had a miscarriage? waiting to get back to normal to TTC? come join us..

[tedmundo]

There are so many of us in that we deserve a thread....

MC and waiting to get the cycle back to normal before TTC....

Come here to share the stories of never ending bleeding, praying for BFN's and the return of the lovely AF in all her glory!

tedmundo i dont think they have any hope even though level is high. They told me i will miscarry as womb has just the 'product' in it. I dont think even they know what is going on. Hopefully the bloods tomorrow will help but i guess wont find out til monday. Not at southmead, i dont know where that is! We are in Scotland.

izzybizzy - i am so sorry to hear that. It is all so very sad that we go through such experiences.

I hope you get some more information tomorrow. They will prob offer you the options to either wait to miscarry naturally or an ERPC.

I started to miscarry naturally, found it very very difficult to cope with (heartbreaking) and went for a scan 3 days later to confirm everything had been expelled, only to be told preg sac stuck in my cervix. So had the ERPC anyway. sigh

It was fine and I have felt so much better since. Wish I had just gone straight to it now but hey ho.

I havent had any bleeding since wed night which i think is odd. I expected to continue bleeding and for it to turn heavier. Its stopped completely, absolutely nothing when i wipe at all.

I'm not sure how i feel about natural/medical/erpc so looking for advice there i suppose.

izzybizzy, sorry to hear of your loss. I'm up in Scotland too. I had a natural mc (already taken place by the time I got to the hosp), so can't offer you any advice I'm afraid. Hope that things become a little more clear for you tomorrow.

My bleeding is slowing down now, but still feeling very, very tired. Not sure if that's to do with physical or emotional things though?

firefli i'm sorry you are going through this too. Its horrible. I think tiredness could be from either really, it must be hard on the body the cramping and bleeding and the mess it makes your head cant help either.

Hi everyone. You all sound like just what I need; people who get it! Not sure anyone else does TBH, even DH. Had MMC confirmed on Tues at 9 weeks after 3 weeks in limbo. ERPC booked for Mon 19 (day after Mother's Day!). Sometimes I think I'm doing fine then I see a newborn in the supermarket and realise I'm not.
Feel I can't start "living" until I'm pregnant again which I know isn't healthy but I guess you all will understand.
Good luck to us all; roll on those BFPs!

Welcome respipsa.

Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I mc 4 weeks ago today and know what you mean about no-one else understanding exactly how you feel.

My coping strategy for the due date is that I will be pregnant again . I know it is stupid and unhealthy as there is no gaurantees and I am setting myself up for more disappointment!

tedmundo when i mc i was at st micheals as i live in bristol also. they were lovely but the only thing i can fault them on is when i tried ringing them to get my HCG lvls it seemed like they had forgot about me and i had to ring back a number of times throught the night. ive heard southmead are quite good thou, but will be sticking to st micheals with this pg. hope you are feeling ok xxxxx

Hi everyone & welcome to those who've just joined - sorry you've found yourselves here. How is everyone feeling today? I know that tomorrow will be difficult for a lot of us so hope you're doing ok.

I've actually felt much better over the past couple of days. I've had no more pain & although I'm still bleeding it's not too bad. I'm quite surprised at how ok I am to be honest & I think it's because i'm just focussing on spending time with my DD & also feeling normal again as I felt horrendeous when pregnant this time. But I actually think I'm in denial about trying again and I really can't face it. It's strange because after my 1st mc all I could think about was trying again. I guess it's early days still & I know that this whole process is a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.

So for now I'm enjoying more wine! Xxx

hey girls, i had a m/c 3weeks ago, im so confused about wether i should try again or not? the pregnancy wasnt planned, but when i found out me and my partner were absolutely thrilled! however is it wrong to try again straight away? even though my first wasnt planned?? ahhh i need advice :-(

so sorry to hear about all your m/c its such a horrible thing to happen xx

musicflower that's my strategy too; I've even worked out my mat leave dates based on my ideal scenario! Talk about opening yourself up for a fall! Hope everyone's having not too bad a day. We're off for lunch with my mum, sister and nephew. Got a nice pair of shoes from DD (great taste for a 13th month old!) so feeling OK for now. Chins up required with all Mother's Day paraphernalia.

Tasha I say go for it. I waited until 40 to have my first. A bit foolish but we were lucky. Don't necessaily wish I'd not waited so long but can safely say if I'd had her earlier without planning it, I would never have regretted it.

Good morning. Hope everyone is coping ok today. I don't feel upset at the minute as I have managed to convince myself that everything is going to be ok.

Had bloods taken yesterday due to high hcg result on thurs. The dr said that they are looking for levels to fall but as I've had no bleeding since late wed then the levels may stay static or even rise. If this happens they will rescan me as there may be 'something' there. I know I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up but the fact he said that gave me hope, as well as the lack of bleeding or pain.

He did say I may need more bloods done as it wasn't 48 hours between test so the results may be inconclusive!

So....I'm in limbo til we know more.

hope you're all well. Having a bit of a blue day myself. Deliberately didn't plan anything big with dd today in case didn't feel up to it, and didn't want to see my mum as she has made me quite upset since the mc. Still got upset when dh got me nothing though, so have now picked a fight with him too. So have had mothers day of shopping and housework instead of having happy family day celebrating the new life inside me.

