Worthing and West of Brighton Mums

[Lamby71]

Probably a crap name for us but nevermind. LittleMissPickles, will you be joining us at the Sea Lane cafe on Thursday morning? Anybody else in the area reading this, please feel free to come along to our inaugural meeting. Anyone committing themselves on this board before then, should we all agree that if something comes up last minute - could we attempt to login and let others know? I'll have a quick check before I leave. Erm - I guess the baby - 6mths old chubba-chops boy with blonde hair - might give me away. Otherwise I'm 5.7 with short dark hair & quite slim.

Hi

Just a quick post as DD is howling! I am tied up all day Thursday this week, but am free Friday - so yes please to the walk Snuffle - especially if we get some sunshine! and Lamby if you fancy meeting in the morning then that would be good too. And anyone else please join us!

Sorry to hear that snuffle is living up to her name! Mind you Pickles always does!!.........

Sorry o've fallen off the radar recently-had a hard couple if days as DS has had that sickness & diahhorea (don't know how to spell it but you get the idea!!) s it's been quite awful watching him in such distress.
But worse than that, DH has know gone down with it this morning & we all know what they're like with flu, let alone anything else. He's been lying in bed, moaning & shivering all day! Fingers crossed I don't get it cos my mum & sister have also had it so there's obviously a bug going round.
But, all bar sickness, I'm up for a meet up on friday-any time is good with me & wherever anyone wants to meet is too x

Is anyone interested in meeting at the Sea Lane Cafe at 11am-ish on Friday(while we can still get a seat), giving the little ones their lunch there and maybe going for a walk after? I think the weather is going to be dodgy all week. I have to be home by 2pm that's all. Does that mean Vicky, LMP and Snuffle that you could make all or at least part of it?

Yeah, I'm up for that. I'll probably walk along if the weather is ok-ish so will be all set for a walk after (especially if another slice of cake is on the cards!!!)

Sorry, can't do friday morning this week only afternoon.
So up for the afternoon walk (LMP what are your plans??? Are we still meeting at 2pm George V??)
Hope you all have a nice time at the cafe and hope to meet the rest of you soon.

OK Vicky - shall we say definite 11am meet on Friday? If you start feeling rubbish again/can't make it, could you let me know by 9am Fri morning? Anyone else is welcome to join.

Hi guys
Sorry about the bug thing Vicky - friends of mine have also had it and it was pretty grim.

Yes Snuffle still on for 2pm at the end of George 5th.

Would also like to come down to Sea Lane 11am Friday Lamby - though as to when DD will "lunch" is anyones guess - she'll make that up on the day!

Will check Friday am to see everyone is still OK - looking forward to it!

So far so good-had a funny tummy monday night & felt dreadful tuesday morning (but packed DS off to Granny's!) but haven't had anything other than that so fingers crossed I've been passed over!
DH has now developed into the flu but also had itchy eyes/nose/throat & eyes that came up like he'd been in 10 rounds with Mike Tyson. Went to doctors today &, get this, he's had an allergic reaction to the flu virus!!!???!! What? Sure they invent things to get sick with!
Anyway, 11am is fine with me so will see Lamby & LMP there, unless anyone else fancies it to.
Sorry you can't come Snuffle, sure we'll meet v soon tho x

Have a lovely time tomorrow morning, hope the weather stays like it is today for the walk tomorrow afternoon.

Got a bit of a cold at the moment, Grandad passed it onto DD now I've got it so the pair of us are sniffing away, dad has managed to avoid so far but seeing as we like to share in this family it would be rude not to let him have a go also! lol

Cool. See you tomorrow at 11am.

What a lovely day! We're still up for 11am so see you there. Think we'll be able to sit outside as it's so lovely so don't forget buggies!!!

When's the next meet up?

Think we said we'd try to meet up every fortnight so that would make the next one next week sometime.
I can monday, tuesday or friday-what can anyone else do?

