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How are you feeling after MC?

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freelancegirl · 01/04/2011 10:24

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

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freelancegirl · 19/04/2011 16:15

Ok, not much work going on today. Actually NO work at all going on today :) A bit of email answering, lots of knicker watching, a good work out in the gym, a stroll through the park on the way back and a stop at tesco's. I've stopped up on hummus, olives, camembert (yes!), prawns and a couple of cheeky individual bottles of red wine (dammit I couldn't help it) and as soon as DH comes home am going to tell him to slip into something more comfortable and we are heading up to the park with a nice big throw to lie on, a copy of the Guardian to ponder and a picnic to be had in the sunshine.

Hello Blue yes do join the crampy, pre-mentrual but maybe not really premenstrual gang. No sign of mine yet but haven't yet donned that white jumpsuit.

LIG am glad work (your's and DH's) are being supportive. I like the idea of your arsenal of weaponry - spare pants, maxi pads, pain killers etc just in case you start to mc properly at work! I found actually when I passed the sac there had been less blood for a while but I think everyone is different. I haven't yet managed to run out a period either but as long as I can run off some of my comfort eating / enlarged uterus (not sure if that can be run off...) at least I am doing something. We will be thinking of you tomorrow, do update as soon as you can. Try not to worry, you are right in thinking the sooner you get this over with the sooner you can move on.

The Fabulous Dr S really does have a reputation Really. You can find him at www.miscarriageclinic.co.uk. He is all about treating hormonal probs and killer cells - something which Beer's book goes in depth on. You should definitely get it. He has a private clinic in Harley St I think and NHS in Epsom hospital.

Hello again Pnj yes that must be a pain having to tell so many people why you have been off. Sorry you have been a bit panicky, just remember that your body is going through all sorts of things and you are probably going to feel lightheaded occasionally which doesn't help with the panics.

Speak later no doubt!

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Diamondsamdrubies · 19/04/2011 16:54

Hi guys! Sorry to be so neglectful today. Managed to do LOADS of housework, on top of my wotk AND some gardening. Loved every minute of it, and feel on top of the world. Am definitely more like my old self now.
DR:so sorry for what you are going through. So sad for your loss. There are no words hun x
LIG: hope you get a better picture at the scan, as to where things are at the moment, sorry that this is dragging on.
Freelance: FX that its AF, and that bloated tummy disappears at the end of it, you've certainly worked your butt off over the last month!
Really: I brought my korean blankets from dubai, while on holiday. I have heard that they are sold on the streets of Southall- by street vendors at between £15 for a single blanket to £30 for a double. I like them as they are light and warm and can wash them regularly, and they dry quickly on the washing line too!Come in an array of colours and designs....I am the proud owner of 4 double, and 5 single. Guests love them too. I use them as picnic rugs. Carry them in the boot of my car, have them in muted nude earth shades as throws on my sofa.....I should have shares in the damned things!loves and hugs to all. I'm going out again x

darlingred · 19/04/2011 17:14

Dear Everyone

Thank you for the words of support and encouragement. It is a comfort to know that others can understand how I am feeling. I don't feel up to speaking to family and friends in real life yet so this helps massively.

As Diamondandrubies said there are no words.

MrsGasMan · 19/04/2011 18:08

Hi everyone, well you were right to tell me there was still hope - the scan went very well and for the time being all is good, just got to look after myself.

I now feel terrible that I jumped the gun and crashed your thread, so thank you for all your kind words, but I will now bog off!

Really, my dh is a gas man!

I think you are all an inspiration, and hope that you all have a fantastic Easter xx

Reallyusefulengine · 19/04/2011 18:27

Hurray for MrsGasMan! Lovely to know it is going well and hopefully the rest of your pregnancy will be uneventful and go smoothly.

Darling Big hugs, thinking of you.

Freelance That sounds lovely. Dr S sounds amazing, I bet you anything that his patients all end up with crushes on him

PNJ Well done for doing the day and don't worry about the panics. I get them too, awful, awful. These flipping hormones.

Diamonds Are you the wholesale distributor for Korean Blankets? If not, you should be.

Am off to my acupuncture, have been smoking today so am sure she will beat me. Never mind, I will report back. I found my DS stroking a dead mouse today. Barf! So grim. I practically boiled him in disinfectant.

Big hugs to everyone!

iloveblue · 19/04/2011 21:22

Fab news MrsGasMan - I'm so pleased you don't belong here Smile

I just got asked for ID in Asda when buying a bottle of wine - has made my day Smile

LIG1979 · 19/04/2011 23:38

Hey all. Just having a bit of a bad time so thought I would post as I cannot sleep. (Please forgive the moaning self obsessed whinge.)

