@ElasticFirecracker
Well done you for such a forensic analysis of what's working or not!
To answer your points:
dairy
This is probably my worst area. I eat tons of dairy - yoghurt and cheese, and would be drinking milk if I could. I had an idea that because cheese is fat I should eat as much as I wanted
Not everybody is susceptible to dairy though. Generally, yoghurt is fine, cheese is something to be careful about and milk is probably a no-no, as it has too many carbs. If you find that a) you're not losing and b) every day has lots of dairy in it, then try reducing it and see what happens. Cheese and yoghurt do add fat, but there are other ways you can add fat into your diet - e.g. butter in/on vegetables, mayo on the side of your plate, salads with oily dressings
3 meals, not snacking
I am snacking more than I think I should
Just need to improve this. Snacking encourages emotional eating for me, so it's important
By now, your appetite should be under control. If you're still hungry between meals, so you need to snack, this a sign that a) you're not eating enough at mealtimes and/or b) that you're not eating enough fat. Often, though, snacking is just a habit. To stop this, make sure you don't have the foods to hand that you'd normally snack on - as far as you can. And only allow yourself to eat something between meals if you're genuinely hungry. Try having a drink of water instead.
Fat
I have no idea whether I'm eating enough fat. It's very likely that I'm not eating enough
Why don't you list out for me your meals over the last couple of days, and specify how you cooked it/what fat you added/how much you added? Then we can see if it's not enough. But if you think it's not enough, it's probably not enough!
Vegetables
I should definitely be eating more and this is just down to disorganisation and bad planning. True! Rule 4 - most of your carbs should be coming from veg and salad. It's really important that you follow this, to ensure that you're getting good nutrition.
Alcohol
I don't think it's a problem, but I did drink alcohol last week when I didn't plan to. So I should be careful here
On Bootcamp Light, alcohol is allowed in moderation, so don't worry too much here - but do make sure you're choosing the right alcohol. Dry wine and clear spirits are OK, but beer or cider or liqueurs are definitely not.
Processed Food
I like to think I don't eat processed food, but I do. I have been having bacon, ham and smoked salmon
Again, this is OK in moderation, but try to keep it to only one meal a day. And try and buy better quality versions of those foods, e.g. bacon without nitrates, ham that is proper slices of meat and not the re-formed stuff (clue: most pre-packed ham is re-formed, but it will say that on the packet)
I'm confused about things like: artichoke hearts in a jar, tinned fish. Do I just need to check they don't have added sugar?
These things are generally fine - but yes, absolutely check the back of the packet for sugar (and carbs). You should check everything that you buy that's manufactured like this - it's amazing how many things have added sugar!