How are you feeling after MC?

[freelancegirl]

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

Big and Freelance Am slightly concerned that you have imaginary conversations but VERY concerned that they're not even pleasant ones! Deary me. My personal worry at the moment is seeing friends with new babies in case they think that I might run off with theirs... I am clearly being appallingly paranoid.

Freelance! Bless you! You are utterly gorgeous. I will watch them all properly tomorrow. Your nana is adorable but I zoned out of listening to the recipe because I was hynotised by how clean and ordered her cutlery drawer is. I have cutlery drawer envy!

So DH is clearly incredibly confused by whatever it is he thinks I'm doing on Mumsnet as I generally sit her laughing and tittering. Yesterday he wandered past the computer just as I was typing 'Nazi' so I think he assumes I have turned to the comforting embrace of fascism to cheer myself up. Anyway, was watching the film of lovely Nana making the scones and he asks what it is and I said 'it was sent by one of the ladies on my m/c thread'. He now looks really confused at how a 95 yr old lady has managed to m/c. Gawd love him. He is having a piece of the cake DS licked earlier now .

I am mad about all of you xxx

I am eating cheese and onion hula hoops. They are delicious but not as delicious as wine

Hello all - been lurking a bit - but all moving so fast - welcome to the newbies, sorry to hear your stories but I'm sure you'll find this a very reassuring and friendly thread.

I have found it great to feel there are others in similiar situations and it often puts it into perspective for me when I was only 5 weeks and some of you were nearly or well into the 2nd trimester which i cant imagine how difficult that must have been.

and so Freelance our celeb!! dont worry no dirty old men here (we hope) - when it comes down to ttc, af, mc, cm etc etc we're all going thru the same old emotional shite whoever we are, curiosity got the better of me once it was mentioned and your 'youtube' vids are great. On a more personal note great all is working with ovulation from your last scan, hopefully it wont be long for you FC.

I think I am going through a similiar thought process as - was it bigflipflop in that I have dreadful guilt for still wanting another when I have 3 gorgeous dc's but I just cant stop this broodyness - do you think it carries on until you hit menopause and perhaps you just have to be practical and say enough is enough, or do some people really not want more and then it is the right decision - I am so torn - I dont want to put added pressure on our family - yet deep down - I still want a baby - maybe this is one for the AIBU thread!!

Enough wafffle having said I was signing off, hope everyone is well happy and still travelling hopefully xx

I'm going back to have a look at Nana's cutlery drawer....I love you Really...Did I mention I'd already had a bottle of wine? Those two statements aren't connected in any way shape or form.....I'll go and stir my risotto

HeyReally are you famous too?

anyone tried the new Milka and Daim bar - one gone so far this eve plus a bottle of red!

Hello all, I feel I've lost touch a bit and this thread has moved on many pages since I was last here. Work and social events have taken up a lot of my time.

Well it's 4.2 weeks since my ERPC and I got my AF today. I'm quite pleased about this as my AF's weren't very regular before my pg so I was expecting it to be a long wait. Well I'm hoping it's my AF, it certainly feels like it. Although I'm pleased it's here I felt a little sad at the same time as it's a reminder I'm no longer pg.

Inmac and Freelance lovely of you both to share links to your sites and videos. Gorgeous ladies and gorgeous nan - it's strange when you build up an image of someone then actually see what they really look like.

Welcome to all the newbie's (not in a Deal or no Deal style) and sorry to hear your sad stories.

Sunny wishing you well for tomorrow. I found the ERPC pretty straightforward and my body seems to have recovered well. They tell you of the risks prior to the surgery but they really are minimal, almost everything you do in life holds some form of risk. I had stomach ache for a few days after, but that?s to be expected. My bleeding lasted for about a week on and off, but again that?s normal. I was told it doesn?t affect your fertility (it was my first ERPC) They do the op blind (no ultrasound etc) and I was told it was done through suction now not scraping. They said I could begin ttc as soon as the bleeding stopped and that you can ovulate from about 2 weeks after the op. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Now I have my AF I may brave ot and start dipping my toe in the conception thread.

Really your post has made me chuckle

Mopey I love the Milka Daim choc - I'm trying to be good this week but I feel my willpower slipping away!

