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where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT19

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 24/03/2010 11:35

blimey do we really talk that much?!
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Remotew · 03/04/2010 21:13

at child free time. I know mine isn't a child anymore but it would be nice to be able to invite someone over and spend the night together. If I go out and stay out I still feel so guilty re DD.

I can hardly keep my eyes open tonight. Bed is calling me, will finish this cuppa then crawl in.

lou33 · 03/04/2010 23:14

dd1 is not happy about going to her dad, she asked if she had to

i said no, but she had to find somewhere else to stay as she wasnt sleeping here that night

she will be 18 next sunday , how did that happen ffs?

SingleMum01 · 04/04/2010 08:51

Oh no, I had too much to drink last night That's probably seen him off

kdk · 04/04/2010 10:32

SM - did he have much to drink? And anyway, unless you did something absolutely gob-smackingly awful or embarrassing, why should the fact that you had a drink or two see him off ... and tbh, if he's that easily seen off do you want him anyway? After all, you're an adult, having a drink isn't a crime as far as I know ... chill out and don't assume the worst okay?

thesouthsbelle · 04/04/2010 10:36

agree with kdk.

how was it sm1?

happy easter all.

also what do we think to those who send a text saying simply - happy easter hunni?

(i'm thinkin round robin to many sort of a text)

Remotew · 04/04/2010 11:08

SM hope you haven't seen him off with the drinking. It's not like it was your first date!

Lou, gosh 18 already. Fine for you to ask her to stop at a mates, we do need our space once in a while. DD wasn't happy about me going out to Athletic's place the other night but she has to learn that if 'friends' feel uncomfortable around her and vice versa I will have to go out more.

SM if it's any consolation I got told I talk too much the other night. Mixture of red wine and overcompensating for feeling embarrassed. He has bfs, since.

Remotew · 04/04/2010 11:09

Belle, sorry forgot to answer. Hmm not sure. Does he usually call you 'hunni', if not then it was a multiple text to everyone.

thesouthsbelle · 04/04/2010 12:12

nope, all matter of other stuff thou. really can't be assed to reply thou.

eve - DD will settle down i'm sure.

lou - 18 like your come back thou to her.

sincitylover · 04/04/2010 13:05

I rarely reply to round robin texts tbh

Omg if I ever update my fb status, which I rarely do now - mr yorke comments he writes on fb in a weird cyptic style and sometimes with veiled threats (to whom I don't Know) - I could remove him of course but like to keep an eye on his state of mind IYKWIM. I am too scared to tell him to f off again because I know it will cause an OTT reaction and I can't handle it.

SingleMum01 · 04/04/2010 13:10

KDK - no he didn't he was driving. I know, I know, I'm a born worrier and always assume the worst!

Belle - it was good (apart from me drinking, and boy do I feel rough today - can't even eat my easter egg!)

On the plus side, he has text today saying he would like to see me again (although we haven't actually arranged when). if we do see each other again, someone tell me NOT to drink that much!

sincitylover · 04/04/2010 13:21

SM it always feels like that for me after drinking too much - worry about how I behaved etc but usually the other person isn't that bothered. It sounds promising that he text you this morning.

Remotew · 04/04/2010 13:22

SM, there you go, you haven't mess up.

SingleMum01 · 04/04/2010 13:26

thanks all x

sincitylover · 04/04/2010 13:28

does anyone else feel lethargic - I hardly ever have much time most weekends and now I have stopped feel worse,

The weather not helping - ds2 is on xbox and I don't feel like doing anything.

Remotew · 04/04/2010 13:35

Me SCL. After two nights out I went to be at 10 last night got up 10.30 today and still feel shattered. Peed off with myself for wasting the weekend. I'm cooking roast later for us and my nephew. We are all going for a drive/lunch tomorrow so at least that's something.

sincitylover · 04/04/2010 13:41

hmm haven't had any nights out yet but have been hammering the wine (and fags unfortunately) on Fri and Sat. about two thirds bottle a night. It's my reward LOL

piratecat · 04/04/2010 17:15

happy easter to all!

Very quiet weekend, tho cake and i got chatting lots, and hope to meet up. Yes we do indeed live about 20 miles from another and have been comparing notes on POF!!!

lou33 · 04/04/2010 17:25

omg this silence is blissful

Remotew · 04/04/2010 17:28

Pirate, make sure you are chatting to the same guy and report back, just for fun.

Enjoy your peace Lou. What have you got planned, apart from the obvious?

piratecat · 04/04/2010 17:31

eve, we had concluded, yes that we could cause alot of damage!!!

Betty79 · 04/04/2010 19:02

well my child free time is almost up, feeling a little rough from yesterdays night out so not driving down south till tommorow.