Hi

I can do Tuesday pm, Weds or Fri - however the Sea Lane Cafe is shut for the week!

Lamby - when did you say the NCT sale was at the Charmandean?

Snuffle - hope the wedding went Ok.

We are having problems with DD's feeding again - taking just 3oz then crying and pulling her legs up etc. We did the next stage of the baby massage class yesterday though and she is sleeping like a dream, so I guess you can't have everything. It is just so heartbreaking when she is in pain, especially as we thought she had outgrown the colic.

Hope we can all manage a get together next week.

Next week's probably out for me, have got something going on most days which will interfere with a meet up unfortunately
Am about tuesday but the cars going to the garage again, and will be waiting for a call.
DD's got her 1st jabs next wed morning so may be able to do wed afternoon if she's feeling ok, have heard mixed responses about how babies have reacted so will have to wait and see how DD goes.
LMP - NCT sale is this weekend coming, saw the poster for it yesterday. Don't worry about her feeds, DD sometimes clears 6oz then other times will take 4oz, sorry to hear she's still colicky, I'm sure its just a blip.
DD has started to sleep through the night, its lovely to have undisturbed sleep once again, seems such a long time ago that I could get my head down at 10pm and wake at 7am!!!!! Hope this is the start of a routine!
Wedding went well thanks, shame about the weather, but DD slept through the entire thing only waking to be fed!

NCT sale at Charmendean is this Saturday. From 10.30-11.30 for NCT members and thereafter open to anyone (not sure what time it finishes though).

I can do Tues pm or Fri am next week.

Did anyonw go to NCT sale in the end? Was going to go but had family birthday thing in Seaford early saturday so would have been too early or too late for it!
Hope everyone's well. Anybody free this week, maybe friday? Think everyone's busy at the mo cos no-one seems to be posting anything!!!

Hi
Yes I went Sat, spent much of the time introducing DH to all my Mummy friends that were there from my Thursday "club"

Am free Friday if you would like to meet - though Sea Lane is closed this week for a refit or something.

Isn't the weather fab! I am getting so excited about the summer already.

Snuffle - hope the jabs go well tomorrow - DD had her second lot Friday and it was harder to watch than the first lot and she was in a bad mood all evening. I am dreading the next lot as there are 3.

Sleeping going well, we are moving her into her own room next week as DH is off at the end of the week to help with the night feeds. Hope your DD has continued in her new routine. Feeding is still rubbish - will get her weighed this week and if she is growing Ok then I must just convince myself that it is just how she is and nothing to worry about.

Don't you just love the lighter evenings too!

No can do friday this week, sorry, shame as the weather seems to be holding out well and would make for a lovely stroll along the prom.
I chickened out of the jabs and sent Dad instead, I just hate needles and the thought of someone sticking them in my DD I jiust cant handle, she seems ok at the moment but have been told that she may become feverish later, sleepy, moody, off her feeds, groggy etc etc the list seems endless so really looking forward to a few hours time!
She's still sleeping through the night which is great, thogh wish I could say the same for dad!
Can anyone give me some advice on how I start a new message on this site????!!!!Could really do with some advice/chat about stuff going on at the moment from other mums, feeling unloved by my partner right now

Sorry to hear about that Snuffle. If you go into Talk section on the home page there's a list of different topics. There's a section on Body & Soul (I think it's called) & then click on 'Start new thread' in this topic & it's just like writing a post to us. But if you ever want to talk to one of us.....? But hope you're ok in the meantime.
Friday, I can do any time really so let us know what anyone else can.

Thanks Vicky75.
My partner has a lot going on at the moment and feel he has distanced himself from me. Normal night routine is always a kiss, hug and a love you, but past few nights thats not been the case, just a sweet dreams!
A friend of his has been dying and sadly passed away tuesday, she was only in her late 20's and I know its affected him, but somehow I feel powerless to help him other then to let him know that I'm here when he needs me and reassure him that I love him, but maybe I have been showering him in too much affection when all he wants is some space????
Doesn't help that our sex life has almost gone, if its not the fact one or other of us is too tired then DD has other ideas and this too is causing some friction between us especially when he has a much higher sex drive the me.... just feeling very low at the moment, there's just so much 'stuff' going on in my life and struggling to deal with some of it
Sorry for waffling guys, bit long winded this post.