If he saw you writing Nazi and then nun in one sentence he might be even more worried! Tell him it's a weird initiation ritual that you have to bake scones to the exact recipe of the founder of mn (founded in scroll-form in a convent in occupied France before the advent of technology) or else you won't be allowed in the club. Come to think of it, what would nuns be doing on mumsnet? Oh my god - I've got it - it was originally Nunsnet

Nan is indeed very lovely (she's my mum's mum) as you might be able to see if you watch the inter railing vid! She is very neat and tidy, even living on her own at 96 oop norf. She will like the fact her cutlery drawer was appreciated :)

Maybe, in some sort of aversion therapy, you should actually run off with their babies (pretend of course) to see what the say. It's amazing though, in all seriousness, how we can stress ourselves out by completely invented conversations. Even worse I think is the thought that I won't be able to control what anyone thinks about me. Weirdo.

....just to add the bottle of red was shared!!

Aggh! 5 posts I have missed whilst writing about nuns and nazis and nunsnet!

Mopey Milka and Daim bar together?? God that sounds gorgeous. And a bottle of red. I am almost weeping with jealousy of you and Big and other wine sluggers of the evening. I have been without wine and chocolate for precisely one and a half days and I think am in cold turkey. Trying to hold out until Friday. Not for any health reasons but for shallow, vain ones in a bid to try to get rid of these pregnancy-that-never-was pounds.

Mopey I was reading earlier in Lesley Regan's miscarriage book something along the lines of - if you have the urge, you have the urge and it probably won't easily go away. No need to feel guilty, it's just human nature (not for everyone of course but nature nonetheless).

Hello again Cream, great news on af! And such good timing from your ERPC. It is bittersweet of course but great that your body is getting back in gear. And yes indeed good luck for Sunny and her procedure*, just get it out of the way and then you can take the next step.

Thanks to all for watching the vids. Feels a bit funny to be 'outed'. I always think that too cream, about building up an image of someone and it's always totally wrong. What was I, tall, blonde, dressed in a sharp suit...?

(posting with baited breath knowing I have probably crossed another post or two)

I had my bottle all to myself

Freelance I did have you down as having long dark hair but I'm sure you mentioned biker boots at one stage so my imagination took me down that route. Also you mentioned you were the same size as me once (8/10) but you look more like a size 6 and that's with the alleged 10(tv)lbs.

Tee hee! My 'biker boots' are from top shop. Currently in cowboy boots and pretty dresses. I was a good 8lbs lighter in the Maldives video than now. Now am firmly a ten (no 8s fit me properly) with a still bloated tummy. I don't understand it!! Ok I have been bigger - when I developed a thyroid prob at the age of 21 I put on three stone in 6 weeks and it took a while to get it off - but I have become used to being a 10 in recent years and frustrated about the bloat.

Am I the only one who put on pg weight and is finding it's not going easily? Not that I am making a huge effort but hey.

Your not alone. I started some silly diet this week to try and blast the fat quickly as I really want to get back to my pre-pg/mc weight. It's not big or clever but I need results fast as I've felt blobby for too long now. I only need to lose about half a stone but it really makes a difference. Alcohol is my downfall at the mo though - but I've stayed off that so far this week. So here's hoping.

It's annoying though isn't it, even if it is only half a stone. Next week am determined to start back at the gym four times a week. Couldn't do it this week - got to go away again for weekend and not near the gym! Wine.... MMmm.

Evening all

Freelance and IC you are both beautiful - I love having faces to match to names. I can now imagine you everytime you post. (Just realised that sounds a bit stalkerish - but you know what I mean)

Creamcracker - glad to hear your AF has arrived. It is a sad moment but its also great as it means your body is getting back to normal.

Sunny - good luck for tomorrow.

I found the dregs of a bottle of wine lurking in the kitchen which has greatly cheered me up.
I've got an appointment with Occupational Health tomorrow. I'm a teacher (part-time) and was referred by my boss (headteacher) as he knows the situation and that I have been struggling recently.
I'm not sure what help it's going to be or what it will entail, so we'll see.

