How are you feeling after MC?

[freelancegirl]

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

Forgot to say - hope you're okay diamonds

Thank you so much everyone, accepting your hugs gratefully and will let you know how we get on tomorrow.

Great thread Freelance, so nice to be able to be sad, but hopeful for the future at the same time

Have a nice evening everyone. My dh has rented a comedy DVD to cheer me up - unfortunately it's called 'Due date'! Have to say it did make me chuckle! Going to watch it anyway as it's meant to be funny x

We started this thread as a few of us 'met' when Diamonds was actually starting to mc and hadn't yet had it confirmed and asked about symptoms. Myself, feeling like a mc veteran as I had had started the weekend before, and others contributed. After we knew she had indeed mc (and so had magic and others who contributed) we moved over here so we could all bitch about our physical and emotional symptoms. And so is the history of this thread....

My DH watched Due Date on a plane and said it was v funny. But yes it is ironic. Whatever happens tomorrow you know you can always come back here and ask any question (there is no tmi here!) and say whatever you need to. Its a good place to vent, cry and have all sorts of weird and wonderful conversations.

Mrsgasman Welcome and sorry to hear your current situation. I agree, alot of women get bleeding and all sorts so whilst you're preparing yourself for the worst, remember there is some hope. I agree, the limbo before good or bad news is confirmed is just awful. Will be thinking of you tomorrow at the EPU. And love the name too! Am intrigued, are you a gas person (ho ho!) or are you married to a gasman? Or neither? I am not actually a Really Useful Engine.

Pnj It's still early days for you, I hope you are being looked after in RL and are getting lots of rest. Thinking of you.

Mopey Good to have you back and of course another lady on the Period Podium! Gosh, its getting a bit cramped up there. Save some room for me! Although am starting to think it'll be so long before my AF arrives that I might need a stannah stairlift to get up it.

IC Hello! Are you having a good time? I can well imagine how beautiful it must be there. All that delicious food and wine. Yum, yum, yum. Will you blogging about it and putting up pics?

Cream The pillows smelling of bum - that made me laugh alot! I have finished tumble drying them - I went on MN and found out that they stink whilst they are drying, a really vile, vile smell (absolutely true, hideous) - and have doused them in tea tree oil. Haven't given them a final sniff but am pretty sure someone will wee on them pretty soon anyway (the DC I hasten to add).

ILB Gosh, I like the seduction of DH. I had almost forgotten the word existed.

Freelance Fantastic! I am so glad to have a virtual drinking buddy. I'll buy the first round. We can have bets to see which of us will cry first and who will start the emotional row .

Well nothing to report here apart from the fact I have been stuffing my face non stop. No wine though. So quite like Ghandhi if he were a bit fat and greedy.

Have I forgotten anyone? I hope not, hugs to everyone!

Hi everyone i find it really difficult to go back and check who asked what so i will address you all untill i get used to this a bit more! I have really started panicking tonight at the though of work tomorrow although i am only working from 8-2 so i should cope! There is so much next week too, my partners party so will have to put on a brave face! and then the scan which im hoping shows everything has completely gone! hpe everyone is feeling a little better today!

I spoke to my friend earlier today who went for her 20 week scan! No heartbeat her 12 week had showed all was ok. I think it would have been worse for me if it had happened this way! Baby had stopped growing just after 12 weeks and she had no symptoms of misarriage! i hope i can be some help to her!

Sorry mrsgasman and other newcomers. But you really are in the best place for understanding, advice, handholding and borrowing shoulders to cry on. This has been a saviour to us all. Reallyuseful: you always make me laugh! I never wash my pillows FWIW: put waterproof covers on the first, then pillowcases. Never need to wash a pillow again/ or a duvet- if you put a waterproof cover on that aswell before a duvet cover: promise- works a treat. Washing pillows and divers: been there done that, lifes too short! Love the Korean blankets in the summer, and they come out beautiful in the wash with your favourite fabric conditioner.
Feeling much better today. Went to Burford Garden Centre, treated ourselves to an early dinner there. Bought a few plants for the garden, some ornaments for the house and generally enjoyed the beautiful sunshine. Still rather green about immaculadas French retreat though! This damned phone is driving me crazy. Sorry if ive missed anyone. Big wave and hugs to all xxx

Divers? What are they then? Meant duvets! This predictive text is doing my head in! Apologies lovelies :-)

No time to catch up but just popping in to say hi. Busy week here. Getting organised to travel to my parents for Easter break (5 hours drive, which takes 7 with the DC's). Sister and her DH staying with us on Thursday night with friends coming for dinner. And our hot water system broke 3 days ago so trying to sort that out!! Broken computer and no hot water, and my GHDs broke on the weekend too ... Genuinely dont know which one i am more lost without!!

