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Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

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lou33 · 30/09/2009 08:39

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/10/2009 19:48

i cant wait to be old like the still game folk.

you can give abuse to anybody you fancy and it gets excused as your old

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 19:58

my nan's terrible for it - and when I say 'NAN! you can't say that' she says oh yes I can i'm too old to to give a shit

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/10/2009 20:42

after seeing a post on another thread i have another qeustion ladies.

when it comes to things like teeth brushing/washing/peeing

do you hold back at the beginning of a relationship... or not give a toss.

for first few weeks/dates(at least, longer if your with a slow burner) would you force yourself to go home, rather than stay the night... simply because you would rather do these things at home.

i'm not a lady

i dont openly do no2's (well... i do at my friends.. and they do at mine )... but if i'm having a shower/bath and will have excuse to be in bathroom with extractor fan, i will have a sneaky one rather than being all bagged up.

but i have no issues about teeth brushing or climbing into bed after quickly washing make-up off, after a session.. rather than go home.

and i'd much rather have a bath/shower.. and steal the fellas clothes than put mine back on and go home still stinky

and on sat me and boyf were using one of those public loos where you put 10p in ... while having a convo through the closed door... we both did... we took turns

am i just a minger???... or does anyone else share my openess of bodily functions?

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:03

I wouldn't pee or otherwise in front of any man. Well maybe after living together for ages and only when desperate. e.g he is in the bath and I really need to pee.

No problem with staying the night, using the bathroom for wash and brush up in the morning as soon as the situation arises.

Also if you have to go you have to go but need my privacy of course.

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 21:05

erm I forced myself to go home after date 3 with gymboy. but stayed up at XP's well his mums on date 3. was about date 4/5 I think when I stopped with gymboy - or did he stay at mine. mine I think.

re the clothes tbh both of us just get dressed in what we came in, then go home to shower etc.

the rest of it not bothered so much. think that puts me as a lazy bum?

ok 9 oclock's been n gone - no call n no gymboy - not impressed.

oh and re the peeing thing I used his loo but locked the door -0 both times well the last time I stayed I couldn't get into one of the bathrooms on account of all the clothes piled up as high as the bath so had to use his bathroom in the bedroom.

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:10

Belle , are you Ok?

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 21:12

yup just rung after I posted. said is gonna get changed quickly n come straight over. has been running (which I knew)

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:13

Oh good.

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:15

btw belle just a thought are you on facebook, the rest are all on mine except you and mousie. If so will CAT you to add me.

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 21:18

yeah I am, i'll have to add you thou as my profile is one of those which can't be found I have cat but don't check that email so might be best just to email me at

tinker bell barker at hot mail dot com

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lou33 · 01/10/2009 21:19

i have no issues about that kind of thing, in fact iirc i think last time i met up with lb i took a pee with the bathroom door open and carried on chatting

he definitely did the same with me

he has seen me at my worst with no make up and a hangover too

if i needed to poo i would poo

i am definitely not a lady either i guess

oh well

it's all natural bodily functions, nothing to be ashamed of

talking of lb he just called for our nightly chat, he sounds a bit rough but is adamant things are going ahead as planned

apparently he is cooking lamb pilau (he was checking i liked it) and getting in some booze, as we have decided a night in together sounds better than going out

he also informed me i will be meeting a friend of his early on in the evening too

not met any of them yet, though he has met 3 of mine, 2 accidentally, the other one for 20 mins as she lived round the corner from the hotel and popped over to check him out say hi

I'm looking forward to the evening

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Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:23

Belle OK will email.

Lou have a wonderful time, sounds like a good plan staying in.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/10/2009 21:30

dont pee infront with door open... well the money toilet was kinda like that. we do chat still from toilet.

and if having shower we do in peace. but for baths the other comes in for a yack.

maybe because neither of us can keep our gobs shut long enough

we also now bring "the shagbag" for the overnights... change clothes/toothbrushes,etc.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/10/2009 21:31

lou - dinner sounds nice.

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 21:32

oh yeah agree totally with the bath thing, even XH used to come in the bath to talk to me - mostly cos it was boring! lol.

still not here- gonna crack on with some work.

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:42

There's nothing like getting to the stage of comfortable intimacy is there? I love it but it's been a while.

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:44

Belle the email bounced back. Sure I got it right.

thesouthsbelle · 01/10/2009 21:45

(there's no spaces btw) and it's @ and . iycwim.

he's just contacted me on FB apparently is on his way (well was at half past - we shall see)

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:48

lol, yes I do know that will try again. Have a lovely night.

Remotew · 01/10/2009 21:52

I had added an extra 'e'.

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lou33 · 01/10/2009 22:20

have a lovely evening

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sincitylover · 01/10/2009 22:53

just skimmed the last few posts. Was with exh for 15 years and during that time never saw him pee or poo and he didn't me. That was mainly down to his OCD issues - however think that has rubbed off on me!!

notevenamousie · 02/10/2009 05:43

BF doesn't want to chance staying over in case there's a small one that wakes in the night (mine or his) and gets surprised or freaked. DD doesn't go to her father much though. We have a weekend in a few weeks time (not that I'm counting) that we are both child-free - can't wait to have a whole night together! I think I'd be happy to do all the above at someone's house, but not in their direct company, but really hate getting re-dressed in clothes again.

DD is ill - terrible cough, and terrible sleeping too. I want a break!

thesouthsbelle · 02/10/2009 07:40

he came, he conquered all is ok, but we're back to calling DS 'your little boy again.'

We've agreed to meet again Sat lunch time (my choice)

eve have your email.

mousie, i'm sure you'll have a night together soon.

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lou33 · 02/10/2009 11:07

so has anything been sorted belle?

i should get a move on really i am meant to be getting everything sorted for my night away and so far i have done bugger all

i am looking forward to it v v much, hoping to leave here about 3.30/4pm

he has his son at 11 tomorrow so wont be back late

i will update you as much as is decent when i get back

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