Hey Blue That's good that work are taking you seriously. I imagine they will just have a nice chat and see if there is anything they can do to make your life easier. It will probably make you a bit teary, I am really normal until anyone shows me any kindness and then I get a bit choked.

I liked reading IC's blog too. It is nice to be able to visualise people, in a totally non-stalker way. By the way that's a nice house you've got there on Google, I've checked out your electoral register and I'm about to give you a call...

Dregs of a bottle of wine is good. I actually have a couple of untouched bottles but I think I might be falling off my two-day wagon tomorrow.

Symptoms of the day: Am not sure if I mentioned I've been getting slight cramping - just a tiny bit of feeling - in the last couple of days and now getting some brown spotting. It's either some of that last bit that is due to come out or it is af. Watch this space!

Oohh I started off with cramps & spotting yesterday then AF arrived today. I'm watching this space!

Hope you find tomorrow some help blue

Sunny Will be thinking of you, check in when you can and let us know how you're doing

Cream An AF, gosh, that's the first one we've had in 'real-time' on the thread isn't it? I hope you feel okay, it sounds almost (and hopefully) like a regular cycle has kicked in. Does it feel strange knowing you can ttc again?

The rest of you - I have had no wine for 3 nights now but am giddy and cackling like a witch. I blame you lot entirely. EVERYONE is either drunk, stuffing themselves with chocolate, on a work strike(that'll be you Freelance) or embracing fascism. I imagine those that haven't been on tonight are probably out ram-raiding.

Big Good girl, I hope the risotto was delicious. Make sure you have a really good look at Nana's cutlery drawer. Un-flipping-believable.

Freelance If you see about 10 nuns hiding in the bushes in the house, it's only us.

There must be a full moon tonight.

really I'm shocked AF has come only 4 weeks after my op so if I get a regular cycle from now on i'll be chuffed as I've never been regular before. The fact I can start ttc scares the sh*t out of me if I'm honest, but may just jump on in the deep end!

The rest of your post has tickled me yet again & I'm sober too.

Yay - you are right Really I think Cream is our first real time AF on this board? Ahh, aren't we cute. Celebrating our AFs like the Big Girls on the Conception boards celebrate their BFPs :) Maybe soon we will graduate to that next step.

Am sitting up on my own watching Scream btw and do not want to think about 10 nazi nuns hiding in my bush (cackle, cackle, cackle...am a bit sober-drunk too, probably sober-drunk on the sheer amount of time I have been skiving off work and staring at a laptop screen). I might retire to bed and start ploughing through some of my Miscarriage Library in preparation for Mastermind.

Reading this thread feels a bit like channel surfing on the tv, so many topics and jokes, medical facts and questions, and warm comments of support, all rolled into one. It is fast moving especially as I try to keep up on my phone.

Tried watching your Nan's scone making freelance but it sent my phone into go-slow, unfortunately. Managed a quick look at your blog IC and the post about your MC. Your DD is beautiful, close to my DD's age - mine is 20months.

Cream cracker great news about you AF. Surely, for those abstaining from wine you could make an exception to celebrate the arrival of each nun's AF? Just a suggestion .

As for me, got my BFN today. Will have a wine tonight to "celebrate". What a strange concept. But all part of the process of moving towards my next attempt at TTC.

On the cooking front, I got out my Ottolenghi cookbook today to try my hand at making olive oil crackers. Am impressed with the result, so perhaps crackers and blue cheese with my wine tonight. But on a healrgier note I did buy brown rice today, forget who inspired that move with their brown rice post a few days ago.

Thought of you today Really when my DS was watching the show that is your namesake.

Hi to all and welcome to those whom I have not formally "met".

Forgive the typos on my phone. Don't forget about me while I am sans-computer I am reading and enjoying the "company" of you all.

Healthier, that is

Thanks for your lovely comments, cc, blue, freelance, bll! I'm very touched.

Is today the day, sunny? If so, good luck - I'm sure it'll all go fine.

The OH sounds like it has the potential to be a good call, blue. Good to know they're taking your situation seriously.

Reading last night's posts in the cold light of day, post-porridge I have come to the conclusion that YOU'RE ALL BONKERS

But lovely with it.