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had a miscarriage? waiting to get back to normal to TTC? come join us..

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tedmundo · 13/03/2012 18:04

There are so many of us in that we deserve a thread....

MC and waiting to get the cycle back to normal before TTC....

Come here to share the stories of never ending bleeding, praying for BFN's and the return of the lovely AF in all her glory!

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foxymoron · 13/03/2012 19:32

Thanks for starting this thread up,

I mc just over 4 weeks ago, had spotting on and off ever since. Got my first AF last week, and I've still got it argh! Had mid spotting before I got though so hoping things settle down soon.

foxymoron · 13/03/2012 19:33

Meant to say 'had mid cycle spotting before I got pg though'

blondiemermaid · 13/03/2012 19:37

I miscarriaged on sat/sun Sad it's my second one and don't know when's best now to ttc
Also new to this what does af mean please?

EthelredOnAGoodDay · 13/03/2012 19:44

Hi all and good idea Tedmundo!
MMC at start of Feb and ERPC mid Feb. 3 days bleeding post ERPC but no sign of AF yet although we have DTD 3 times in the last week which is almost a record for us! Grin hormones must be going crazy! Not sure quite why we want DC2; DD is currently running me ragged...

foxymoron · 13/03/2012 19:45

Hi blondie,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I was told by nurses at the early pregnancy place that you can ttc as soon as the bleeding has stopped completely. AF means Aunt Flow (period) x

EthelredOnAGoodDay · 13/03/2012 19:46

And more seriously, sorry to you all for your losses. It is such a shit thing to happen but being on some of the threads on here has been a big help for me. blondiemermaid hope you are ok. AF is auntie flo aka your period! Smile

teaandchocolate · 13/03/2012 19:56

Hi everyone. Can I join please? Had a mmc last week & erpc on Sat although hardly any bleeding this time ( had one in 2009 & bled on & off for ages) although I guess there's still time. Had a very messed up cycle after previous erpc so expecting neurosis/panic to start shortly although for now I'm trying to 'enjoy' not ttc & not being pregnant/sick. Lovely to know you're all here too though xx

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tedmundo · 13/03/2012 19:58

ethelred - gosh I do hope you get to tell us all about a lovely deep pink BFP very soon. And 3 times in 1 week - you go girl!!

blondiemermaid - I am so sorry to hear you have mced this weekend. Stick around as there really are a few of us recovering from very recent mcs, all with the same questions and fears. I think you can TTC once the bleeding has stopped.

That said - my bleeding has pretty much stopped but a PG test today was still positive. I am guessing there is no point me wasting my ovulation strips until that preg test is negative. They were el cheapo from ebay but still...

What do you all think?

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tedmundo · 13/03/2012 20:03

teaandchocolate - love your name as that is my FAVE way to watch telly....

Please do join. I am sorry to hear of your loss. You are pretty much the exact same as me timing wise - mced last week - MAJOR bleed on Fri night but had the ERPC yesterday as the preg sac was stuck in my cervix. I am pretty sure they have done a good, tidy job as I have pretty much stopped bleeding already.

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MusicFlower · 13/03/2012 20:12

Hi

Can I join you lovely ladies? I miscarried on 17th Feb. A bit in denial just want to get pregnant ASAP (will be gutted if I don't as I think that's my coping strategy!)

No AF yet :(

I am sorry we are all experiencing this x

teaandchocolate · 13/03/2012 20:14

Hi Tedmundo! Glad u like the name...think I'm an adict! Sorry you're also going through this horrible experience, sounds scary for you. I didn't bleed at all, mc was picked up on dating scan. Good to hear that no bleeding is a good thing (weirdly I was worrying it meant something had gone wrong). Do you still have cramping? I feel quite sore, nothing major but definite pain altho dr said that was just because uterus has been irritated by erpc.

Re trying again, think I'm going to wait til af so not going to do pregnancy tests. Want to have some reflexology & take vitamins, do exercise and get in good shape physically before starting again I think.

EthelredOnAGoodDay · 13/03/2012 20:18

Hi musicflower and teaandchocolate. Sorry to see you on here, but hope we can all support each other. DH is working late so I am currently consoling myself with tv off the planner (queens of British pop-fab documentary) and a big glass of wine!

EthelredOnAGoodDay · 13/03/2012 20:21

Should say, in terms of TTC again, if nothing happens this month, which wouldn't surprise me, we might give next month a miss as if I did get pregnant the due date would be almost same as DDs birthday! Grin

LadyMaryCrawley · 13/03/2012 20:29

Hi everyone,

So sorry to hear of all your losses. I miscarried last week, I was 8 weeks. It was horrible.
Did any of you lovely ladies have yours "medically managed" or did it happen naturally? I opted for an ERPC, but then it happened overnight. Just want to start ttc again now and feel human again.

MusicFlower · 13/03/2012 20:34

Hi All

My dh works away a lot too Ethelred so, not only am I on my own a lot he is also away if we are ttc. Obviously I have no af yet so it's all irrelevant as I can't obsess about dates (just think the worst at the moment!)

