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STOCKPORT meet up

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alexsmum · 20/02/2006 09:23

picking up from a thread yesterday, how about a stockport meet-up.
gigiwig,3babies,giraffeski??
anyone else?

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Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 22:47

3lb dont feel bad for saying the depression isnt about DS1, that is a pain that will never go away as you know. However recognises that this could be a hormonal imbalance in some ways is actually better[i know it doesnt feel it]. Being trapped wont help either as you can feel like you are going insane ask any mother who stays home 24/7 with their kids. When Ds was born my depression kicked in so I only went back to work for 2mths before being signed off and eventually medically retired. The past 2 yrs have been hellish as I went through some very very rough times and am only now semi on the up side. Part of the depression was the feeling trapped and incapable. Useless featured regularly in what I thought about myself etc but you are useful. Your children are soo lovely and happy and obviously adore their mummy [especially DD..lol] They are beautiful little soles and you are doing a fantastic job. I know you are questioning yourself constantly but if anything that just makes you a better mum as if you didnt bother that would be you neglecting them.

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 22:48

it's hard i know.
my mum and dad are two hours away and getting on a bit and so not able to do a lot of looking after.and dh's parents live abroad. brothers and sisters don't help AT ALL.
so was in the same position.
i know it doesn't do you any good- but i do now how yu feel.

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Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 22:48

ita a pity you dont live closer as I would gladly have taken your DD while you had a break..sometimes even the small things like running to the loo without someone else watching you, crying for you or knocking on the door is enough to make you feel betterWink

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 22:50

echo nemo- if you were a bad mummy you wouldn't be on here talking about how to make things better, you would n't give a crap!

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 22:59

Thank you so much- and am it really does help to know you know how I feel! You've both made me feel better. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 23:00

so when are we going to the pub then?Grin

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 23:02

now??!! Grin

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 23:03

I must warn you, it won't be pretty, I'm a lightweight these days!

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 23:05

at least you would get a full night's sleep out of dd that night!!

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 23:08

pmsl! She woke at 3am(!) last night, so technically tonight should be my full night- yeah right! Am having lie in, and apparently "sausage pie with lts of butter to make me strong and fat" for breakfast, courtesy of J! Grin

Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 23:09

ohh I wish I was drinking now..even a girlie night in with wine would do me. Dh is currently out and about in town probably in a merry mood..lol

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 23:12

oh she's such a little doll 3lb!

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Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 23:13

ohh jealous of your lie in..no doubt dh will be in no fit state tonight/tommorow. Just hoping H will sleep tonight...pmsl very much doubt it

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 23:17

right i'm off.yawning my head off.
night night and i hope you all have lovely mothers days tomorrow!
xx

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 23:24

I say that Nemo, whether it happens....well, we'll see. Invariably a lie in for dh is a lie in, with me keeping kids quiet and occupied downstairs. For me, he is shouting and moving about, even asking me things- may as well get up! Am off to bed in a min too, talk to you tomorrow, and thanks again everyone Smile

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 23:33

Meant to say I appreciate you all sharing your own experiences, and would be more than happy to talk/listen to anyone if you ever needed it.

Nemo- did you see what dh said about the car?! What's in your treasure basket btw?

Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 23:52

3lb I did see about my dhs escort..pmsl

TearsBeforeBedtime · 26/03/2006 16:08

sorry you are going through a tough time atm 3lb. I agree with Nemo about ADs usually being safe for bfing - I have had my own mental health issues during PG (OCD/Depression), so ended up on ADs during late PG and whilst BFing. The obs/gynae consultant, psychiatrist, and pharmacist the psych consulted were all perfectly happy for me to be on Prozac whilst bfing - apparently they have done research that shows that small traces of Prozac get through into the breast milk, but it's such a tiny amount that it has no effect on the baby (and bear in mind your baby is several months old now, not a newborn, so would be more resilient to such things anyway). Even if the GP didn't feel ADs were appropriate, he could refer you for counselling. Hopefully your HV can be good (a really good HV can be as good as going to counselling) - mind you my HV was horrendous, so not talking from personal experience on that point!!!

the housework will wait - even if the dishes have been left a week, they won't scream as loudly and annoyingly as the kids. the step up from one to two kids is very demanding - no down time whilst the little one sleeps, as you've still got a toddler to keep entertained.

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TearsBeforeBedtime · 26/03/2006 16:45

hello gigwig! it's always amazing once the first person opens the floodgates just how many of us mums struggle with depression/anxiety and general low self-esteem. I think it does help to realise that you aren't the only one not coping, as it's so easy to feel like you're the only "crummy mummy" around when you go to M & T groups etc and make superficial acquaintances.

I agree with gigwig about relaxation classes - when I was PG and depressed I really enjoyed the birth breathing relaxation classes the local hospital ran - went to the same one session class 3 times Grin, think the physios running it thought I was a bit odd! It's also good to have something for you to do away from the kids that is for you and you alone, if there is a way you can fit it around your DH's long hours and the bfing.

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alexsmum · 26/03/2006 19:37

3 lb-have just e-mailed you!

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TearsBeforeBedtime · 26/03/2006 19:38

gigwig - hope nothing I posted upset you. do you want me to get my message deleted too, as it does refer to yours (but in very general terms).

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alexsmum · 26/03/2006 19:57

gigwig-is everything ok?

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alexsmum · 26/03/2006 19:58

just twigged-have you had your post deleted because it had you e-mail address in?

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gigwig · 26/03/2006 20:00

Tearsbeforebedtime,

I had put my email in the post and realised that I shouldn't've done that on a public forum. That's all nothing to do with anyone else.

I hope threelittlebabies got to see my post though and could get some comfort from it.