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Pregnant and bleeding

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Worried22 · 17/05/2014 18:40

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and waiting in a walk in centre to see a GP. I have a thread in Pregnancy, but thought I might get more responses here.

I started bleeding a week ago, but today it's much heavier and red. I've got a splitting headache and my temps a bit high. The nurse said they can't do much, they don't scan here. I'm worried the GP is going to say the same and u just need to go home bleeding, not knowing what's going on.

Has anyone experience of this? Can I ask to have an internal, or a scan elsewhere, or go to the early pregnancy unti to be checked out? I don't know what to do, bit scared.

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bumbleymummy · 18/05/2014 08:47

Just read this. I hope you are doing ok. One of my friends had heavy bleeding during her first pregnancy and it turned out that she had lost her son's twin. I hope you can get a scan this morning. Thinking of you.

oohdaddypig · 18/05/2014 08:47

I'm in scotland. Most EPUs are only open five days a week and are sited by the labour ward.

I find this completely shit. I am going to do something about it.

OP, I'm thinking if you and hope you get a scan soon x

slithytove · 18/05/2014 08:59

It is shit. I am lucky enough to have a few weekend epus plus I know last ward would scan me at a push. Such a shame that there is a massive difference in service across the uk.

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 08:59

I'm still waiting to see a doctor, but in a bed as everytime I move I can feel something coming out Sad. I just want a scan now so I know for sure.

I don't know what happens now? If I an losing it at 12 wks do I stay in hospital or go home to pass it?

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slithytove · 18/05/2014 08:59

labour ward last ward

Picklesauage · 18/05/2014 08:59

Oh worried, I really hope you are ok. I had this 6 months ago and sadly miscarried. Mine was similar, light bleeding girl a week, heavier bleeding one evening which escalated overnight. I couldn't go to EPU either as it is not open overnight.

I will say this, you need to tell someone who will come and support you. You need to be kind to yourself, no matter what the outcome.
PM if you need to.
Take care

Picklesauage · 18/05/2014 09:03

If it is 12 week miscarriage and you aren't bleeding more than a heavy heavy period day, they are likely to send you home. Then bring you back after 2 days to check things.
I am sorry to say it sounds like what I went through. It wasn't particularly sore, just cramps, the fear and unknowing is worst. Tell them you need to know. Be blunt, be honest, be firm, even if you are crying while saying it. That's how I got my scan. They believed I needed to know.

I am so so sorry.

Busymumto3dc · 18/05/2014 09:05

Thinking of you op

oohdaddypig · 18/05/2014 09:06

worried I'm so sorry. I think pickle's advice is good. You can't go home until you have had a scan. I am thinking of you x

Welephant · 18/05/2014 09:53

At 12wks they would be reluctant to send you home IME but the next step would depend on what the scan shows. If its bad news they may advise surgery or medication to complete the miscarriage. I had a mc at 15wks and had pills for it, I stayed in hospital for around 6-7hrs in total, on a gynae ward but in a single room with its own bathroom so it was private at least. I did ask if I could just go home and wait but was told that they prefer not to do this at any stage past 12wks as the risk of complications is slightly higher and the baby is formed so it can be traumatic to see (sorry, I couldn't think of a less blunt way to say it).

I'm very sorry if it is bad news. It's shit and the lack of access to the relevant medical teams is appalling.

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 10:01

I think I've just passed

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 10:02

Sorry. I think I've lost it now. Had like a big contraction then..

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outtheothersidefinally · 18/05/2014 10:08

So so sorry to hear this. Cry lots, don't try to be strong, you are and you'll get through this.

slithytove · 18/05/2014 10:35

I am so sorry Thanks

WaitMonkey · 18/05/2014 10:45

So sorry. Thanks Are they going to scan you ?

306235388 · 18/05/2014 10:53

I'm so sorry

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 11:20

No they've sent me home. I'm trying to pretend it hasn't happened. Not sure whether I've still got to go to scan or not on tues, guess it'll be better to know it's definitely gone. It was horrible seeing it, and it's horrible seeing my maternity notes, vitamins and maternity leggings that I no longer need.

Just going to lie in bed and cry I think.

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littlewaltham · 18/05/2014 11:26

I'm so sorry. Yes go to bed and let the people that love you take care of you.

Armadale · 18/05/2014 11:26

I'm so sorry worried Flowers what a very horrible time of it you have had.

Do keep posting, there is a lot of support here for you

havenever · 18/05/2014 12:13

I lost my first pregnancy at 13 weeks. I was given the choice to pass it at home or have a DnC. I opted for the DnC as i was finding it too upsetting to do it naturally. I wanted it over and done with. And to eliminate any irrational false hope, that it might 'still be ok'

its personal preference

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 12:23

I feel like I've left my baby at the hospital. I feel really detached and I want to hide away.

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havenever · 18/05/2014 12:24

Has it been confirmed that you are miscarrying?

Picklesauage · 18/05/2014 12:28

I am so sorry, please do cry it is the best healing there is. Also I would phone EPU on Monday morning and ask for a scan that day, they tend to be more sympathetic to women who just need to be certain.
I have nothing to say that makes it better, simply allow yourself to be sad and make sure that at least one person nearby knows, someone who can help you whenever you need it. In the end I told a lot of people and for me it helped. It has also meant that since then 3 people who have had the same misfortune have called me and asked for help. It made it better to help others, for me anyway.
Just do whatever feels best for you right now.

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Worried22 · 18/05/2014 12:32

Haven the doctor saw what I'd passed and said it looked very likely that I'd miscarried.

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havenever · 18/05/2014 13:23

Ah, sorry worried. Its shitty Flowers

I'm a bit angry they haven't scanned you. Why haven't they?