had a miscarriage? waiting to get back to normal to TTC? come join us..

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There are so many of us in that we deserve a thread....

MC and waiting to get the cycle back to normal before TTC....

Come here to share the stories of never ending bleeding, praying for BFN's and the return of the lovely AF in all her glory!

Well, I got to the hospital, waited almost an hour to have a scan after I'd told the midwife person that I'd passed a couple of clots yesterday, then was scanned and told there was nothing there and that my body had done it without any intervention. Sounds odd, but all I felt at that point was relief. So that's that. Wait for the bleeding to stop and then try again I suppose...

Going to have some tonight.

Hey up.
Sad but also a little comforting to see some familiar faces from the December 12 thread. Just got back from hospital. Scan on Tuesday showed no heartbeat. Erpc booked for Friday. Heavy bleeding started thurs Arvo, whilst at work. Passed lots of clots. Got some sleep. Scan this morning showed still some goo left so had to have the op after all. Feeling ok, little wobbly, wappy and wallowey, but just got to keep plodding on aye?
Big hugs to all xxxx (very unmumsnetty, but don't care about protocol at the mo!!)

I am so sorry to hear that Possum and Kiwi. I'll join you with that and send you both a big hug.x

Kiwi5 and possum hope yous are ok after today.

Wine sounds good ladies!!!

Ohhhhh no Kiwi ( dec 12 thread)
I am so very sorry about your loss and I hope you are getting loads of support, also to backwards hope your getting support from loved ones!
I remember last year as soon as I was pregnant I was a very active member of the dec 11 thread until I had my MMC I had a list on the there called " gone but not forgotten" never did I imagine my name would go on there!!!! I never looked back on there as it just hurt to much!
I can remember last year praying to have a natural MC but not wanting to go another day with my passed baby inside me! Although I was scared the ERPC was final and over quite quickly, the emotional healing was longer and I really believe I was just starting to cope with it finally as I got pregnant the same month again a year on for it to also end with no baby and a op!!!!! Life really is fragile and answers to my questions will go Un answered - will this happen again ????? Time will tell! But I pray with all my might it never does for me or anyone who would be TTC in the future!
Big hugs ladies xxxx

It's a bit of an emotional roller coaster isn't it?! Possum, Kiwi, I'm glad your hospital ordeals are over with at least, just got to look to the future now, which I'm sure will be rosy for all of us :) And Count, I'm really sorry you've had such a hard time of it and I really hope that's the end of your run of bad luck, you deserve a change of fortune :)
It's funny, my first reaction to all of this was, gotta have some but it just doesn't taste the same any more, tinged with sadness etc.
Am determined to try try again ASAP, not going to bother waiting for AF, just going to get on with it. Fingers crossed it won't be long before we're all nattering on another 'due in XXXX' thread... :)

Me too yikes - as soon as I stop bleeding, we're going to go for it.

I had a school friend round this afternoon with his pregnant wife and got the inevitable question "so you thinking of having any more?"... Was like a punch to the stomach.

Glad to hear you guys are going to try straight away and there's more reason as your very fertile at this time????? Who would of thought!
Many women get pregnant straight away but you have to be in it to win it!
I wasn't after mine was just not something I felt like doing maybe a regret but oh well! I'm in a totally different boat as just had the ectopic and with that advice is to wait 2 cycles!!!!
Think I will step back and try to see thinks clearly after my AF returns! When it returns!!!!!
All crossed for you ladies though!!

backward is there any end to this bleeding???I just want all to get back to normal so that I can feel in control again.

countmyblessings sorry for your loss. Maybe some time will help you sort things out in your head. My worry now is will AF return. I don't have time age wise to be waiting months!!!

yikes I had my first drink since I found out I was pg over 2 mths ago and I really didn't enjoy it, just felt I shouldn't be drinking and should still be pg. best of luck with the ttc.

