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STOCKPORT meet up

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alexsmum · 20/02/2006 09:23

picking up from a thread yesterday, how about a stockport meet-up.
gigiwig,3babies,giraffeski??
anyone else?

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MerlinsBeard · 24/03/2006 21:50

no, i don't think i talked to u very much and pnly realised after i left that it was woodybears in the loo when i was telling ds that the dryer was a nice dryer(don't ask!)....sorry woodybear (and assuming the other lady was baby dales then) i didn't ignore u on purpose

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alexsmum · 24/03/2006 22:07

i didn't get a chance to speak to everyone either.
and mow i can put m/n names to faces but can't remember real names!

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threelittlebabies · 24/03/2006 22:44

No, I didn't get chance to speak to everyone much, but can remember most if not all names, I'm sad like that! BlushGrin

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 11:50

It was lovely meeting you all yesterday, and your children are all adorable and v well behaved!

Misjudged buses and instead of getting one to dr door, had to get other with 10 min walk, by which time it was peeing down and J didn't want to/couldn't walk- he was v tired and said his legs were too long! Grin

Dr is referring him to paediatrician (sp?) as he has not put weight on since a yr ago, but has grown 6cm. He's not too worried, but said we may as well check it out. I told dr I think maybe am a bit postnatally depressed? Feel far too stressed out, anxious and angry to be normal. But as am breastfeeding he just asked me to see him again in 4 weeks, see if I am any better. DH has taken ds AND dd out to John Lewis for my mothers day stuff- I am actually on my own!!! Grin It is fab, going to have a bath and skip round the house!

Definitely on for a night meet up, and another day one soon too?!

TearsBeforeBedtime · 25/03/2006 19:04

sorry to hear you have been feeling a bit down 3lb, hope that things settle down soon. Am definitely keen on another meet-up soon - I was quite impressed by that soft play,so would go there again!

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 19:08

oh tbb- if you think that was impressive we will have to take you to funizuz or whalearound! these are the really good softplay places in stockport-pity they are a bit out of the way.
3lb, i think anyone in your position- ie with a very young baby, and a toddler, doing a lot of it on your own, without your own transport is going to feel low. i know i did!
don't what to say except that it does get better, i promise!

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MerlinsBeard · 25/03/2006 19:57

i would echo alexsmum. Its very hard when u have no transport of your own with two littleys. It makes u feel trapped in the house even if u do go out!

Telling u that it will get better is only one thing i can say, having a break from 1 or both of them will help lots. I know that it helped me on friday!!! (just remember if u do spend some time with one, to spend some time alone with the otehr too lol)

tearsbeforebedtime, i have been to better soft play places tbh and wouldn't go back there if i was taking the boys on my own just for something to do (i have one nearer for that Wink) but if there was another central meetup that is the best place to take the children.

Anyone been to rumble in the jungle? its my local one and not yet been (!) wondered what its was like

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 20:45

i've been to rumbleinthejungle and i didn't like it to be honest. it was upstairs in this warehouse place and not clearly signed so wandered about trying to find it. when we went there were only a couple of other kids there so vv quiet, and the big thing for me- it was freezing!!!! really cold! only suitable for very small ones too- i couldn't take alex there.

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 21:15

I agree re rumble in the jungle, it is ideal for little ones because it's smaller (can't remember if it was cold!)

Thank you am, mom and TBB for your replies to my pitiful bleatings! Blush Feel much worse today, think I might have a look at threads on PND and post there so I don't depress everyone! Grin

MerlinsBeard · 25/03/2006 21:20

3lb, it helps to talk to ppl. I'm sure ppl don't mind if u post here, altho it is easier to post somewhere where ppl haven't met uWink

might be worth a chat with ur gp/hv? I chatted to the replacement hv at ds2s last check and she was really helpful. lifted lots off my shoulders tbh

Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 21:23

3lb..dont know if I have told you but I actually suffer severe depression..I am on antidepressants etc..will email you later.

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 21:31

3lb- are you still coming for coffee on monday?
maybe we can have a chat then?Smile

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Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 21:39

3lb..will email when I can stop defending myself on another mn threadGrin

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 21:49

You're all really sweet, thanks. I will post on a PND thread, or start my own, but also would really like to talk to you all about it if no one minds, as I feel that I can after having met you.

mom- I saw my GP yesterday, but he basically said if he treats me I have to stop bfeeding. Yesterday I didn't feel that bad that I wanted to, today I am really tearful and I don't know why. Was just thinking about mentioning it to my HV. I don't know if what I have is PND, but I don't quite know why I am feeling like this. BTW I was SO close to saying yesterday, when you walked in "Right, you all hold her down and I'll get the mars bars!" Grin

alexsmum- yes thank you, that would be lovely. I shall email you tomorrow and you can let me know when is convenient. I have been dropping ds off around 9.30-10 when on the bus (nearer 10! Blush)

Nemo- thanks so much. I don't know if I am depressed, or just being a bit pathetic about everything, but I am really unhappy with the way I am being with the children- really snappy and snarly, and it's not pleasant.
What thread are you defending yourself on??!!
To make you laugh; told dh about your car:

Me: Nemo is selling a car bec her dh has a new job with a co one. It's an escort.
Dh: WHAT??!!! He's an escort??!
Me: PMSL Grin

Thanks for replying you lot, I shall hopefully feel a lot better tomorrow, being positive and all that! Smile

Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 21:55

3lb load of bollocks about you having to stop bf to be treated for depression. At least 90% of ADs are safe while Bf. If he gives you the more common ones such as prozac or paroxetine.