I will have a proper read back over the thread later on. Hope everyone us doing ok.

BLL: sorry to hear of the chaos you are living in at the mo. Our water and heating are playing up too. The hearing has been turned off - obviously. But when we run the hot tap for washing, shower or washing machine; all the radiators in the house heat up! The water temp never reaches the levels it did before, just Luke warm? ! Gremlins at work? Any one ever heard of this?

The hearing has NOT been turned off- the HEATING has!

PNJ I hope work goes okay tomorrow, I find taking each day as it comes helps. And don't worry about forgetting who said what, it doesn't matter at all. Am so sorry to hear about your friend, that's awfully sad.

Diamonds Glad you hear you know longer wash divers and your hearing has been turned off! Good heavens. Loved your post, I have been madly googling bedding, had never heard of Korean Blankets, but now I want one so much! Glad you had a lovely day and got some fresh air and some sunshine.

Bll Not the GHDs! I hope its not humid over there. Our heating is appalling and switches itself off whenever it likes. Is due for a rehaul when we do the refurb soon. It doesn't matter in Spring but in Winter you never knew if you'd need 8 jumpers or a tshirt when you got up in the morning. That is a very long drive! Is your DH going or will you be doing all the driving? I can't imagine how many treats and bribes you will have to pack to get through that.

Right, off to google waterproof pillow case protector cover thingamagigs xxx

Good morning all,

I hope everyone is well. Sorry for the following me, me, me post. Here goes. So, I feel really odd. I am ridiculously bloated, am retaining water like crazy (my ankles actually puffed up on Sunday which is definately on the extreme side) and have a horrible taste in my mouth. The latter is probably the iron supplements I'm taking. Basically, I feel like I am due on but there's no sign and as I only stopped bleeding 19 days ago so it is too soon but am not relishing the thought of feeling like this for another good week or so. I have my acupuncture this evening so am hoping it will lessen. It's PMT from hell.

And can't believe it is only 19 days since the bleeding stopped, it feels like longer. I know I am fortunate that it did stop as some of you still have bleeding to some degree.

I think it's the fact that these symptoms are mimicking pregnancy a bit - it is doing my head in.

Sorry for blathering on.

Big waves to the gang xxxx

Welcome to my world Really... If it makes you feel better I feel the same. It's like rotten PMT. It comes and goes but it's definitely there. Bloated, water retention (ooh the ankles is a bit extreme though!), miserable one minute, ok the next... I don't have any funny tastes but yes it is a bit like pg symptoms. Unless of course YOU actually DO have pg symptoms...? Weren't you recklessly having it away with DH at one point...?

Mine has been going on for ages now it seems. Other people on other threads have said they were bloated too and it's because the uterus might keep growing a bit as it take a while for the body to realise it is not pg. Or maybe you (and me too) are actually due on? It's hard to tell until anything happens.

If we are both getting it and other people on other thread's have got it too - it's probably just one of those mc things.

I am still spotting brown this morning 32 days after starting bleeding, although there was a few days it seemed to go. Sigh. Yes, time is doing a weird thing at the moment.

Am with you re BLL: NOT the GHDs!!!

Hope Diamonds hearing is ok this morning

OOh, just a quick TMI update with my MC Buddies... My brown spotting has turned to dark red and a bit more (only on wiping still atm). Could it be... could I possibly.... could it be that some time very soon I will be on the Period Podium wantonly glugging Veuve from the Golden Moon Cup...? Watch this space...

Freelance Oh good heavens... are you dressing up just in case it's time to make your way to the Period Podium? How exciting! (sort of, in a strange way). Well, about bloody (literally) time. I can't believe you are still spotting 32 days after the start. Hats off to you for that, it must be incredibly hard, am so impressed you have been going to the gym during that, well done you. If it was a 32 day cycle it doesn't seem to far off a regular cycle? In fact, it would make it a pretty regular cycle. FX for you. Remember to update with every loo visit!