Mine has been a lot lighter today, Munchin after it being really heavy since Thursday (which was when I passed all the 'product'). I've hardly had any bleeding since lunchtime. I probably could have got away without the sanitary towel to be honest. Here's hoping it stops for us both soon! x

Hi everyone i'm so sorry to hear about your losses and can 100% understand what your going through !! I found out I was pregnant early february and was over the moon, and never in a million years thought things would go wrong, I was one of those people who thought things like that woudn't happen to me !!!! Both me and my partner each have a child by ex partners and my previous pregnancy which was 10 years ago !!! was text book- never sick, no bleeding, felt great, son came on due date with no complications.This pregnancy however I was not as lucky, I had cramps from about 4 weeks, I bled and passed small clots. My first period is now here I think !! as I have started bleeding again 7 weeks after a MMC but the pain is horrendous, I have sharp pains on left and right side of stomach, heavy blood loss, passing small clots and tenderness around hips and ribs. Im sick of phoning GP and NHS Direct and being told my body COULD be just starting to get back to normal as swabs,urine tests and pregnancy tests all come back clear or negative !! I feel really down and just want to stop being in pain physically and emotionally, and bleeding, so me and my partner can TTC again. Has anyone else had a similar experience as Im really worried ? x

Inic - so sorry for your loss! I had a MMC last year and I can recall the first AF being awful and very painful! I can't advice you apart from there is no harm contacting gp for so advice!!!!
After such a loss especially when you had no thoughts anything was wrong was real hard for me I had thoughts that they were lying to me as they wanted me to abort my baby, what a mad thought but I want thinking straight ! And with my recent loss I'm know at a place of accepting that this child was not for me and is another angel with my other 2!!!!
1 day at a time but the constant reminders our body give us telling us we are no longer pregnant is painful!!!! I would of been 11 weeks now!

Anyone watch " kings A&E" last night on CH4 sad news for Jill!

How u doing? Kiwi, backwards and yikes???

Hello everyone. I'm joining this thread after I had a mmc last week (showed at dating scan - should've been 14 weeks, baby had died at 8+6). Had ERPC last thurs. It was my second pregnancy (have DS who is 19 months). I've been in a lot of pain this week following the ERPC as I have endometriosis which has flared up big time after the op. Hoping it will settle soon so I can get off the codeine and get on the wine...am also worrying that it was the endo which caused the mc - no idea how likely that is and forgot to ask the consultant last week. Now I can't decide whether to wait for AF before ttc or just to go for it - am desperate to be pg again but not sure if waiting a cycle would bf better? What did you guys do?

Hi Lurcherlover - I'm so very sorry for your loss!
Words can describe how I felt when that happened to me last year! I thought the sadness would never go, I was fearful of TTC straight away and waited! I so wished I didn't as it took me a year to get pregnant to then lose to an ectopic and had to have surgery! Shock horror was not the works! Another scan and more bad news!
I have now come to the choice that as long as my body keeps producing eggs I will keep going for another baby!!! The odds are in my favour right!!!!
I think you should discuss with your DH/DP and look and read so many people have gone on straight after to have healthy babies! It's not all gloom there is joy after the clouds have cleared!
Good luck, and look after yourself!!!!!

Hey all. Hope u r all doing ok. Well I am 2 weeks post erpc. Feeling ok-ish! Have started dtd-just to practise! Guess should wait til AF comes before really going for it. Am feeling all crampy, so maybe AF just round the corner.
DH has been lovely as have friends at work.
How r u enjoying the sunshine?
Lurches - so sorry to hear about your loss, it is crappy crappy horridness. Sending hugs and a huge glass of chilled vino.

So sorry Inic76, lurcherlover, kiwi5 for your losses.

Count you really have been through the mill and I admire your will and determination to keep going. But your right

Backward has your bleeding stopped? Mine started slowing down last week. I can go a day with nothing and then have some next day. But its nearly 5 wks since erpc so it would want to be.

Right so I do know that the cramps I am feeling and the tiredness are the fact that AF is round the corner and it's hot outside, and I am only 3 weeks post erpc. But can just a tiny wee part of me secretly hope I am pregnant again. I honestly do know that the cramps are me getting ready to come on and the tiredness is cos my dd kept squawking last night. Just had to share that with someone as I can't say that to dh or anyone in rl, as it is pretty silly really. Right off to indulge in some ice cream!

Hi Everyone. I'm so sorry that there are so many people going through such a horrible experience.I had a mc just over 4 weeks ago and am now in limbo waiting for my body to get back to normal. I already have 2 beautiful little ones, so this mc came as such a shock as things went so smoothly with my first two pregnancies.

My emotions are all over the place and i think my dh is fed up with my mood swings and has just given up on me. to be honest i feel so let down by him. He was amazing the first few weeks but now seems to be confused as to why i am still not over it.

