What would you do? Pls help

[Beesok]

Hi everyone, it is really painful for me to join this thread but I am really confused and need some help/advice.

I just found out yesterday that I have a blighted ovum (it's my first pregnancy and I am 6+2 weeks). The doctor said she can see a sac but no yolk sac or fetus and expects me to miscarry within next few weeks. She told me all my options but I felt like she suggested to wait it out to happen naturally.

Obviously I am extremely upset and yesterday after talking to my hubby we decided to let things happen naturally. Today I woke up with minor period like cramps but still no bleeding (I haven't had a single drop of blood since my last period in September).
After reading on the Internet I saw that it took some women weeks to miscarry naturally...I am scared of my emotional state if I wait for weeks and weeks (won't be able to move on until it happens) am just seeking advice from people who went through this? Did you wait or is it better to get a D&C?

BTW The doctore is def off in timing my pregnancy - the report said I am 8 weeks but there is no way that can be true (otherwise I would have been on my period and pregnant!) I am not more than 6 weeks +/- few days....not sure if that means I'll have to wait longer for it to happen...

Thanks in advance for your help

Hi all

Thank you for thinking of me, it really is appreciated. I have just been quiet at home (my DP happened to be off this week by chance) and am just putting myself back together.

I had been seeing an acupuncturist and he suggested that I go private to have some blood tests to look at immune issues/clotting at the very least to rule things about before trying again. I've decided that this will make me feel a bit better in so far as taking some control over a situation where I don't feel I have any. So have an appt for 9th December.

Physically I have not bled for the first time today. I feel tired and a bit fuzzy headed but quite calm. Weirdly it seems this time is a bit easier than the first time. The first time was such a shock but I guess I must have managed to keep a little bit of distance this time. Either that or I'm still in shock/denial, not totally sure really.

Issy so sorry that you had a horrid nurse, def should complain if you feel up to it.

nurse it is a lovely idea to start a more positive thread. I think I am going to wait for a period although it will be difficult to resist if I see signs of ovulation. I would be v happy to be pg again straight away but I'd be a basket case waiting for scans/12 weeks etc. Mind you I think I will be next time whenever that might be.

wonnay good to hear that you've had a good nights sleep, it really does make a massive difference doesn't it. I am def sleeping more than normal, almost 10 hours a night. Not sure what to put that down to as I'm not doing much during the day.

Beesok I really hope it all goes/has gone well for you today. Hopefully you'll feel some relief that the physical side is over and can start the healing process.

it is sad that we've all had to get together on this thread but I've really appreciated the support and having other people with me through this horrible process.

Hope you are all doing ok today.

Wonny and star thanks I am actually glad that this is finally coming to an end, I don't think I'm 100% yet but definitely a long way from when I started this thread :)

So here's my update, had the ERPC today and they kept me in the hospital for a bit and the hubby took me to a nice sushi lunch - I was actually feeling much better than I thought I would, woke up feeling fine after the GA was upset and tired for a bit but sort of got over it quickly, I feel quite well - am bleeding very slightly like a light period and have had no pain or problems with going to the bathroom etc.....so thankfully it all went OK and am hoping to finally get better. I took the day off tomorrow and intend to just rest and take it easy over the weekend.

I am looking forward to ttc again, will see how I feel but I think I might want to wait for my first period, I have a follow up appointment scheduled in a few weeks to check everything is OK so we'll see, unless we get really frisky he he he

Will def be joining you girls on Nurse's thread :) I think I am a little addicted to you lot and Mumsnet ;)

I must say though I really am grateful for this forum - it has helped to go through all the emotions and although I don't think I'll ever forget about this it has helped me recover and still be hopeful/positive about the future, whatever that may be :)

take care guys!!!! xxxxxxx

yellow thank you too and I am glad you are doing well :) and I think the blood tests are a good idea, at least you might get some more info and as you said get some reassurance.

Hi beesok and so glad to hear you're through to the other side. I just had a look at the date of your opening post - 2nd November so just 17 days ago but doesn't it feel like a lifetime.....?

V glad also to hear that you're looking forward to ttc and will look forward to seeing you on nurse's thread - I'm just lurking there to start with.

Good to hear from you too yellowtomato and that you have something positive to work towards with your 9 Dec appointment. I'm quite jealous of your 10 hour sleeps!

I started bleeding a bit yesterday - not too heavy but bright red which I'm taking to be quite normal but really hope it calms down for next weekend - DH was awarded an "outstanding leadership" award a few weeks ago that included a boring trophy but also a weekend away to a Banyan Tree resort about an hour away from us so cannot wait for that! .

Well ladies - thanks again for all your support on this post - you've all been fab and I will look forward to seeing your names on more positive threads in the future xx

Beesok glad to hear it went well and I'm jealous of your sushi lunch ;)

Yellow all the best for the 9th Dec appt.

See those of you who are there over on nurse's thread.