After a couple of good days, I was really feeling quite optimistic and whilst I was quite anxious about the scan tomorrow and trying to get an ERPC as quickly as possible - I was fairly sure I could handle anything that happened. I was also looking forward to the future.

Then I found out that my BIL and SIL are expecting again!! Their little one is just 8 months and now they are having a second one. I am so jealous and cannot feel any happiness for them at the moment. (I want to be a nice person but I can't.)

I am also starting to get obsessed about TTC as quickly as possible and have been trying to look on the internet about what would happen if we did start trying immediately after the ERPC. (I know that it is just because I am so upset at the moment but I just feel that being pregnant would sort everything although I also know that I would be a nervous wreck about this happening again!)

Never thought that I would turn into a baby obsessed lunatic - not sure we were even that bothered when we started TTC - we just said if it happened it would be nice but no rush.

Hope everyone else is either tucked up in bed or draining the wine from a nice bottle! Thanks everyone for all your best wishes for tomorrow. x x

freelancegirl · 20/04/2011 00:02

Hello LIG, am still up so thought I would reply, you might not get this before tomorrow but hello anyway! In my wordly experience as someone who had a mc that started 4 weeks before yours, I found I had exactly the same thing. Not the SIL/BIL thing but that I wasn't bothered about ttc before and really never wanted to become a baby obsessed person. That was probably why I didn't ttc for years as I didn't want to have any problems with it and then get obsessed.

BUT as soon as I started the mc (I won't say HAD the mc as I am still having it!) I felt exactly the same as you do now and was madly researching how to conceive again and that's how I became entangled in a whole load of research relating to killer cells and recurrent mc (as it would seem I had two before a long time ago).

What I was going to say though is that, a few weeks later, the urge has kind of left me and I feel more or less back to my non-obsessive self. One half of me was never really sure how I fancied the idea of being a parent. I definitely know now however that I DO want to try again but I just wanted to let you know that that burning desire does fade. It's only natural - your body has had a baby taken away from it :( and will be confused. It gets better though honey I promise. Good luck with the scan tomorrow and know you can look forward to happier times xx

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LIG1979 · 20/04/2011 00:16

Thanks Free you really do lift everyones spirits. Still up - but been playing on the web and posting lots and crying lots and feel a bit sleepier now!

I think I am more upset, that I thought I was over the worst, which I think was a little optimistic as it has only been about a week. I even felt guilty yesterday that I was feeling alot better so quickly. I know it will be one of those things that will be with me for life, but hopefully after a while it will turn into something much more manageable.

Got to hope that I will stop wanting a baby and my pregnancy radar goes down - was convinced that a pregnant woman was following me round the gym earlier and positioning herself right in front of me so I had to look at her belly!

Looking forward to feeling normal again......x x

freelancegirl · 20/04/2011 00:39

LOL! Stalked by a pregnant woman in the gym :)

The worst is going to be over with very soon - getting it all out of the body - but it does go on a bit longer than planned. I still bloody bleeding! And the emotional fall out is significant. BUT it gets better all the time and definitely for me, and I think some of the others have mentioned this a few pages ago too, that baby craving subsided after a couple of weeks.

Night, hon, good luck tomorrow and keep us all posted xxx

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iloveblue · 20/04/2011 08:45

LIG - I know how you feel, it is like a kick in the teeth isn't it when you find out someone else is expecting. And then you have all the feelings of guilt that you are feeling like that to contend with. But like freelance says - it does get easier, and the baby craving does subside. It was all I could think about after my first loss, and after my 2nd loss I did get it again but it wasn't as strong and didn't last as long.
All the best for today x

Hi to everyone else, I'm so tired today - just can't sleep at the moment.

freelancegirl · 20/04/2011 09:14

Morning all. I can relate to that tired thing Blue. Actually this is the first morning in a while I haven't woken up already tired. But generally sleep doesn't seem to refresh me. Hope LIG is feeling ok today and ok for the whole hospital experience. It's not nice, but it is good to get it over with.

I am bleeding heavier again today! Am thinking that last 2cm MUST have gone by now so surely it's something period related...? But it's still very dark brown so very strange. I read on another post (or here?) that someone had a brown spotting for the first month after 30 days post mcs and then a proper period 30 days after that. We shall see. I can't imagine how those who are ttc again cope with this bit as it's weird enough symptom spotting without that to contend with!

