternoon, I feel numb. I've got a glass of wine, prob not the best thing to do, but it's making me feel better.

I don't know what to do with the maternity notes I feel a bit of a failure, like I'm not a good enough mum to have another. That doesn't apply to others who have lost babies, just me.

And thank you for all the support, I really needed mn today xx

worried so many of us go through this and whatever you feel, just feel it. There was nothing your body could do to prevent it. You have been so brave and strong. Have your wine and give yourself time. I found I was numb and then just crippingly tired. You will get there. We are here if you want to talk. Huge (non mumsnet) hug xx

I'm so sorry OP

Wine is fine. Why not? I remember when I had a miscarriage I came home and had a big mug of tea and then thought 'Fuck it, I can drink again now' and had a big glass of wine instead!

Just take care of yourself.

So sorry worried :(

Oh Worried, how awful for you

I lost what was described as "cells" but, of course, that was still a life that I created and you created a life too. If it doesn't sound too odd, please allow me to congratulate you on creating a precious life that will never be forgotten and you were/are a living mum to that little life that ended so cruelly.

loving

You are not a failure, you were very unlucky. I sometimes think pregnancy is a lottery - it is so uncertain.

Keep the notes - they are hard to see, I know.

Am so sorry worried

I just found my positive pregnancy test and want to fall apart, but trying to hold it together as dd is due home soon. I hope I can hold it together until she's in bed. I've scrubbed out the dating scan and midwife appts in my diary.

I know so many women go through this, until it happens to you, you don't realise how horrific it is. I wish I had been there more for friends who have gone through it in the past.

I'm a bit apprehensive about posting this, but when I miscarried, at about the same time as you, I just told myself that it was a test run. Your body knows what it's doing.
I'm so sorry, though. It is very hard.

(I also had my PIL's in the room the entire time - it didn't occur to the husband that this would be a problem!)

Er, sometimes it know what it's doing.

Shit, I'm digging a bigger hole, please ignore me.

really sorry to hear. be kind to yourself x

Keep you maternity notes and BFP until you are stronger, you might want to keep them as a memory of your angel bean.

I hope you are coping, this is a horrendous thing for a woman to suffer, keep posting for support x

Yes, technically you lost cells depending on the gestation.

But more than that, you've lost hopes and dreams, and plans and excitement, and that is all huge. It's what 'would have been' that hurts.

And it is horrific. I'm so sorry

I wish I had been more understanding of friends' miscarriages too :(. I was really very dismissive :(

Personally, I didn't see the death of my baby as a "test run" pregnancy - not at all, anymore than I saw the further three losses as test runs to the main event.

Elephant I know you mean well, but please think before you post .

I don't think elephant meant anything by what she said, she was sharing how she herself got through her miscarriage just as you had your coping mechanism and I had mine and Worried will find hers. And she did apologise.

Oh, bless you - so sorry. I wish they'd scanned you though. I miscarried at twelve weeks and the hospital didn't want to know. The miscarriage board on MN was a huge, huge support in both emotional and practical terms.

Sending you huge, huge hugs.

You cant know how it feels until it happens to you. People can be so dismissive of early miscarriages. And everyone says the wrong thing