Hi guys. Sorry - had a busy week and not had time to login. Have to do some work-related stuff 2moro morning and am teaching in the afternoon so regrettably can't do tomorrow. Shame as it's such lovely weather this week. At the mo' am free next week on Tues pm, Wed pm and Fri am. Does that help?? Have some cake on me if you do meet up.
Snuffle - sorry to hear you're feeling bad. Am sure you're not alone. Luckily these days I get lots of sleep but in the early days when I wasn't, well ... it was another story. My boyfriend thinks it is hilarious to pull his 'moody Mummy' face at baby Joe and make appropriate miserable noises. Annoyingly Joe absolutely loves it.

Snuffle, don't worry. Our sex life was rubbish after Ben but come on-who feels like a bit of rumpy when all you can think of is sleep. You've got enough to deal with each day to worry about that too but when your nights get better everything else will fall in to place. Just keep talking to each other & explaining how you feel.
As for everything else, sorry to hear he's going through a tough time. It's always hard watching someone you love go through something that you don't feel equiped to deal with but don't take the Sweet Dreams thing personally-sometimes I watch DH come home & kiss DS & will still be waiting for mine 4 hours later. They're rubbish with stuff like that sometimes & what seems to really hurt us goes completely unnoticed with them!!!
Can't do tomorrow now I'm afraid-DH failed to tell me about a visit to Nanny's so we've got to haul ass to the middle of nowhere! But mamybe next week?

Hi

Sorry Snuffle to read things are not going so well - I also read the other thread.

Obviously it sounds like DP has got a lot going on and I agree that dealing with death is a personal thing and everyone has their way. From personal experience, time is the only healer. Blokes are notoriously bad at talking about anything other than sport.

What concerned me from the other thread was what started as a message that you were unhappy turned into advice on what you could do to make your DP happy! I wonder if the reality of being Dad has just sunk in too and all the restrictions that brings with it. I think it is great that you look after your man, and that he can go to the pub with his mates to relax - but what about you? Do you ever go out and he stay in and look after DD? He may well be working very hard but you are too - 24hours a day in a job you only have weeks of experience in. I found it hard a few weeks ago when I realised that this is it, my life now is totally different to that of my "barren" friends that have just had a weekend away, going to Paris for Easter, can go out for a meal for 2 on a whim, saw a film at the pictures that I will have to wait for on DVD! Now though I have made lots of plans and have stuff to look forward to!

I just wonder if maybe lost freedom is contributing to him feeling down, but equally wondering if you would benefit from some "me time", leave him to baby sit and see some friends or go shopping or something to help you feel better? Or if someone could babysit and the 2 of you could go out and either talk over what's wrong, or completely ignore it and just enjoy each other's company.

Anyway, it's getting late and I have waffled too much already. If you fancy a wander or whatever (realise forcast crap!) next week, I can do all day Monday, or Tuesday pm - I could even shut up for a change and listen!! OR yabber on for hours and take your mind off things?! Look after yourself and I hope you feel better soon.

Hi Guys, thanks for your kind words.
I do tend to put him before me, i guess I don't see looking after DD as a 24hr job but now I look at it my 'job' can't be switched off at 5.30!
Walk would be good if weather ok, failing that just a chat may help, am free all day mon, tues, wed and most of thursday so far next week.
Sadly friday out as we have friends funeral, maybe after this 'closure' DP may start to feel better, or it could make him worse????!!!!
Its so nice to be able to chat to people who have no emotional ties with your family life, thanks guys, its so nice to know that end of the PC there are some great friends in the making.