Well, I am continuing my ever so busy week and postponing work until after a facial (got a £20 deal) and the gym :) Might as well do things to make myself feel good, as I have felt pretty crap for the last few weeks!

Sorry - as I was chatting to LIG last night I didn't say hello to anyone else. Great news MrsG I hope, in the nicest possible way, you don't need to do much more posting on this board as we can then hope your pg goes fine and dandy.

Really how were the needles? Found anymore dead mice? I think that's quite sweet of your DS, give it a good send off...Oh and both you and PNJ I used to get panics a lot too. I think I've managed to get them under control. You just have to tell your body it's a totally naturally thing happening - part of our old fight and flight reflex - but I realise it is not nice.

Diamonds hope you are still in this bright mood. I googled Korean Blankets. They must wonder why there's a rush on googling from around the country!

Right, hello everyone else, am off for a facial xx

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Reallyusefulengine · 20/04/2011 10:04

Good morning all

LIG It is awful hearing other people's pregnancy news, I had a similar reaction at the weekend. Understandably, it is still very raw. The absolutely urgency to get pregnant straightaway does lessen, you don't get obsessed. I am clucky at the best of times but have decided to have a we'll see policy for the time being (some would call it the too disorganised to remember to buy condoms policy). Am thinking of you today and will look out for any posts later to see how you're doing. And wanted to say, I felt totally paranoid and nervy too, so can't empathise with the pregnant gym stalker story.

ILB Am sorry you're not sleeping well at the moment, you poor thing. Hope you get some tonight. On a good note - ID? For wine? Brilliant! You must have been delighted - I would have been!

Freelance No more dead mice thank god. I told him that you shouldn't stroke dead animals and now he's full of questions. 'What about a dead elephant?' etc. Dead gorillas is my favourite so far.

The needles were amazing. She put some in some flipping mad places though, that really hurt but felt great. I had 2 in my little toes and 2 in my palms and it hurt so much! Those along with some others felt amazing though, it does make you feel quite stoned. Plus you can feel your whole reproductive system heating up and pulsating. The effects are still here, I feel like my ovaries are banging cymbals together (sounds odd and I really can't explain it. It isn't sore it just feels odd but good). My acupuncturist was laughing at me. She said the more they hurt the more I laughed. She says my yin isn't flowing properly and I have blockages. I have new tablets to take called 'Planting seeds'

Here is a link to the tablets if anyone is interested. I think I have the unicorn pearl deficiency.

www.giovanni-maciocia.com/herbal/diseases.html

Reallyusefulengine · 20/04/2011 10:41

I meant I can, not can't!

LIG1979 · 20/04/2011 10:55

Morning all!

Thanks for your support - I'm feeling alot better today. Scan was a little confusing - the sac was all gone now and I have about 2cm of retained products. So they said it would probably go on its' own and an ERPC would not be necessary. Got to go back in a couple of weeks to check. I was really surprised as since the last scan I really haven't had much blood or pain. Sort of a bit dissapointed that I can get closure yet, but glad that things are happening on their own.

*pnjeff - found out when i was supposed to be 9/10 weeks that i was only 6 weeks along. had a scan last tuesday and another one today. so like you it hasn't been too long but i am impatient by nature and the last 2 weeks have felt like months!

Really the accupuncture sounds really interesting. Never had it before but now I am thinking about it.

Free thanks for last night. I think it is good to do fun stuff to cheer yourself up - at the moment I am trying to decide between working from home, the housework or go out in the sunshine. The sunshine, I think will win!

iloveblue thanks for your kind words - i know about the sleeping thing. (I have always had insomnia which went whilst I was pregnant but now is back with avengance.) Decided to go wine free last night and couldn't get to sleep even though I was exhuasted. Very jealous of the ID bit - after years of getting ID'd and hating it - I wish I could get ID'd again - don't even get ID'd in the USA now. I must be old!

darlingred i know how difficult to speak to people and hopefully you can post your feeling if you don't want to talk to people face to face. after shutting people off for a bit i have spoken to a few people and it has been good to explain how I feel to them and cry with them but also it has been nice to spend time with people who don't know and i can have a little bit of time to just be normal and forget about it all for a bit.

