How are you feeling after MC?

[freelancegirl]

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

Hi desertmummy welcome back. Sorry to hear of sadness, you've been through a lot and to lose your little angel bub at 16 weeks must be so hard.

I had an ERPC just over 4 weeks ago and got my AF this week after 30 days. On one hand I was pleased my body was recovering well but the other part of me was sad as my AF was another reminder of the mc.

Take care and I hope you begin to feel a little brighter soon x

Hi girls: quick update- just got back from hospital after ERPC - they called it d&c- as she said they were going to scrape & suction?! Feel very groggy and woozy. Will give more in-depth details tomorrow, when hopefully will be much recovered. Thanks for thinking of me. Your kind thoughts and words kept me strong. Night night xxx

Hello gang, am on iPhone all weekend so excuse bar typos and lack of bold, paragraphs etc. Desert, nice to have you here again, my heart hurts for you and your 16 week loss. Great that you have your period, even though it us bittersweet it is good your body is moving forward. So glad diamonds is home safe and sound and really hope it went ok. You can hopefully begin to look forward now. Am so proud of Really flying the champagne drenched flag for all of us! I have been out too, one beer, 2 glasses of red and some crisps in the pub after art show for dinner. On train home now and dh annoying me again. We just veer between getting on great and mutual support to total bickering at the mo! Each of us being short fused with each other. I have a busy but social weekend ahead, hope you all have some nice plans and check in regularly to say hello xx ps still getting brown blood! Can't believe that 4 weeks to the day I started bleeding, here I am still bleeding! No wonder I can get tired emotional !

diamonds bless you. You will feel groggy after dnc it's effect of gen anaesthetic. Wishing you lots of healing thoughts.
Those of us that had medically involved mc seem to get period back much quicker. I suppose that mother nature just takes her time to get body back to non preg state.
For those of you out and about this weekend. Enjoy!
I've just found out my Sister has got us tickets for take that when I'm back in Scotland for the summer. Definitely something to look forward to. And leaving the heat behind will be a bonus. Poor hubby stays here and I head back with girls.
Am whittering again!
Have a nice weekend everyone. Happy positive thoughts to us all. X

Glad it went okay, Diamonds! You'll probably feel more or less back to normal today (although I remember my hand being a bit sore where the drips went in!)

Hi desertmummy - Take That, wow, fantastic! I should think it will be a great show. How hot does it get where you are? Temps regularly hit the 40s in the high summer here, but that's more than enough for me. A cool British summer feels like a relief after that...

I hope you had a couple for me, freelance and Really!

Today my AF arrived (any room left on the podium?!) which, although it means we haven't conceived, is useful because it means I'll have a better idea of where I am in terms of my cycle for ttc. Also, DH, DD and me are off to France to stay with my mum for Semana Santa (Holy Week) and it'll be good to be relaxed about quaffing the odd glass of vino, scoffing some soft, mould-ripened French cheese etc.

Desert Am thinking of you. You have been through so much. Its extraordinary that you are emotionally cut up but your reproductive system is just getting on with it - business as usual. The trip back home to see Take That sounds great, it is nice you have something to look forward to. And an escape from the heat!

Freelance Heavens, your itinerary sounds jam packed! Sorry it's a bit up and down with DH, hopefully the weekend break will help.

Diamonds thinking of you - I hope the grogginess has worn off and you had a restful nights sleep. You can feel a bit low after an anaesthetic - it will pass quickly.

IC I do believe there's still room on that podium! The trip to France sounds wonderful, oh to be in France eating cheese and good wine...

A wave at Cream and Big.. where has she got to? And everyone else xxx

Hi again desertmummy Take That wll be fab - they always put on a great show. I saw them 6 times when I was a teenager (and a mad Mark Owen fan ). Will be something lovely to look forward to - and what a nice sister.

Glad you are ok diamonds - I hope you can start getting back on track now and putting it all behind you.

freelance I had a huge row with DH last night - had been brewing for a few days, but we both tend to keep our feelings bottled up and then it all come spewing out. Anyway, we made up and the atmosphere is lighter.
The boys and I are going to my Mums for the night tonight (to be spoilt) and I think the break away from each other will help to.