Hi, can I join? I had a mc on Jan 2 at only 5 weeks. We have been ttc since but still nothing.

It's awful that we have all found ourselves on this thread unfortunately but it's good to have others to share this with. I can't wait to hear some nice news around here - some nice bfps in the next few weeks. At least on here we can all say how we feel, because sometimes in r/l it is hard to express it.
Fingers crossed for us all

Hi everyone! I have read so many threads, but finally feel I have found the right one to post on.

I am currently going through my 2nd miscarriage in 9 months. It's crap! I should now be 10 1/2 weeks.
I have a second scan booked at the EPU on Friday but I know there is no hope. I don't feel pregnant any more, and jeans that were too tight 1 week ago are now too big. And then there's the bleeding of course...
I am hoping to miscarry naturally this week (which I did last time) but if not, I plan to book in for an EPRC next Monday.

It is slightly easier this time because we had deliberately not got too excited about the pregnancy, and we already know the options from here, but its still hard.

The EPU have told me that because I am (just) over 40, that we can have tests done to see if there is a cause. These will be blood tests then a 2 month wait for a consultant appointment. I am not sure what they will be testing for, but will ask more on Friday.

At the moment, I just feel numb and in limbo. I can't move on until this pregnancy is gone, and may have to wait another week for this to happen. I do understand why the EPU make you wait (in case the baby is OK) but I know that mine is not.

I am lucky in that I already have a DD (nearly 6) who is fantastic. I would love to give her a sibling, but am realistic that this might not happen.

I don't know how many times I can go through this again. At the moment I have said 1 more try, and after that we will see.

I have given names of Angels to both of my lost babies. I find it helps me that they have a name, and an Angel name seems appropriate.

Good luck to you all!

Sorry to hear your stories.

I am still waiting for my results from sat. When I called this morning they said that blood doesn't get tested on a sat so would be tested today and results wouldn't be in til 4pm. It's a long wait. I have stupidly gotten my hopes up due to the lack of bleeding etc.

Hope everyone is ok

izzy I hope that you are not disappointed today, I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know that the waiting in limbo is so hard. I did it 2 weeks ago and I actually felt better when they told me that I was going to miscarry.

I decided on a managed miscarriage as the doctor pushed for that saying it was very effective and it would be controlled and there'd be paint relief, but after the first tablet it started naturally. I did go in and have the miscarriage 'finished off' in hospital and I will never recommend it. I was in a room right next to the maternity ward and was listening to newborn babies crying the whole time. The pain was pretty bad too as I had passed most of it at home and only had paracetemol which didn't touch it, on the ward I did get some lovely cocodamol though and they offered gas and air.

I wanted to ask about time off work and emotions etc. I have had a week off now, and I 'finished' the miscarriage on Friday when the rest of it finally passed. But i am still in pain, and most of the time I feel fine and then suddenly I'm sobbing putting the washing in the machine or something. Probably hormones, but I'm a secondary school teacher and I think teaching some of my harder classes will be almost impossible. I'm also feeling anxious about lots of silly things and I don't know why and I'm finding that hard.

I suppose I just wondered if other people felt like this?

Sorry for the essay, I'll promise to keep it shorter next time!

hetty I think my head knows the baby is gone but my heart won't let go til it has passed.

I have done some reading online etc and think I'd rather have an erpc. I guess I need to wait and see. I don't think I can face taking the tablets and I don't think my body will do it itself fue to the lack of bleeding etc.

I can't help with your work dilemma, I hope someone with more notice comes along soon.

Not notice...experience!

Will hopefully (iykwim) be heading over to join you all soon enough - got my ERPC operation booked in for tomorrow as nothing has really happened in the last 2 weeks of waiting.

Hi Hetty really sorry you had such a horrible experience. The doctor this time also pushed me to have medical management & I'm not really sure why as I didn't like the idea of it & I'd already had an erpc. I ended up having an erpc again which for me is definitely the best option. I did wonder whether it was partly a cost issue that makes them push for medical management?

Re emotions & going back to work, I really think you need to do whatever feels right for you. After my 1st mc I was totally devastated & found it really hard to cope. I took a week off but in hindsight it probably wasn't enough as I ended up losing it a few weeks later & taking more time off. However this time I feel much stronger and am finding work ok but that's probably because I now work from home so when I randomly burst into tears it doesn't matter.

Hello to Saxony & iwanttobeawomble. Sorry you're also having a rubbish time but glad you found us and hope you both get good news soon.

Hi All.

Just had a little 'wobble' and am alone at home (but you are the only ones that would understand anyway!)

Just read on twitter that Tamzin Outhwaite is having another baby. Guess it will be due around the time of my (and some of your) due dates as I was due to have my scan this week. Stupidly, I know I will feel terrible in early October but didn't consider others actually having babies then. Urggghhh ...

:(

I'm sorry if I have just upset any of you with that news, not intended :(

Musicflower I feel the same. Am dreading hearing peoples news soon as my scan was next week. Just feel like everyone gets pregnant & has good news whereas I just seem to share bad news!