Recurrent miscarriage support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 8

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Welcome everyone, pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of company, information, moral support, tea or sympathy.

Can I suggest we start page 1 with a recap of where we are all up to, because my fuddled head can't keep track?

Thank you once again ladies. So epau saw me. Scanned me for ages. Nothing found when doing the tummy scan - tried for nearly ten minutes, two doctors. But on an internal, they eventually found a heartbeat.

So. I oscillate between branding myself overanxious and attention seeking and yet also saying I took one tablet three-days ago that should last for 8 hours- wheres my nausea / vomiting / etc all gone?

So. Im obviously not coping well somewhere along the line. I just want to hibernate for six months or so. Im so sorry being such a drama queen - I genuinely dont ewant it to be like this. Im not loving the attention

good news worry i think we all understand how you feel, look after yourself

is how I feel. Muppet? Me? Oh yes, certainly...

And I'm not like this normally. Yes, I'm a little bit hand wringy and I do flap but I'm also bloody efficient and dynamic and sensible . I'm bloody boringly sensible in real life. I'm not sure if its hormones or insanity or what but my inner crazy is coming out to make lots of new friends.

Good news worry today you are pregnant. We do understand how difficult it is to stay vaguely sane when you are so anxious about not repeating history. What any of us wouldn't give for a crystal ball or a time machine!

Need some moral support. I know i am being silly but i'm only 7dpo and just wiped and had brown blood. :( I'm upset because this is how my failed pregnancy started (the blighted ovum) i had brown spotting from 7dpo all the way to being diagnosed and having the erpc at 9 weeks pregnant. I really have this horribe feeling it's all going to happen again. Almost wishing i'm just coming on early and my cycles are still a bit screwed up. can't take it again. :(

Downstairs , sorry you're feeling concerned. I expect that this is one that needs a bit of time to play out. Whether its good or bad, I suspect they'd say give it a fortnight and see. I remember that horrible limbo from the early spotting in my last pg. Try to relax as much as you can, as hard as it seems. Hopefully its implantation bleeding or your cycle settling down. Hang in there.

Worry so glad they found that HB. It doesn't make the worry go away ... As everyone's said it's understandable and we all know that awful feeling. Hell, i'm mid-Ov and already fretting!!

Downstairs like just says, give it time. 7 days dpo it could be many things (implanting, old blood, sadly a BFN but not a loss). But it's awful when anything seems 'similar' to a previous loss. Nothing can settle the mind except time. Keeping it all crossed.

We're on the BD over 3 days then wait (as Xmas day is a BD day, I'll have a smidge of wine n cheese). I'm already getting the craziness. FFS. Think general Xmas stress is triggering too - who even knows if it'll work?!? BFN a possible. Worried my dad will put his foot in his mouth in front of everybody like he usually does (I have a career and 'weird' clothes/music so my MCs must be something to do with my modern lifestyle blah blah. Because everybody knows wearing M&S affects your ovaries it's bloody daft!).

Thanks guys... im 8dpo not 7 ive just worked out. In the bath now and its stopped so feeling a little more relaxed. Good luck with the bding squiz! Ill be eating plenty of cheese to and a glass of procescco i think :)

AF seems to have only lasted 2 days. Wish my body could just be normal!

just I keep getting these weird AF too. Last 2 days and really light. Last month I thought I could have been pregnant as one of my previous pregnancies started like that. Will you test again? Totally understand just wanting things to be normal! I spoke (& cried) with GP and she thinks I am just totally stressed out about the whole thing. Maybe but I will get it checked out if it carries on. If you are not pregnant I would see it as a one off weird AF and enjoy a few Xmas drinks

Just wanted to post to say a massive THANK YOU to all of you. I don't know how I'd have got through the last year without you. I hope you all have a very happy Christmas and that good things are in store for you in 2014.

just and not I've had some odd AFs too. St Mary's said give it 4 months before worrying too much. It seems to be ok at the moment touch wood.

Just had some spotting after BD. Have had this before, checked by a gynie and it's just my skin is quite delicate to chafing, but as per usual any blood = sudden heart lurch.

Baking thank you and everyone here for your support. Wishing us all a better 2014!!

Enjoy your celebrations, one and all. Thank you for all your support. Ongoing good wishes to us all. xx

Warm fire, cup of tea, wonderful hubby and fantastic toddler. Finally feeling myself relaxing and know I'll enjoy our intimate Christmas tomorrow.

Oh, and finding a group of women without faces and real names who are just as screwy as me and are so generous with their knowledge, empathy and emotions it makes me cry. Thank you. You are amazing.

Just popping on to wish you ladies a very merry Christmas. Hope Santa has been generous and kind to this deserving group!