Hello to everyone else as well. Hope your days are going well and you can get a bit of time away to enjoy the sunshine....I am going to make the most of another day out of the office! x x

Diamondsamdrubies · 20/04/2011 10:58

Lol: Reallyuseful at your gorgeous ds and you! You always make me laugh! Hope you're enjoying the sunshine! Wish I was a sales rep for Korean blankets, I'd get the pick of the best! But unfortunately, I am in just a very boring, mundane job: guess what I do?!
Freelance: I'm sure it's your AF, hopefully next week you'll feel on top of the world.Nice that you had a picnic in the park yeesterday. We are breakfasting on the balcony in the mornings to classical music, wafting out from the bedroom, and dining on the patio to the sounds of waterfall(ok: waterfeature!), with a glass of wine(although I shouldn't as still on antibiotics).the magical weather arrived at just the right time.
ILB: you must be so chuffed, just the high you needed! (about the ID).
LIG: sorry that you're feeling so raw. It does take a while to get out of your system. Hope you are taking some time out to look after yourself and eating some gorgeous food. Try and get a dose of the sunshine too Hun. Lots of hugs xPlease keep us updated with hospital results etc. Thinking of you today, I was in for ERPC on Friday, seems like ages ago!
Mrsgasman: hope you never have to visit this section of mumsnet. Wishing you a plain sailing pregnancy from hereonin x
Iloveblue: sorry that you're so tired. Tip: try sleeping with curtains open- so the sun wakes you up; it works for me ( but only if you've gone to bed at a reasonable time, like on a work night) ; if you're up late, don't try burning the candle at both ends. Hope the tiredness lifts soon.
I'm still on a high, long may it continue! I hope you all get a shot of the sun today x

Diamondsamdrubies · 20/04/2011 11:01

Crossed posts LIG! So happy that things are progressing in the right direction for you- still doesn't feel right saying this: but you can relate with what I'm trying to say!
Please enjoy the sun! It will cheer you up no end. Everything else can wait. Lots of hugs x

WLmum · 20/04/2011 13:00

Message for Luckyfor2 - you poor thing, it sounds as though you've really had a hard time of it, and yet you seem to be managing ok - you must be very strong (a great quality for the future parent in you). You might like to check out an organisation called Foresight (www.foresight-preconception.org.uk) - basically you send off hair samples and they tell you what you are lacking nutritionally and what supplements you can take to redress the balance. They are super nice and helpful, even if you don't want to go ahead with the programme - after having trouble conceiving in the first place, I have had 2 healthy pregnancies whilst following their programme, and 2 miscarriages whilst not. Let me know if you want any more info, v happy to share!
Best of luck for the future.

Reallyusefulengine · 20/04/2011 22:30

Dearest all

I am very confused by WL's post but it's not taking much at the moment. Confused

Have been out in the sunshine all day, which was bliss. I saw a couple of lovely friends, who are not pregnant and were drinking wine, my favourite at the moment. I told them what happened but whittled it down to about 3 sentences, I didn't want to go into details or really share anything. But they were gorgeous and said the right things. Am glad that I did something sociable. Am having more ovaries playing cymbals sensations but they're getting on my nerves now. I liked them more before the music sesh began. I keep thinking they're going to do some kind of crescendo.

LIG Ah, a shame that you didn't get more resolution today, but as you say, good that things are happening on their own. My sense of time has gone completely, I am hoping things feel more normal once my AF arrives and I'm on the Period podium. And yes, keep us updated.

Diamonds Right, I like this game, I think there should be a prize for whoever gets it right. Everyone can choose 3 occupations. My guesses are... you are in gainful employment as:

a. A professional gambler
b. A florist

c. A taxidermist.

If I struck gold there I will be very, very surprised.

Where is Freelance? That is one thorough facial she's having, she set off hours ago Grin

Diamondsamdrubies · 21/04/2011 00:38

WL mum: thanks for the link. May have a look at that at some point in future when on ttc bandwagon again!
Reallyuseful: I'll leave you all guessing! It's not fascinating or interesting, just downright mundane, Monotonous and downright tedious. All of those professions you mentioned, I would happily volunteer myself for! Glad you caught up with some friends and enjoyed the sun. I worked in the garden, made my work a bit more bearable! I'm teasing you now, it's not anything out of the ordinary at all, in fact quite the opposite- it's commonplace- just that I need a career change, if only to stimulate my poor brain cells. Let me know when you're all guessed out!
Sorry about your ovaries: but, how strange! I hope you're not over stimulating them or anything- I'd be a bit careful. Ask the lady who prescribed the herbs if this is to be expected, she may reduce dosage or offer alternative medication. At least with conventional medicine you are scanned and monitored if anything to stimulate ovaries is administered. Seriously, I'm not joking, don't be scared- just be careful and well informed. Big Hugs x
Big waves to everyone! Well ladies, looks like we are in for a glorious weekend! Good job too :-)

freelancegirl · 21/04/2011 09:01

Ooh. I like this game too. Am channelling 'downright mundane, monotonous and downright tedious'...Diamonds