MerlinsBeard · 25/03/2006 21:56

lol @ mars bars!! hmmm well

3lb, ur not the only one having a tearful day with no explaination!

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 22:11

Aw poor mom, let's weep together! Wink I'm being a bit daft really, time of the month and so not best to make decisions/judgements! Should have thought of that earlier Blush Think it's worse bec dh going back to work after 4m at home has coincided with G becoming clingier. Must look stressed as people at under 1s group on thurs kept offering to hold her!

Nemo, that's what I thought! Surprised at my gp, he's usually so on the ball and fab, which is why I don't mind getting buses out of the way to see him. Incidentally, could I just become PND'd now dd is 6mo?

Don't you mind about the treasure basket, think it is a marvellous idea! My mum is off work this week, and think I will enlist her help to make one. Also think making and selling them is enterprising, something to consider! Me and dh constantly trying to come up with an idea for a business doing something we actually like Grin

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 22:16

i remember feeling just like this when ds2 was small.just going through my day with tears pouring down my face. i cried in front of my gp and hv and noone( apart from my mum and friend) ever said to me'you've got pnd'. with hindsight i think i did have.
i know that i woke up one day and felt normal and after that it all started to get easier.
your dd is still so young and as you have told us and we've seen, she's not the kind of baby who is happy to just sit and look around.She must be really hard work! and your ds2 is still very young too.
does your dh take an active role in looking after them, enabling you to have a break?
i think some more space and 'me time' would help you.

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Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 22:18

3lb do you actually have msn??? If so add me on my hotmail addy.

Nemo1977 · 25/03/2006 22:21

by the way it is possible to have pnd up to your baby being 24mths..just tends not to be recognised.Whether it is recognised as pnd or general depression the treatment is the same . IF your gp gives oyu Ads then also ask to be reffered for counselling as that is the most effective treatment for any depression. My appointment yesterday morning was actually with a psychologist due to crappy family history that I wont go into on here. Ironically before getting depression I was a mental health worker..lol

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 22:24

yes he is good with them and the house stuff. Just wish he was around a bit more! Have to say it is rare that I get a break from both- like today- prob due to the breastfeeding malarky. I think part of the prob is that dd is SO different from ds2 as a baby (and thank you for remembering that, means a lot IYKWIM). I have to accept that she is a different baby, and learn to live with it, and she- harsh as it sounds- will have to learn a little about not being held. The last few days I have been overwhelmed with feeling that I am not doing a good job of being a mum, and that neither of them seem happy.

Thanks for replying and it does help to know you have been there too. What is weird for me is that since ds1 died, every time I got upset about ANYTHING it always led back to losing him, but this time, for the first time, it isn't. Which is strange. Don't know if that makes sense Blush

Sorry I keep writing mammoth posts!

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 22:30

on a monday when ds2 is at nursery, what do you do? are you at work?( are you back yet?)
do you have family nearby? if so could they take dd for an hour or two so that you can have a break?
even having a bath alone, or a wander around the shops or a coffee and a read makes such a difference.
you are NOT a bad mother!!!
your dd seemed a happy little thing to me- full of smiles! just knew what she wanted -which was you!!!

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alexsmum · 25/03/2006 22:31

sorry i know you were talking about it but didn't catch( bllody loud music!) how much is dh away? when is he home?

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threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 22:33

Nemo I am just in the process of downloading and installing msn, so will add you then, thanks. Smile I agree counselling v beneficial, had a lot of it after ds1 died, and am still friendly with my lovely bereavement support midwife even though she has now retired. Have had time off work for "depression" since ds2 born, but always felt that it was grief rather than depression. As I said, this feels different because it's not really about ds1. Feel horrible writing that! Sad

threelittlebabies · 25/03/2006 22:40

alexsmum thank you- have just made me smile about dd! Silly thing is dh isn't actually away during the week, but feel he might as well be, as he's out 6.45am-6.15pm minimum, then comes in filthy so has shower, we bath and put kids to bed, have tea and wash pots, he makes his lunch then it's bed time! I am sure I will get used to it, it's the isolation that's the hard thing, with no car, but hopefully the weather will get better and we can get out more. Am busy trying to arrange lots to do!

No, not back at work yet- thank god. Don't know if I told you, went in on Mon after dropping ds off, felt awkward and out of place. My maternity cover was hinting at me getting another job!! Cheeky mare. Unfortunately my mum works, my inlaws are useless and off to BIL/SIL in Ireland for 3m (another don't ask! Doesn't everyone, or most people, have a long inlaw story?!) and no one else has really offered, plus they all have kids anyway. Talking about it has helped, feel positive and determined to feel better. Must stop getting down about not getting things done in house- can't mainly because of dd, so may as well just go out and arrange stuff to do!