Merry Christmas everyone hope you've all had a lovely day :) Don't want to dampen the mood but can't help thinking a year ago today I started my 3rd miscarriage, thoughts for everyones angel babies x

To any of you that have been on progesterone did you just stop it or wean off? My consultant said just stop at 12 weeks but I'm still on it at 12+4 I've got enough to last just over 13 weeks I'm scared to stop it won't do any harm to stay on a few extra days will it?

Oh butterfly. I was miscarrying too last Christmas - I don't think I'll ever forget coming home from a scan and ripping down the decorations. I just couldn't stand it. Christmas is also the edd of another pregnancy. I just wish Christmas would go away sometimes.

I have terrible hyperemesis. I'm barely eating. I had forgotten how bad it is. DP is cooking a turkey for ILs tomorrow and I have olbas oil on a hanky to breathe through with lots of windows wide open. It's kinda the last straw for Christmas in my book.

And tanny you've said exactly what I wanted to say. I know I'm a newbie to this thread but since I crashed on a month or so ago, I've shared my inner crazy without any rebuke from you all. It's very important to me, this thread. Without exaggerating, knowing that you're here and will understand if it all goes wrong again is giving me a lot of strength right now

worry it's definately been mixed emotions thinking about last year but happy that I'm pregnant again it's silly but I've been keep expecting something to go wrong today and spoil it all again. I'm also still struggling with sickness threw up twice before lunch I managed to eat a bit though, feel like I'm going to be sick again now though! We cooked a ham last night and the smell made me throw up so know how you feel I'm so used to being sick now it's almost part of my daily routine!

Happy christmas everyone, I found christmas quite difficult this year especially since I had my nephew here and it was his first christmas, I love him and was so pleased to be part of it but still hope you are doing ok tanny and butterfly I feel for you worry I had hyperemesis with DD and with my 2nd mc, awful!

butterfly I had some progesterone left over and I did one a day for a few days. Felt a bit abrupt to just stop, from being on 800 mg a day.

I everyone can I join please, am going to join the tic thread as well, but a little emotional ATM, we had a mmc in September, I've charted this month with cb ov sticks and no smiley face. Am thinking my body is a little broke.

We also had a chemical pg in June this year as well. The baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and had an eprc, I was hoping to be pg by now. Dp is upset think go I'm stressing out over it, anyhow not sure if it's worth talking to the gp over it, as along with this over had 2 healthy boys 3 mcs and 3 chem pgs.

Basically mc pg chem of ds1 month after conceived, chem pg mc 8 wks, month after, xh/I split ds2 4 years later. Chem pg mc 8 weeks. Hopefully next one should be a healthy pg! Lol.

Hi DTM and welcome. In your shoes I'd talk to the GP - if I understand you correctly you've had 6 losses - 3 at around 8 weeks and 3 chemical, but never had 3-in-a-row? If you get someone sympathetic they don't always apply the NICE guidelines too strictly. Worth asking, anyway.
There's so much not understood about recurrent miscarriage, it doesn't seem to be as simple as "if you have x problem you'll MC every time" but there may be things you could be doing to improve your chances.
For example, I have high NK cells, I had DS1 (no probs) MC at 10 weeks (which I think triggered off the problems) DS2 (dodgy pregnancy with lots of bleeding/spotting, he was small at term, placenta disintegrated and I had PPH) then 3 MC until the problem was diagnosed. Specialist put my chances of carrying to term without treatment at 20%, with treatment 60-80%.

Baking I'm on one 200mg pessary a day so to wean I would have to do one every other day I don't know if that would be worse than just stopping it might send my levels up and down. I'll be glad to not have the mess of them but I feel like they are my safety net I'm terrified I'll bleed when I stop them.

Purple it's hard to be around other people's little ones when you are thinking I should have one here too, I found it hard with my nephew when he was born but I love him to bits now and realise it's not his fault the first few months were awful though.

davidtennantsmistress sorry you find yourself here you will get some great support and advice though, I would definately speak to your gp although you haven't had 3mc in a row you've had 3 and 3 chemicals so they should look in to some testing for you don't be afraid to push them.

Yep that's right ladies, and it's been really tough the last year, am currently z'putting ds2 for a nap' upstairs thought I'd check fb and found out two friends, not close granted but two friends are pg, just found out 8 weeks, so have to pull it together as dp's family is all down stairs, and he thinks I'm being silly, but really could just had a damn good cry. Damn hormones and bloody flu like cold.

hi everyone, hope you all had a very merry Christmas yesterday.

I feel like whispering the next bit but... I got a bfp yesterday eeek.
Keeping everything crossed that this one works out.