  1. Watches paint dry
  2. Counts blades of grass
  3. Packs eggs in a factory (complete with hairnet, blue eyeshadow and fag dangling out of mouth)

Hello! Sorry I disappeared. After the facial in Covent Garden (bought for 20 quid but worth 60 on a group on voucher thingy) I went to the gym and didn't get home until 3ish and had a to very quickly catch up on work I hadn't addressed and get it sent off. Then later I was too preoccupied by lying down the settee and contemplating my (seemingly) growing stomach and always-there bleeding. I just counted 33 days of bleeding but I think I counted 33 days the other day so I am clearly bleeding out my brain. Anyone better at maths/concentration (Diamonds with her job counting frozen peas at ASDA Grin ) please tell me how long I have been bleeding for.

Glad you went out and did social things Really. Was it you who is based in SW Ldn? Have forgotten. If so do feel free to bunk off from RL and come and get pissed with me one day :)

Am confused about WL's post too, I think that was what threw me off kilter. But hello anyway and do feel free to join in! That Foresight place sounds interesting.

LIG so glad it is all looking ok. I had 2cm to go too and I thought my bleeding had stopped so was worried it wouldn't come out. I went back two weeks later and still had about 1.5cm to come out. Since then however there has definitely been a rarely stopping sitcky mess of brown stuff (nice...) so am pretty sure that 1.5cm is out and I don't know what the hell else is there. If it's af it's definitely a very weird one. Hmmm.

Hello BLL, Blue, Cream, Magic, Darling, IC and anyone else I have missed!

As I have already de-cloaked myself and revealed my identity so any RL friends will know who I am anyway (and are hopefully have too much of a life to be checking up on me here anyway - moi, paranoid...?) I feel confident I can tell you I am going down to Brighton for the weekend in a couple of hours and starting the weekend very early. Sounds a lot posher than it is but myself and DH live in London during the week and Brighton on weekends so this weekend we are making a long one of it. Weather meant to be great. Hurrah! Now as long as I can stop drinking a guilt-inducing amount and just be happy with 2-3 glasses of wine (I mean in a session not over the whole weekend Grin ) I will do ok.

Oh, the personal trainer who mentioned my 'murderous workout' also said to me yesterday 'are you pregnant again?!' and when I replied (in front of several people) 'Why don't you go fuck yourself' he came up to me and said I looked like I was as I was bloated and my boobs are big again. It's true, he is right. And yes it's also true that he is also a twat. We are kind of 'friends' and have worked together and have a bit of a history of banter so he feels he can say anything to me. He has never been in danger of representing anything near 'tactful'. And it's true, I do still look like I am in the early stages of pregnancy. My tummy is just getting bigger and bigger. Am dreading weighing myself when in Brighton (where the scales are). Not sure what to do. Dr Google seems to think I lot of people get bloated after mc. I seem to be going to the loo ok though!

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Reallyusefulengine · 21/04/2011 09:56

Okay. I can't believe I haven't won already. Oh, and morning all.

Diamonds You spend your days:

  1. Supervisor in a dusty department store in the golfing department
  2. Quality control in a hole punching factory
  3. Accountant

Freelance Would you like me to kick your personal trainer to death? Angry I am more than happy to. I could do with the exercise and it would be a fitting way for him to go. Diamonds can help, we're both small so if we aim at the shins to start with we'll have him floored in no time. With my extra weight at the moment I could finish him off by jumping on him a few times shouting 'it's water retention, got that? It's water retention'. What a prize twat head. And why is he looking at your boobs? A big tactless perv.

You poor poppet, since you're pretty skinny your temporary pot belly must look more obvious. I am bloated too - I didn't have dinner last night which has helped bring it down a bit and I'm avoiding booze and caffeine. Having said that I'm smoking like a mad person. And I'm wearing spanx everyday and even wore a control vest to bed last night, just in case I woke up twice the size I was when I went to bed. And knowing my luck it would happen. But you have been bleeding for Britain for flipping ages. I always get bloated with AF and do a (TMI) big wee towards the end and immediately flatten somewhat. Have you tried Dandelion tea, it kind of works. I would get DH to hide the scales, there is no point in weighing yourself right now and it'll just make you miserable. And I bet you still look gorgeous anyway Smile

Your weekend sounds lovely. Do you stay with friends or do you have a place there? I bought a gorgeous coat in one of the vintage shops in the lanes last time I went but I can't for the life of me remember what it was called. And went to a really nice restaurant/shop for lunch. A bit like Carluccios but kind of rustic. Am so glad my memory is so good. I should write a guide book.