I also want your life - I want to go to art shows and have busy social weekends . Only teasing (kind of). Have a lovely weekend.

IC I'm currently in the 2 week wait at the moment - and would feel fine if we havn't conceived too. Got my brother's wedding in May, and would be nice to not have to worry about drinking.
In the last week or so my desperate desire for a baby has lessened considerably - not sure if it's hormones or the fact that I'm getting my life back on track.

Have a lovely weekend everyone x

Hi! Feeling much better today! Had a lot of pain for a couple of hours between midnight and 2am. Took paracetamol. Still a bit tender inside.
The procedure was smooth sailing, with lots of waiting around. Arrived in hospital at 10.30am. Got in theatre at 3pm. On the ward at 4.20pm. Home at 9.45pm. My main question is: should I have been given antibiotics? On these threads I read that you get a course of antibiotics prescribed to stop infection from setting in, however, I forgot to ask!
DesertMummy:sorry to hear of your loss. Good that your body is back to normal though.take that eh? I'm green with envy! Really and freelance: nice to hear you're chillin a bit! Freelance: I think natural mc can take a while to get the body back on track- mine couldn't even get rid of the sac! Immaculada: France sounds brill. I like the French wines. The bread and cheese only taste good in France! They don't quite manage to make the same quality over here?! Maybe that's a mind over matter sort of thing. France still sounds lovely!

Diamonds good for you girl. Am glad you are feeling okay and I wouldn't worry about the antibiotics, I reckon you'll be just fine without it.

Ilove Sorry you had a row and I hope you have a lovely time at your mums. My cluckiness seems to have subsided too... I think it might be my brain's way of coping..'I don't want one anyway, I want nice shoes instead!' Not sure how long it will last...

Reallyuseful and Iloveblue thanks for your support! Crossed posts methinks. Hope you all have a lovely weekend. Weather is marvellous here, the sun is shining, the sky is blue....bliss.
One more self obsessed question: how much should you bleed after an ERPC: it's just that I've not really had much, just a bit of pink bleeding, like on day three of a period... Is that normal? although I'm obviously quite sore.

Seconded - don't worry, Diamonds - I wasn't given any antibis either. Just told what symptoms to look out for and go to the doctor for antibis if I got any (fever, smelliness, ongoing pain)

Yes, Really & blue, mum lives in a beautiful area, right out in the countryside, it'll be lovely to get some proper fresh air as well as that fab French food! Mum might be English, but she's a great cook, too.
Having said that, I think we'll be looking after her a bit - her partner is very, very ill and it's been a lot for her to cope with. Hopefully DD will be full of charms and will cheer them both up (assuming she doesn't catch the cold I've got at the moment - I'm trying very hard not to give it to her...)

Immaculada- sorry you have a cold: lots of lemon and honey for you my lovely! You will have a fantastic time in france, I'm sure. Sounds gorgeous-just the tonic you need at the moment. Fantastic photo opportunities too- post some on here, if you feel like it! Take it easy though x

Reallyuseful: with you on the shoe envy, I'm craving a new handbag much more though. While Dh is looking at nice properties to move into! What's that all about? I think it's the mind trying to help you focus on something positive or attainable(not sure about the property hunt fitting that criterion though!). Stops you from sliding into depression, maybe?

Morning all,

Good to see you back after your hospital visit Diamonds. Pleased it all went to plan. Hope your not feeling too tender today, it may last a little while. I'm with IC on the pain the hand, mine lasted for ages, I think they damaged a vein when they put the canular in as my whole arm became bruised and I could hardly touch it - something that's only likely to happen to me! I also got very hormonal a few days after the op and I mean 'hormonal' so don't worry if this happens. Get plenty of rest and eat lots of yummy food.

IC there is certainly room on the podium and a trophy mooncup is waiting for you full of champers! I agree that getting your AF gives you a licence to drink/eat whatever you like for a couple of weeks.