There was a time when I never thought I would utter that sentence.

Okay, there is a part of me that thinks, we were recklessly having it away but with the amount of wine, the smoking (the drugs too if I could have got my hands on any) there is very little chance. But of course the hopeful, stupid side of my brain is wondering.. and being laughed at by the few sensible cells there are left.

And I hope Diamonds Divers are okay too, since she no longer washes them.

Not sure what outfit would be appropriate for the Podium? Maybe something all white just to help encourage period along nicely. An all white jump suit am thinking would be most convenient.

You are right, a 32 day cycle would make sense. But am used to these things not tending to make much sense. My bloated tummy would certainly seem to indicate it makes sense. Mind you, if I do get af I will then feel that my body is telling me it's ok to try again, and I don't want to do that until I see the famous Dr S.

Tell you what else can make sense - drink, fags, hard-core drugs, S&M etc aside - having unprotected sex and getting pregnant! I would do a test if I were you in a few days just to see what is says

I will definitely keep you updated on my, er, movements. Blimey, all I have done this morning is read mn, have a shower and stare intently at my pants. It's a good job I don't have a day job isn't it.

. Maybe there's a job which entails close concentration of your pants. It might be worth approaching a recruitment consultant to check.

Well, because I had them in the house, I did a hpt and a opk and both came out negative, so I reckon its the wait 'til AF now. Bloody hell, I'm starving and it's impossible to start a diet or stop smoking before AF so will have to sit here, munching grumpily on a carrot.

What's the update on the famous Dr S? Do you have a set date? Are some of the ladies on the other thread seeing him too? I did have a nosey at the thread, they seem lovely and v. knowledgable.

Okay, books to read. I feel I ought to read something, do you recommend anything - I know you ordered armfuls. Is 'Is you body baby friendly' a good one?

Off to find an all white jumpsuit just in case.

And more waves to everyone xx

I had a mc last week so this is really early days for me. I hope coming on and sharing my story will help me process what has happened as it all happened very quickly.

I was 17 wks when mc occurred. I feel empty and want to hide from the world. I'm crying every day.

Our baby was a girl and it's devastating to look at the scan photos and realise she isn't here anymore.

My breasts are very sore and tender and have been leaking.

Oh DR that is awful. So sorry for your loss. I know a couple of the ladies on this thread and plenty on the other threads have had late losses to so I am hoping they can help. It's going to take you time to grieve so try not to be too hard on yourself. I was only 12 weeks (baby had died at 7) but I know how hard my body is finding it to adjust, so physically and emotionally fall out is expected. Do feel free to come and chat more as everyone here is kind, supportive and can emphasise.

Really I hate to interrupt you, sitting there in your white jumpsuit munching on a carrot but at least the BFN gives you an idea of one thing. Well, actually the way our bodies are working (or not working) at the moment who knows what these things really indicated.

I don't yet have a date for the famous Dr S but called his office this morning and left a message so will hopefully hear something. And his midwife who I spoke to is not back until next week. So waiting for af, waiting for phone calls, waiting for appointments, waiting to not want to eat the whole corner shop out of chocolate/drink the pub dry... and off to the gym.

Re books - definitely Dr Beer's is the best one I have read so far. Really good! Buy it so we can be book buddies and compare notes!

Hello all.
Sorry to see the newcomers but at the same time welcome but I hope you have good news and can go back to the pregnancy board. These girls have been great and making me laugh when I have felt like crying. Through them I am now starting to look forward to getting excited about getting a BFN or AF although I know I have a long way to go.

Still not managed to run or exercise a miscarriage out of me. It makes me feel better mentally but causes wierd stomach pains and bleeding for a couple of hours afterwards. Very frustrating but I am now in a wierd way looking forward to the scan tomorrow and being able to start pushing to get an ERPC as quickly as possible. Still quite scared of it happening naturally so armed at work with spare pants, maxi pads, pain killers and got the hubby available to pick me up should it happen.