Date with trucker on fri was nice, not sure if i'll be seeing him again tho just dont get the impression he is that bothered we'll see.

pc and cake-lol at u 2 comparing notes! cud be dangerous. me and my friend once got the exact same message from the same bloke, and we were gonna play a little game and send the exact same message back at the same time lol but didnt in end!

SM-doesnt sound like you've messed up

eve-who is athletic? i seem to have got all confused?

scl-so mr yorke still comments on ur fb? he does sound very weird! nothing wrong with a bit of wine, i cud easily do 3/4 of a bottle.

Talking of booze i think i need some time of dont we always say that tho when we have a hangover

ninah · 04/04/2010 19:31

sm it's called hangover paranoia, hope you feel back to normal again now (veteran speaking here lol)
happy easter everyone
ex has taken dc away for a week and I feel ... not liberated but WEIRD
just can't relax
nm/ex was over and I made him do one hundred jobs
even scrubbed kitchen floor
wtf is wrong with me I didn't arrange child free time to do effing housework
so scared of wasting time!
and all I can face is chocolate and possibly gin

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 04/04/2010 19:32

hi all,

still to catch up. i've mised loads. did a brief skim.

ninah - go meet handsome farmer. the crazies make for memorable dates

lou - 18 .. but hoping your enjoying your childfree time.

asbm

lou - oh my... even i would have beenembarassed by him friends turning up?? where they unexpected and he let them in?????? or did you bump into them somewhere?

scl - good you are avoiding texting exbf. well done statying on SOH bandwagon.

belle - it might not have been round robin. dont be too sensitive/analytical.

monty - pass some chocolate eggs this way. i'm not allowed any in RL with this blooming gi/diabetic diet.

kdkd - just cause he's short doesn't mean he will be an arse. see what he's like after few emails. but i'd ask outright if he will have an issue with you being taller with heels. thats your giveaway there. if he says yes.. and you must wear flats to a date... run like the wind from angry small man.

betty - hows your wkd gone .. you had a busy social life this easter if i remember correctly?

piate/cake - good you can found out that your potential dates haven't been emailing every chick same thing on site.

as for me.

went on date. total opposite of the guy. he was a town body. i am a country bumpkin. plus.... he spoke badly of his ex who is mother of their dc. i hate that . such a horrible trait.

then... left there direct and went to meet forces at airport.

there was some proper apologies. alot of discussions, alot of things explained from both sides.

it's a weird one ladies.

normal life to him is now army life.

what we consider normal, alot of it he has never done in his life due to growing up in a very very small town in NZ, then into army as teenager.

for example... sat we went to supermarket, big giant wallmart variety.

this was a new experience to him. he was amazed at the sheer size of it.

his only experiences of shopping is his tiny town in nz, the bases in the army places he's lived, and shops in edi. which are all in the old histroic buildings in the city centre.

for someone who has travelled the world with his job. and done some things i could never even force myself to do has done.

he's scared shitless by the normal stuff.

imagine that combined with never having relationship over 3 months too.

ladies... anything and everything we take for granted that we do is something he has never set eyes upon!!

filling your own diesel (pump attendant in nz and always used public transport here)
ice skating rinks
indoor swimming pools

he went bowling for the first time with his brother start of the week!!

but.. for a bloke he can do some things other wouldn't is for sure.

he can horse ride......

so basically... he asked if i would give him another chance. called himself lots of bad names and said "sorry" ... do men actually apologise and admit they are wrong.. i have never met one of these before

and it has been given on the basis it's the very last. and i wont be tolerating him"getting scared".. and pissing off and disappearing when it becomes too much.

told him if he's in for the journey then he must try whole heartedly and make a good effort.

so we had all wkd together. kids came back this morning. he stayed. met them. and i dropped him through in edi to meet his friends this afternoon.

so... just need to wait and see what happens this week while he's still in scotland.

ninah · 04/04/2010 19:44

omg juicy I've gone all teary, how lovely (haven't even started on gin yet)
I am so glad he is facing up to things, you sound like you can communicate well with each other
and you sound v keen
you just want me to go on farmer dates so you have something to chuckle at when you are all sofa'd up lol
i am tempted, out of sheer curiosity
i don't think he's a player, just really really inept and terrified

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 04/04/2010 20:14

another thing that scares him ninah - he cant talk to anyone about pretty much anything serious. he says the thing that made him change his mind on running away was when we talk about this through the week i said

"it took you 32 yrs, and many countries to meet someone who you can talk to (struggles to even talk about feelings with his family).. and you want to run away?"

this was what i said to you lovely ladies earlier when i was trying not to "sell" myself as such. but kind of talk it through in his own head with him.

MEN ARE A DIFFERENT SPECIES... thought i had met them all.

but this variety is rather weird to me aswell.

still wondering if he'll make it, or get the jitters and be off again.

as for farmer - inept is better than player.

at least you know he's good looking now though. was this first pic you have of him?

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