Desert Hope your feeling ok (as you can be) A night with Take That (& your sister) is something to look forward to. I think it's important to have some nice events planned in the diary.

iloveblue I feel a little the same - unsure whether I'm ready to be pg again just yet. Maybe it's the thought of summers nights with a nice glass (or 2/3/4) (damn it lets go for a bottle) of wine. Also have some summer weddings to go to in which it would be nice to drink, however I'm sure if we got a bfp in the meantime all that would go and we would be chuffed to bits.

Hello also to really, freelance and the rest of gang x

diamonds on the bleeding front - I bled a fair bit the first time I went to the loo after the op but after that it was just a little red blood every now and again (mainly on the sanitary towell). After a few days it turned brown then the red returned a little (which panicked me) but turned out to be normal. After about a week (maybe just over) it stopped altogether. Everyone will be different though, so try not to compare - which is what I'm usually guilty of!

I'm doing the same: comparing! Reason being, they warn you against over bleeding, no mention of under! Also in a bit of pain. Scared of infection!
I'll just chill now and try and forget about it! Planning a little barbie later: just for the two of us- he's doing all the cooking. Heaven. My job: just turn up to eat and drink everything!

Hi Diamonds should have mentioned this on the other thread. I was also given antibiotics- as a precaution. I don't think it's standard across the board though as I've heard of lots of people who haven't. If you feel you may have the start of an infection (although I believe it's unlikely - especially this early on) go to a walk in centre in your area. If not go to your gp on Monday and ask. They clearly don't see it as a necessity in your area though if they don't give them out as standard.

I'm not a fan of them myself and prefer just to take them if I 'have' something, as they just cause other problems - thrush being the biggest one for me.

The pain is normal - I felt tender for days. Sounds like you have a lovely day ahead so try to enjoy x

Agh, I really want to join in but am just on my mobile this weekend! So hard to try keep up when on phone. Will respond to the bits my tiny brain can remember. Ic sorry you have a cold and your mum's partner is so ill but v pleased you are going to france for semana santa, sounds lovely. Yes do gorge on cheese and wine and lovely french countryside! You deserve your place on the Period Podium. Cupeth overflowing. Diamonds glad it wasn't too hideous and you have some nice things planned. Not sure who am responding to now but I hear you with the much less broody thing too. There is lot to look forward to over the summer as things warm up a bit. I do indeed have great weekends planned blue! Or was it cream? But yes there is a lot of fun to be had and we should all make sure we enjoy ourselves. We know there are low points throughout so doing what we can to make ourselves happy in the high bits is well advised. My low bits today: weird brown blood in what am assuming is that clot coming out and bloody weight gain!!!! I was hoping I had at least lost a couple of pounds but I have actually put a couple on. Might be my bloody annoying thyroid. I realise I shouldn't be so hard on myself as I am a healthy size and weight but it is very frustrating! Really going to have to hit the gym hard and eat cleanly for a few weeks, which is dull dull dull. Hello desert, really, diamonds, blue, cream, Ic and anyone else I have missed! Talking if which, where's magic? Haven't heard from her for a bit. I am off to the gym. Am in brighton right now where I try to go most weekends and it is the perfect day for wandering the lanes etc before heading off to countryside later on and no doubt drinking for England again over dinner :)

Creamcracker: will go to gp on Monday. Probiotic yoghurt drinks keep thrush away!
Freelancegirl: sounds like a lovely weekend! Have a drink for me too! Daren't go near anything alcoholic, especially when feeling this tender! Gorging on the chocolate already though!
I post from my iPhone 99% of the time; now I know why I'm not as thorough as you freelance - at name checking, and keeping conversation flowing! You'll manage though: just about! Concentrate more on reporting about yourself, we'll try and keep up!
Have a fantastic weekend everybody x

Oh and your two pound weight gain Freelance might be related to extra muscle poundage: considering how much gym and fitness work you've been up to lately.

Ooh yes, it might be muscle. My tiniest jeans aren't fitting though but weirdly when I look in the mirror in my pants, which I just did, am not that bad. Just have to look at it a bit more positively. There we go, that was all me, me, me. Oh, but am jealous of your chocolate stash. Still on my way to gym...