I'm in Richmond. We should do a RL meet up. Am kind of sure that Diamonds is nearby and we should fly the exotic ladies in for the night (ooh-er). Although what pub would want us I don't know, where do weeping, bleeding, drunken nazi-nuns drink these days?

freelancegirl · 21/04/2011 11:46

Where is Diamonds I thought she was Oxon based? It's not so far away though, would be okay for a central London gathering. I do reckon we should have a drink though! I am happy to travel aaaallll the way to SW LDN from Greenwich as you might have more responsibilities than me in terms of childcare. I am not yet a mother but I imagine that getting trolley in ex-nazi, nun loving fashion is not conducive to bringing children? I am not sure what pubs are in the habit (sorry... :) ) of wanting bleeding, weeping, booze-addled, ex nazi nuns but I am pretty sure they won't be on the list of repeat offenders. Yet.

Quality control in a hole punching factory sounds too much for my tiny blood-free brain at the moment. I am thinking on reflection that Diamonds might be a people smuggler - shipping 'em across the channel wrapped in Korean blankets with the pretence that she just liked to coat her furniture/floor/walls/lawn/roof/DH/kids with them for decoration sake.

A Big Tactless Perv is a great way to describe my ex-trainer (who after his tactless observations yesterday did mention he might need some more work doing and in which case he would start training me again). He's a Serbian BTP with a comedy Count Dracula from Sesame St accent when nice and Standartenführer-strict voice when serious, making any tactless comment all the more musical to my ears.

Control vest in bed sounds like a wonderful contraceptive :)

Brighton: We met there, I have been living there since I was 16 and DH moved around the same time. We only work in London but a few years ago I bought a flat here et voila we ended up with two. We have a friend who lodges with us in Brighton to make things more affordable. It's bloody expensive still having two mortgages though - like we live together but don't live together financially. And we are in the weird position that although we have been together 11 years we don't even have one bit of paper that (apart from marrying last year...) that puts us together. No bank account, no bills, no mutual address...

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LIG1979 · 21/04/2011 12:59

Good afternoon all.

Whilst I was tempted to jump on Diamonds job guessing game, I didn't want to put down anyone elses job incase I offended them by thinking it was mundane and they thought that their job was interesting. This probably isn't the time to say that I am Quality controller in a hole punching factory and I love my job!

Free - it is always a good place to compare bodily fluids. Think my DH is getting a little bored of my constant updates following toilet visits. Trying to restrict it to just him and a brief update to friends as I don't think work need these sort of updates! As for the personal trainer that seems a very mean thing to say!

Looking forward to the long weekend although realised I have got to start studying as got an exam in a couple of weeks and with the last few weeks activities I haven't even started working on it. The DH is working on one day so think I will use that time to try and study. Think it will stop me drinking too much over the weekend although got a few BBQ and drinks visits planned to keep my spirits up and alcohol levels up.

Better get back to work - holidays, exams, work trips and now the miscarriage has meant that I have not been in the office much this year and so when I am in the office it is manic. At least it means the day flies by!

Hope you all have lovely weekends and the weather holds up!! x x

Reallyusefulengine · 21/04/2011 15:20

diamonds is rather quiet. Do you think we've guessed? Do you think she is eyeing her pile of smuggled people wrapped in blankets and feeling a bit worried?

LIG Good luck with the revision, hopefully the weather will hold out and you will be able to study in the sun. Are you doing CFA? [being nosey]. DH is doing them in a few weeks.

Good grief, I am so impressed that everyone is working. I have however made another lemon drizzle with DS which turned out alot better. Whenever I think of lemon drizzle cake now I want to shout out 'fetal pole'! I do love this thread.

The cymbals which are my ovaries have calmed down now. Am still entirely unsure what's happening but what's new there!

Free Oh, what a blissful work/life balance (I hate that phrase). Have you written any articles on it? You must be incredibly self disciplined to be freelance AND control two mortgages, two sets of bills etc.

A meet up would be fantastic. I think the London Overground kind of goes to Greenwich from here. We only moved here in August from central London so I am pretty good at getting about. If we could manage it in the next couple of weeks I can leave DC with DS and get the train and everything! Ooooh! A RL meet up! It feels like a date!

Big sunny hugs xx