Work has been really good and whilst I was scared before going back was probably the right thing to do. Really glad to have something to take my mind off it. My brain is still not working - got it when I would have been around 7 weeks (so after it had died) and put it down to nappy brain. Now though it is getting quite annoying as I keep double booking things, loosing my keys, jewelry, forgetting what I am doing - when it was a pregnancy symptom I wasn't so bothered!

Found out yesterday when the DH got a text and looked upset that he had been crying at work when he saw a collegues 12 week scan. Luckily, it means that his boss and his bosses deputy both know now so they are being good at supporting him and letting him off work to support me. I felt really bad that he didn't tell me but he said he didn't want to upset me more.

Really and Free fingers crossed for an AF or maybe even a BFP.
Cream - you have got me thinking that I should wash my pillows - I cover them in a pillow case and forget about them.

Better stop rambling and try and do some work. x

Darlingred - crossed posts - spent sometime trying to work and write the post and missed your post. I am really sorry for what has happened to you. x

Oh poor darling Darling Red I am so sorry for your loss of your baby girl. It is very hard to process what has happened and I do think there is a huge element of shock when you go through it. I had an earlier miscarriage but like Freelance and alot of the girls here, there is a very real tangible grief to work through and it is hard to feel physically and emotionally better afterwards. I think you might be doing the best thing in hiding and crying for a while. Let it all out and look after yourself. Mine started a month ago and it does get better, the sad bits get few and further between. Here for handholding. Am sorry to hear your breasts are sore and leaking... am not sure but hope the milk dries up soon so you don't have that to contend with. You are in my thoughts.

Lig Will be thinking of you at the scan tomorrow. Sorry that this is dragging on - you must be always half thinking it will happen and then it doesn't... it mustn't be easy. Am sorry that your DH was crying, mine cried too when he dropped our DS at nursery - he saw a friendly face and burst into tears. Poor DH's. Mine is consoling himself by eating alot of cake.

Cream and I are the pillow experts. Diamonds is the linen expert. Any questions, let us know

Freelance That is alot of waiting you're doing over there. I will see if the book is in at the bookshop otherwise I'll order it tonight. Novels aren't doing it for me at the moment so could definately do a swot up. Am so proud that you are so on it though, fantastic that you are chasing up your appts and such. It will be great when the date is set. The Fabulous Dr S. Does he just have the most amazing reputation? Where is he based?

Big waves at everyone else!

Darlingred - I'm so sorry for your loss.
My little boy also passed away at 17 wks but we didn't find out till 20 wks, so I know how you're feeling right now. Come and chat with us whenever you like - it really does help. x

Hope the scan goes okay tomorrow LIG and hope you get an ERPC booked as soon as possible.

Hello to everyone else - can I add myself to the bloated, crampy, pre-menstrual crowd, I'm pretty sure AF is on its way, its due on Friday - am proud of myself for stepping away from the HPT's this month. I started tested 5 days before AF was due last time

Really Just finished work! Had a little panick attack on the way! I think its the thought that i weren't able to just stay at home and hide away! I think this whole situation shows that i dislike my job more that i thought! I work as a carer so having to lie about why i have been off to all the clients is hard but i really didn't want to answer questions over and over about what happened. Not too sure about your symptoms they could be wither pg symptoms or your due on! Maybe its best to test again if your period does not arrive in a few days or so.

freeance I've got my fingers crossed for you that this could be your period were all waiting for! I have definately stopped bleeding today but have a bit of stomach ache :/ Did you or anyone else get told to wait to have sex till a week after you stopped bleeding? My midwife said this was to stop infection but just wondering wether this still stands is your using contraception?

Lig Don't think i've seen your posts before. Jw how long you having been waiting for something to happen? When were you told and how far gone were you etc...? I can't imagine if i had to wait a while. I had to wait 6 days and that seemed like a lifetime. Big hugs to you. My partner is trying to be strong for me to but i have told him to start talking to me. I hate to think that he is hiding all his feelings to save upsetting me.

BLL Sorry to hear all that is going on, on top of everything you have been through as well! Hope you have a lovely time :)

DR So sorry to hear what you are going through! These girls are amazing and sometimes its just nice to know that it is not just you that is in this situation. It can feel so lonely even though family are around! I hope the breasts settle soon.

Hope i haven't missed anyone! Big hugs to all!