Hi to all. Nothing much to report & still limited to my phone for updates. Was out with the DC's at a friend's BBQ earlier in the afternoon and evening so I have not had much chance to catch up. I wonder how everyone manages it you all seem so good at remembering details if eachother! Or perhaps have known eachother from other threads. I have gone back over some of the threads that I read when I was having my MC and it is nice to recognize some of your names in hindsight.

Am rambling sorry.

We had a fun moment last night having a bit of a dance with the kids. DH always has music playing when he is home, and arranges his music so we get quite the random playback of songs. You know how some song lyrics just hit you in a way that they never have before? Case in point, a song I'd not heard in a while, KT Tunstall's "Hold on to what you've been given lately, hold on cos the world will turn if you're ready or not". Heard it and (in the context of my MC) thought "ain't that the truth" but then my next thought was to take the sentiment literally. Appreciate what I have got right now, the world still might turn. And I do, but funny how a simple line from a song can take a new slant for you. Does this even make sense?

Something about me that might put it in context: I have always known I would love at least 3 children, maybe 4. All my friends ( who have asked) know this about me. A few days before DD was born, a friend's mum did the wedding ring thing to see if the baby was a boy or a girl. The test (in how she did it) "correctly" swung to say that my first DC was a boy, & then spun to say that my second was a girl. Still with me? Then she waited for the ring to stop spinning and said "let's see what you will have next time". The ring did nothing and in a light-hearted way she said "oh well looks like you will stop at 2 children". I laughed it off and said of course who believes that stuff blah blah blah. But truth is, it kinda spooked DH and me, who are not superstitious. What might happen in our lives that would change our plan of more kids? I have been thinking about that story again, wondering if this MC means something. What if my world is already turning?

Reading this back, How stupid does that sound?? A monkey on my back, just needed to offload it. So I am going to post it.

Well, DH was at a buck's (stag) day/night today and is still out. I will be on the morning shift with DC's so only a couple of quiet wines for me and am about to go to bed.

A big friendly hello to all of you.

Thanks for the good wishes re: the cold! It's past its peak now, thankfully - and wasn't TOO bad as these things go. Yes, diamonds, lemon, honey and ginger going down aplenty!

LOL at Period Podium and cupeth overflowing, freelance! Enjoy your weekend, sounds fun.
meanwhile
CHUCK OUT THE SCALES!!!
Go by the mirror, how your clothes feel and you feel. G'wan! It's very liberating....

yy bll to the song lyric observation. I couldn't agree more.
I've been listening a lot to the new This Is The Kit album which has a lot of baby-related lyrics (or lyrics open to that interpretation) which make it very bitter sweet. I love it, though.

heheheheheh.....

Hey all,

Diamonds glad the ERPC went well. I keep hoping my body will get rid of it naturally and whilst I get pains and a bit of blood nothing seems to be happening so assigning myself it is an inevitability.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. Home alone today (DH is working) and so thinking about going out on my bike on the road to get a bit of the sunshine. Spent the last couple of days out and about and felt better but think I should be able to spend a bit of time on my own. Trying to build myself to go into work on Monday as working from home isn't really working and I think I need some distractions.

Freelancer is think I know what you mean about the scales - really cut down my exercise when I was trying to conceive after not having an AF since december and was sort of ok with the weight gain as I was pregnant within 3 weeks of cutting down the exercise. Now that I am no longer pregnant I almost want to do as many non-pregnant things as possible to make it seem like a good thing.

I am also trying to remember the threads but my brain seems to be having real issues - it almost as if now I have 'nappy brain'. Was out last night and really enjoyed the company and didn't tell them about what has been going on but found it really hard to keep up with conversations.

Also, noticed that everyone is pregnant or has new babies around me. On facebook, in the gym, in town they are everywhere. It is almost as if I have got pregnancy radar!

Happy weekend people and thank you all for making me chuckle it is good to have such a positive thread about something so horrible!! x x