I miscarried naturally. Started spotting one night, bright red light period like bleed the next day and then on Friday 'it' :( plopped out when I went to the loo. Feel so sorry for all of you who went through ERPC's.

firefli · 13/03/2012 20:37

Can I join too?

MC only last week and still bleeding, although hormone levels now apparently returning to normal thank goodness. Swinging beween wanting to TTC asap (esp as heard can be more fertile?) and feeling like I need a break after all the stress.

Very sorry to all of you for your losses, but good to find somewhere to share experiences.

blondiemermaid · 13/03/2012 21:10

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in November my first period after was dec 18th and then fell pregnant nye
When I went in on Saturday as bleeding they said the pregnancy levels were high in my bloods but the progesterone??levels were to low so now am worried it will happen again what can I do if anything?
Thank u for explaining af and hopefully il learn a bit more from u lovely lot Grin
Am just glad not to feel so alone as well so thank u x

blondiemermaid · 13/03/2012 21:16

Firefli that's how I feel like let's just do it and try and then I think i just can't take going through it all again so soon

teaandchocolate · 13/03/2012 21:31

Blondiemermaid so sorry to hear about your experience, it is such a hard thing to go through. I took progesterone suppositories during my 1 successful pregnancy which may (or may not) help support hormone levels. The dr i saw said there was no harm in taking then so I used them from about 5 weeks until 12. Once you start with them you must continue to use them as if you stop you will miscarry. I got them privately which was v expensive & some experts believe they would only prolong an unsuccessful pregnancy rather than saving it. However I didn't use them for my most recent (unsuccessful pregnancy) so will definitely use them if I'm lucky enough to get a bfp again. Sorry if i've not explained this very well!

So glad that you are all here as I'm finding this mc pretty lonely. No one really understands what it's like unless they've been through it themselves. I've not told many people & those that I have I can see feel really sorry for me which I also hate. It's quite rubbish really so nice to know we can support each other...& moan!

blondiemermaid · 13/03/2012 21:38

Tea&chocolate thank u for that it did make sense to me!! I understand what your saying about it all!Did they not give u the suppositories?do u believe it really helped u? It's all so conflicting everything I read you just don't know what's for the best
I know how u feel about being alone if someone says get yourself well, wait a year,or it happened for a reason once more I may scream which I know is probably unreasonable of me but I just want to be pregnant and start trying its only the fear that's stopping oh and the fact I'm still bleeding etc
Sorry to hear about everyone elses loss here too

MusicFlower · 13/03/2012 21:42

teaandchocolate I feel quite lonely too. I also feel mixed up in my emotions. I know that chances are there was something wrong and that's why I miscarried but I don't like people telling me it. I was pretty sick beforehand and chances are it could be that too. Or is that worse because the baby could have been OK? I go round and round in circles and whatever the outcome I never feel appeased. Or talking about OBEM (used to love that programme), or telling me I am too old (one of the reasons I am so desperate to get pregnant soon). All these things have made me well-up and go a bit 'wobbly'.

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tedmundo · 13/03/2012 21:54

I am so glad I started this thread. There are so many of us out there right now needing to "talk" about this.

Hello to you all joining the thread and I am so very sorry to "meet" you in such sad circs. Let's hope we can all share happy news in the not so distant future.

I have the most recent OBEM sat on my Tivo, unwatched. May as well just delete it as can't face it right now.

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MusicFlower · 13/03/2012 22:11

I deleted 2 tedmundo for that reason too :(

Thanks for starting this thread. As you say, it's sad we are all here but it's nice to 'know' other people who really understand how you are feeling!

teaandchocolate · 13/03/2012 22:18

Blondiemermaid I didn't take them this time because last time they said I probably hadn't needed progesterone after all but because I'd already started taking it I couldn't stop til 12 weeks. I think I was complacent with this last pregnancy as I'd had my DD and hoped it would be alright again and I was just unlucky with my first mc. Now I'm not so sure. If I do get pregnant again I kind of feel like I've got to do everything exactly as I did when pregnant with my dd and see if that 'works'. I know my gp won't give me progesterone as they are generally unhelpful so I'll probs just get it privately again. Might also take aspirin for good measure! Although I do really want a break before ttc again as have felt so ill with ms just wst to feel like myself for a bit again. But I'm not very good a waiting....

Musicflower you can't blame yourself but I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I think it's better if it was a chromosomal abnormality as then I just wasn't meant to be. But other times I want to have tests and to know there's something I can fix (like low progesterone) although that would mean I'd blame myself for not being able to carrry the pregnancy. I feel like everyone else just gets pregnant & has a baby & worrries about what to call it/what buggy to get whereas I am just convinced everything is going to go wrong!

teaandchocolate · 13/03/2012 22:20

Argh sorry about all the spelling mistakes! Am rushing on my phone...