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Is this the start of the peri-menopause? TMI Warning.

851 replies

ScarahStratton · 16/10/2011 17:25

Normally I have nice, light, regular periods. No cramping, no pain or bloating (I know, I've been incredibly fortunate).

This month I am having the period from hell. Very heavy, feel like I've put on 2 stone in as many days, and absolutely horrific cramps that nothing is shifting.

I've spent hours in a steaming hot bath today, and just want to crawl into bed with a big mug of tea and LittleDog to cuddle.

I'm 44.

OP posts:
Mardymwahhaha · 28/10/2011 12:49

Passes Brew and Biscuits to crazynanna. Your dd sounds lovely.

My cycle before last was just 17 days and I felt as annoyed as you.

But according to my iPeriod app, I'm currently on day 46 of my cycle, so maybe it'll be better next time for you too. Day 46 is unheard off for me. To think, I was worrying I might not get my subscription for tranexamic acid renewed in time.

Putrifyno · 28/10/2011 12:53

I am obviously losing my mind! A fellow MNetter Blush sent me a text to ask if I was going to turn up for lunch today as arranged. I now have a vague memory that we discussed it - but still can't remember the details...what time/where.......I had had wine - but not THAT much! I am mortified.

crazynannawitchbitch · 28/10/2011 13:04

Thanks Mardy. Need the biscuits....no energy.
I had a 46 dayer two cycles ago,'twas bliss but paying for it now Sad.
To think,this is the Peri and have yet to hit the Meno,so a few more years of this...so depressing.
The Tranexamic acid.....how does it help? Is it to minimise the blood flow,or to help the other symptoms?

crazynannawitchbitch · 28/10/2011 13:06

Putrifyno The forgetfulness can be quite alarming sometimes. Not the little things like walking into a room and wondering why,but the appointment forgetting. I sympathise.

Mardymwahhaha · 28/10/2011 13:28

crazynanna I was having huge blood clots which would appear out of nowhere and go straight through sanitary protection and clothes. Would only be about 2-4 times per period but would never know when it would happen so always on edge especially if not able to get to a loo. (I had one notable public transport disaster! Blush ) Plus it would happen in the night and I'd have similar slaughtered pig incidents.

The tranexamic acid makes it a lot better as long as I start as soon as period does (it takes about a day to kick in I've found).

Yes, memory is definitely getting hazier too.

crazynannawitchbitch · 28/10/2011 13:31

Mardy ok sounds like maybe should give that a try. The worst feeling is when I get that cold trickle down my leg and just know what is happening. It's only when I pass the clot does it ease...sorry bit graphic.
Is it prescription only?Or can I buy it? Sorry re all the Q's Smile

Mardymwahhaha · 28/10/2011 14:24

Don't worry about graphic. I know exactly what you mean.

I got it on prescription from GP crazynanna. Sounds like we have similar symptoms.

Another option is mirena coil, but I know this is a bit hit and miss so sticking with the tranexamic for now.

crazynannawitchbitch · 28/10/2011 18:52

Thanks for that Mardy Smile Am seeing Gp on the 7th November,so I will discuss my suitability for the drug...i need something that's for sure!

Had a good sleep and feel a bit better,just washed out. Yes you're right,we do seem to loiter on the same boards! Best be careful...people may start to talk {grin]
Thank yopu so much for your support,advice and your listening ear Smile

Mardymwahhaha · 29/10/2011 16:12

Good luck with it crazynanna.

cyb · 29/10/2011 16:22

Well I had blood tests and apparently my hormonae levels are fine so I;m not peri meni. Which hacked me RIGHT off as I cant explain moods.

BUT GP says I need to get heavy periods sorted so am seeing (dishy) private gynae soon

Mardymwahhaha · 29/10/2011 16:47

I had a blood test and it came back negative but I've got lots of peri symptoms. The doc did say that the test is unreliable at certain times of the menstrual cycle. But it's hard to tell where I am in my cycle, as it seems to go between 17 and 44 days (and counting!)

crazynannawitchbitch · 29/10/2011 23:18

You would have thought in the 21st century that they would be able to invent a reliable test to determine what the hell's going on with these damn hormones. It just seems a waste of (NHS) money and time (and blood-like we can spare any more). Now I feel the GP isn't going to believe me if the blood test is "normal"...and I really need something for this losing half my blood supply every couple of weeks.
I want a dishy Gynae Guy,Cyb Sad I will demand one [hwink]
Thank you Mardy..will let you know how I get on [hsmile]

CeliaFate · 30/10/2011 12:38

Peris - I've c+p this from Sunday Times. Apologies for length of post, can't link because you have to pay to see it!
Menopause

Strictly speaking, menopause occurs when you have had no periods for 12 months. The most common symptoms of menopause ? hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings, memory problems, vaginal dryness, irregular periods ? occur in the months or years before this, a time known as perimenopause.

The science
As we get older, the ovaries start to fail and less oestrogen is released. When this happens, the brain tries to jump-start them by releasing chemicals called follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinising hormone (LH), and it is these hormones, as well as the sputtering surges and troughs of oestrogen production, that cause symptoms.

Foods to eat
Soya can help reduce the increased risk of cardiovascular disease and lowers the risk of osteoporosis, which can increase when oestrogen levels fall. It may help reduce the severity and frequency of hot flushes.
Calcium-rich foods such as leafy green vegetables, dried apricots, almonds and dairy produce will protect bones and help to balance your moods.
Increase your intake of phytoestrogens, including flax, pumpkin, sesame and sunflower seeds, which help to keep hormones in balance.
Low-GI foods, in particular whole grains, help to maintain steady blood-sugar levels and ease mood swings; they are also rich in B vitamins, which affect the hormonal balance in the body and your mood.
Omega-3 oils, found in flaxseeds, quinoa and oily fish, are anti-inflammatory and can reduce a number of symptoms, such as hot flushes.
Plenty of fruit and vegetables, which contain B vitamins and a host of other nutrients, including antioxidants.
Foods rich in vitamin E (such as sunflower seeds, almonds, peanuts, pine nuts, cooked spinach, avocado and dried apricots) control and even eliminate hot flushes and can help with vaginal dryness.