More than anything i have started feeling angry with myself. I feel as though my body has compeltely let me down. I am usually on a 26 day cycle, not a day later, and now it has been 31 days since the first day of the mc. ive driven myself crazy (and spent a ridiculous amount of money!!!) on pregnancy tests thinking that i might be pregnant again. i think i have finally accepted that i'm not pregnant again and hate not knowing whats going on with my cycle. I was so over the moon when we found out i was pregnant and the mc was just so heartbreaking. i felt that if i could just get pregnant again quickly it will help me to move on and focus on something positive. but the rollercoaster of the last week has just driven me insane. and with my dh barely speaking to me i just dont know what to do with myself.

Hello everyone. I just read through these posts, and felt so much warmth from others who have gone through this terrible experience. I wonder if anyone has any advice
I found out I was pregnant for the first time in Nov last year, 6 months after coming off the pill. I had an early scan, more for my reasurrance, at 7 weeks and found a heart beat. At 10 weeks, I had a feeling all was not well, and a further scan showed no heart beat. I had had no bleeding. I opted for a medical induction of miscarraige in early Jan, and finally stopped bleeding around 22.1.12, with a neg preg test. We were both devastated.
We started trying again after my next period, which was 16.2.12. I did not have another period until 30.3.12, about 6 weeks later. Before the pregnancy, my cycle was every 30-32 days.
I then did a further test, as no AF 5 weeks later. This was also negative. About 6 weeks later, around 17.5.12, I had 5 days of very light, light brown discharge, then nothing for almost 2 weeks, and a further very light watery pinkish discharge for 1 day.
I haven't had the courage to do a further test, over 8 weeks since my last proper period, but was wondering how long it can take for your body to return to normal after a miscarriage? I am still desperately upset about the miscarriage, and this irregular bleeding, with only 2 "proper" periods since Jan has made me feel as if my body has let me done a second time.

Sorry Pumpkin and Lulubelle for your loss and that you find yourselves here.

Pumpkin I know how you feel as I also had two normal pg and the shock of being told at scan that there was no heartbeat was awful. Of course your emotions are all over the place and it can hit you in waves. So just go with them. Its hard for people to understand what its like. Maybe your dh doesnt know what to say or do. But feel free to tallk it through here. It's exactly 5 weeks today since I had my erpc and like you I'm in limbo land too. My bleeding is only coming to an end so god only knows when I'll get AF or if I'll get AF again.

lulubelle Could the one day pink watery discharge be a sign of ovulation . But yes it's annoying when your AF doesn't behave and come back. I came off pill and had 1 AF straight away but nothing then for 4 months and the next one was not as heavy or as long as normal but then fell pg after it. So want AF to come back.

Kiwi I hope it's pg pains and not AF pains. But if it is AF well at least your body is getting back to normal and you can ttc again.

It seems like almost anything is possible when it comes to AF after a miscarriage...The EPU told me that nothing surprises them any more!

Sorry for all of your losses, it is good to know that there are positive people out there though, going through similar circumstances.

A friend of mine waited 3 months for AF after ERPC. I have just started AF after 6 weeks following medical management. It is a relief, but also a bit nervous as have read some horror stories about first AF! My doctor said not to get carried away with reading things on the internet! And here I am!

Hi all. Just a quick note as feeling down . Had mc in feb and been ttc since. No bfp as yet but had 2 late cycles when was convinced I was pregnant just to get AF few days later argh !
One of my colleague is now expecting and getting closed to her scan date and announcing it to office . I am really pleased for her but want to avoid being around when she shows the first scan pictures ... Is it. Normal to still feel like this ? I have a lovely dd already but seriously broody again ... Rant over ! Hope you are all well.

Hello everyone...can I please join you all? Very sorry to each & every one of you for your losses & that we are all here. I suffered a missed MC in April..7 weeks ago. I should of been 12.2 weeks but my angel stopped growing at 7.4 weeks. Had natural miscarriage at home a few days after scan. Did not & probably if I am honest, still don't feel 100% ready for the prospect of a new pregnancy..but I know deep down it's because I am so fearful & scared. Despite that..we are not begin careful & have been very casual about it all. Fertile/OV week was from the 3rd, dtd 3rd & 5th & on the 9th had (sorry tmi) pinky discharge & a streak of blood. This lasted 2 days & now I have a real heavy feeling in my lower stomach & have had pains for 2 days. Really not sure what that all means to be honest??
AF was horrendous...but settled down & lasted same amount of days it should etc. should I be worried??