Foods to avoid
Spicy foods, caffeine and alcohol dilate the blood vessels and can make night sweats and hot flushes worse. Hot drinks may also exacerbate these symptoms. Alcohol puts pressure on your liver, which makes it less effective at processing oestrogens in your body.
Sugary, refined foods can exacerbate mood problems and even memory loss, as well as causing fluctuations in your blood-sugar levels.
High levels of saturated fat can increase the risk of heart disease and cause weight gain that may be difficult to shift.
Fizzy drinks that contain caffeine can weaken bones and trigger hot flushes and night sweats.

Expert tips
Smoking can increase hot flushes and long-term health risks.
Breathing exercises can encourage relaxation, which can reduce hot flushes and emotional symptoms, and help lift your mood.
Regular exercise keeps bones strong, improves circulation (which can have an impact on hot flushes), lifts your mood and helps manage your weight.
Getting a good night?s sleep can ease symptoms and help you feel more energetic and balanced; aim for 8-10 hours a night.
Being overweight can increase hot flushes and night sweats.
Wear layers, so you can control your temperature more easily.

Edamame dip with spiced pitta chips and crudites
Serves 8 as a snack

For the pitta chips
4 wholegrain pitta breads
1 tbsp olive oil
1 tsp ground cumin
1 tsp garlic powder
¼ tsp cayenne pepper

For the dip~
400g edamame beans, shelled
200g silken tofu or fat-free yoghurt
2 tbsp olive oil
Finely grated zest and juice of 1 lemon
2 cloves of garlic, crushed
20g bunch of mint, leaves only, roughly chopped
1 tsp ground cumin
Freshly ground black pepper

For the crudités
2 carrots, peeled and cut into sticks
2 stalks of celery, cut into sticks
¼ cucumber, cut into sticks

Heat the oven to 180C/Gas Mark 4. Slice the pitta breads into bite-sized wedges, mix the oil and spices together in a bowl and toss the pitta wedges in the mixture to coat. Spread the pitta out on a large baking sheet and bake for 20-25 minutes, or until crisp and golden.

Steam or blanch the edamame beans for 5 minutes until tender, run under cold water and drain. Tip into a food processor along with the remaining dip ingredients and blitz until smooth. Serve the dip with the pitta chips and crudités.

CeliaFate · 30/10/2011 12:40

FFS - For once I'd love alcohol, chocolate and chips to be the solution to our problems!

crazynannawitchbitch · 30/10/2011 12:46

Thankyou for that CeliaFate
I found useful the 'Foods to eat.' I will really try to bring those things into my diet,although I am a terribly unhealthy eater,with the bad food list being my regular intake Blush

Having said that,my Peri symptoms are really getting on my tits (pardon the pun),so now is the time to take responsibility for my future health.

Bellavita · 30/10/2011 13:26

Well my period has gone awol.... Should have come on last week. Got all the symptoms and then nothing.

The only thing on the above list that lets me down is caffeine. I am a huge coffee drinker. I do have peppermint tea bags in so I think I will substitute every other "coffee" drink with one of those.

crazynannawitchbitch · 30/10/2011 13:39

Don't be fooled Bella....I had a 46 dayer cycle 2 months ago. Thought it was a complete "missed",then there it was....saying "did ya miss me,biatch?" Angry

Keep your pads and spare knickers handy Wink

Bellavita · 30/10/2011 13:51

crazy, typical isn't it - I am back at work tomorrow after having last week off - you can bet your bottom dollar it will make an appearance at work Angry

This is all so shite isn't it....

Mardymwahhaha · 30/10/2011 16:53

"Spicy foods, caffeine and alcohol"

That's me fucked then.

oldsilverbullet · 30/10/2011 17:02

I'm with you Mardy that's my "healthy food regime" buggered [hgrin]

Yay this period has finally finished it's only been 11 days - whoop whoop, thinking of taking out shares in a sanipro company [hhmm]

crazynannawitchbitch · 30/10/2011 20:28

oldsilverbullet Poor you 12 days Sad how we don't pass out,I will never know. Day 7 for me on a 17 day cycle,and still as heavy as day 1

Bella Snap..this is my week's annual leave,and spent most of it with a nappy on,dosed up with painkillers and as grumpy as hell Hmm

Shite it certainly is.

Bring on the bloody Menopause

BarryStar · 31/10/2011 14:52

Just had a traumatic experience involving my recently purchased (thanks to this thread) lady magnet and the toilet. Nobody warned me that it was liable to ping of my knickers into the loo, and I that I would be called upon to retrieve it. Would almost rather have a hot flush.

crazynannawitchbitch · 31/10/2011 21:52

Barrystar don't flush! Hot or not...don't flush! The bloody thing cost money!
Christ! Did you get it back! Does it work? Grin

BarryStar · 31/10/2011 23:16

Only flushes going on are hot ones crazynanna!. I donned rubber gloves, closed my eyes and delved! Offending item is now in Milton until the morning. I don't know if it works really, I do seem to have had fewer flushes, but that might be psychological. Will keep at it and report back later!

oldsilver · 04/11/2011 20:15

OOh some good news at last have been put on steroids (for unrelated health matter).

Apparently one of the side effects is that I may have irregular or no periods at all ... RESULT Grin

I may grow a proper beard and testicles though...